Mother of all conception months Graduates

[DaretoDream]

Gils chemical induction(pessarie & drip) is not on my list of wants as I have heard so much about the tearing where your body just doesn't adjust at the same rate as dilation. Tearing is one of worse nightmares stitches and bleeding eeeeek.

My mother was induced- she said they had to "sew" a piece of herself back to her, she tore so bad. *shiver* no inducing for me!

 

[Ozzieshunni]

I agree with Peanut...water birth sounds like the least traumatic way to give birth

 

[gilz82]

Thanks for all of the advice Vbaby

I would really love to have a water birth the more i hear about them, but i'm not allowed

 

[vbaby3]

Gils chemical induction(pessarie & drip) is not on my list of wants as I have heard so much about the tearing where your body just doesn't adjust at the same rate as dilation. Tearing is one of worse nightmares stitches and bleeding eeeeek.

My mother was induced- she said they had to "sew" a piece of herself back to her, she tore so bad. *shiver* no inducing for me!

Holy s**t I near boked when I read that!!!

 

[vbaby3]

Aw poor gilz,its not fairis it?x
I suppose you have to look at it differently,whatever way is going to get baby out and keep you safe too is how its gotta be.x

 

[vbaby3]

Meant to ask you all before,how long will your oh/dh's have off work after lo is born?
Do they get paternity leave over there?
They don't get anything officially here,but my husbands employer did give him 3 days paid afterwards,then dh had saved up his hols too so was able to take 2 wks.
Really hoping this lo comes when she's due as he has that easter wk off anyhow,then he won't have to take days from his 2 wks summer hols,

 

[gilz82]

You are totally right Vbaby and the end result will make whatever type of labour i have worth while.

I think i just feel a little like a lot of the choices are being taken away from me, not helped by the fact i'm hormonal

Over here dad's get two weeks paternity leave at the same rate as stat maternity pay. Some employers top this up but not many. I think my OH is going to take the two weeks leave plus a weeks holiday after that.

 

[vbaby3]

Thats great,so your oh will have 3 wks off!
The 1st 2 wks are the hardest,so at least you'll have your oh there to share in the nightfeeds,then hopefully by wk 3 your wee man will be in a kind of routine.
The 1st 2 wks were just chaos here,oran was awake all night and sleeping all day.
When I got home from hospital my dh kept oran downstairs for the 1st 2 nights so I had 2 nights full and unbroken sleep,it made me feel human again,and able to cope!
Then we took turns getting up until he went back to work.

 

[gilz82]

That was lovely of your DH Vbaby, i think looking after ourselves is one thing that we are all likely to forget about a little, so to get some proper rest must have been fantastic.

I do think that my OH will be pretty hands on once the jellybean arrives, i know he's already starting to feel guilty about how much of the time he won't be there to help.

Thankfully my sister who stays nearby is a total sweetheart, so when my OH goes back to work i think she'll be in and out quite frequently.

 

[Ozzieshunni]

DH is working with his work to start paternity leave as soon as I give birth because there's no way of knowing for sure if LO is going to be early or late. He's also wanting to take some vacation time. I think he's going to take one week of pat leave and 2 weeks of vacation

 

[vbaby3]

Oh lovely,3 wks for you too ozzie!!
Yeh gilz,he is a star,I probably don't give him enough credit!
He is very hands on now,but to start with he wasn't!!
I think it took a lot of argueing when we had shay for him to realize i'm not doing it all on my own,so now he just mucks in and doesn't have to be asked.

Thats great your sis is nearby,and do you know what,a few months after your lil boy is born,he'll be great company for you when oh is away.You'll never be lonely again lol!
My 2 are great company,and always cheer me up,thats not to say i'm not glad to see the back of them at bedtime though!

 

[gilz82]

Thats great your sis is nearby,and do you know what,a few months after your lil boy is born,he'll be great company for you when oh is away.You'll never be lonely again lol!
My 2 are great company,and always cheer me up,thats not to say i'm not glad to see the back of them at bedtime though!

You know in all of the masses of thinking I've done about becoming a mum I honestly hadn't even realised that Vbaby. It'll be lovely not to feel lonely rattling around in the house.

Oh I meant to ask do any of you girls know when you are supposed to get told or enquire about nhs antenatal classes? My mw hasn't mentioned them.

 

[tas1]

Hey Ladies,

Havent been on here for a while! How are you all? What have you been up to? What baby buys you got recently?

xx

 

[madcatwoman]

Oh I meant to ask do any of you girls know when you are supposed to get told or enquire about nhs antenatal classes? My mw hasn't mentioned them.

no-one told me, ive had to keep asking about them, and every time i ask the MW says to remind her at my next apointment!!

Ladies,a bit OT here.
Does anyone know if one of your parents are prone to tumours alot, is it likey the problem is passed down to the next generation(ie me)?. I have nothing to do with my mother, she said&did some pretty evil things, did give a few 2nd chances, but they were blown so i cut all ties.
I hear on facebook she has a cancerous tumour in her stomach, when i was young she had two benign tumours removed from her neck as well.
Physically i take after her, with the bad skin, body shape etc etc, and ive begun to wonder what the likely hood is of these crap genes meaning i could be prone to the above later in life?.

 

[gilz82]

I honestly don't know Madcat, maybe your doc or mw could shed more light on the hereditary risk if there are any.

 

[madcatwoman]

yeh maybe, from what ive read most stomach cancers are sporadic but theres one or two types which are linked to genes.
I think it could be worth considering talking to my gp, but i doubt the NHS does genetic testing(?)

 

[gilz82]

Yeah you are probably right that the nhs won't be interested in doing genetic testing. I'm sure they'll refer you to a lovely company who'll charge you a fortune to do it!

Thought I'd stick up a few pictures of our nursery. Still waiting on the cot bedding coming and we need to get some pictures but I think it doesn't look too bad

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[loopylollipop]

yeh maybe, from what ive read most stomach cancers are sporadic but theres one or two types which are linked to genes.
I think it could be worth considering talking to my gp, but i doubt the NHS does genetic testing(?)

Madcat, GPs can refer individuals for genetic testing. However they need to meet certain criteria, and cant promise there will be a specific test for the condition one is looking for. If possible it would be worth trying to obtain more info from family, regarding previous lumps and bumps, what age diagnosed/removed etc. Knowing the type of cancer she now has would be invaluable as this would provide some idea of risks in itself.

However most cancers are mulitfactorial (ie not just gene dependant). It depends on lifestyle and environmental factors. I found this snippet:

There is a continuous spectrum of disease extending from disorders that are almost wholly genetic – single-gene disorders such as Huntingdon’s disease – with minimal contribution from the environment, to those caused predominantly by environmental factors like trauma or poisoning.

Multifactorial inheritance lies along the spectrum where there is interplay between environmental factors and genetic factors, either with contribution from a single gene or several genes (polygenic) with lower penetrance. This includes many common diseases including cancer, diabetes, CHD, multiple sclerosis, sub-arachnoid haemorrhage and cleft palate.

Familial clustering of the disease is often present, as families share genes and environment.

A frequently quoted figure is that 1-5% of those with a multifactorial condition within the general population will have a single-gene disorder which is responsible, and it is important to identify these people as they are often at the highest risk. Important examples are breast cancer, type 2 diabetes and CHD.

So if you had the gene, all these other factors come into play. If she is a smoker, for example, would make a massive difference to her risk of stomach cancer.

If you are worried, see your GP. At least they can examine you and take a family history (what is known). Go armed with all the health info you know about your parents and your siblings. A GP can always ring the genetics department for advice, as a referral is often unecessary.

Hope this helps.

Happy v-day Molly x

lovely nursery Gilz! Ours still has two boys shoved in it bah. Waiting for OH to get loft re-wired.

 

[madcatwoman]

Oh gilz thats looking wonderful!, you got really decent furniture in there i can tell!!, looks well sturdy. (Dh wanted furniture like this but unlike you, we never saved for it for years... we have tried to go middle of the range in NEXT but its still flat pack ).

Our cot need asembling and the rest comes from next on the 1st feb.

 

[madcatwoman]

thankyou molly

its hard being as i have nothing to do with my mother, so i cant find out what lumps she had before (i just know she never had chemo or anything, they were just removed) and all i know now is this stomach tumour is cancerous, but dont know what kind. I get what your saying though, the doc would need more info. If testing were available i think id want it, simply because if i was at risk i would know better than to ignore any early symptoms which could be dismissed as IBS or something.