Mayhem Babies! May 2011 mummies and babies

[hopefulmama]

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[Wiggler]

The way I read it was the Brandi doesn't want more kids, but she doesn't want that option taken away from her. When I decide that I'm done having kids I could never have my tubes done because having the option taken away would kill me, you never know how you (or your partner) might feel in 2,5,10 years time.

ETA - Brandi, if I got that completely wrong I apologise

 

[BrandiCanucks]

And you're perfectly entitled to that opinion. It's not even about having more kids, it's about feel as if I was forced, like I've lost a part of me, that it was taken from me.

My husband had his vasectomy behind my back. I wasn't aware until he was walking out the front door the morning of the procedure at 6:00am. His MOTHER knew before I did. I stayed with him because I love him and I wanted to make the family work. That day, he stole something from me. I felt like he tore my heart out of my chest and tore it to a thousand pieces then spit on it right in front of me. My depression and desperation got the better of me and now I have a beautiful little girl that HE LOVES TOO.

I know I don't want to have anymore children, but I don't feel like this ligation was my decision. I feel forced into it with the "Do It or Divorce" ultimatum. My kids need their dad, so I did it. I did it so they had their daddy, so the peace is kept in the house. Yes, I LET MY HUSBAND CONTROL ME AND CONTROL MY BODY, and for that, I am stupid.

Would you have let your husband have a vasectomy behind your back? Would you have stayed? Would you let your husband control your body, tell you what you can and cannot do to it?

Didn't think so.

Until you really understand the heartache and the depth of the entire situation, please keep your opinions to yourself.

 

[Wiggler]

 

[Wiggler]

OK. Question for mummy, wild, brandi and anyone else who has more than 2 kids. I found the transition from 1-2 kids really easy, is 2-3 really hard?

Question to EVERYONE - What is your favourite thing about being a mummy!

My favourite thing is seeing my kids grow and knowing that I made them into such wonderful people. Bethany is a smiler, she never stops smiling, she rarely cries, Dylan can be a terror but he is so kind and caring, he also likes to help me tidy up, he likes to kiss "owies" better if I stub my toe or something.

AF arrived properly today after a few days of teasing

 

[BrandiCanucks]

I found 2-3 the easiest.

 

[mummy3]

1 is the hardest, any after 2 you dont notice

Wiggler, google diastasis symphysis pubis, maybe thats whats wrong with your pelvis. for Dylans eye.

Hopeful, will you still be adopting though?

Brandi, you've only just had a baby, definately you were coerced I completely understand not wanting your fertility taken, maybe a coil wouldv'e been a better compromise?

Best thing about being a mummy is the looks they give you at any age

 

[BrandiCanucks]

Hopeful, I apologize if I came across as rude. I did not intend to. Right now is just a very confusing time for me, and honestly, I'm still very hurt by my husband's decision to have a vasectomy behind my back. While a reversal behind his would be the perfect revenge, I am not that type of person. If I were to reverse, it would be my decision so I could feel like I made a decision for myself, and yes, so I still have the option available if my husband and I do not work out.

I reacted as I did because I felt as if you were judging me when I was looking for support through my confliction.

I don't know what I'm going to do. I want to reverse, he doesn't. I don't want to go behind his back, but I don't want to live with depression and regret for the rest of my life either.

 

[MilosMommy7]

brandi- i can totally understand what you mean about feeling like a part of you was taken away. i think that's part of why i changed my mind about getting Essure (permanent BC for women). but just knowing that if i get it i will never be able to have kids again. and i dont think i want that. i dont want that taken away from me as a woman.

 

[MilosMommy7]

oh and Ava has been in her bumbo a couple times. she's only okay in it for a few minutes. then she wants out.

 

[MilosMommy7]

am i missing some of the conversation? i feel like i'm not reading it right or the flow of the convo is off? lol

 

[Wiggler]

OMG I actually think my heart may melt. Dylan just went to high 5 Bethany and I told him to be gentle cos she is only little so he gave her a kiss and a hug instead and she gave him a great big grin

 

[new_to_ttc]

I need some advice ladies - Im not very girly girl when it comes to cosmetics and beauty regimes but things are about to change for a short while lol

1. My BF bride to be would like our (all bridesmaids) eye brows done for the big day, she suggested threading?? I never heard of this, I wont be doing it again after, despite my best intentions so no point believing I will, so is threading the way to go, or waxing?

2. I have LARGE strap marks from a recent out break of sunshine Also a few patches of peeled skin where I burnt (mainly shoulders). How can I minimise the visability of them? Is there something I could apply between now and the wedding? (3.5weeks away). Also had a brainwave last night about maybe trying a spray tan the day before the wedding, would this even out my tan lines??

Thanks ladies

And the best thing about being a mum... when you walk in a room and their smile for you lights it up... must say the first 'love you mummy' was a moment treasured forever.

 

[hopefulmama]

new- yes a spray tan will fix that, just make sure its one that a person does to you, not those machine booths. As for threading, idk i prefer waxing, i don't have a lot of eye brow so threading always seemed pointless to me.. a lot of my friends with bushier brows do it and say it hurts less but they say their brows never come out as 'clean lined' as with wax.

brandi- its ok, and i understand, i'm sorry if you felt i was judging you I was not.. its hard to convey anything via internet because there is no tone.

milos- yes you are missing something because I deleted a comment with questions to brandi out of respect to her situation and how it upset her with what i had asked/said.

 

[new_to_ttc]

Oh thanks, I will ring round try to find a place near my mums that does the spray tans. Any particular brands I should avoid?

 

[24/7]

I have my eyebrows waxed and I don't think it hurts and I like the results.
As for spray tans, go to a good salon and you wont have a problem whatever they use. xx

 

[new_to_ttc]

Very excited mummy - saw the kid that has spent the last 2 terms bullying Joshua and his school tshirt was written all over. I asked Joshua why, and he has left the school!!! The sale of his mums house has gone through and they move this weekend and he starts in a school in the next town in September. This is such good news and will hopefully be the end of Joshua's problems!

 

[BrandiCanucks]

That's awesome news new!!! I "thanked" because I'm hooked on Facebook, so the thank is a like, lol.

 

[new_to_ttc]

Oh yes like away lol... I cant get excited on FB incase the wrong person see's it lol I am very happy, my lad is a pain, but this boy is far more sly imho!

 

[BizyBee]

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