Mid-August Testers

[Srbjbex]

Oh Snow - I am keeping everything crossed that it was just to early for a BFP to show. Everything is looking so good!!

 

[snowflakes120]

Well, it was def the flu. I had a horrible fever last night and again this AM. I go for my RE appt in a few more hours. I also tested with a FRER today on 12dpo and BFN. So I think I am def out this cycle. Oh well - not surprised - just extremely disappointed as I really did think that this was going to be it with my higher progesterone level and my chart looking nice. I will update after my appt and let you guys know what my next plan will be.

 

[Srbjbex]

Massive hugs and really hope that the appointment goes will. Let us know

 

[InHisHands]

aww snow.... Keep us updated on your appointment... im curious in what the docs have to say.

 

[NewbieLisette]

Awww snow I'm soo sorry hunni Keeping my prayers up for you! xxx

How's everyone doing today? Super heat wave here and I'm about ready to melt!!!!

 

[snowflakes120]

Well girls. I am super confused and my head is swimming with info. I talked to the RE for a hour. Basically, they are recommending me to do an IUI with Femara, mid-cycle ultrasound and Ovridel (a shot that will make me OV within 24-36 hours after injection). I don't know what to make of all of it. I don't know if I'm ready. For 1 cycle the procedure costs $1,200 and that doesn't include the meds which will be about another $200. I'm pretty upset even though I kinda expected this. It's hard because hubby only works part-time and goes to school full time and we pay cash for his tuition. It's hard. I don't know what to do. I just to give up. I don't think I can do anymore of this. Plus, knowing that my baby was made at a dr's office and not from our love is the hardest pill to swallow. I just don't know anymore. Sorry for being such a downer.

 

[MrsBea23]

Aw Hun sorry to hear this is what they have recommended.

Remember when I went to California last year well we where staying with DH's cousin and his wife (second marriage) and they where going through IUI when we where there (she is 40).
I think they tried it about 3 times (she is a state prosecutor so great benefits) and it didn't work for her. When we where there I told her about my accupuncture and pills and potions and things but didn't think much of it.
Well in March they rang us to say she was pregnant and had done it naturally just with accupuncture (even though I think they thought I was a bit of a hippy with it all when i first told them lol).
They had been trying for a while before getting IUI as well but managed naturally in the end.

I know you have been trying for a long time now (i cant even begin to understand how hard that is) but if it was me I think I would hold off for maybe a couple more months and keep trying (easy for me to say now though) but I feel from your post that you are not that keen and I think that is your instinct, I honestly believe you are so close and it will happen soon.

One other thing to think about is how upset you would be if you did IUI and it didn't work would that be worse than 4 or 5 more months of trying, only you know what is best Hun.

Big big

 

[NotNic]

Its so tricky Snow, but I'd agree with Bea. I don't feel from your post that it sounds like you guys are ready for that. There s a woman in my group who conceived through IVF but she took 4 yrs to get to that point as she wanted to explore every option first. You have been so patient Snow. Do you think you can keep going with the meds you are on? Surely your high progesterone levels suggest they have worked out the best medicine levels for you? Whatever you decide I think you are amazing. xxx

Hands - how's Dexter's colic and feeding? Breast feeding has become so much easier in the last fortnight and if I wanted to bf long term I'm at the point where I can see the light and can see how it would be possible. I do find it easier when I'm out now. Even though it is easier I'm beginning to feel like I would like my body back and I'm craving a bit of structure to my day. On demand feeding does make it tricky when we have commitments as I have to either take him off before he's finished or be constantly late Also because Finlay predominantly has breast milk I don't feel like I can just go out and leave hubby to it. I get frustrated when hubby just does what he wants without having to time feeds etc. Finlay is also a hungry boy so I'm pretty sure that I will begin weaning him quite early. Depending on how my milk supply is I may keep to one or two feeds a day, but we'll see.

 

[Srbjbex]

Snow I am so sorry that the appointment has made you sad I think I would tend to agree with the others in that your head doesnt seem to be in the right mindset at the moment to consider IUI at this point. Don't rush into any decisions and put yourself through something you are not ready for. Bea's point is a good one - try and consider which would be the most upsetting for you, a few more months of trying or failed IUI?

Maybe say, lets keep going until Christmas to see if it can happn naturally and if not then consider the IUI. At least that way you have a few months to build up to the idea (and save up too). Dont know anything about acupuncture, but may be worth exploring.

Loads of hugs and cuddles

 

[InHisHands]

snow - though im glad the docs still have options or you... i agree dont take them till your ready. we love you and support you with whatever decision you make.

nic - i love the bond i have feeding dex by breast. when i give him a bottle he just looks at me like ive done him wrong. i love expressing too but with feedings every 2 to 3 hours... with each feeding taking about an hour and needing to wait an hour after to express.... well it just doesnt get done as much as i would like.

My right nipple has been knawed and bitten to the point that i can't really let him feed or expess it. I have tried letting him feed off the left and express the right, but he wants both breasts for each meal. ugh! i'm horrible... because its only been a month and im already craving to have my body back and more of a schedule. you have last a whole month more than me.

I really wanted to make it to 6 months before starting to wean him on the breast and introduce formula.. but as time goes on i think reality is setting in that im gonna have to use formula. In fact i would have by now, but with him being colicy i hate to introduce a new substance to his intestines before 3 months.... but at this rate i might have to.

How did Finlay handle it? How does their poop change with them being part formula and part breastfed? Does the formula help them sleep longer at night?

 

[snowflakes120]

Thanks ladies for all the advice and love. I really appreciate it.

Hands - I still get the Babies R Us mailers from when I was PG. There was a new bottle in it the other day and I thought of you. I think was an Avent Bottle - it claims to reduce colic. Just thought I'd let ya know if you haven't tried that one yet.

Bex & Lisette - You lovely ladies feeling ready? Getting close now huns!

Mrs Bea - Congrats to your DH's cousins!! Wonderful news. I love to hear the success stories. I have thought about Accupunture but am not sure if I can get past the fact of the needles (this coming from the girl that might have to give herself a shot in 3 weeks time)

Today I am a new woman. I am much more calm and relaxed. More accepting of the situation. Hubby and I had a true heart to heart last night. Did financials. And did pro's and con's. Our decision is to move forward with the IUI's. We really do have enough money in savings to pay for the next year of tuition for hubby and for a few rounds of IUI. I just hate to take money out of savings. I am so horrible about that - I like it to sit and rot. I also have about $2,000 left in my FSA acct (money is deducted from my salary to go towards medical bills - the money they take is tax deductible). I think we will be fine. My insurance year goes from June 1 to May 31 - so these next 2 cycles are crucial to get PG almost - that means we will only have to pay 1 deducible of $3500 - If I get PG after 2 cycles I will pay it 2x ($7,000). Fun huh?! We may go ahead and do some natural cycles after the 2 IUI's. But this is the plan for now - def doing 2 cycles of IUI. I feel really good about it after sitting down with hubby and talking about it. I'm actually quite excited.

Just waiting on AF to come so I can make my 1st appt to get the RX's, baseline bloods done and get a schedule that tells me when I need to be at the office to do what. Because everything will be all planned out for me - I'm prolly gonna quite temping and trust the RE. I think it will help me.

Thank you girls soooo much for all the support. I can't believe it's almost been a year since this thread started.

 

[MrsBea23]

Snow - I am glad you have managed to make a decision and you are happy with it. I really really hope you get it 1st try although I am still hoping for this cycle, my temp went below baseline the month I got pg!
I am the same with money and hate cutting into savings but needs must.

Nic & Hands - I felt the same about giving up BF but then it just got so easy (not sure when) and now it is awesome. After the 3 month growth spurt she now only feeds about 5 times a day and I have to wake her after 10 hours sleep at night because she would just keep sleeping if I let her and I don't like going that long without her feeding.
Only you know what is right for you and bubs though and whatever you decide is the right decision for you, really is the right decision for you so never second guess yourself. Part of it for me was actually just being a tight a**e I just couldn't justify spending money on formula when I could just feed for free he he.

Bex & Lisette - Hi girls not long now woo hoo.

 

[InHisHands]

good luck snow! we are rooting for you.

Bea - i hate the idea of spending a bunch on formula as well... but even though i wanted to wait till 6 months to combi feed, it looks like i might start sooner. I dont want to give up expressing and breastfeeding dex.... but i think one feeding a day might end up being formula here real soon. Money wise that isn't too much... but we will see.

 

[snowflakes120]

AF is on her way - starting to spot! Cramps are insane - and I NEVER get cramps... I will go to the RE Monday AM - they have open hours from 6am - 8am.

I also went ahead and made an appt with an Acupuncturist in the area. I am kinda excited to go after reading on her website. I go 8/3 after work. I can't wait. She specializes in fertility. A bit scared of the needles but I'm sure I'll be fine. I need to be fine - I will be doing an injection this cycle for the IUI - hubby has agreed to do it for me though.

 

[Srbjbex]

Snow - I love the way you always focus on the next step. Very inspirational! Cracking on with everything Will be really interested to see how it goes with the acupuncturist!!

I had a rubbish day yesterday as my car broke down on the way to work, so took till midday to get it sorted and actually get into work, and £200 to sort it out not what I had planned for a Friday!

However, last night husband and I watched the opening ceremony of the Olympics on the tv and it was AMAZING! absolutely loved it.....think my favourite bit may have been mr bean, haha, but Danny Boyle did a fantastic job and it really was a true piece of theatre

Bring on the games!!

 

[snowflakes120]

We watched the Opening Ceremonies too last night. We make a point to watch them every year. We love to watch all the sports! You guys put on a great show last night - way to go! Only furthers obsesses me to want to visit your most beautiful country!!

 

[InHisHands]

Hey girls. I can't say much about the olympics since i never watch them... but i hope it goes well and no one gets hurt. I must be exciting but chaotic to have them happening so close to where some of you live.

Bex. .. that stinks about your car. What was wrong with it? What type of car do you drive? I drive a subaru outback. Great momobile.

This past week (last tuesday) I had to spend 500 on my car this past week because a moving truck plowed into it while it was parked. My insurancd company says i have to pay the 500 dollar decutable even though its not my fault.. and when the claim is finished to prove its not my fault (i wasnt even in my car), that they will reimburse me. I want my 500 back

As far as baby goes. I've given up solely breastfeeding. My nipples look like hamburger meat lol. Im expressing about 3 meals a day, giving him 1 meal of formula, and breast feeding about 3 times a day.

As far as sleep.. last night was the best sleep i've gotten ... 7 hours (3, 3, and 1)... and all i had to do was resort to putting him on his tummy and not his back. I hate doing that and i do go check in on him a lot... but a girl needs her sleep. There's no daddy to wake up the 5 times he was waking up at night to help. So last night... having him just wake up twice was a true blessing. Nic, Bea.. how are you guys doing with your little one and sleep? I've tried just about everything.. and this was one of my last resorts. After this.. the only other thing to try would be cereal which i havent gotten that desperate to break that rule yet. I think i've broken every safety rule there is trying to get this little guy to sleep more than just 30min to an hour a time.

 

[MrsBea23]

Snow - Sorry AF got you Hun . Glad you are trying accupuncture though, I didn't even feel the needles I am sure you will do great.

Ha ha it must be the week of paying out for the car. We got DH's car back on Friday after 4 weeks at 3 different mechanics and it cost £1600 grrr.

Hands - You might not want to hear this but I actually have to wake A up in the mornings because I don't like her going more than 10 hours without a feed. From about 8 weeks she has slept through. I don't have any advise I am afraid I think it's just the luck of the draw.

I am loving the Olympics so far.

 

[snowflakes120]

Hi ladies. Super quick update.

Had my appt this AM. Went well. Got Estrogen bloods done (she totally jacked up my arm, it hurts!) will know results this afternoon. Got to go and pick up Femara after work and start tonight. Ultrasound for Follies and Lining should be next Tues. I will most likely have to trigger that night. IUI should happen late next week sometime. Really enjoying not temping. Feel more relaxed!

Good tea bag today: Happiness comes when you overcome the most impossible challenge.

Man, I am feeling the challenges these days!!!!!!!!!! Hope my happiness comes soon!!

 

[snowflakes120]

Ohhhh, how quickly things change. My estrogen level was high (how wrong was I). So I have to go back tomorrow AM for an ultrasound to see if I have a cyst or if my estrogen is just high. I am figuring its a cyst bc that is just how things roll with me. I am not to start the Femara tonight. Just my luck. If it's not one thing it's another. I swear.