Mother of all conception months Graduates

[PeanutBean]

FYI
https://www.birthtraumaassociation.org.uk/what_is_trauma.htm

 

[PeanutBean]

Gah it double posted.

 

[madcatwoman]

Ive had an interesting developement.

Docs wrote to me, a letter saying that due to my blood results they enclose a prescription for iron tablets!!!. I KNEW i wasnt feeling quite this bloody awful no reason!! The receptionist got my results wrong on the phone.

also, interestingly, my iron tabs i had from the hospital(which are the same) have a dose handwritten on them saying take one, once a day, and on this pack it says take one 3 times a day!. The staff at the hospital were rushed so im thinking the original dose was wrong back then.

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Nomore! I'm absolutely shocked at your treatment! God forbid any doctor/midwife/consultant EVER treat me like that! I'm terrified of having another child (even though we know we want more) because of the heart block, even though Alex has done this well. If they didn't take that into consideration next time I get pregnant, I will hit the roof!!! I hope you get your c-section. It's so unfair to force you to give birth any other way! People go on and on about c-section rates in the USA, but honestly, at least they get to choose!

Madly, don't worry about the text. It was just an ooops

Madcat, I hope the iron tablets work!

Molly, all men are the same! DH and I had a massive row the other night about him complaining about having to take Alex for a bit so I can EAT and get a break after having worked 8 hours. I broke down sobbing and he came in and said sorry and said he would try harder. I don't think men realize how hard it is to care for a baby all day and then all night (cause I have the food source). Especially when LO is as demanding as Alex, lol!

As for us, Alex is doing well. The growth spurt is over, but he doesn't want to sleep anywhere but on my lap or in my arms Are all boys this attached to their mommies? I'm looking into getting a wrap so I can get on with housework and still have him close. PB, any advice? I think the moby might be too stretchy for him so I'm looking into a woven wrap. I like the ellaroo and it's not too pricey

 

[madcatwoman]

thanks!im just so relieved the anaemia was finally picked up!.

I dont know, our men need a kick up the bottom sometimes!

As for sections, it would be nice to have the choice as they do in the usa, but it all comes down to money here on the NHS. They would prefer us to do it natrually pushing for X hours, heal for a good 5-6 weeks even if it does mean you cant even sit down, instead of having to pay a surgical team and hog a bed for a few nights!. If you have the money, im sure private healthcare is great!

 

[madcatwoman]

FIL sent me a newspaper cutting.
About a toddler who climbed up some furniture to look out of a window and aparently put his head thru the loop of a roller blind cord, slipped and strangled himself!, later died.
I wouldnt have thought about the cords on blinds i must admit!

 

[PeanutBean]

Glad you got your iron tablets Madcat. I thought it was odd for the doctors to quite fbcs. Obviously the receptionist didn't understand what measures were important.

Ozzie we have a moby and a bjorn. With Byron we only had the bjorn and it's sturdy and DH often did hoovering and things in it but Alex might be a bit little yet in terms of head control. The moby takes some practice but you can do it quite tight. I wouldn't recommend for anything involving a lot of stooping as the way the panels overlap gives a weak spot in the middle. Woven would be less of an issue, especially something like the ergo or any of those carrier types.

Well I am in sufficient discomfort to have just taken ibuprofen and am lying down til my mil gets here. I am very much hoping this is all going to result in a period in a week. I had pain in my bits that I remember getting before a period in my teens when they were so irregular and heavy and massively painful. I have pains right across my front and I am even feeling sick with it. All bowel related activity seems to be exacerbating everything. I feel a bit sorry for myself. My mum said when she went through menopause the sporadic ovulation could be painful like it was for me last week. I guess the first movement through after nothing for a while makes things irritated and tender. I am imagining the lining building up on my no doubt scarred uterus and thinking about it that way makes pain the logical outcome. I want this first one over with as I know it will improve each month.

My girl is beautifully asleep next to me with her hands under her head. I had to do another bath today (we don't do it every day) as she threw up loads yesterday from all the snot. Byron is on the mend I think but my throat and tonsils are all swollen. Can't say I'm filled with joy about visitors when I feel this crap. We've spent the morning cleaning too.

 

[PeanutBean]

Oh Madcat the roller blind cord thing is all the craze recently. At Byron's 1 and 2 year checks everyone went on about them and did we have any etc.

 

[madcatwoman]

Id never heard about the roller blind cord thing before!

Sorry to hear youre feeling so crap peanut. You must be overdue an AF by now though, its got to be that!!

Im on my pill free week AF, and its the fist time ive had long term aches with it. I used to get one bad ache on the evening before it was due before i got pregnant, ive had 3 days of it now, and boy is it heavy too!!, i now undertand Gilz's leaking episode! im told it will settle in time.(LOL if i was anaemic before i would be after all this!).

 

[molly85]

Hmm wellI laid into him again and today is he is being me, washing up, laundry, baby and not getting to sit and watch cricket. He has the benefit that if abby gets upset he's not waking me up.

Abby is scarily involvedin watching the cricket in a little england dungeree setdeffinatly a boys outfit but she looks cute. I switched to the bjorn style carrier as its easier to use and abby can generally carry her head well for 5 minutes then falls asleep lol. nomore get an emergcy gp appointment and see if you can get an emergency psych review at ur cmht, they do not want you on their books so shold be happy to have a word with the consltant. that or change hospitals, yo cannot give birth petrified yor body just won't do it til the last minte whichnis dangeros

 

[PeanutBean]

It does settle in time. Pre-Byron my periods were exactly 30 days, 3 days of bleeding and a day spotting either side with no pain. After Byron they were between 26-36 days, bad guts the day before, lasting 5-10 days with 5 days or more of massively heavy bleeding and agonising cramps for days. Not impressed! They did get better but hadn't become regular again before I was pregnant with Indigo. They made me anaemic too.

 

[molly85]

Dear god if weprotect them from every thing they would never live

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Dear Alex, Mommy needs to eat too! She can't feed you all the time!!!!

 

[molly85]

Eat over his head

 

[tas1]

Afternoon ladies

Kate have they talked about you going over your due date? My friend is pregnant she is due in January and they have told her she will have to have another section because they can't risk her being induced as the contractions will be too strong for her scar and it could break! So she can't go over her due date!

Cat glad they got your results wrong in a way lol hope you feel better soon!!

Alex stop feeding and let mummy eat!

Jo glad you sorted your man out and hope it lasts!!

I've been for my thyroid appointment and all is ok so no tablets wahoo!!! So I'm thinking it's been all in my head I'm feeling ok now though!
I've been to the park and whilst there I got a phone call to say I have an interview on Tuesday for my level 3 hairdressing super happy but just realised I haven't had an interview for 5 yrs what do I do in them....ive been a full time mummy for 3yrs I don't even know how to talk to adults anymore let alone an interview.....oh my word I'm pooing my pants now!!!

Gotta tidy up abit as I have the in laws coming round tonight just so happens it's while in going for a run,I don't think they trust my OH to look after his kids coz they come round every time I'm out!!!

Xxxx

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Hi Ladies :wave:

Molly so sorry you have man trouble you know I`ve been here too sending lots of love to you and Abby

Pink great you got some you time

Tas Oliver is always covered in bruises so I shouldnt worry about taking him out in public

madcat glad you got to the bottom of your ill feeling fxed you start to feel better now on the meds remember plenty of roughage

for crap AF Peanut and madcat .... I think I am at the last of my 2nd AF this month and although they have both been light they have certainly made me feel crappy

Bless little Alex he certainly loves his milk

NOMORE I cannot believe you have been messed around like this I agree with Peanut labour is all about Mummy to be`s state of mind and I dont think feeling like this that close to labour will be help to you at all I also agree with the suggestion about getting some support from your GP Admittedly though am a little confused by the whole thing because my Sister has just had her second c-section today and a vbac was never discussed or pushed on her my niece is 18mths old and was delivered by planned c-section at 38wks because she was breech My Sister has just delivered Harry by c-section today and the plan was always c-section delivery Harry wasnt breech and there was no medical reason mummy or baby related to carry out a c-section other than the fact that my Sister had her first by c-section. Harry was infact very engaged, my sister was 39wks pregnant today! I am confused by the whole thing .... sorry thats not much help but I dont understand why my Sister has been able to have a c-section again when imo there was no reason for it but you have been told no Thinking about you all today


Well Charlie is having a growth spurt .... crying,cranky and clingy hes also refusing milk and chewing his hand off so we think his teeth are bugging him again I have just given him some teething gel and hes sat in his bouncy chair right now `telling me off` I am still fighting this damn cold and my throat is really sore

and as I mention above baby Harry arrived in the world this afternoon by c-section at 1.18pm weighing a titchy 7lb 6oz Mummy is doing well however baby Harry has been taken to neonatal unit because he is grunting and having difficulty breathing properly I havent been down to the hospital yet because the plan was for me to collect my niece (my sisters other LO!) and take her to see her Mummy and new brother (shes at my aunties for the day!) but with Harry not been very well I dont know whats going to happen now My Sister is still in recovery because they dont have a bed for her on a ward yet So we are just sitting and waiting for news

 

[molly85]

Hugs Madlys siter and baby harry, I also became a sort of Aunty today Matt's good friend had their baby boy today at 1.41pm both doing well Baby Zac was nearly 9lb so just a bit smaller than Abby is now. He looks the spitting Image of his daddy.

Matts just pointed out Molly has big boobs I have just given them a feel and bit of a squeeze and released milk she's never had puppys in her life and I feel she should have shown by now if shes pg because she was in season when I had abby Yikes hope its just her being all hormonal over abby

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Thank you Molly hon I just hope he gets better soon my Sister must be frantic

Wonder if you are going to be a nana Molly

 

[molly85]

god no. no nana here my babies are babies grrrrrrr. I'm sure he will be back on the ward A.S.A.P. Screaming and being boyish lol

 

[PeanutBean]

Yeah Tas induction is a no-no for previous sections. The risk of uterine rupture is still relatively low in norm vbac but induction much increases the risks. I don't see why that should mean she can't go over her due date though. Unless there is some other reason for a section it's better to wait until labour starts so the baby is unlikely to have breathing difficulties for being brought out too early.

Well I dropped us in it with mil. She was very cunning. She asked had DH's grandma still not seen Indigo and I answered no she was in hospital. Key word 'was' giving away that we had visited! So she asked if fil had seen her and I couldn't just lie so said how we'd been to see DH's grandparents specially do of course fil would've come over. I expect DH will get an awful email from her for not visiting so have said he should say it was an urgent day trio as they are old and ill and can't visit us and haven't seen us in a year but that meant no time to visit them. She's selfish enough for that not to stop her feeling resentment but might appease the public scorn! I'm happy to give it straight if it comes down to it. They dropped in it by confessing they've been to Lancashire to get a new puppy but didn't come see us did they?!