Mother of all conception months Graduates

[madcatwoman]

Oh Madly

Just a quick one as i have to go to Bailey, I hope you get a bit more support from DH, this is so dissapointing to hear, I'll do you a proper reply soon hun x

 

[PeanutBean]

Madly that can't be right. I think you need to sit down and calculate how much smp you have been paid gross, how much tax has gone off it. Get the info on rates and the tax free personal allowance from the hmrc website and check everything against everything else. Smp is taxable but the allowance is £6k ish so smp mostly doesn't breach that. If you work then yes to will go over your tax allowance but there's no guarantee of work for them to base this on. If you found work and had used all your allowance on the smp then you should simply be taxed on your full earnings (normally on a fixed salary the personal allowance is distributed across the year but it doesn't have to be done that way). If you look for work early then you're likely to be liable to pay back some of your smp. I think you need to get some external advice about this. If you want to pm me the details (better on fb) I can chat about it with my brother who works in finance and knows a fair bit about this sort of thing. I am sure that there are alternative ways of sorting the tax. When self employed you pay the tax the year after your earnings. I am sure that normal employees (or unemployed!) don't have to be on the PAYE system and can do tax returns. Plus there are different codes.

You should also contact tax credits to discuss your situation. They should be able to help if your income will be too low to manage.

 

[molly85]

madly demand to speak to the organ grinder rather than the monkeys at the tax office grrrrrr on your behalf.

4 years together and the man doesn't know what bread i like i cried in asda. god i hope af is on way


pb & cat great pics

 

[tas1]

Oh no madly that's awful I hope you can get help and it all works out for you!

Great pics pb and madcat!!

Xx

 

[DaretoDream]

Hey ladies i started with menstrual like cramping today- and called my midwife and they said i have to time them because they could be contractions!!! anyone else's labor start like this?

 

[molly85]

i had thatasi was dilating prior to labour then it got more intence

 

[PeanutBean]

I had cramps quite a bit in the last few days/weeks Dare. If they start to get regular and come in waves then it's most likely the real thing!

 

[DaretoDream]

thanks so much ladies! Cramps were pretty consistent this am but seem to have stopped now. I just never even thought they could be it:

 

[molly85]

oh god the waves thanks for the reminder PB eeekkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

aw dare fingers crossed this is the beginning for you!

lovely pics ladies!

madly i cant believe that! i would defo try appealing that decision! but goodness me that is one hell of a lot of stress that you simply do not need! especially as it isnt even your fault in the first place! its not like its £100 quid its £1000!

afm well a bit of a day i had my growth scan today which went well then i had a consultant appointment which is basically a health visitor appointment where they do all the tests blood etc etc an actual consultant appointment and then another midwife appointment. the testing appointment went well i mean its only testing and then the last thing she said to me was i have seen your notes, i think you have a very strong case for c section you should be booking it today.

well we walk into the consultant appointment and this woman says you are going for vbac arent you? no. instantly face like a complete slapped arse. she shouted WHY. i simply said i do not want to go through what i did with leo again. and then she went sarcastically which waaaaasss. read my f-ing notes you rude cow. basically she completely dismissed me said she would not be booking me a c section date, wanted me to come back at 38 weeks (?!?!?) to discuss it with someone else!

wo wo wo i said, that is term and only two weeks away from full term, i know your game you will give in to my c section at 38 weeks because i will not change my mind then you will tell me you do not have an appointment for 2 or 3 weeks by which point i will be 41 weeks you lot will hope i have gone into natural labour by that point and will be pushing me to "oh just give it ago!"

and you know what! she didnt even flipping deny it! she went well you might want to once you are in labour.

so i got angry and inpolite. i was in labour for 3 days with him, i actually enjoyed the challenge, i wanted just gas and air but was forced an epidural, i wanted to be completely natural birth and ended up with an emergency and my main thing i wanted was to be able to hold my baby and get to keep him and go home with him instead he got snatched off me, placed into an induced sleep for 5 days i couldnt hold him all that time and was told that if he didnt die chances are he would be transferred 300 miles away. his conditional which i 100% blame the people in this very building for was life threatening so dont you sit there and tell me i will be pleased to attempt vbac just because of a few contractions that does NOT change the fact i do not trust you lot not to almost kill my baby again with your slow reactions, being bored at my labour because i had an epidural so bored you dont talk to me for four hours and sit on the other side of the room filling out paperwork when you were supposed to be monitoring my baby and not noticing his distress. you are seriously suggesting i will let all that go because of a few bloody contractions!

by which point i burst into tears and woman with slapped arse face turned around said well i am actually not a consultant so i cant make a decision on this, (really pist she lead us to believe she was a consultant) you should come back at 38 weeks but i will bring you back at 36 and here you go here are some tissues. when i next looked up she looked like she was going to hug me (would have slapped her)

cant believe they fecked my labour up last time, almost led to the death of my son, read my notes and STILL are trying to force me to trust them. i am not trying to avoid pain, c sections are incredibly painful, i dont care about having a set day and time, i dont care that my va jay jay will be "untarnished" i dont care about all that! i just want to be able to take my baby home without worrying for the next year that she might be braindamaged from all the oxygen deprivation thank you very much!

sorry for massively long rant, i have been trying to calm my dh down all day about it as he is fuming but that has meant i havent had a rant about it. gah i understand the whole policy or repeat c sections and i agree with it, but when someone has a genuine reason for wanting one they should not be made to feel like a complete twat for it

 

[madcatwoman]

i had thatasi was dilating prior to labour then it got more intence

same here!


Morning all!


how are we all doing?. i had a sleep through till 5.15 again & that was with him having an empty stomach, he was so whacked out after his playdate i couldnt wake him for milk for love nor money!.

OMG.my little boy has accidently nodded off in his cot. He was watching his mobile in there for ages, i went to the loo and came back thinking it had gone quiet in there, and hes snooring away,i just had to get a blanket out and cover him up!

 

[tas1]

Morning ladies

Kate I'm glad you didn't take no for an answer well done to you for not getting push about! And hugs to you I hope they book a date soon!

Well I've hoovered all the house done two loads of washing I'm about to hang the second lot out and go out! Caleb is just falling asleep so I might not have to put the carrier on me so I can hang washing out lol Caden has gone out with the inlaws they texted me yesterday asking for Caden to be ready for 8.30am so I texted saying I'll text you when he wakes up coz that's his normal waking time and I'm not waking him but I did at 8 so he could get some breakfast coz I knew they would turn up at 8.30am and rush him out the door which they did,he didn't even have his drink they just let's get dressed see you later bye not even a cuddle with their other grand son just a little hello! I know they only come and got Caden early because they wanted him to stay at there's so it was easy on them but sorry I can get my son up at whatever time you say! My OH said it's so they don't get caught in traffic.....erm hello don't you think there will be traffic at that time since most people start work at 9,whatever though! I've told them he has spare clothes in his bag and a big bottle of juice that I made up let's see how much he has of it or will they once again ignore me and give him fruit shoots!

Xx

 

[vbaby3]

Morning all,Well Teagan slept thru last night
From 10 last night until bang on 6am!
She's had a couple of once offs like this,but would be lovely to think she's getting there,nightfeeds are really starting to do my head in lol!!
Or maybe it was just her jabs yesterday knocked her out and she'll be back to the old routine tonight

Madly,hope everything works out ok,x

Nomore,hope you get your section date soon.x

Dare I had af type cramps for a good 10wks,but the fact you're just getting them now is a good sign that something is happening,even if its not for a couple of wks yet.
Like the others have said,mine went from a constant af cramp,to coming in waves that you could actually time.

Lovely pics peanut and madcat!

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Grrrr, it bugs me when grandparents think they can just throw all your rules out the window! It's about consistancy. Yes, they can do some special things, but knowingly giving your son something that makes his poos runny is wrong. I would send them the dirty nappies in the mail

Alex is a month old!!!! It's gone by so fast! We had a good night last night, but DH is driving me bonkers! He's having his leaving do and the headwetting tonight. He's promised to be home by 10pm. I'm going for an hour from 7pm-8pm with Alex, but then I get to come home and take care of all the bedtime routine. *sigh* DH doesn't see why I'm mad about him getting to stay out. I'm thinking of telling him the door will be locked at 10pm and if he stays out later, he better find somewhere else to sleep

 

[tas1]

Thanks Ozzie!

I don't see why men get to go out when do we get chance?!? Never.....we have to plan it months year in advance and we still get moaned at or like my OH says he's going out as well....erm I'm sure you went out on your own!

I'm tempted to do some more washing since it is nice out! I'm trying to work out how much money I'll have for the next sale lol,I've got my little bag ready! Not sure whether I should spend my birthday money on the boys I doubt I'll have time to look for me! And I won the weigh in at our family weight loss competition,I had lost 2lbs this month to win lol was a nice £30!

Need to cut Calebs nails now he is asleep

Xx

 

[DaretoDream]

Thanks ladies. Hoping it is the start of something- having them on and off again this morning.

 

[PeanutBean]

Hi all. Busy day. We took Indigo swimming for the first time today. A bit like with her bath she didn't laugh or cry but looked interested the whole time. Lol We had to get a disposable swim nappy as our reusable is still a bit big but the disposables size 1 is from 16lb. What's that all about? Byron loved it so much. He's been going with DH quite regularly for a year and a half now and the swimplay teacher said he's ready for pre-school classes now. Unfortunately they're on a Monday at they pool so we need to see if we can find one on a Friday.

Just ordered a tonne of storage boxes so I can continue with my household purge and reorganise. Going to order a 2TB external hard drive too as we are seriously struggling for space on our PC. Just trying to decide which one...

 

[madcatwoman]

I seriously need to sort out the swimming thing as Bailey loves a bath Soooo much!

Just not sure how id juggle me and baby and prepairing both of us, i need to do as you suggested yesterday and phone the leisure centre up and see what facilities they have for babies really

 

[molly85]

i got abby extra small swim nappies from huggies.

I saved myself loads of cash for next year and god abby a load of clothes from tesco we can it plain pasta for a month if she has clothes for next year. Matt of course looks as if i have lost it.

busy day here the stupid prescriptin request thing at our pharmacy didn't request my meds abby was with my neighbour for nearly an hour instead of the 15 minutes it was meant to be. Neighbour is lovely so no probs there just was dead peed off the medication could have been essentiial

 

[tas1]

Morning ladies

Hope your all ok!

I've been to the next sale like a crazy person got up at 2.30am! But I got loads of stuff,Caleb now has 6-9month and 9-12months clothes and I got Caden a few jeans t-shirts (one matching one with Caleb lol) pair of wellies pair of shoes and his first pair of boxers he's tried them on already and loves them! I bought myself a pair of jeans but thought i was entitled to it since I put £50 of my birthday money in! Anyways I spent £139 I could of spent more but I put loads back,at one point I had three bags full lol but managed to get it down to one bag! My OH moaned I didn't get him anything but he doesn't need it but he is saying I'm working all those hours for what for ern your sons clothes....dick!!! Sorry!


Xx