missjaime
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im gona book my 20 weeks scan on wed when i get my form from the midwife but the issue is when we first told hubbys parents we were expecting (it will be their first grandchild but my second baby) they were very excited which is awsum but MIL was so excited she has invited herself to everything the 12 week scan 20 weeks and birth
i said at the time oh sorry no one but Hubby is going to be there during the birth but i didnt say anything about the scan at the time because they were so excited
when we got home though i did mention to hubby that i would rather it just be us at the scans as the 12 week we make sure everything is ok and the 20 checks its organs etc plus we may find out what it is if baby is loud and proud.
he got shitty and said its their first grandchild let them be involved. i said this is my first child with the father involved cant it be special for me too as i am the one carring it and they have had their children they have had their special moments during pregnancy. anyway he finally "built up the courage" to tell her we want it just to be us but turns out he bluntly told her that i didnt want her at the 12 week scan (hes a mumma boy) and im now 17 weeks and he still hasnt told her that shes not coming to the next one either
she is due to go in for surgery when im due to go for a scan im thinking of being sneaky and bookin it for when she will be in hospital but i hate being sneaky
i love my MIL but i really want to have the little amount of time of being the only ones knowing what were having if we find out the gender
id rather go visit them after and tell them what were having
hubby said hes just not gona mention it which is mean because if she asks when is the scan and we say weve already had it she will be hurt
i guess what im asking is am i being selfish
i said at the time oh sorry no one but Hubby is going to be there during the birth but i didnt say anything about the scan at the time because they were so excited
when we got home though i did mention to hubby that i would rather it just be us at the scans as the 12 week we make sure everything is ok and the 20 checks its organs etc plus we may find out what it is if baby is loud and proud.
he got shitty and said its their first grandchild let them be involved. i said this is my first child with the father involved cant it be special for me too as i am the one carring it and they have had their children they have had their special moments during pregnancy. anyway he finally "built up the courage" to tell her we want it just to be us but turns out he bluntly told her that i didnt want her at the 12 week scan (hes a mumma boy) and im now 17 weeks and he still hasnt told her that shes not coming to the next one either
she is due to go in for surgery when im due to go for a scan im thinking of being sneaky and bookin it for when she will be in hospital but i hate being sneaky
i love my MIL but i really want to have the little amount of time of being the only ones knowing what were having if we find out the gender
id rather go visit them after and tell them what were having
hubby said hes just not gona mention it which is mean because if she asks when is the scan and we say weve already had it she will be hurt
i guess what im asking is am i being selfish