Mayhem Babies! May 2011 mummies and babies

[Wiggler]

Not been able to catch up, my internet is going crazy tonight.

When Dylan goes into meltdown there is no way to get him out of it without riding it out unless we give in to him (not an option, thats what got us into this mess), and that doesn't always work, and its worse when he is tired, we had a major meltdown just before bed, we haven't had one that severe in a good long while, it broke my heart, he was so upset and teary and there was nothing we could do to make him happier I have spent hours and hours looking online for things to ease toddler tantrums, how to get toddlers out of meltdowns you name it I've tried it, but the best thing is just leaving him to it, it breaks my hear though, I just want to hug him.

With my knee, I found out yesterday that my mum has athritis in the same knee and its stupid but I'm scared to go to the docs in case they say I have it
too, we have a lot of the same symptoms. OH has changed his week around
next week but I'm getting hi to get a day off if he can to go with me to the
docs.
We found out today that people have already moved into our old flat, and
apparently they are horrible, I hope they have a thing for ceiling banging and
loud music
Hpoe everyone is well x x x

Hope them upstairs get their comeuppance! Have you heard anything from you reporting them for benefit fraud?

Nope, we won't hear anything either, I think they are probably being watched by now Ooooh, I just checked their FB pages, and about a week and a half after we reported them HE updated his current town to where he actually lives, maybe they have been in touch with them already. I really hope they are up shit creek

 

[harveydog]

I remember Ruaridh having so many heal pricks in NICU all the skin on his heel came away

Poor ruaridh I hate the memories from special care, dont get me wrong they do amazing work but it lives with you for the rest of your life. mummy

 

[new_to_ttc]

milos i know how they doing it hun I just want the office to know its impossible and to really know how its achieved!, each call is usually 30 minutes, but often a call only takes 15-20 minutes if you rush, so then they leave, but I cant do that Im not in the job to earn a wage, I could do that in a supermarket for no hassle, I do the job because I care and because I enjoy it and sometimes we are the only people these adults see in a day, so that other 10 minutes should be spent chatting, or just generally being company! At the end of the day they pay for someone to be there for 30 minutes, thats what they should get, but I know the only way to make these rounds work is to cut everyone short by 5/10 minutes!

And harvey I can almost guarantee this is something similar to your Aunts case! Although sometimes its just bad staff that pop to the shop on route etc or some staff change the order of the calls to make it easier so they dont drive back and forth all day without managements knowing hence the time changes! Only way to stop this ios to constantly complain hun, or go direct to social services, they approve all the care and set the guidelines to the care firms, so they not going to be happy if thats not being met xxxxx

Sorry, waffling away, can you tell Im still not calm about it ha ha ha

 

[mummy3]

Yes wiggler, up the shit creek and without a paddle hopefully

Harvey, for you too having to go through it.

New, its just awful what they're doing

 

[new_to_ttc]

It is awful, but its not just the company i work for its pretty much across the board!

Wiggler have you asked at the sure start centre you take Dylan to now if they have any parenting courses?

 

[24/7]

Wiggler, a parenting course sounds good as new suggests. It might just give you some new ideas, and at the end of the day you are the parent, and you have to be in control.

New, huge hugs. I soooo don't want to go back! xx

 

[new_to_ttc]

thanks hun, Im really sorry you are having the same emotional battles!

 

[mummy3]

Wiggler hun have you tried to speak to the doctor yet as well? With Ruaridh we are in control but with him being autistic this involves different techniques than what I would use with my other kids, its worth investigating other factors like this to get help and direction if needed

 

[24/7]

Great advice mummy. xx

 

[mummy3]

24 I hope your work are easy on you and you settle back easily Hows Sams walking coming along now hun?

 

[24/7]

Fab mummy, heres Sam walking super fast with his walker.... https://s1087.photobucket.com/albums/j477/sammum13/?action=view&current=f5547ed8.mp4

 

[mummy3]

Oh my! He's off!! You must be so proud hun

 

[24/7]

He's a little nutter.
I really am so so proud, and he just seems to get more mobile everyday. xx

 

[mummy3]

Lol yeah you'll be very busy He's doing amazing hun xx

 

[24/7]

He is just everywhere now, I can't keep up. xx

 

[MilosMommy7]

sam is doing amazing!

 

[Wiggler]

I honestly dont think I need parenting classes or a doctor with him now, its only when OH is home that Dylan gets really bad, he's a sweetie when its just me, him and Bethany (excluding the usual toddler tantrums), and OH has already got quite angry when I suggested he do parenting classes. example - Dylan asks me for a yogurt just before dinner when its just us, I say no and explain why and he is fine, he might ask a few more times, but he is calm. He does the same when OH is home, I do the same as always, say no and explain why and he goes into mega meltdown. When OH is home he screams for cuddles with daddy, and OH still ignores him a lot, when OH actually made an effort and does stuff with him he is a bit better, OH needs to keep it up but he is such an ignorant peice of shit.

 

[Wiggler]

WTG Sam!!!!

 

[MilosMommy7]

maybe he's acting out when he's home to get his attention he can probably tell that he isn't with him much. maybe have him and OH go out for a day by theirselves this weekend

 

[Wiggler]

Milos - I KNOW for a fact that Dylan acts out for his attention, I shouldnt have to tell OH repeatedly to anwer when Dylan asks him a question, or asks for a cuddle, and I do make sure they have lots of time together, but OH cant cope with Dylan alone. Its a shame cos when he wants to be OH is an amazing daddy, Both the kids adore him. OH's dad is a peice of shit though and doesn't give a damn about his kids so I think he gets a bit of it from that. I have threatened to leave him and take the kids away (harsh I know, but I was trying tough love) and he changes for a day or so... he really doesnt believe me when I say Dylan is NOT like that when he isn't here.