EmmyReece
Mummy To Olivia
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I know most people seem to rant about their mil's but I need to let this out about my own mum otherwise I'm going to flip
Both dh and myself are carers for my mum and the man that lives with her.
Yesterday I had through the post my booking in appointment and scan date. And I immediately freaked out. I don't know what it is and can't quite put my finger on it, but I don't want to give birth in our local hospital and would much prefer to stay with mil and fil from 35 weeks onwards and have the baby in cheshire (if possible)
So, this morning I said that I would like dh with me on wednesday at my booking in appointment as I don't want to go to it on my own. I'm worried about what they're going to be like with me because of my weight. And her first comment was "well we'll just have to cope", dh only needs a couple of hours off, it's not as if he needs the full day off.
I then explained that I was going to give Leighton hospital a call and see if I can get myself referred to them as they do take women out of the area who choose to give birth there. We've chosen Leighton for several reasons
And she started ranting about how they had been rubbish with her (though she's never had anything to do with their maternity unit) and that maternity units were all understaffed and underfunded. When I told her that they have recently won an award for their maternity unit she just sniffed and looked annoyed.
I said that we'd figure something out with regards to appointments and again she pulled her face. If needs be dh would work his day off and change his night shift so that he wouldn't miss any work. He would just be having his day off on a different day as the other pa would be more than happy to work around that for us, she doesn't mind swapping nights as and when we need to.
It feels as if she expects me to give birth in a hospital that I really don't like just so that it suits her
EDIT** I also want to add that we would like to be in a hospital where we have family support on hand in the area if we needed it (I have family in staffordshire and dh's whole family are in close proximity to the hospital), as my mum won't come to our local hospital because of fear of catching a bug.
Both dh and myself are carers for my mum and the man that lives with her.
Yesterday I had through the post my booking in appointment and scan date. And I immediately freaked out. I don't know what it is and can't quite put my finger on it, but I don't want to give birth in our local hospital and would much prefer to stay with mil and fil from 35 weeks onwards and have the baby in cheshire (if possible)
So, this morning I said that I would like dh with me on wednesday at my booking in appointment as I don't want to go to it on my own. I'm worried about what they're going to be like with me because of my weight. And her first comment was "well we'll just have to cope", dh only needs a couple of hours off, it's not as if he needs the full day off.
I then explained that I was going to give Leighton hospital a call and see if I can get myself referred to them as they do take women out of the area who choose to give birth there. We've chosen Leighton for several reasons
- dh was born there
- it is only 10 minutes down the road from his mum and dad's house so he would have somewhere to stay
- our dog would be very well looked after with them
- dh can stay with me for the whole night afterwards, he just needs to sign a code of conduct form
And she started ranting about how they had been rubbish with her (though she's never had anything to do with their maternity unit) and that maternity units were all understaffed and underfunded. When I told her that they have recently won an award for their maternity unit she just sniffed and looked annoyed.
I said that we'd figure something out with regards to appointments and again she pulled her face. If needs be dh would work his day off and change his night shift so that he wouldn't miss any work. He would just be having his day off on a different day as the other pa would be more than happy to work around that for us, she doesn't mind swapping nights as and when we need to.
It feels as if she expects me to give birth in a hospital that I really don't like just so that it suits her
EDIT** I also want to add that we would like to be in a hospital where we have family support on hand in the area if we needed it (I have family in staffordshire and dh's whole family are in close proximity to the hospital), as my mum won't come to our local hospital because of fear of catching a bug.