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I havent been on here in a couple of months but i need to vent and get this written down. I have 4 kids 7, 4, 2 and 4 months almost. Before I start I just want to say that I love my kids and I love having my new baby so much he's amazing and brings me so much warmth and joy. I also know how lucky I am to have them as so many women can't... but... THEY ARE DRIVING ME UP THE F****** WALL!!!! I'm a stay at home mum and always have been. My OH works on an oil rig so i go a month without him here then he's home for a month and it goes on. My oldest 2 just do not stop arguing or so it feels. I'd say 70% of the time they are fighting and trying to get eachother in trouble. They DO NOT do what they are told and if they do it is utter hell before hand. I am so mystified why this is because I really rarely give in to them, i follow punishments through, i do not reward them for bad behaviour, take away privileges including their clubs. I have reward charts and marble jars for when they do something good. They aren't spoilt material wise. We do alot as a family when OH is home. But nothing is good enough. I feel beyond bad because i feel like all i do is tell them off. I'm riddled with mum guilt constantly. It's a horrendous feeling because everything i do is for them yet they can treat me so badly. I've got to the point where I actually dread weekends and half terms because when OH isn't here I'm pretty housebound as they are just too much to handle outside the house, mainly my 2 year old as he just wants to run off and tantrums when i don't let him.
I'm continuously agitated and on edge I'm barely getting through and i feel robbed of the happy time that I'm meant to be having with my youngest. I feel like I'm such a failure and that motherhood is nothing like i pictured. It doesn't help that i don't get much support from family other than my mum but she's a very anxious fragile person and actually can make things worse.
Please tell me that others out there feel this way sometimes. I love my kids but I'm just not enjoying motherhood at all at the moment which kills me inside as I know how blessed I am. Sorry for the long post x
I'm continuously agitated and on edge I'm barely getting through and i feel robbed of the happy time that I'm meant to be having with my youngest. I feel like I'm such a failure and that motherhood is nothing like i pictured. It doesn't help that i don't get much support from family other than my mum but she's a very anxious fragile person and actually can make things worse.
Please tell me that others out there feel this way sometimes. I love my kids but I'm just not enjoying motherhood at all at the moment which kills me inside as I know how blessed I am. Sorry for the long post x