Multiple IVF failures...what now?

[oneof14]

Im sorry for the confusion, these decisions are certainly not easy. I pray that you find the decision that's right for you. I understand with the emtional and financial aspect, there is certainly no room for error. Im here for you if you need!

 

[L4hope]

Whatthe it's a tough decision to make and completely understandable it would be hard to know what the right path is to take. Does the new doctor recommend doing this next cycle with the coculture? You know you have support here with whatever decision you make!

 

[whattheiveff]

Thanks so much ladies! My new RE recommended co-culture and said he was cautiously optimistic about our odds. If this next cycle was covered with insurance I'd do it in a heartbeat. But now that we're paying out of pocket, well, it changes things. I know you all can relate. I wish someone would just make the decision for me...it feels like I'm carrying a million pounds on my back!

 

[L4hope]

Completely understand as I was all out of pocket from the get go. It just adds so much more stress and pressure to the whole process. I'm sorry that you have to deal with that now Hell I just got a letter today about a $900 bill that was supposed to be covered and isn't. Still getting stressed by fertility treatment! But, the pay out in the end is worth every penny. You and your hubby will make the best decision for you. (Sorry can't do it for you as much as you would love to be told what to do)

 

[oneof14]

Whatthe, I felt the same way when decided to go to Cornell. Its more expensive then most clinic (w/the Co-culture) and the fact that we did not do our research the 1st and 2nd IVF (only 1 was covered by insurance). I would way the pro/cons with both co-culture as well as DE with your DH and see what that results in. I have meds if you need. I have gonal-f & menopur for you.

Lauren, how are you doing?! I just read your journal and happy to see that you are no longer on PIO shots!

 

[septbride]

Whatthe, I have some Follistim and maybe some Menopur. I think I also have Ganirelix. You're welcome to any of it.

As far as deciding, if you move to DE now, do you think you would wonder about whether your fourth cycle could have worked, or might it be easy to let that go? If you think you would wonder, maybe that's a sign that you should go along with Dr. Davis's cautious optimism? Just a thought. The good thing is that either way, you will eventually have a lovely baby. I talked to a woman recently who did DE, and she said that once her baby was born, it no longer even crossed her mind that she had done DE. He's the cutest little baby, and he's HERS. So there's that, too...

 

[L4hope]

Whatthe I have some meds too was waiting till 12 weeks to donate back to my clinic. But I'd be happy to give them to someone I "know". Follistim and some menopur. Not sure how to get it shipped but I'm sure we could figure something out even drive and meet to get it.

Patricia I'm doing pretty good other than the never ending lttc/pal worrying. But I guess we just have to take it one step at a time and keep our focus on the positive things we see. Oh and its definitwly nice to be off thise darn pio shots! I can't wait to hear about your appt tomorrow! You are doing an ultrasound right? So at this point they'll just be checking for the gestational sac and yolk sac. GL!!!

 

[whattheiveff]

Ladies, thank you so, so much. I am humbled by your generosity. If I cycle with my own eggs I will definitely take you up on the menopur since that is the only thing I will be stimming with. And Sept, I would be so grateful for the ganirilex. We will be deciding what to do in the next week. You all are the best!

 

[oneof14]

Anytime! I too have ganerelix if you need. If you decide to cycle with Cornell I can meet you and give you the meds or I drop them off to Elizabeth and tell her they are for you.

 

[oneof14]

Lauren, I'm so happy your progressing nicely and almost to 12 weeks. Yes tomorrow they are looking for both gestational and yoke sac(s). I pray try are in the right place and on schedule.

 

[whattheiveff]

Good luck today Patricia! Can't wait to hear how many are in there!

 

[oneof14]

Thanks Whatthe, I am extremely nervous!! Will update as soon as I know.

 

[MoBaby]

Yay! Can't wait for an update!!

 

[septbride]

Whatthe, you deserve all our support and more! It's been a hard road, we can't leave here until we're all preggo. I'll dig through my meds tonight and let you know what I have.

Good luck, Patricia! It'll be so great to see the little bean. FYI, they didn't offer us a pic at our early scan and we WISH we had taken a photo of the screen with our phones...

Lauren, I bet your butt is happy to be off the PIO!

 

[MoBaby]

Lauren you are off the PIO already?? WOW! YAY!! Congrats for that. My Dr has already infomed me that I will be on them through the whole first trimester and maybe even longer! WHY!!! Grrr!!! I dont think this time I will be doing the vaginal ones at all.. Or may even do both. I have a supply of both at home I would like to use (I spent $400 on them!!!!)

Welcome to 2nd tri sept!! Bet it feels awesome to be past 12 weeks!!

 

[L4hope]

Lauren you are off the PIO already?? WOW! YAY!! Congrats for that. My Dr has already infomed me that I will be on them through the whole first trimester and maybe even longer! WHY!!! Grrr!!! I dont think this time I will be doing the vaginal ones at all.. Or may even do both. I have a supply of both at home I would like to use (I spent $400 on them!!!!)

Welcome to 2nd tri sept!! Bet it feels awesome to be past 12 weeks!!

Mo I was surprised too that I was stopping cuz I thought I'd be on them through the first tri. My doctor said that really at 8 weeks the placenta takes over making the progesterone and estrogen and makes much more than we could even supplement. So she said even going to 10 weeks is overkill, but better safe than sorry. I think if I was on suppositories I might have stayed on till 12 weeks just for my own crazy peace of mind. But I was so SICK of PIO that I listened to my doctor. So far so good, no bleeding or decrease in my few symptoms.

Patricia I'm so anxious for your news!!!

 

[michelle01]

Patricia....TIK TOK TIK TOK So anxious over here

 

[oneof14]

Well ladies, we have 1 little bean. Dr. saw gestational and yolk sac, we go back next week to hear the heartbeat. I will be on pins and needles until than. My DH was slightly dissapointed for a minute that we didnt see twins. But I am over the moon we are progressing this way, I continue to pray we deliver a healthy & happy baby.

 

[L4hope]

Another step down Patricia!!! So excited for you and dh! Ha! My dh was hoping for twins too. Not that I wasn't a little bit too, but I think just knowing we have one healthy bub in there is fantastic! Yay!!! Just stay calm relaxed and laugh a lot in the next week. Next up, heartbeat! Congrats girl!!

 

[whattheiveff]

Yay Patricia! Congratulations!!