Mother of all conception months Graduates

[pinkclaire]

That sounds like a good plan. There's quite a few options And you don't have to decide for definite now you can change your mind at a later date x

 

[molly85]

i know but proposing it now will give them time to make it work. plus working 1 weekend day. i can pay the poor unsuspecting teenager with the difference I make

 

[pinkclaire]

It will all be fine! When do you think you'll start mat leave?

 

[molly85]

easter weekend. 2 weeks holiday, then at 37.5 weeks I switch on to Mat leave. I thien technically return on 31st October but will request 3 weeks holiday

4 days for xmas

and my extra day off every other week. and ddnt I sum that up so nicely

 

[pinkclaire]

Very efficiently answered I must say!

I have no idea when to leave, I thought I had ages to decide but it's creeping up!

Right must get some sleep James will be up in 4 hours if not before and I'll be winging I'm tired tomorrow! Night x

 

[molly85]

lolon less than 4 hours I'd winge anyway. thats why I picked easter

 

[PeanutBean]

Morning chatterboxes!

Molly and pink I did like pink, returned two days a week for two months, 2 weeks at Christmas then FT from jan. We'd be the same financially if I could get a PT job but only if the annual salary equivalent was about £3k more than I currently get. There haven't been any jobs though. We also have a flexi arrangement. DH is off a half or full day on Fridays so the half day I work from home (officially) so we don't have to pay for nursery.

Good luck today Gilz, it's a milestone!

I'm tired despite good sleep. Yawn.

 

[PeanutBean]

Morning chatterboxes!

Molly and pink I did like pink, returned two days a week for two months, 2 weeks at Christmas then FT from jan. We'd be the same financially if I could get a PT job but only if the annual salary equivalent was about £3k more than I currently get. There haven't been any jobs though. We also have a flexi arrangement. DH is off a half or full day on Fridays so the half day I work from home (officially) so we don't have to pay for nursery.

Good luck today Gilz, it's a milestone!

I'm tired despite good sleep. Yawn.

 

[madcatwoman]

morning all!
happy Vday madly

well, heres my 25+1 bump, i have a feeling im gona be huge by 40 weeks!, for some reason i cant upload my 20 week photo, but it has got bigger.

decided to get the doppler out this morning, HB has moved from down low where its always been to besides my belly button, got no idea how he's lying now.

its started snowing here this morning again, just lightly.

 

[PeanutBean]

Look at that excellent bump! I really ought to do a new bump pic soon...

We've just started with snow. Not impressed. Also not impressed to be working at the PC instead of in bed with the laptop.

 

[madcatwoman]

looks like my baggy PJs are slipping over my arse in that photo!, one thing is for sure, they dont go over my bump lol.

At least youre home in the warm peanut, not a day to be out today.

we had new carpet in our 'new' office laid yesterday, ive got to move all the light things from old to new office today, then DH will do the furniture this evening or tomorrow, and then start on the painting of the nursery.

still waiting for the cot to be delivered(we're on the 3rd possible day they might deliver).

then we can start putting things up in a week or twos time(all the baby stuff is piled in our guest room at the mo), god then that will be weird, walking past the babies room!!!

 

[pinkclaire]

Morning! Well I had a nightmare night, last night while I was chatting james was stiring and winging but kept settling himself back to sleep, but this was happening every half hour or so. As I went to bed he did full on screaming, so I went and got him and he came in my bed. Well he did the same thing in mine, every half hour or so moaning for about 10 mins. I have no idea what the problem was, maybe teeth, but it was so annoying I didnt really get any sleep! Serves me right a bit I suppose!

Happy V day madly!

peanut thats great your OH gets some time with Byron as well, my OH is in the forces, (like you didnt already know that ) and half the time he isnt doing anything at work and comes home. But they have to be back for a 5.30pm brief, it really annoys me, I feel liike I'm wasting my money on childcare half the time!

Hes away next week, so probably lots of moaning from me lol, although he was meant to be going to canada in June but we just found out yesterday their not sending him so hes at home with me! Yay!

Lovely bump, mine seems huge to me, but everyone keeps saying its really little?! I dont think so lol. Also everyone keeps telling me I've lost weight? I dont get how? I must have eaten a whole streets worth of crap over xmas

 

[gilz82]

Morning girls

I'm feeling slightly better again this morning, still horrible but better

Happy v day Madly

So exciting Madcat your nursery is making progress and what a lovely bump!! My bump hasn't really made much progress size wise but it's very solid now. Hopefully he's growing ok in there.

As for the mat leave conversation. I plan to stop at the begining of May, if I get there, and then go back in January. Using my holidays I'm going to go back only 3 days a week from January until April. After that is still up in the air as my work are dragging their feet approving or not approving my flexible working application.

 

[madcatwoman]

i think my bump is quite sizeable for 25 weeks!. Gilz, youre probably like bids, you have really strong stomach muscles holding bubs in!, i never had stomach muscles to speak of in the first place(always looked a little bit preggers lol!).

only 1 more week to go, then we're in 3rd tri(peanut), OMG, when did that happen?

i really must get some breakfast now and fatten up some more

 

[PeanutBean]

Sorry you had a bad night pink. These babies eh? Byron was in with us from about 12 before I'd even managed to get to sleep. He smacked me up for a while and then we all got some sleep. Yours sounds like teething to me.

Hope your cot comes madcat and don't do too much moving stuff or you'll ache! We're STILL waiting for my raincover and nappies. Raincover was apparently despatched on the 28th, but presumably not to actually go anywhere as that was a bank holiday. Going to have to email Amazon I think. Funny after all our late ordered Christmas things came on time.

Is no-one else planning to take the full year?

 

[PeanutBean]

Third tri! Blimey. Can't wait though. Apart from wavering over birth fear there's nothing but good things to look forward to.

 

[madcatwoman]

Third tri! Blimey. Can't wait though. Apart from wavering over birth fear there's nothing but good things to look forward to.

i tell DH now, im just going to "face the fear and do it anyway" (not that theres much choice!). in one door, push, wince, deliver and out the other door!)

 

[pinkclaire]

wow third tri! Wahoo! I always think, we'll I'm pregnant its got to come out so no point worrying about it now, its to late!

I'm hoping to take the full year, I'm really at a crossroads as what to do about my job. This will be my last child (well never say never but at the moment I'm thinking) and want to do some retraining but confused on where to go. So I'll hopefully have a bit over a year off, one because my hubby is off to afgan next April and I cant cope with that and the emotions of leaving my baby for the first time, and two I'd like to start a course in the following September. I havent 100% decided though!

 

[gilz82]

That pretty much sums it up doesn't it Madcat all these little ones are going to have to come out one way or the other

We can't really afford for me to take the whole year off Peanut as we lose so much money on the paid part of maternity leave, about £900 a month, there's no way we could do the last three months when you don't get paid at all.

 

[pinkclaire]

I dont get anything over SMP so theres not a lot of point!

Remember you may be entitled to tax credits etc as well when doing your finances? It is hard doing unpaid, but we just about did it last time. This time we'll be in quarters rather than rented and that saves us around £400 a month which gives me a lot more flexibility thankfully.