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Hi Ladies,

Sorry about the delay this child is one stubborn baby!

And the result is in!

We are team :blue: !!!

:flower:
 
aw congrats on team blue!!!!!

aw that sucks it must be so frustrating hearing how everyone else is able to feel kicking earlier, one of my friends placenta was preventing her feeling kicking for ages i think she felt movement for the first time around 25/26 weeks? ish?

dont worry though hun i am sure you will see a massive foot sticking out of you one minute and a foot in the ribs at another lol

oh i am getting impatient it feels like time is ging so fast but at the same time feels so slow cant wait to get to the point where i can find out what team we are on!

dh doesnt want to know so it is going to take a lot of convincing! i have told him i would honestly go behind his back and get an additional scan to find out! lol so in the interest of saving money he should just let me find out! i am so so so good at keeping secrets as well! when i said that to him he went no you cant know and me not - ha ha so you do want to know then! i'll get there in the end!
 
Yay sophie team blue, congratz on team pink Claire.

Right Im very peev'd work want to put me on sick pay now and I have a meeting on the 25th at 13:00.

I am not signed off, and Occy health say I can return. See info from Direct gov, rather annoyed:
If you are pregnant

Your employer must make a special assessment of the risks to pregnant mothers and their babies. If there are risks, your employer must protect you and your baby by:
  • adjusting your working conditions and/or hours of work
  • offering you other suitable work if there is any
  • suspending you from work for as long as necessary

If you are suspended you are entitled to full pay, including any bonuses you would have been paid. Your suspension should last until the risk to you or your baby has been removed.
There can be extra risks to the health of pregnant night workers. If you have a medical certificate saying that there's a risk you should be offered suitable day work. If none is available you can be suspended until the risk to health has passed. If you refuse reasonable alternative work your employer doesn't have to pay you.

https://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Employment/HealthAndSafetyAtWork/DG_10026595

you just know when you have no intrest in returning but I am stuborn and have a point to get accross.
 
Quite right Molly don't let them get away with any crap. They aren't allowed to put on sick leave.
 
Molly you must be pretty frustrated. Occ Health have been supported and helped me get out of my paeds job (who are now going NUTS for the short notice).

Yay for the new boy and girl!!! So pleased both scans went well, and the babes are ok and healthy xx:thumbup:

ANd yay for the movements Ozzie! :happydance: I love it, the best part of being pregnant for me. I missed my bump sooooo much last time, trying to enjoy every second.

Gilz I am sure your turn will be soon :flower:

SOrry to all the poorly ladies out there :hugs:
 
Too right Molly :thumbup: My union confirmed this for me on Monday....basically you should be risk assessed and if you cant do the job you currently do for whatever reason ie it puts you at risk or your baby then you should be given an alt `safe` role however if none is available then you should be suspended on full pay :thumbup: Dont let them get away with this one :nope:

Congrats Sofie hon and welcome to Team :blue: :)

Gilz hon I just realised you go on Mat Leave on Charlies EDD :dohh:
 
Congrats Sofie!

Gem I bled a lot with james as well so I know how it feels, Maybe it is blue, we all know men like to be difficult :haha:

I went off tea and coffee etc as well with James! Sounds very like my symptoms lol.

Molly what a pain in the bum they are being! Send them the link thats what I do with my work lol.

Who wasnt feeling movements? Wait until 30 odd weeks when they are keeping you awake all night you'll be pleased you didnt feel them then! lol. Only joking. I would say I've only been feeling mine properly this time for the last week or so, I mean I could feel something because it was my second I knew it was baby, but now its definite if that makes sense? And I have a posterior placenta and second baby! Dont worry you'll feel them soon enough!

Have you tried drinking OJ? That always wakes my babys up lol xx
 
So the 29th of April should be a good day all round then Madly :happydance:

I drink loads of orange juice Pink and still nothing. I know it'll happen soon I'm just impatient :wacko: :dohh: :wacko:
 
Done with a very polite e-mail I will be speeking to HR again tomorrow.

I hate pregnancy brain it failed me just whne i needed it but knew it wasn't right. so spoken to old boss, e-mailed new one and grrr off I go!!!!!!!

Breathe be calm everything will be fine
 
loopylollipop said:
Molly you must be pretty frustrated. Occ Health have been supported and helped me get out of my paeds job (who are now going NUTS for the short notice).

Yay for the new boy and girl!!! So pleased both scans went well, and the babes are ok and healthy xx:thumbup:

ANd yay for the movements Ozzie! :happydance: I love it, the best part of being pregnant for me. I missed my bump sooooo much last time, trying to enjoy every second.

Gilz I am sure your turn will be soon :flower:

SOrry to all the poorly ladies out there :hugs:
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Occy health were lovely if a bit ditzy and very supportive.
 
It is amazing how some people treat pregnant women! I am not one of those pregnant women - like one woman i knew - who use pregnancy as an excuse to not work as hard as before but for some reason some employers the second you tell them you are pregnant are waiting for you to sue, make a mistake so they can discipline you, generally get rid of you, think you are taking them for a ride. every pregnant lady and their child deserves the right to be safe, to keep their job and to not feel victimised or tarred with the same brush as a very very small minority of women who do use pregnancy as an excuse - the lady i knew refused to wipe her tables, refused to carry anything including replacement napkins and cutlery for tables and even a single glass of diet coke and then retorted if anything happens to my baby i will hold you responsible to the poor waiter who said she was too busy to run such a light errand

at the end of the day hun if they cant offer you a suitable job then they will have to pay you what you are entitled to! you are not sick you are pregnant! if you were sick the only thing they could do would be to start your mat leave early if you have not been able to work due to pregnancy related illness but even then that is a minefield and not a way to get someone out the business!

you stand up for yourself hun! sometimes it is best to not say anything at the time except for i am going to take all the information away that you have just given me and look into it with a clear head thank you. that way you dont inadvertantly agree to something, my dh's boss hates him so he is going to force through a demotion for no reason which is breach of contract, i looked into it today if my dh gives even a hint of agreeing and not disagreeing with it he doesnt have a case! so stick to your guns, stand up for yourself and dont agree to anything without looking in to it especially if it rings a bit weird to you at the time!

you go girl! i hate things like this! sorry for rant lol
 
Bloody hell molly! :growlmad: You can't be signed off sick because they choose to without any medical evidence saying you can't work! Fight the fight! We who are stronger and more determined must fight to protect those who are more vulnerable and don't know or understand their rights or are too afraid to stand up for them.
 
I intend to do this Peanut hon :thumbup: Starting tomorrow when I return to work to face my boss over the grievance I raised and also to hand in my Mat Leave notice which I know will not go down well at all :nope: But hey ho who cares...only 6wks to go tomorrrow :wohoo:

Wish me luck Ladies I will be back tomorrow aft/eve....night night :kiss:
 
May i ask when any of you ladies started buying stuff for your babes/plan on buying stuff for babes? I've a few people telling me 'its too early' and a few telling me that its fine to start looking and buying stuff now...

We figured we'd space stuff out, buy things over the months, rather than right at the end in one lump sum. I don't want to be made to feel 'guilty' for wanting to buy a few things now - just things we can put away in storage. Clothes are the last thing i'll buy, as we're waiting to find out baby gender first anyway. I've already got my eye on a few essentials and hope to buy some of them soon! :) xx
 
i think i bought the majority of stuff after our 20 weeks scan 1. for gender and 2. to save the money and go for a whole day of baby shopping retail therapy! although have to say i was still buying essential things the week before dd!

there is nothing wrong with buying stuff now! buying things early and telling people early will not cause anything bad to happen! if you want to go for it! you might find that if you sort one or two things out you will find that you can wait a few more weeks before getting the rest you know!

i will prob be waiting until after gender scan again but again purely down to the fact we have got a lot of the stuff from last time and i need to save the money for new bedding, mattresses and a few new clothes, will prob spend any extra money on buying things like nappies and wipes to help financially when on mat leave, if i put money in the bank i will spend it on things as opposed to using it for useful things lol
 
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