My babies gone, I cant get my head around it!

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  1. BABYCAREY

    BABYCAREY mummy to a angel

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    Im sorry if this is long and upsetting but i have to get this off my chest,i had pains for a while now,and around 1.45pm yesterday i felt something wet,went upstairs to check and found blood,i was so upset,tried to ring hubby but his batt was flat,rang hospital,we went down shortly after that and got 1 of the stupidest doctors there!! He just looked at me and i shouted what the f**k am i doing here?i should be in gynae having a scan to check baby ok,my hubby tried to calm me down but i was so scared and frustrated by him!! To cut a long horrible story short we had to wait hour and half for a doc in gynae(bank hol)only 1 on!!disgrace!! And he said the baby had lived til 7weeks+6!!i was 13weeks yesterday!!how could that be?iwas totally shocked,angry,sick,so many emotions!!then said i could leave it to leave naturally but there could be complications or have procedure carried out that evening,but if i waited it would have to be done in craigavon/derry!!becos the ward was no longer doing that after midnight last night,i had to make the decision there and then,so much to take in in such a short space of time!! My baby left me at 7.15pm last night,i have never felt so empty in my life,or so incapable,baby was so tiny when he showed up on scan,i knew in my heart when i saw the baby that it was way too small to be 13weeks,no heartbeat was found,we are both devastated,this baby was so planned and wanted by us both,we had our youngest 9months ago and i was worried we conceived too early after ben and tried to be careful,the doc said it happens 1 in every 4 pregnancies!! Terrible statistic!! I hope and pray i am back on here in the future with happier news. I just wanted to say thanks to all the girls on here i have chatted to and have shared with,good luck to you all,i wish everyone of you health and happiness. (sorry for the long post)
     
  2. cupcake

    cupcake Mommy of a gorgeous boy!

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    so sorry xxx
     
  3. 1stBump_27

    1stBump_27 Well-Known Member

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    I just wanted to give you a big :hugs: and tell you how sorry I am that you had to go through that. Take care of yourself and we will see you back here soon x
     
  4. geekone

    geekone Well-Known Member

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    I am sorry for your loss hun:hugs2:
     
  5. MotherBear

    MotherBear Baby No 4 on way

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    I'm so sorry to hear your sad news and hope to see you back here soon. x
     
  6. _Vicky_

    _Vicky_ Mum to twins

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    ohh so sorry for your loss how awful - I know missed misscarriages are quite common not that it makes you feel any better at all. My friend lost at 6 weeks and she didnt find out until 14 weeks.

    Big hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
     
  7. samzi

    samzi mummy to issy,alice&luke

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    sorry for your loss :hugs:
     
  8. new mummy h

    new mummy h First little princess!!!!

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    ohmy god thats awful :( really sorry for your loss xx
     
  9. gills8752

    gills8752 Mum of 2 Girl

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    OOh I'm so sorry to hear this! I'm new on here so haven't followed your story so far but its still so upsetting to hear it. Best wishes that you feel better soon and good luck on your next one. My thoughts are with you! :flower: :hugs:
     
  10. MissRhead

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    Im so sorry hun huge hugs xxxx
     
  11. smartie

    smartie 1 Prince, 1 Princess

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    so sorry for your loss :hugs:
     
  12. abbysbaby

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    hugs . i wish u luck in the furture chick. xx
     
  13. jen1604

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    So sorry to hear this hon :hugs:
    Be good to yourself and give yourself lots of time to grieve :hugs: xxxxxx
     
  14. sam76

    sam76 Mummy to George & Louie

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    Im so so sorry, this has happened to me twice, please try to be strong, and dont give up! i have made it this far this time, so there is always help & Hope, take care xxxxxxxxx
     
  15. teal

    teal Well-Known Member

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    I'm so sorry for your loss :hug:
     
  16. tinytoes1904

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    OMG babycarey, I am so sorry. I have been following your posts as I am from NI as well. I cant believe this has happened to you and send u big hugs from up here. Be strong and hope to see you back in here soon xxxx
     
  17. EMYJC

    EMYJC Cautiously expecting No 2

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    I am so sorry to hear this, sorry about your loss. xx
     
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    So sorry for your loss :hugs:

    xxx
     
  20. Emma1980

    Emma1980 Mummy to Finley

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    sorry sweetie xx
     

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