Mother of all conception months Graduates

[madcatwoman]

.lol there are benefits to having a man on nights, bed all to myself

its tempting to move into the spare room, but we have never done that, and i really dont want to. although DH says we will have to when is here for a few weeks as we have agreed i'll do night feeds while hes working (in the week), so he can get up with out disturbing baby(as baby will be in a room with me) and i can have a slight bit of peace durring the weekend night times when he has baby with him in his room.

 

[molly85]

ohhhhh we only plan o sleeping seperatly if baby is extra fussy. I've been banned from using my glare to silence her

 

[madcatwoman]

aparently this is the system all DHs mates have used when they had their new borns, im not terribly enthusastic about it, but on the other hand i can see the logic.

 

[molly85]

Matt wanted this baby he has to go without sleep to. not that it will be much as he only does 2 day shifts and he has to be out by 5.30 am for those once a fortnight. i just go to bed later.

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

I dont want DH to sleep on the sofa either (we only have a two bed!) although he has offered but am not sure how much longer this can go on As for when baby arrives we will probably adopt same routine as with Oliver....go to bed together and do night shifts together as we often found with Oliver the other didnt want to sleep when baby was awake So I would change bum and David would warm milk and bring it back upstairs and we would take it in turns to feed Oliver (him one night me the next etc!) It worked very well and was surprisingly quick...I felt like night feeds were a doddle and so did David

 

[gilz82]

Awww I'm germy and jealous of you girls who have people to share night feeds with. I wonder if I could train the dog to hold a bottle

 

[PeanutBean]

The only thing I'd say madcat is don't set anything in stone right now as usually any plans made go out the window! Byron wouldn't sleep at all unless he was being held for those first few weeks so we'd take it in turns through the night to sleep and the other would go downstairs. DH watched a lot of films those nights! This was before the cosleeping that fixed everything. Then some babies sleep so well! Also with me BF I had to do all the feeds at night but like Madly says it's often hard to sleep when the other is up with the baby, certainly in the early days.

 

[pinkclaire]

Molly, council tax support will depend on your partners income as well. I did get it when I was on stat mat pay with james, but My OH wasnt earning at the time (long story!) and I think we only just were entitled to it. They are so stingy with benefits, actually dont get me started on this one cos it will turn into a rant lol.

Sorry for all you ladies not sleeping, not got that to bad yet, just the mad crazy dreams! And some of you sound to nice! My hubby got up with me a bit, but theres no way I'd go in a different room, Actually I think staying at home with the baby is far more tiring, you never get a break, I feel like I'm doing nothing at work, and having a whole hour lunch break! Well I dont know what to do with myself I've eaten my food in around 2 mins flat as thats what I'm used to!

 

[PeanutBean]

I guess it depends on your job pink. I do a lot of travelling for mine (normally) and get pretty involved. Once I started full time in Jan I found it really really hard, definitely harder than being at home on my leave. It doesn't help that DH works some evenings and every other Saturday so we don't see each other a lot and I have long work days followed by long baby evenings. DH does tonnes as well, even when I'm not broken with pregnancy. Ideally I'd be part time but can't afford it.

My head feels hungover after this morning's vomit. I never made it out of pjs today. Dh is cleaning the kitchen though I generously did half the job earlier. We got a new microwave today. Still waiting for our raincover and nappies but maybe tomorrow. Byron has a septic willy. The joys.

 

[pinkclaire]

That is true peanut, I am working part time which makes a massive difference! Also my job is not exactly stimulating for me. I'm more tired at home because my hubby is a lazy git who never helps me (he did when james was young but he's regressed ) so at home I feel like I'm constantly on the go, which with this stupid sciatica is proving painful and probably why I fell down the stairs at the weekend.

 

[PeanutBean]

You need to kick him into shape!

 

[pinkclaire]

Oh I know I'm trying. He's back I'm the forces after a bit of a break and the power has gone to his head. He thinks he can just give out orders at home and not do anything like at work but he has no rank over me lol. Yes we're both strong willed which isn't always the best

 

[pinkclaire]

Peanut was it you having trouble explaining your holiday to HR? This link from direct gov clearly states you can take your holiday before or after mat leave, as long as your mat leave isn't over 2 years.

https://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parent...amilies/Pregnancyandmaternityrights/DG_175088

 

[molly85]

lol your OH an officer Pink? My dad says the moment the enter sandhurst they remove brain and insert a casset. lol they just can't survive in the real world.

Shit sausage roll on tv, it's even on you are what you eat and I still want it.

Poor willy, how dis taht happen?

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

My Britax is here

David says he cant get excited about a buggy but I have enough excitment for the two of us I THINK I`M IN LURRRRRRRRRRVE

 

[PeanutBean]

Thanks pink. They were supposed to be discussing it today but I've not had a response yet. I don't forsee any issue and it's totally logical but if they are arses I'll direct them. My HR woman (there is only one btw) is always sending me direct gov links for everything for some reason, I reckon that's her only source of info!

No idea on the willy Molly. He had thrush in it a while back which cleared up quick with cream, then he's had a rash in his nappy area for yonks that suddenly bloomed and turned out also to be thrush (I suppose those two were related) so I assumed thrush but there is pus so it must be bacterial. Spot of savlon! DH was all panicky and googling. Get texting about tea tree oil and going to the doctors. I was just like, we'll clean it. If it gets really big or bad I'll take him to the doctor for some antibiotic cream but I don't see why some extra special hygiene won't work. Men and their willies! You'd think Byron's brain was oozing pus.

He's teething and so has endless snot and colds and things. He's chucked up every morning for three days from snot which is what happened with his molars last year. We're getting a new inhaler to help with that but won't be ready til Friday. I reckon his whole immune system struggles when he's teething and this is just another one of those outward symptoms. He's already had a resurgence of viral conjunctivitis not seen since his last molars cut in Feb.

The world of baby boys ladies!

 

[molly85]

I can beat you there madly i think i took 40 pictures of ours lol. nearly ruddy killed me.

Been updating computer all night so haven't got to installing printer software on it to load all my pictures. next is teh nursery so you can all see it and my clothes collection lol.

Oh no cream egg advert, easter isn't til april

 

[molly85]

eeewwww, probably a bit of smeggy cought up nice clean, maybe some salt water and savlon. jobs a gooden. they are so protective of their bits. man if they saw what we girls produce. have you girls produced summit that looks like the gloe they use to stick stuff on magazines?

 

[pinkclaire]

Oh yay for new prams! I haven't found a pram to get excited about yet, I need to see some doubles in real life!

He's a non commisioned officer so didn't go through sandhurst, worked his way up, still is a bossy man haha!

Peanut I love your explanation of boys to the unexpected haha! Have you told them about the willy pulling and erections yet? oh I forgot the fireman sam weeing!

Hope you hear back from HR soon and Byron perks up, sounds like he's having a rough time poor thing

 

[molly85]

lol, sounds easier than girls and their stroppyness. i'v already been warned she want to pick her own clothes by the age of 2. lol i have a cure only buy sencible clothes for her lol .

Pink I'm sure they do something to them in basic training I've lived in Bordon and aldershot all my life. the baby SEME guys are so funny you can watch the develope from being new in their nice shirts and jeans all ironed pondering washing powder in the supermarket to being almost ready to leave in their trakkys and buying crates of beer and frozen pizza. lol