Missed Miscarriage/ how long did it take you to miscarry naturally?

[laurielynn88]

Hi-
First I want to say I was so grateful to find this site. I was over on the bump website and couldn't believe how rude some of those girls are over there! I'm 23 years old and am pregnant for the first time.

I'm sure there's already a post about this so please forgive me for not being able to find it..

I am/was 7 weeks pregnant and went for an ultrasound last week and the baby had no fetal heartbeat. My doctor sent me for blood work and my levels are going down so I am in fact having a miscarriage. I'm a little nervous because I really want to avoid a D&C at all costs but don't want to risk harming myself from being able to get pregnant in the future. My question for you all is for those that have experienced a miscarriage, how long did it take for you to pass naturally if you didn't have a D&C?

I've been experiencing sharp shooting pains in my upper abs and also in my back, I've also had some "pain" in my pelvic area(it feels sore?) today for the first time I noticed some brown discharge when I went to the bathroom, it was so much it started dripping down my leg(sorry if TMI). Is this the beginning of a MC?

I'm interested to hear any advice or thoughts you can throw my way right now. I'm really emotional about this but want it to be over so I can move on, have my next pregnancy cycle and try again.

Thanks in advance for any help you can offer. I really do appreciate it!

 

[Scorpio23]

Hey laurielynn88,

My deepest sympathy is with you. Hope you're feeling ok today.
Sorry I can't be of much help as I'm going through the same thing.
Was 7 weeks pregnant but scan measured baby at 5 weeks (baby didn't grow from previous scan, no heartbeat and HCG decreased).
It has been 7 days since I received the news and I've had no bleeding or painful cramping as yet.

I know exactly how you feel about trying to move forward so you can TTC.

If you do let it happen naturally, it can be painful and you can't guarantee you won't need a D&C eventually (was told this by GP).

Three older female friends believe I should have a D&C ASAP. A friend who just went through a natural miscarriage and my OH think I should let it happen naturally.

My gyno has issued four blood tests to make sure my HCG decreases. I'm going to leave it in the hands of my doctor to determine when I have a D&C. He said there's no risk of waiting it out, but my GP thinks otherwise.

It's scarey not knowing when it could happen and it feels terrible hoping for a sign everytime you go to the bathroom

 

[Maurie]

I am so so sorry for your loss.

2 weeks ago I got the news my HCG levels were going down 36. I started bleeding that night. I went to the ER hoping they could do something. They gave me pain medication, a pelvic exam, and an ultrasound. I lost the baby at 5W6d. No D&C. It wasn't even offered. I was bleeding for 4 days, one day of no bleeding then two days of spotting.

I hope everything goes the way you hope. That was my experience. Wish you all the best.

 

[Erinsmummy]

I am in the same position as you so no advice but your not alone and id love to read peples replys to this. so sorry for your loss xxx

 

[Pippi_elk]

I am miscarrying at the minute...was almost 9 weeks pregnant but had brown spotting for 10 days in a row so went for an early scan.
On the night before the scan I started to bleed so thankfully I did n't get a total shock when I had the usound. ....the fetus was only 3mm in size so guessed it died about 4 weeks ago.
I have been bleeding heavily enought for the past 3 days....
I have n't had much cramping and have n't see any big clots so I still probably have n't lost the fetus yet....I don't know (this is my first mc so don't know what to expect).
Maybe this is not much help to you...but if you have brown spotting things could be going to happen...however if I had know at the start of the spotting that the fetus was dead I don't think I'd have wanted to wait 10 days to start bleeding and I don't know how many days of bleeding I will have to endure.
I'm going to talk to my GP today...
good luck in whatever you decide to do....if I get any further developments I'll post back here.
ps I know need to change my status from 'pregnant' back to TTC

 

[amotherslove]

it took me over a week to pass everything.. but i had certain complictations.. btw.. if you want to avoid dnc but wanna move things along you can ask about cytotec or misoprostol.. some people react badly to it though. i'm so sorry this has happened to you and sorry the people in the other boards were rude..

 

[pinkfee]

Hey laurielynn88

I'm sorry for your loss.

I'm currently going through my first miscarriage which was a missed miscarriage diagnosed at 9 weeks, my baby had stopped growing and had no fetal heartbeat at approx 7+5weeks. It took about 11days for it to happen naturally for me, but I think its because I was in denial to begin with which meant my body was probably holding on.

I won't lie to you, its been the most painful experience of my life, I pretty much had constant pain and cramping that felt like contractions for the first night when it started (no previous experience so I can't be sure its the same) and two days ago the fetal sac finally passed, which has made all the cramping and pain stop but i'm still bleeding (which at times can be heavy, using a supersize maxi pad)

I have mixed feelings as when I was experiencing the pain on the first night I wished so badly that I had gone with the d&c, however now I feel as distressing as its been, doing the miscarriage naturally was something I think I needed to do in order to fully process the loss.

I really hope that whatever you choose that you have the best possible experience that you can with a miscarriage.

Tip if you decide to go naturally, make sure you have super strength painkillers not just your standard tylenol and hot water bottle or heat pads of some kind, the hot water bottle saved my life, it was the only thing that gave me any relief.

x

 

[elm]

so sorry for your loss. I found out that I was miscarrying last Friday, my little baby had stopped growing at seven weeks, I was nearly twelve weeks pregnant.

I saw the most amazing herbalist who was able to give me some tea and a tincture which really got things moving (I was only spotting a little when I saw her) and I passed my tiny little baby on Saturday night.

I hope that things get moving for you soon. I found it helped swaying my hips and talking to my baby in my head saying that I released it with love and thanked it. It helped my state of mind and helped me say goodbye x

 

[Pippi_elk]

Have to agree with pinkfee... The hot water bottle is your new best friend.
To be honest the pain for me was probably no worse than a bad period... But the hot water bottle is so comforting. I have now passed the fetal sac so really hope the worst is over (maybe this is Tmi but to try encourage things along I had an orgasm...and 3 hours later I started passing the clots..maybe it's just coincidence but maybe it did help, I wasn't really in the mood but managed it anyway).

Just don't wear light coloured trousers! No matter how big a pad I use I still get leeks! So glad I'm signed off work as the only place you want to be is at home when it gets heavy.
If you started having heavy enough brown discharge you might not have to wait long. It's kinda wierd... I spend a week hoping the spotting would diminish...and now I just want lots of bleeding.

Can you give it a few days and if noting much is happening then get some intervention.

 

[laurielynn88]

After I posted this last night I noticed I was bleeding, so perhaps I'll just give it a week until I go back to the doctors next week. I'm used to painful periods. I get really bad cramps that double me over in pain often. So I feel like I'm prepared for whatever is thrown my way. I do however wish it would speed along because at this point I just want the whole experience to be over with =/ It's been getting easier and thankfully my husband has been very supportive. I thank you all SO much for the comments! They have really helped me feel better about this whole experience. To know I am not alone. I know this happened for a reason, so I'm just trying to think of it that way. I have a great support system, so I'm very blessed.

I wish all of you the best that are going through what I am right now!

xoxo to all of you!

 

[laurielynn88]

so sorry for your loss. I found out that I was miscarrying last Friday, my little baby had stopped growing at seven weeks, I was nearly twelve weeks pregnant.

I saw the most amazing herbalist who was able to give me some tea and a tincture which really got things moving (I was only spotting a little when I saw her) and I passed my tiny little baby on Saturday night.

I hope that things get moving for you soon. I found it helped swaying my hips and talking to my baby in my head saying that I released it with love and thanked it. It helped my state of mind and helped me say goodbye x

I think that's wonderful advice! I will check into some Herbs.. thank you.

 

[Emmy0320]

It took me 2.5 weeks to miscarry naturally. Granted our situation was unusual as I found out I miscarried at a 9 week private scan (for pictures and piece of mind). Baby was 9 weeks but with no heartbeat and likely passed the same day or the day before my US. I wouldn't have known otherwise as I had no spotting or cramping and my first US with my ob/gyn wasn't scheduled until 12 weeks.

The "no heartbeat" US was on 1/26 at 9 weeks... baby and sack measured 9 weeks and looked stable though.

I started spotting (brown stuff when I wiped) on 2/12

I started bleeding (heavily and passing tissue) on 2/13

Have some pain meds ready and read what you can to prepare yourself. You may have contractions and quite a bit of bleeding/ tissue being passed. I knew what to expect and was still stunned by what I experienced but being able to tell myself "this is normal" helped a lot.

Hugs and please let me know if you need anything. It's very scary and something most people done talk about... which makes it even harder to prepare for.

 

[Emmy0320]

EDIT- I was scheduled for a d&c on 02/14 should I not have miscarried sooner simply because I didn't think I wanted to wait that long. I started to miscarry naturally on 02/13. Although scary I've been amazed at how my body has handled things. PM me if you need to. It's tough and I don't mind messaging my cell if you need to chat... I wish I had someone to talk to that's been through it before hand. You'll be okay though... d&c or natural. Our bodies are tough (for what it's worth).

 

[laurielynn88]

EDIT- I was scheduled for a d&c on 02/14 should I not have miscarried sooner simply because I didn't think I wanted to wait that long. I started to miscarry naturally on 02/13. Although scary I've been amazed at how my body has handled things. PM me if you need to. It's tough and I don't mind messaging my cell if you need to chat... I wish I had someone to talk to that's been through it before hand. You'll be okay though... d&c or natural. Our bodies are tough (for what it's worth).

That is so sweet of you! I'm really hoping I can get through this without a D&C, Many people said it was easier but I feel like that procedure is so invasive. I will go through with it if need be. But obviously if I can handle this on my own I would like to. I started to miscarry on Thursday and so far am experiencing mild bleeding, not at all what I had expected. I go to the doctors on Tuesday and hopefully she can offer me some advice. I'm sorry you are going through this as well. It's an awful thing to experience being pregnant and then all the sudden just not be =( I am praying this was just a one time occurrence.

 

[corsburn]

Hi,
I just had my first miscarriage and it was natural. It took 3 days, start to finish. First day was mild spotting, with dark blood. The second day was a large amount of thick, mucousy dark brown stuff. The 3rd morning it was bright red blood and clots coming out every time I went to the bathroom. This will sound bad but it was so much I could feel it all coming out, and my heart just broke because I knew it was my baby and fetal tissue and I could not stop it. When you see it in the toilet, you know it was more than just spotting or implantation bleeds. I cramped for those 3 days and still am cramping but its slowing down. The cramping for me wasn't severe but was constant in my lower stomach. I go back to my dr Monday morning to check my blood levels again to be sure they are going down. When I went to the ER, they could not find any evidence of a fetus and they assumed that I had already passed it by the time I got there. I was 9 and 1/2 weeks along. I hope you can do it naturally without a D&C! Thanks for letting me share my story with you and I hope it helps you.

 

[Chimpette]

I'm so sorry your having to go through this....

We found out at 10 weeks that baby had stopped growing at 7 weeks. I started bleeding the day after the scan and pretty much bled on and off quite heavy at times for next 5 weeks. After that I went back for a scan and unfortunately baby was still there, so I ended up with a D & C.

I hope you get the outcome you are wising for, and lots of baby dust to you for the future

xx

 

[laurielynn88]

Hi,
I just had my first miscarriage and it was natural. It took 3 days, start to finish. First day was mild spotting, with dark blood. The second day was a large amount of thick, mucousy dark brown stuff. The 3rd morning it was bright red blood and clots coming out every time I went to the bathroom. This will sound bad but it was so much I could feel it all coming out, and my heart just broke because I knew it was my baby and fetal tissue and I could not stop it. When you see it in the toilet, you know it was more than just spotting or implantation bleeds. I cramped for those 3 days and still am cramping but its slowing down. The cramping for me wasn't severe but was constant in my lower stomach. I go back to my dr Monday morning to check my blood levels again to be sure they are going down. When I went to the ER, they could not find any evidence of a fetus and they assumed that I had already passed it by the time I got there. I was 9 and 1/2 weeks along. I hope you can do it naturally without a D&C! Thanks for letting me share my story with you and I hope it helps you.

Basically the same thing happened with me, started on 2/16 with mild light spotting, was bleeding a little heavier on 2/17 but experienced horrible cramps in the evening, thought for sure something was going to happen but nothing did. The next day I was bleeding but had no cramping until the evening again. I felt blood literally run down my leg and I knew it was happening. I broke down in tears and was crying the whole time.. I had 3 gushes of blood come out and finally I passed the sac. It was the most heartbreaking thing I have ever experienced. I could see my baby. If this happens again I will request a D&C. not because I couldn't deal with the pain but because seeing it come out made me realize how real it was and I don't think I could deal with that again. I am feeling much better today, and very hopeful for the future. I am very blessed with beautiful nieces and nephews that are keeping me company along with a supportive husband. I appreciate you sharing your story! I really feel like more women need to know as much about a m/c as possible so they know what to prepare themselves for. I have a doctors appointment on Tuesday and I am hoping that everything passed and there is no need for a d&c. *xoxo*

 

[froliky2011]

I was told I was most likely going to mc last Tuesday (Feb. 14th) and am still waiting. I have some spotting and blood but nothing major and still a positive hpt. Doctor said she thought I would mc by the weekend based upon my numbers. I guess they decided to slow down after that visit.

 

[laurielynn88]

I was told I was most likely going to mc last Tuesday (Feb. 14th) and am still waiting. I have some spotting and blood but nothing major and still a positive hpt. Doctor said she thought I would mc by the weekend based upon my numbers. I guess they decided to slow down after that visit.

When did you find out you would miscarry? I found out my baby had no heartbeat on Feb. 7th and didn't even start to bleed until Feb 16th. So it can take a little while. if you have spotting and blood it will most likely pick up as the days go on it sounds like. I to was waiting, and it was a horrible feeling having to wait. I hope it happens for you soon =/

 

[froliky2011]

Laurielynn - Thanks for your support. I was told Feb. 14 (had beta on Feb. 10th) and after my 2nd beta results from the 14th and told on the 15th they said for sure before the weekend based upon my HCG numbers (not so much by ultrasound but I did have a small little beany in there). I was barely 5.5 weeks last week. I am bleeding a little but have absolutely no cramps and feel fine except a little bloated. I started bleeding on Saturday. Tuesday now and bleeding less than a period. I did have two mature follicles last IUI cylce and am wondering if I had a "vanishing twin". I know it sounds crazy but I think because I had two follicles there is a possibility. It's not false hope but just wondering based upon some research I did.