Mother of all conception months Graduates

[PeanutBean]

I think it's normal for lots of grandparents to expect to have the baby but that doesn't mean they get it or indeed should! I think the first time Byron was alone with grandparents was with FIL and family who had him for us to go for a meal on my 30th when he was 3 months. He's never been with anyone except my mum when we were at work and one or two other nights out. I certainly wouldn't take him or Indigo to anyone without me or DH for their pleasure, only my convenience!!

 

[madcatwoman]

Gilz, as you know we had similar situations with our men last night.
DH said to me "shall i book dinner out for us next sat and we'll drop bailey off at mums"?.

after all i said, about not trusting his mum, about Bailey being too young(&colicky) at 5 weeks old, all my feelings had been thrown out of the window in one fell swoop at just over 5 weeks since having Bailey. I though DH understood. I was so angry and upset, not ready to leave Bailey& certainly not with that woman. we didnt speak all evening.

I had it out with him today, he said he couldnt see the problem!! even after i explained AGAIN. He said his mum brought them up ok and doesnt see what the issue is. In the end he has agreed we do what i want to do, but a little more understanding would be nice.

Gilz these grandparents throw up a whole new array of problems, and problems i dont think we're going to get shot of unfortunately. They do also think they have a right to our babies.

Ive told DH we'll do dinner out when Bailey is few months older and even then our choice of baby sitter will be 'mutually agreed'.

So sorry to hear youre having to put up with this Sh*t too though.

 

[gilz82]

Thanks girls

Glad you spoke Cat, although I wish your DH would hurry up and get your point already.

I'm glad I asked now as I was beginning to think maybe I was the one with the problem. I'm all for family members babysitting if we are both going out or working but not just because they want to.

Being honest that set of grandparents will probably have the least amount of alone time with Noah, the woman my FIL is married to is a foul mouth woman and I swear Noah would come home saying the c word and then I'd need to paste her

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

aw bless you tas! too late though i chopped it myself last night lol was sooooo fed up! nothing major just wallopped loads of the length off and cut it in one length, it is still about 4 inches longer than i want so its fine for now lol i have tried everything on my scalp, i used to use tes tree oil which was fab but read last night it is supposed to cause hormonal imbalance problems in pregnancy . . . . . hmmmmmm

oh i hate it when people think that they should have had babies to stay . . . my family are great no one has ever even asked. i understnad that family have a right to see their grandchildren etc but they dont have a right to "have" them . . .

one of my friends her mil took the baby for 4 days! i have a feeling she took him away! he is only 6 months old now and this was a few months back! my friend was really sad to let him go but because her layabout husband who does naff all with the baby wanted a break he and his mum forced her! personally for me anyoen who forces me to do something like that will be forced out my door! really really strange. . .

 

[molly85]

i hate the fact we need to family care to get the best time with abby matt works every weekend and i would get better pay if i did to no idea how that would go down at work. i have't got the energy to go to cab to discuss what the best plan would be with taxd credit though i don't think we would get much.

i want to start on number 2 at christmas so don't know how long i'll be back for. i know insane after the killer pregnancy. i'm thinkingof asking for an epidural so am completely pain free not just bareable lol

 

[Sofiekirsten]

Thank you all

Think I was having a very low moment last night.

Well Jake slept through again don't know what this child is doing!? He didn't sleep through the night before but the night before last he did??

I think he gets really bad trapped wind because when we wind him we don't get anything up?! He farts and thats about it....

Well he is asleep at the moment and his feed is at 1pm so hopefully I can push him until 2pm.

Also looked on the bottom of my foot to find a discusting varuca!

I think I must of picked it up from the hospital! It's gross! and I have just noticed how badly my legs need shaving and my toenails need painting!

Whoops little man has woken up....Time for a feed!

 

[gilz82]

I hate periods

Just went to meet my aunt and uncle who are down visiting. We went out for a walk with them and their dog and me, my OH, Noah and our dog. 5 minutes away from their holiday house woosh bloody period leaked everywhere. Through my jeans and everything. Totally mortified never had that happen in 15 years of periods Pregnancy has made my periods weird!!

 

[molly85]

oh gross Gilz and very alarming did you not know it was coming? i am dreading mine as contraception is still in the debate mode. the word NO is my prefered choise at the moment

 

[madcatwoman]

hell gilz, did it really happen like that?, i this something i need to know about, god id be mortified too!

Oh and gilz, he admited that men dont have a problem being seperated from their baby at 5 weeks, and also said he forgot Bailey was only 5 weeks when i said it feels to early!

 

[madcatwoman]

Does anyone else baby seem to love routine?. Bailey likes a Nap in the afternoon in his basket, bed at 10pm, feed at 2.30 and one at about 5.30. If his bed time is changed the number of feeds go haywire and it all goes wrong!

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Hi Ladies :wave:

Just catching up again not too good at been around often these days am afraid there just doesnt seem to be enough hours in the day

Molly I agree Abby may be bunged up a bit because of the formula Charlie only poos every two days we are lucky if we get a poo two days in a row and I also agree you decide what feeding routine is best for you you have done so well to BF her for so long you should be proud of yourself honestly

Peanut seriously you need to put in a major complaint bloody idiots I mean seriously how hard is it to send you the correct order

We dont have a bedtime routine yet either ..... Oliver got into a routine himself after he slept through the night so we are hoping for the same again We feed Charlie anytime between 10-11pm put him down in his crib and he wakes around 2am and 4am for a feed waking and refusing to go back off between 6-7am we think this is because our bedroom is too light after sunrise and Charlie is a light sleeper so we have purchased a black out blind we which we be putting up at some point this weekend I agree with you vbaby Kids should have a routine to allow some alone time for yourself and your OH Oliver goes to bed at 7.15pm we just upped it from 6.45pm any later than 7.15pm and he starts been mischievious cause he is tired Its great to know Charlie is not the only baby with these `apparent` feeding issues because he only takes 2-3oz ..... I will make a mental note to remind my HV of this when she pops by on Thursday imo Teagan and Charlie are doing just fine they are simply just not big eaters as you say

Ozzies great news you will have family around you when Alex arrives for horrid pregnancy dreams!

WELCOME ZOIE

Tas glad you had a good time

Glad you are feeling well Pink

SK ditto what the other Ladies have said `you will wake up to Jake no matter what!` and the blues do pass honestly they do I know how you feel about been on your own with Jake DH is away overnight this week with work and I will have both boys on my own and with the night feeds and doing the school run crack of dawn next morning am so worried how I will cope but you know what I keep telling myself that I will because I am a Mummy and I just will and that its ok if things go a little wrong because am not a robot and its ok to feel crap sometimes

Gilz I totally agree with your decision Oliver didnt stay out until he was well over a year old infact I think it was more like 18mths old and I remember waking up in the night and I woke DH and told him we had to go get him from MILs it was just awful DH calmed me down but I still hate Oliver staying out now and cannot wait for him to come home Charlie most certainly wont ever be staying out not at MILs anyway (and we dont have anyone else who would want him overnight!) The thought would be enough to get me into a panic, MIL doesnt some crazy crap these days and I just couldnt rest I can sort of relax when she has Oliver cause I know Oliver is a lot older and quite an independent child but still I am so relieved when hes back home Stick to your guns if you dont want him to stay out then dont let him your not doing anything wrong in making this decision even if it is for selfish reasons infact I think even if it is for selfish Mummy reasons its good enough and for the crappy am dreading this too because my periods are exactly like that anyway am hoping the Dr will give me the depo at my postnatal check on Tuesday cause it stops my periods and the last thing I need is crappy periods right now

madcat am sorry your MIL is at it again and shame on your DH for even suggesting you leave Bailey with her right now I am just waiting for my MIL to start asking to have Charlie she stuck in crete right now I shouldnt laugh but her and step-FIL flew out for our nephews wedding and step-FIL ended up in hospital hes had a bad chest since Christmas but hasnt deemed it a priority to get checked out and flew out there ill and well as I say ended up in hospital It will be over 4wks when she gets back since she has seen Charlie and Oliver well thats if they fly back on Tuesday as planned they have to get clearance for step-FIL to fly yet

Well Charlie slept from 10.30pm to 3.30am last night/this morning he woke again at 6.30am and DH got up with him 7am letting me lie in until 10am cleaned half the house today and now putting my feet up and catching up

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Whoa, what a catch up!

Glitz, I totally agree and I'm the same when it comes to Alex. Not just anyone is going to be able to watch him because of his heart condition. They would have to know exactly what to do in emergency situations, etc. Besides, Noah is still little! Why do grandparents want them so young? If I were them, I would wait until the baby was older so we could actually go out and experience things!

to everyone

Painted a bit in baby's room today, but I got so tired! Alex has def dropped lower as my hips and lower back are KILLING me.

 

[gilz82]

Molly i've been back on the pill since a fortnight after Noah was born. This is my second period since he was born. First one was a normal three day period nothing new other than cramps and back pain. This one started Thursday so today should be the last day but I doubt it now. Honestly if I didn't have my period I'd have thought I'd just peed myself.

 

[Ozzieshunni]

I've had that gush before but it's usually during a period and while I'm wearing a pad. Tends to have the consistency of water if I remember.

 

[loopylollipop]

note to self - do not mow lawn, start to drive, work out on the Wii fit then dtd all in one day four weeks after a c-section.

this morning I couldnt move and am bleeding like a stuck pig.

silly silly me

Ozzie - take note from a silly women and respect that a section is a major op and cant be treated lightly!!!

dont know if this is a period or if I have ripped myself apart internally

no-one is baby sitting my LO just yet - he is too young and too dependant right now.

totally agree with Gilz and Madcat!!

 

[Ozzieshunni]

I thought they didn't recommend anything until past 6 weeks! You poor thing I'll keep all that in mind and boss DH around

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Oh Loopy

 

[loopylollipop]

I thought they didn't recommend anything until past 6 weeks! You poor thing I'll keep all that in mind and boss DH around

They dont, although was given ok to drive last week. Oh and I vacuumed the day before.

I felt so well and so 'normal' I just wanted to crack on and get stuff sorted.

Error!

Dylan is 5lb 3oz, has put on 5oz since last week.

Love to everyone havent had chance to catch up properly yet.

Sk hope you are feeling a little better.

My tears didnt come til Dylan lost weight the second time, and the tears came and wouldnt stop for hours. Been ok since though, just super tired!

 

[madcatwoman]

Great news about Dylans weight gain, gilz, i think im going to have to carry a pad in my bag again, god id die if that happened through my light coloured jeans!.

 

[gilz82]

I've just spent 40 minutes scrubbing my jeans with cold water and salt in an attempt to get the blood out. I really think they are ruined though and they were my favourite pair as well