Multiple IVF failures...what now?

[MoBaby]

glad everything is going well patricia!! YAY

 

[oneof14]

Thanks Mo, I read on another thread about your grandma, I'm so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your family.

Your tests are looking good! I have good feelings about this cycle for you!!!

 

[MoBaby]

Not looking good today as test was lighter and at 7dp5dt I would expect the line to be getting darker (booster was 5 days ago of 2500 HCG). I just don't understand why we can't just have 1 baby. I'm so upset.

 

[blessedlife]

MoBaby, I really hope this is it for you. FX'd it was just an aberrant test and tomorrow's will be darker. I understand your frustrations, we're trying to conceive #1 (and only) too.

Does anyone have any opinions on medicated vs natural FETs? We'll be doing an FET next and it will be the 6th time I've done injections. I'm more than happy to do them if that's what is best but I can't help wonder if a natural state is what's been missing. Thanks.

 

[whattheiveff]

Thinking of you Mo! Hope you're hanging in there!

 

[oneof14]

Mo, I'm thinking of you as well!

Blessed, sorry I've never had a FET.

 

[MoBaby]

It is a failed cycle. Made appt with new re. 5 cycles with neg outcomes with my current re; I'm done. I have 2 frosties but may do a full cycle next.

 

[whattheiveff]

I'm so, so sorry Mo. I know there are no words for what you're feeling right now.

 

[michelle01]

Mobaby - I was just reading about another girl on BNB who got her rainbow after 6 MC's, and it was a natural one, they just did an intralipid infusion at 5 weeks for her LO to implant. Not that this is what you need, but with 2 MC and 1 chemical, maybe something worth asking about?

 

[oneof14]

Mo, I think a new RE is what you need. I felt the same after my 2 failed IVF's and I am very happy I made the change.

 

[blessedlife]

Mo, I'm so sorry. I hope the new RE has some ideas for you.

I have the WTF appointment tomorrow. Not all that excited about it. I'm actually thinking of holding off until the end of the year before trying an FET. My schedule is crazy and to fit one in during the next two months I think I'd be on Lupron during our two week vacation and I don't know about bringing that constant reminder during a much needed break. We'll see. Hi to all!

 

[MoBaby]

Michelle I have researched the immunity issues....there is no data to support the use of them and the studies out there say that there is no difference in outcomes. But I am going to ask about it. I dont think I want to do intralipids or IVIg but maybe aspirin, heparin and steroids? IDK.
Blessed: Gl at your WTF appt. So sorry about your multiple cycles. Hopefully something can be changed to make FET #3 more successful. Are you thinking about getting a second opinion?

I still have to go to RE office on friday for my beta. They are making me do it although my HPT is neg and I am starting AF! They said its required. I told them its an inconvience b/c I am 45 mins away. I could just not go but then they would think I am non-compliant What makes me mad also is my RE wont let me start anothe FET cycle with this AF; he says I need to wait a cycle which makes no sense. I think I am going to ask the nurse to have the RE call me and tell me why. And then the RE isnt doing IVF in June! So I have to wait until freaking July with them. And if I have to do a fresh cycle with the new clinic it wont be until July either I hate it! But whats a girl to do.

 

[Lucie73821]

Hi all! I hope everyone is doing well. Mo I'm sorry you are being forced to wait. I also think its silly they are making you go in for the beta. I hope you are able to talk to your re and get some answers.

Quick update from me. I had another us today and my lining is looking "great" according to the NP. I am to continue the estrogen, lupron until next week, and start crinone next weekend, then transfer is scheduled for the 16th!

 

[blessedlife]

Mo, I have absolutely thought about getting a second opinion. I will also have to wait until July because we're going on a two week vacation end of June so that's out. I'm currently in the month you have to wait between cycles. I don't understand why you would have to wait since it was a natural FET. I really hope you like the new RE.

Lucie, that sounds great! FX'd for your FET.

 

[MoBaby]

Its hard isnt it blessed? I am actually heartbroken I need to get another opinion because I do adore my current RE. DH wanted me to change 3 transfers ago but I just could not part from my current RE. And I know he only wants to do what he thinks is best but I know in my heart I have to make a change or at least hear the same thing from another dr so I know what he is doing is right. I know I will need to do a WTF or something with my current RE and IDK how I am going to face him with him knowing I am getting a second opinion. I hate it! Like i'm cheating on him. Maybe you can get your opinion before you go that way you can just get started when you return.

I dont know why I need to wait either. I will tell the nurse to have the dr call me or at least explain to her why I need to wait. Personally, I think she is making it up because they would have to squeeze me in at the last possible moment before they close in June. She runs the schedule and coordinates so if she tells the RE there is not time then that would be it

Lucie! That is great! FX for you

 

[blessedlife]

Mo, I completely understand the guilty feeling of a second opinion. My RE is a nice man too. I think part of the hesitation to go to a new doc is the idea of starting all over, so exhausting!

 

[MoBaby]

I feel like I need to start over, if that makes any sense. Maybe starting over will lead to some answers. I do hate having to. That means DH has to do another SA, bloodwork, probably HSG for me (I've never had one), sonogram, etc. Really exhausting! I understand

 

[whattheiveff]

Mo and Blessed - I totally hear you on the second opinion. After 3 unsuccessful IVF's I switched RE's and while its a hassle, I think it was the right thing to do. Even if you don't end up actually switching, it will be helpful to have a fresh perspective. I also had to have a couple of tests re-done and an HSG (I hadn't had one either). Anyway, if you guys cycle in July we will all be cycle buddies!

 

[blessedlife]

Yay for cycle buddies!

I had our WTF appt and it was....lackluster. He said the transfer went perfectly, the blasts were great, everything looked great and he had expected a positive outcome. So he put the BFN to my hyper-estrogenic state and wants to move forward with the FET in July.

If we get another BFN from that, he'll want to do an endometrial biopsy. So we just hope that they don't have to defrost all the embryos for this FET. That way, if we get another BFN and the biopsy shows a deficiency that can be corrected, we'll have embryos to use after fixing the problem. FX'd!

 

[MoBaby]

Why not do the biopsy before the fet to not potentially waste an embryo? If that makes sense. If re thinks you would benefit from it then should you go ahead with it?