Multiple IVF failures...what now?

[ashknowsbest]

thanks one! I know it can work with embies that seem "behind" but I think the hardest part of this all is that my body is not performing like it should be for my age...and they can't figure out why, it's upsetting. I didn't necessarily stay in bed yesterday but I'm in bed all day today so we'll see what happens on the 31st. That is my OTD.

 

[oneof14]

Why do you think your body is not performing like it should? You've had an empressive amount of embies. Does your RE think otherwise? Good luck on the 31st!!

 

[ashknowsbest]

I have had a lot of embies, but they're not of good quality.

I just got a call from the nurse and she said they were able to freeze. She doesn't know the number yet but she will be able to find all of that out tomorrow. Even if it's just one I guess that's a good sign. She said if they weren't of good quality they wouldn't freeze them so ... I'm feeling good about that too. I guess these embies that we transferred do have a good chance if the others that were behind turned into good quality embryos! Good news today, I really needed that.

Still though one, for my age and judging by all of my blood work my doctor said I shouldn't be having this hard a time getting "perfect" embryos.

 

[oneof14]

Good news on the frozen embies!!!

Did your OH ever do an DNA fragmentation test or the karyotype blood test. I know from my previous RE that I was not getting great quality embies either and he suggested both of these tests for us. Albeit, I am much older than you, but perhaps that might be tests you can take next, if need be. I do have a feeling you will not need it. The Third Time wil be the one!

 

[ashknowsbest]

He hasn't talked to us about that yet but IF this cycle fails, I will be asking him about those things. I also think we're taking a little bit of a break after this if it doesn't work to finish planning the wedding.

 

[oneof14]

Lets just say when you get your BFP on 5/31!! Take it easy during your 2ww and enjoy wedding planning!!

 

[michelle01]

Ash - As Patricia said, relax and take it easy during your 2ww! I didn't have as many embies or as great of quality either on any cycle, but my third was a charm and I have everything crossed it is for you too And also enjoy planning your wedding!!!

 

[septbride]

My RE told us she'd rather have lots of imperfect embryos than a couple of perfect ones. She also said "imperfect embryos make babies!" So fingers crossed for you. Wedding planning will be fun after all this!

 

[blessedlife]

Hi guys. One & Ash, I've got everything crossed for you!

I went to RE today to start BCP and they saw fluid in my pelvis. I just finished the "waiting" a month between IVF and my FET. Anyone ever have this? Doc wasn't there and they just sent me a text that he wants to scan me himself. I lost it this morning after the appt, I just feel like I'm holding things together by a thread and I can't handle another thing going wrong.

And: my ovaries look normal, back down to small and my lining looks normal. So no cysts or growths. I'm hoping that it's fluid leftover from when my ovaries were huge and my estrogen was 6,000. I'm hoping that it's just slowly, slowly being re-absorbed. However, I have no idea.

 

[blessedlife]

Just spoke to the RE office, doc wont speculate what the fluid is until he scans me himself. This is messing with my head!

 

[L4hope]

Blessed sorry you are running into a bump in the road. Hopefully it won't hold up things from moving forward. No worries till your doc sees you tomorrow.

 

[blessedlife]

Thanks L4, I'm still waiting to hear when I go in for another scan. I'm comforted by the fact they're not rushing me in but that also means more time to worry!!!

 

[L4hope]

Ugh I know...it's hard not to worry about everything. Ten deep breaths and find something that will help distract you

 

[oneof14]

Blessed, Im sorry you are going through this. With infertility its a waiting game, and for impatient people like myself, if seems like forever. Your RE is doing what's for you! Hang in there.

Lauren, how are you feeling?

 

[L4hope]

Hey Patricia. I'm feeling good all in all. The past couple weeks have gone by pretty fast so hoping that continues for the next two weeks hill anatomy scan! Depending on which book/app you look at, you are in the second tri!! Exciting!

 

[oneof14]

I can not believe you are 17 weeks already. I'm happy your feeling good. I've been wondering when I'm in my 2nd trimester, I keep thinking its 14 weeks. We still have told everyone, but I think by this weekend, we will.

 

[septbride]

Blessed, that's good that they aren't rushing you in. Fingers crossed you get more info tomorrow and can move forward.

Lauren, soooo close to that scan!

Patricia, you're so close to second tri, or you're in the second tri! Congrats!

 

[L4hope]

I know that. Feeling Patricia. I was afraid to share our news but we did with close friends and family at 13 weeks. Then at 16 I put an announcement on FB mostly because my darling mil kept posting stuff and tagging me and dh in it! but you'll figure out when to take the plunge and then it will feel good!

 

[michelle01]

Blessed - Hang in there, hopefully it is nothing and you can start to move forward!

 

[L4hope]

Blessed, have you seen the doc? How did you make out?

Patricia, did you share your news yet??

Michelle, Jess, whatthe...how are you ladies doing?

Afm, not too much to report. Just trying to get through the last two weeks of my school year and then enjoy summer break! Might see if I can work a little through a temp agency to save some extra dough for maternity leave.