Mother of all conception months Graduates

[PeanutBean]

Yeah kiddicare are usually pretty good. We've bought a few things and they've all arrived very quickly and been fine.

As for the BH, well it could be. I know what you mean about them sometimes feeling like it's the baby pushing. I find that it's the lower half of my bump that gets firmest. If it was just a baby part then you'd only feel hard really where they actually were but I find the it goes hard right across. It probably is BH.

Well the boy is asleep and DH is home and cooking tea. I already tidied the kitchen so he's not much to do. It's One Born night tonight.

 

[gilz82]

Oh I wonder what'll be happening in it tonight. I might just watch it tomorrow as I'm really tired.

 

[PeanutBean]

I'll let you know if it's worth it! I just like seeing the babies being born, the rest mostly makes me cross.

 

[gilz82]

The babies being born makes me but in a good way.

 

[madcatwoman]

DH pissed me off

watching one born every min... and i said "i dont want you phoning everyone as soon as i go into labour"

he said "why?"

i said "because i dont want people phoning up all the time saying "has she had it yet?" or inviting themselves along to the hospital and waiting".

he said "but why?"

i said ""because i dont want people phoning up all the time saying "has she had it yet?" or inviting themselves along to the hospital and waiting". (Again).

he said "whos going to do that?"

i said "your mum for starters"

long pause....he said..."Right...ok then"(in a mood)

so i said " when im going thru all that i just need you to respect my wishes, call everyone when ive had him"



before all that he told me i should be doing more excercise, i keep telling him its all i can do to walk around town without bump aching and sciatica making me go numb...he doesnt get it

 

[molly85]

Grrrrrrrrr men sometimes just dnt get it.

can u get BH's just in ya cervix? definatly not enough stomach left for my mini indian ruddy matt and his munchies

 

[gilz82]

Aw Madcat men are just so clueless sometimes when it comes to pregnancy

Molly i'm not sure if you can get BH just in one place, personally mine turn my bump into a solid rock for about 30 seconds or so and then just go away.

I'm knackered again this morning, my stupid hips are starting to make me quite crabby, which isn't good considering there are another 16 weeks to go!!

 

[PeanutBean]

Oh madcat, silly men. They worry about us and don't know any better. What exercise does he think you should be doing exactly? And as for the hospital, you can certainly leave instructions that you don't want any visitors should he phone anyone. Definitely better not to though. We didn't really tell anyone (except on here) except my very immediate family. We didn't ring DH's family until after the birth.

Well it's finally MW day for me, at last!

 

[gilz82]

I agree with the no-one at the hospital thing too To be honest i don't think my OH would tell anyone other than his mum, who we already know doesn't want to come so i doubt it'd be a great problem for us.

This may sound harsh but i'm hoping that other than whoever is there with me at the birth, OH or my sister, that no one else comes to the hospital to see us. I'd rather just wait until i was home and then people could come round. I know that won't work if i have a section as i'll be in a few days but if i manage to have a normal labour, i'd love to just be able to steal those first few hours just to be for us a wee family.

 

[madcatwoman]

Morning all
ive calmed down now Peanut thats not a bad idea though, i might well just tell the MW's no visitors unless i say so, just incase he does do a sneaky call to his mother.

as for exercise, he thinks i should be out walking etc etc (thats the very thing id like to do, but cant for going numb and feeling like baby is about to fall out of my pelvis). Id like to go swimming but with the flu rife i consider a public swimming pool the last place id go to). I did snap at him last night, he bought the tall washing basket downstairs for me,(he usually holds it up while i put all the washing on the high shelves),
he said "do you want me to hold the basket?", i said no "i'll bend down and do it, i need the excersise!!!!"

Gilz, this thing with our hips is awful isnt it?,it was quite amazing though, last night i slept right thru(apart from 2 loo calls) and not an achy painful hip in sight. i was on 5 pillows though(although they didnt help the night before)

on a less crabby note,Kiddicare says our cot is coming today, i'll be impressed if it does!

 

[gilz82]

Oh yay that's good about the cot Madcat Our furniture is supposed to arrive tomorrow so hopefully i'll manage to get a picture up after that.

On the hips front, i'm so looking forward to the physio on thursday, but it just dawned on me that since this is a problem i've had since before i got pregnant which has gotten worse i wonder if they'll just tell me i need to live with it

Think i'm going to have to try more pillows in the bed tonight, i've currently got my big pregnancy pillow thing and then a normal pillow behind me and it's just not cutting it.

 

[madcatwoman]

when you pull back my duvet, on my side all the pillows are lined up across-ways, one after the other down the length of the mattress, and i have one on the side for extra bump support!!!. Oh thats a bugger if you had problems before with your hip, im not sure what they'll say, they might give physio a go though(?).

 

[PeanutBean]

Have you girls not put a duvet under your sheet yet? It'll make a big difference I promise.

I'm a bit nervous. I have to leave in a few mins. Haven't got a pee pot either, dunno what I did with it! Will have to do a sample there. And the MW is apparently now with a different doctor so in a different part of the building (we have a huge new centre housing a few surgeries). That'll make me feel nervous being elsewhere too. I hate not knowing where I'm supposed to go.

 

[madcatwoman]

Have you girls not put a duvet under your sheet yet? It'll make a big difference I promise.

I'm a bit nervous. I have to leave in a few mins. Haven't got a pee pot either, dunno what I did with it! Will have to do a sample there. And the MW is apparently now with a different doctor so in a different part of the building (we have a huge new centre housing a few surgeries). That'll make me feel nervous being elsewhere too. I hate not knowing where I'm supposed to go.

yeh, we only have a double duvet, but i put that under and the sheet wouldnt fit on top, so that didnt really work for me, (unless i buy a single duvet), so it came down to pillows in the end
Oh peanut, i couldnt pee at the docs!, i cant pee on demand!!, it has to be done at home as and when, i called at my docs for a pee pot a few days before my appointment.

 

[vbaby3]

Morning ladies!!
Madcat men are completely useless!MY dh is even worse.
He actually forgets i'm preg sometimes.
After he set upo the new beds last wk end he asked me to give him a hand getiing the old 1 down stairs.
Well its a double,and wouldn't just slide down coz our stairs turn halfway,so it needed to be lifted over the bannisters directly down to the hall.
He was directing me to do the lifting bit!!
Push it toward me,lift the left side a bit more etc!!!!
HELLOOOOO 27WKS PREG!!!!!
he said,oh shit yeh sorry i'll wait til mick comes and get him to give me a hand!
Seriously!!!!He doesn't even rub my bump or anything like he used to,I think coz its our 3rd the novelty has worn right off lol!!!

We didn't tell anyone when I went into labour with shay.My mam did find out then though coz she rings me everyday anyway and I was in hospital for ages before established labour so I couldn't not tell her where I was!!
With oran I had to tell my mam coz she had to babysit for us,so my dad and sister would have known,but nobody else knew til they got a call or txt after he was born.
Couldn't bare txts all the way thru wondering how many cm's dilated I am etc!!!

 

[vbaby3]

I have a supply of pee pots in my bathroom cupboard,i'd give you 1 if you weren't hundreds of miles away!!
I can pee anytime anywhere,but prefer to pee in a bottle at home as half it doesn't end up in the bottle,either on my hand or down my leg!!At least at home I can get cleaned up properly!They should really give you pee pots with a bigger opening!
The 1's they give us are more like bloody tubes!!

 

[madcatwoman]

Morning ladies!!
Madcat men are completely useless!MY dh is even worse.
He actually forgets i'm preg sometimes.
After he set upo the new beds last wk end he asked me to give him a hand getiing the old 1 down stairs.
Well its a double,and wouldn't just slide down coz our stairs turn halfway,so it needed to be lifted over the bannisters directly down to the hall.
He was directing me to do the lifting bit!!
Push it toward me,lift the left side a bit more etc!!!!
HELLOOOOO 27WKS PREG!!!!!
he said,oh shit yeh sorry i'll wait til mick comes and get him to give me a hand!
Seriously!!!!He doesn't even rub my bump or anything like he used to,I think coz its our 3rd the novelty has worn right off lol!!!

We didn't tell anyone when I went into labour with shay.My mam did find out then though coz she rings me everyday anyway and I was in hospital for ages before established labour so I couldn't not tell her where I was!!
With oran I had to tell my mam coz she had to babysit for us,so my dad and sister would have known,but nobody else knew til they got a call or txt after he was born.
Couldn't bare txts all the way thru wondering how many cm's dilated I am etc!!!

well im glad no-one thinks im being silly for wanting to keep the moment i go into labour private(for the time being).The only person who would need to know is his dad(next door)...because DH wouldnt be in work and his dad is his boss, but i think his dad would respect me asking him to keep it to himself for the time being(we're both private people)

i cant believe he had you lifting a double bed down the stairs!!! OMG!!.
my DH doesnt forget im pregnant, i dont know what his excuse is. he doesnt rub my belly either, he'll tickle it on occassions(but then thats only because he knows im ticklish there).

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Hi Ladies :wave:

Sorry I havent been around for a few days but I feel all sort of depressed I just spend 40mins catching up

Sorry to hear about the cot madcat however I hope kiddicare do deliver today that would be awesome

As for labour and calling OHs I was in labour from about 1pm on the Monday lunch time and finally delivered him on Friday aft at 2.45pm. Between contractions starting and eventually been admitted on Friday at 11pm at night I just stayed at home and rested and DH still went to work. However by Thursday morning it was evident that the baby wasnt going to be much longer and he called work to start his Paternity Leave. It really is very hard to say but they do say 1st baby are the longest labours that said I went from 3-4cm to 8-9cm in just a few hours It really is hard to judge all I would say is go on your instincts I agree with Peanut and vbaby the later you go into hospital the less chance there is of intervention and I for one will not be going down until I struggle to walk, breath and talk or I find the pain too much. The TENS machine is a godsend am I got to almost fully dilated before the pain got a little too much however am hoping given different circumstance I will do it this time with the TENS and gas&air if I feel the need

Peanut so sorry to hear about your wage/contract issues...like us it seems when one thing goes right another goes damn wrong

I feel so depressed right now and am not really sure why

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Oh madcat forgot to add I dont know what the policy is at your local/delivering hospital but here at St James you are only allowed TWO birthing partners to accompany you on the delivery suite ie whilst you are in labour NO OTHER PERSONS WILL BE ADMITTED THIS IS QUITE STRICT. Once delivered you may be moved to a maternity ward which has very relaxed visiting times for DH/OH and other birthing partner (if indeed you have one) something like 8am-10pm I think however other visitors can come during specified visiting times and they have to ring an intercom for admittance. The only children allowed to visit are your own so no nieces/nephews/friends children etc and St James here are quite on the ball about this one Just thought I would post cause no-one else did

 

[vbaby3]

Sorry to hear you're feeling so down madly

Its the same at our hospital.Only 1 birth partner present,absolutely nobody else is allowed in labour and delivery ward.
And then when you go down to post natal ward only dh/oh is allowed with you all the time.Everyone else has to wait til visiting hrs.
So madcat your mil won't be allowed anywhere near you until the 1st official visiting hrs once you're down in the post natal ward.
I had both my boys early morning,2.35am and 3.25 am,so was well fit for visitors by 2pm nxt day.
Plus we only had family visit,and a couple of close friends,everyone else had the courtesy to wait for a few days til we got home and settled.