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Hi ladies. I'm not sure if I'm even posting this in the right forum or not, but I am so desperate for some emotional support. I am 25 weeks pregnant today. My husband has pretty much lost interest in me about a month ago, which is also about when I started to show. I am already feeling self conscious about how I look, which I think is pretty normal. My pants don't button up anymore and I'm just feeling huge.
Anyway, I have discussed this with my husband multiple times and we have been arguing for 3 days straight now. He insists that he doesn't find me repulsive and that he still finds me attractive and that he still wants a sexual relationship with me, but that is just not happening. He has turned me down every time I've asked, despite me following his suggestions on how and when I ask. He told me his sex drive has decreased (he's 36) and he doesn't know why. He said it may be due to stress at work, or that he has gained weight and is self-conscious about how he looks, or that he isn't really physically active. The thing is, none of that has changed in the last several months with the exception of some extra stress at work. However, with Covid this year, I don't think stress has been in short supply for anyone and it didn't affect our sex life until a month ago or so.
I am absolutely devastated right now. I feel like I just want someone to get this baby out of me. I don't want to be pregnant anymore. I don't want to have a baby anymore. I don't want to look like this at all and I don't want to feel like I'm disgusting and repulsive. This is my second baby, my son is 12 years old now. I did not feel this way with my first pregnancy. I felt good until I just ended up so uncomfortable in the last month or so. Do any of you have any suggestions for how I can help myself? I'm at the point that I have given up on the sex part, I just don't want to feel this way and I want to feel good about myself. I don't want to lose control of my mental health for the next 15 weeks. Please help!
Anyway, I have discussed this with my husband multiple times and we have been arguing for 3 days straight now. He insists that he doesn't find me repulsive and that he still finds me attractive and that he still wants a sexual relationship with me, but that is just not happening. He has turned me down every time I've asked, despite me following his suggestions on how and when I ask. He told me his sex drive has decreased (he's 36) and he doesn't know why. He said it may be due to stress at work, or that he has gained weight and is self-conscious about how he looks, or that he isn't really physically active. The thing is, none of that has changed in the last several months with the exception of some extra stress at work. However, with Covid this year, I don't think stress has been in short supply for anyone and it didn't affect our sex life until a month ago or so.
I am absolutely devastated right now. I feel like I just want someone to get this baby out of me. I don't want to be pregnant anymore. I don't want to have a baby anymore. I don't want to look like this at all and I don't want to feel like I'm disgusting and repulsive. This is my second baby, my son is 12 years old now. I did not feel this way with my first pregnancy. I felt good until I just ended up so uncomfortable in the last month or so. Do any of you have any suggestions for how I can help myself? I'm at the point that I have given up on the sex part, I just don't want to feel this way and I want to feel good about myself. I don't want to lose control of my mental health for the next 15 weeks. Please help!