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[pinkclaire]

Completely OT, but those of you who will or already have a baby of both sexes, do/did people keep saying stuff like 'oh your so lucky' 'you'll have the perfect family' etc etc? I'm happy we're having a girl buy would have been equally happy with a boy, I just want a healthy baby! Its bugging me a bit!

 

[molly85]

lol Oh i know what you mean peanut. I think it's a "class" divide up there. with teh hideous career structure many young peopel have taken it's all about benefits. Bloody Maggy Thatcher and closing the pits.

 

[PeanutBean]

Well quite. Parts of Newcastle are the most economically deprived in the UK. I studied the Tyne and Wear economic strategies during my degree so a few years ago but nothing changes. It's just kind of amazing how bad it is up there for most people.

Pink yes! And yes it's annoying! I mean we do want a mix of genders in our family but my step-mil said a boy and a girl, the perfect family. So what if we have another child? Will that ruin our family? They have a boy and a girl the same, older boy, same age gap. So no bias there! Loads of people have said it though. "Bet you're do happy to have one of each" etc.

 

[pinkclaire]

I really want to turn round and say I'll be happy that she's healthy not what sex she is. I have never gone round shouting about wanting a girl or a boy so not sure why people think it's perfect?
Peanut will you let your two share a room? I was thinking mine will when they're both out of cots, but everyone keeps saying can you do that? I'm sure its fine when they're young isn't it? I mean as they get older of course they'll want their own space more than anything, i mean what girl would want to share with a teenage smelly boy anyway

 

[molly85]

Weird taht we "wanted" a boy now we have a girl we both want another lol yeah a boy would be great but then we would def need another neither of our famil has great older girl younger boy dynamics I thin its that maturity thing

 

[PeanutBean]

Aye they'll definitely share, assuming we can fit the beds in his room! People are weird a out different sexes sharing but they are siblings, they'll be toddlers etc. It's only these days people are generally able to afford for their kids to not share regardless of sex. People make such a big deal out of these things. I wonder what the kids think, that it would be weird to share a space with their sibling? I think they'll love it and am hoping it means they are both a bit happier to stay in their room as they'll have company.

 

[molly85]

There is deffinatly regulations in council accomodation. I remember a friend at school shared a room with brother a year or so old older than us. There was something very wrong with that when they were teenagers especially as they had an older brother who had his own room.

 

[molly85]

Said council regulations come in at about 8 years of age. so before tehn I am guessing its ok

 

[PeanutBean]

Oh Molly we wanted a girl first. I love older sisters and younger brothers, they are hilarious! But older brothers tend to be more mean! Still we get what we're given!

Pink we've also had comments within my family and friends, though not unpleasantly so. I have two nieces and 9 nephews. It was generally felt there would be no girls ever - the twins live in Australia so we're very boy happy over here! So when we found out she's a girl it caused a stir. My sil did say a cruel thing about now my mum would be happy (sil has 5 boys) but it's rubbish as my mum couldn't care less about sex and was just said out of my sil's mental issues at the moment.

 

[pinkclaire]

But not at toddler/ infant school age Molly? James has got a massive room, so thought they can have bunk beds then loads of space to play!!

 

[pinkclaire]

Sorry just saw your other post

Peanut it's silly what peoples hang ups are isn't it! I love the fact our girl will have an older brother to look out for her! Living on a very male heavy camp she'll need it

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Hmmm, I'm an older sister with a younger brother.....I have to say, we don't have much in common He and I don't talk much now. We either hated each other when we were younger or got along great for short times. I don't think all sibling relationships like that are the same.

 

[PeanutBean]

I guess in council properties they can choose to rehouse but private owners can't necessarily conjur up space from nowhere. I think once puberty is being thought of kids would value their own space more and an opposite sex sibling would cramp their social style too. I agree a bit odd for a teen girl and boy to be together and another brother on his own! If I had three I'd need two rooms and would naturally put the two same sex together.

 

[molly85]

Well yup peanut that was the creepy bit. I def think we would get a bigger house mainly because our kitchen is tiny and you could not feed 2 growing kids in there lol. Pink you can get bed tents and stuff so when they want space from each other they can hid under there or those cabin beds

 

[PeanutBean]

Right stop being so engaging, some of us have only had about 3hrs sleep in the past 24 so it's time for me to go to bed. Night night!

 

[molly85]

lol I need my bed to, even for my short working day

 

[DaretoDream]

Hmmm, I'm an older sister with a younger brother.....I have to say, we don't have much in common He and I don't talk much now. We either hated each other when we were younger or got along great for short times. I don't think all sibling relationships like that are the same.

Have to agree, same situation- my brother pretty much doesn't want anything to do with me. No matter how hard i've tried now a days- he just kind of avoids me. Or when he DOES see me- he talks down to me, or acts like he knows everything in the world. So i don't really like my brother much.

 

[madcatwoman]

Morning All

i generally did pretty well again last night, little bit of bump ache while turning, but on the whole, not too shabby. Had to get up for the loo at 4.30 though, DH left at 5.30 and havent been able to get back to sleep since simply because the gales and the rain is soooo noisy!. I also hate the idea of DH driving so far in a large van out in these conditions.

Think i'll go put some morning TV on until it gets lighter!!

 

[gilz82]

Morning girls

Well i have also been awake since stupid o'clock, 3am to be precise! Just could not sleep at all, my bump is so sore from me squishing it yesterday when i fell on it and eventually i just gave up and switched the tv on. At least now i've caught up on all the tv i had sky plussed to watch at some point.

My bump seems to have grown massively overnight, i'm sure it's just the jellybean having a growth spurt but i can't help worrying that i've done something when i fell over.

Think i might give the mw a phone later so she can tell me that i'm being silly and worrying for nothing

Oh and happy V-Day Claire

 

[PeanutBean]

Oh gilz what kind of sore? Can you describe it? I think you should talk to your mw and get checked out. It's probably just bruised though. Hope you're both ok.

I guess I stole the sleep last night! I really needed it though. Had a dream I was in school and some girls were bullying me. Feel really ill still today but at least not like death from tired. Byron possibly had a bit of a temp last night so he's going to nursery tomorrow but I'm expecting I'll be bringing him home again later.