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julesjules100
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I really want my mum in the theatre with me for my C section but I know I can't deny my DH that if they only allow one person. I'm hoping they will let two people in there but have yet to ask....
The hospital I'm at unfortunately has unrestricted visiting hours (although people are asked to leave by 10pm). We did a tour this weekend and when the nurse said that I "joked" to her that we were going to tell everyone that visitors were not allowed at all. I feel mean but I had an ulterior motive for saying that in front of DH - I REALLY don't want his family trying to come to the hospital right after I've had a C section... His parents are really sweet but it's not the point for me. I just want time to process things, to rest as much as I can and to get to know my baby. The C section doesn't sound glamorous (still have catheters in situ etc after the op) so the last thing I want is anyone around to witness that. I even had a girlfriend who was seriously offended that I said she couldn't come to the hospital and said that she was just going to show up anyway! Who does that!!
Anyway, my Mum is going to stay over in the room with me for the 3 nights that I'm there as she can help with the baby. I know my DH will be a good dad but he has no experience with caring for a baby and he is a TERRIBLE nurse to look after me, lol!He's the last person I want caring for me post-op. Mum is going to stay with us for 5 weeks after the baby but she's the only one I want staying in the house. DH's family has been told that they are staying with their other son. I just hope that they want to give us a couple of weeks to adjust before wanting to come over....
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The hospital I'm at unfortunately has unrestricted visiting hours (although people are asked to leave by 10pm). We did a tour this weekend and when the nurse said that I "joked" to her that we were going to tell everyone that visitors were not allowed at all. I feel mean but I had an ulterior motive for saying that in front of DH - I REALLY don't want his family trying to come to the hospital right after I've had a C section... His parents are really sweet but it's not the point for me. I just want time to process things, to rest as much as I can and to get to know my baby. The C section doesn't sound glamorous (still have catheters in situ etc after the op) so the last thing I want is anyone around to witness that. I even had a girlfriend who was seriously offended that I said she couldn't come to the hospital and said that she was just going to show up anyway! Who does that!!
Anyway, my Mum is going to stay over in the room with me for the 3 nights that I'm there as she can help with the baby. I know my DH will be a good dad but he has no experience with caring for a baby and he is a TERRIBLE nurse to look after me, lol!He's the last person I want caring for me post-op. Mum is going to stay with us for 5 weeks after the baby but she's the only one I want staying in the house. DH's family has been told that they are staying with their other son. I just hope that they want to give us a couple of weeks to adjust before wanting to come over....
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well dr pretty much narrowed my c section down to first week in may so thats a bit nicer to know but she said I wont know the exact date till much closer too how is hubby suppose to book time off with no idea what day this kid is coming grrr. I dont speak to my mother and I don't have a father so it will be my inlaws again just MIL and FIL they were so helpful last time and we get along great. Plus we currently live below them until August so that will be helpful too. I will probably also have my bestfriend there too on the day babes is born other than that everyone can wait till a few days after I get home like they did with Carter.
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I love this conversation! You all make me feel so normal!
I only want DH in the delivery room and no one in waiting on the day of. I feel it will just add to the pressure. And my parents and in laws are very selfish and grabby when it comes to babies, so I don't want them there the day she is born. Visits at the hospital the day after are fine, but not the day of or the day we bring her home. I just want those special moments to be undisturbed by other people's demands.
Initially I had asked my parents to come visit the weekend after and my mom to stay for the week DH goes back to work (they live a 7 hour drive away) but I'm starting to question the week long stay after the drama my mom has been pulling since Christmas. Maybe they should just come for the weekend then go? Do you girls think I will be ok alone about 10 days post delivery? I guess I'm a little scared of post partum depression when DH goes back to work.
Were hosting my mil and her husband a weekend later just for the weekend. They are a three day drive away, so they will fly, but i have no idea how they will figure out when to buy tickets?
I think my FIL will visit at the hospital the day after as he is only a 3 hour drive, but I
honestly not care what he wants to do as I love having him and his gf around.
I only want DH in the delivery room and no one in waiting on the day of. I feel it will just add to the pressure. And my parents and in laws are very selfish and grabby when it comes to babies, so I don't want them there the day she is born. Visits at the hospital the day after are fine, but not the day of or the day we bring her home. I just want those special moments to be undisturbed by other people's demands.
Initially I had asked my parents to come visit the weekend after and my mom to stay for the week DH goes back to work (they live a 7 hour drive away) but I'm starting to question the week long stay after the drama my mom has been pulling since Christmas. Maybe they should just come for the weekend then go? Do you girls think I will be ok alone about 10 days post delivery? I guess I'm a little scared of post partum depression when DH goes back to work.
Were hosting my mil and her husband a weekend later just for the weekend. They are a three day drive away, so they will fly, but i have no idea how they will figure out when to buy tickets?
I think my FIL will visit at the hospital the day after as he is only a 3 hour drive, but I
honestly not care what he wants to do as I love having him and his gf around.
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because im having a section, im only allowed one person in with me, which is Crap, but there is sooo many people in theatre at the time of the section, that i can see why there is only one person allowed blah blah
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See I get on great with the In Laws there have told me on numerous occasions that im the Daughter there never had! etc
But C-sections arent Glamourous, emergency or planned.. Im even concerned about allowing my boys up the same day, as ill still be in bed, catheter in, drips in back of hands and thats if everything goes ok... My oldest i dont think it would bother him, but my youngest is a very emotional and very much a mummy's boy and i dont know if he would assume hospital, drips, monitors etc as me being poorly (my OH brought him up to the hospital after i had brain surgery, and as you can imagine i was very poorly and that deffo wasnt a pretty sight it really affected him for a while)... I think we might need to talk to him on what to expect in a child manner so hes not shocked etc :/
But C-sections arent Glamourous, emergency or planned.. Im even concerned about allowing my boys up the same day, as ill still be in bed, catheter in, drips in back of hands and thats if everything goes ok... My oldest i dont think it would bother him, but my youngest is a very emotional and very much a mummy's boy and i dont know if he would assume hospital, drips, monitors etc as me being poorly (my OH brought him up to the hospital after i had brain surgery, and as you can imagine i was very poorly and that deffo wasnt a pretty sight it really affected him for a while)... I think we might need to talk to him on what to expect in a child manner so hes not shocked etc :/
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To be honest after labour isn't glamorous whether you have had a c section or not. I didn't but did have an epidural so had a catheter, had an episiotomy so was in pain down 'there' and I was bleeding heavily (I actually wore old lady incontinence pants to catch the blood loss). I was no way having anyone visit me in that condition, plus it's our private time adjusting as a family. I was only there for 12 hours post birth anyway. This time I'm aiming at 6 hours. There is so much going on in your body that unless you are very comfortable with the person I wouldn't recommend telling people they can visit, you can always change your mind if you feel differently when it happens, better that way than saying they can then decide they can't.
Sass - I'm sure you'll be fine alone post birth. I had my DH with me for 2.5 weeks then my mum for 3 days but I was itching to be alone and do things my way. Yes it's hard and you more than likely will have days where there is lots if crying (baby and you) but they are the exception for most people not the rule.
I think I got through my days by always getting up and showering (felt fresher and more awake) and by going out every day, I don't mean big outings but to the supermarket, newsagent, see Nct friends if you are doing Nct. It really helps getting out and seeing normality.
Sass - I'm sure you'll be fine alone post birth. I had my DH with me for 2.5 weeks then my mum for 3 days but I was itching to be alone and do things my way. Yes it's hard and you more than likely will have days where there is lots if crying (baby and you) but they are the exception for most people not the rule.
I think I got through my days by always getting up and showering (felt fresher and more awake) and by going out every day, I don't mean big outings but to the supermarket, newsagent, see Nct friends if you are doing Nct. It really helps getting out and seeing normality.
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Hann I totally agree...
With my first son i never really gave much thought into the whole Visitors coming etc etc... He was an emergency C-section and so i was in hospital for 3 days... But because it was an emergency, previously to having him i was set for a normal VBAC delivery and so would of been out of hospital within 12 hours...
I dont know what my family were thinking or whether there were just too eager to see him (he was 8 days late, so not sure if this added to the eagerness of them) But there came in the droves!!! it was overwhelming... but where i gave birth was in our local hospital and in the same town as all of our family so there only had to walk to the hospital... But my GOD it was rediculus, I had been in labour for 3 days, i had the whole gas and air, drugs of this and that, epidural that failed, then Emergency section, this was at 7pm on the friday... Saturday visiting times which i think was 2pm-4pm and the only times my partner could come and visit me... everyone came and then there were peed off because there was only 2 allowed at any one time... So that in turn pushed my OH out the door as, he had already seen him! then there all came back again at 6-8pm again the same visiting hours that my OH was only allowed to come... It was awful!!! i was shattered, then trying to please everyone by allowing people time to see baby etc, then having to deal with OH kicking off and complaining, which of course i can see from his point of view now... There all came back on the sunday and the monday!!!! There basically robbed us of us being a family for the very first time!!
The day i came Home, i litterally walked through the door and here was all my family trudging through into my mums house to see him... it ended up me and OH sitting in the kitchen trying to claw back to normality whilst there all coo'ed over him in the Sitting room! It was awful!...
With my 2nd son, it was a planned section, so i knew when i was going to be having him and the hospital was out of town this time, so that stopped alot of family who didnt drive from coming to see me lol... I was prepared that time and deffo prepared this time lol!
I deffo think its easier to say now, no visitors etc, rather than say yeh come and see me etc etc to then tell them not too
With my first son i never really gave much thought into the whole Visitors coming etc etc... He was an emergency C-section and so i was in hospital for 3 days... But because it was an emergency, previously to having him i was set for a normal VBAC delivery and so would of been out of hospital within 12 hours...
I dont know what my family were thinking or whether there were just too eager to see him (he was 8 days late, so not sure if this added to the eagerness of them) But there came in the droves!!! it was overwhelming... but where i gave birth was in our local hospital and in the same town as all of our family so there only had to walk to the hospital... But my GOD it was rediculus, I had been in labour for 3 days, i had the whole gas and air, drugs of this and that, epidural that failed, then Emergency section, this was at 7pm on the friday... Saturday visiting times which i think was 2pm-4pm and the only times my partner could come and visit me... everyone came and then there were peed off because there was only 2 allowed at any one time... So that in turn pushed my OH out the door as, he had already seen him! then there all came back again at 6-8pm again the same visiting hours that my OH was only allowed to come... It was awful!!! i was shattered, then trying to please everyone by allowing people time to see baby etc, then having to deal with OH kicking off and complaining, which of course i can see from his point of view now... There all came back on the sunday and the monday!!!! There basically robbed us of us being a family for the very first time!!
The day i came Home, i litterally walked through the door and here was all my family trudging through into my mums house to see him... it ended up me and OH sitting in the kitchen trying to claw back to normality whilst there all coo'ed over him in the Sitting room! It was awful!...
With my 2nd son, it was a planned section, so i knew when i was going to be having him and the hospital was out of town this time, so that stopped alot of family who didnt drive from coming to see me lol... I was prepared that time and deffo prepared this time lol!
I deffo think its easier to say now, no visitors etc, rather than say yeh come and see me etc etc to then tell them not too
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hi ladies,
I'm 22 weeks today.. just 2 weeks to go to v day, can't wait for that
we will get lots of family members visiting the hospital... last time I'd just had a section and my cousin came to see us, I was in a nightie, bleeding heavily and feeling crap, couldn't move etc... she brought her new boyfriend... I mean why?? It was the first time I'd ever seen him. Was very awkward... and now she's with somebody else. no thought for anyone else that girl!!
I'm 22 weeks today.. just 2 weeks to go to v day, can't wait for that
we will get lots of family members visiting the hospital... last time I'd just had a section and my cousin came to see us, I was in a nightie, bleeding heavily and feeling crap, couldn't move etc... she brought her new boyfriend... I mean why?? It was the first time I'd ever seen him. Was very awkward... and now she's with somebody else. no thought for anyone else that girl!!
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Oh no bobbles!!! That must have been mortifying!! I'd have told him to wait outside for her!lol
I think we may have just sorted our "visiting" situation out...because we live in an army barracks, we can book a flat for visiting family...only problem is, it gets booked up well in advance! Even though I have no idea when little Jenson will decide to arrive, for now I've booked up the flat for the 2nd and 3rd weekend after our due date...people can lump it until then I guess and, unless they're only looking to do a long day trip to visit, they won't be staying in our home!x
I think we may have just sorted our "visiting" situation out...because we live in an army barracks, we can book a flat for visiting family...only problem is, it gets booked up well in advance! Even though I have no idea when little Jenson will decide to arrive, for now I've booked up the flat for the 2nd and 3rd weekend after our due date...people can lump it until then I guess and, unless they're only looking to do a long day trip to visit, they won't be staying in our home!x
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Oh Heck NO! I know that my parents & DH's parents & sister will be coming up to the hospital to see Mason but that's about it. And when we go home there will be very limited visitation going on. I'm not a very hospitable person when I'm not feeling well so it's in their best interest to stay away!!! Not to mention.... We have a lock on the front door & I WILL be using it!!!!
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Same for me it will only be hubby in there which is all i would want but after it will be his parents and my bff
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I was induced with my first he was a week late didn't want to come out so got the epidural which didn't work waited all day nothing was happening than his heart rate started dropping so they had to go in and get him than i ended up getting a spinal so much drugs in my back it was awful for days i felt like i was being kicked in the back. Had him monday night at 5 it was the next day they took the iv out and the catheter and I was up and about. I left the weds and went back to normal life within reason hubby only had two days off so I did it all myself it wasn't as bad as i thought until I would get brave and think i didn't need drugs anymore haha I was very specific on visits etc I dont care what people think i just had a baby its alot on me and I wasnt going to be forced to have anyone i didnt want there.
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That's cool jtink.... I'm not sure if Shane gets paid paternity leave or if he's just planning on using vacation leave, but he has said he was taking off the first week or so when Mason is born. I will have to ask him tonight....
