I'm currently completing (I hope) my miscarriage. I was 13 weeks according to my last period. I had had an easy pregnancy, almost no nausea, and only sightly sore breasts. We went for an aging ultrasound only because we weren't convinced that we were so far along (we thought more like 8 weeks)
at the ultrasound the tech said the baby measured 8 weeks and we were actually kind of laughing because that's how far along that we thought we should be. Then she said that she couldn't find the heartbeat and that she should be able to at that size.
we didn't know what that meant, and she just said she would have the dr look at the ultrasound report and then call our midwife. She said to call the midwife in an hour. We knew that was all bad news but tried to stay positive.
Our midwife called about 20 minutes after we got home to say we had miscarried. We were heartbroken, obviously. I started drinking pretty much immediately and some friends (who are 5 months pregnant) came over for support. That was on Wednesday.
On thursday I stayed home from school, having gotten some extensions. I went to school and work on Friday & Saturday. I was on my feet all day Fri & Sat. I had a few spots on Sat & Sunday but nothing started until Sunday night. Monday I had a heavy period. Tuesday we were at our family dr and she gave us a prescription to help us pass it but thought it would probably pass naturally because it had already started.
Our family dr asked if I was staying home during this time and I said no. I should have just said yes, gotten a note and gone home!!
I went to school after the appointment, and had a few cramps on the way. At school I got a really painful cramp and went to the bathroom. A few minutes later I went back to class, and only a few minutes after that I had another one and left again. I realized I would not be able to go back, but my phone was also in the classroom.
I waited outside the class until a lady walked by and I asked her to help me and get my phone. She got the phone but didn't stick around to see what was wrong even though I was obviously in pain.
I called my friend to pick me up but I had no signal, so I had to leave the building. It was really cold outside and I was super upset. My friend didn't answer so I called my Mother in law. She was on her way, but I was afraid she would not find me because the building I was in is a maze and I hadn't been able to describe where I was because I wanted to get somewhere easier. My phone was also on low battery and I didn't know her number by heart - typical!
I tried to get to the main school building but on the way I had a really bad contraction and had to lie on the floor. I was in a lot of pain when all of a sudden three student nurses appeared and asked me what was going on.
I told them and they said I should go to health services, which was down the hall. I tried to get up but couldn't so we stayed there. I asked one to call my MIL and to save the number because my phone was dying. I kept trying to change position and get more comfortable but they kept asking me to put my head down because I was very white.
Two security guards appeared and one kept asking me questions that I didn't want to answer (just normal stuff - name, DOB, student number). They called an ambulance. They also asked if I wanted to go into a nearby classroom and they emptied it (there were just 2 people) but again I couldn't move.
I said I wanted to go to the bathroom but it was too far away. So I asked them to empty the mens, which was closer. They said ok, but again I couldn't get up.
Finally my MIL arrived and I was still lying on the floor in a lot of pain. The pain slowly subsided and I was just exhausted. Then the ambulance came so I went with them
While I was in the ambulance I could feel blood trickling out of me. I knew that I had bled too much for the pad I had on that I was leeking, but I didn't feel too bad physically.
When I got to the hospital I was able to go to the bathroom and as soon as I sat down I felt something slide out and I heard a big plop. There was blood everywhere but I didn't flush because I wanted to see it. I thought the DR would get it out and I could see it. I cried out when it happened and my husband reassured me it was ok. I came out of the washroom and he went in and flushed. I was sad that it was gone, but I also felt silly wanting to see it. I'm sure it would have been really gross.
As soon as it fell out I also felt really relieved that it was over. I also felt guilty for feeling relieved.
Two days later I am still really sad that I didn't get to see it. I have dreams about what it looked like (mostly just a round red sac), and I feel empty and tearful. I haven't said anything to my husband because I know he feels terribly that the whole thing happened at school while he was at the movies. I don't want him to feel bad because there was no way we could have known that would happen- we had just been at the dr hours before!
at the ultrasound the tech said the baby measured 8 weeks and we were actually kind of laughing because that's how far along that we thought we should be. Then she said that she couldn't find the heartbeat and that she should be able to at that size.
we didn't know what that meant, and she just said she would have the dr look at the ultrasound report and then call our midwife. She said to call the midwife in an hour. We knew that was all bad news but tried to stay positive.
Our midwife called about 20 minutes after we got home to say we had miscarried. We were heartbroken, obviously. I started drinking pretty much immediately and some friends (who are 5 months pregnant) came over for support. That was on Wednesday.
On thursday I stayed home from school, having gotten some extensions. I went to school and work on Friday & Saturday. I was on my feet all day Fri & Sat. I had a few spots on Sat & Sunday but nothing started until Sunday night. Monday I had a heavy period. Tuesday we were at our family dr and she gave us a prescription to help us pass it but thought it would probably pass naturally because it had already started.
Our family dr asked if I was staying home during this time and I said no. I should have just said yes, gotten a note and gone home!!
I went to school after the appointment, and had a few cramps on the way. At school I got a really painful cramp and went to the bathroom. A few minutes later I went back to class, and only a few minutes after that I had another one and left again. I realized I would not be able to go back, but my phone was also in the classroom.
I waited outside the class until a lady walked by and I asked her to help me and get my phone. She got the phone but didn't stick around to see what was wrong even though I was obviously in pain.
I called my friend to pick me up but I had no signal, so I had to leave the building. It was really cold outside and I was super upset. My friend didn't answer so I called my Mother in law. She was on her way, but I was afraid she would not find me because the building I was in is a maze and I hadn't been able to describe where I was because I wanted to get somewhere easier. My phone was also on low battery and I didn't know her number by heart - typical!
I tried to get to the main school building but on the way I had a really bad contraction and had to lie on the floor. I was in a lot of pain when all of a sudden three student nurses appeared and asked me what was going on.
I told them and they said I should go to health services, which was down the hall. I tried to get up but couldn't so we stayed there. I asked one to call my MIL and to save the number because my phone was dying. I kept trying to change position and get more comfortable but they kept asking me to put my head down because I was very white.
Two security guards appeared and one kept asking me questions that I didn't want to answer (just normal stuff - name, DOB, student number). They called an ambulance. They also asked if I wanted to go into a nearby classroom and they emptied it (there were just 2 people) but again I couldn't move.
I said I wanted to go to the bathroom but it was too far away. So I asked them to empty the mens, which was closer. They said ok, but again I couldn't get up.
Finally my MIL arrived and I was still lying on the floor in a lot of pain. The pain slowly subsided and I was just exhausted. Then the ambulance came so I went with them
While I was in the ambulance I could feel blood trickling out of me. I knew that I had bled too much for the pad I had on that I was leeking, but I didn't feel too bad physically.
When I got to the hospital I was able to go to the bathroom and as soon as I sat down I felt something slide out and I heard a big plop. There was blood everywhere but I didn't flush because I wanted to see it. I thought the DR would get it out and I could see it. I cried out when it happened and my husband reassured me it was ok. I came out of the washroom and he went in and flushed. I was sad that it was gone, but I also felt silly wanting to see it. I'm sure it would have been really gross.
As soon as it fell out I also felt really relieved that it was over. I also felt guilty for feeling relieved.
Two days later I am still really sad that I didn't get to see it. I have dreams about what it looked like (mostly just a round red sac), and I feel empty and tearful. I haven't said anything to my husband because I know he feels terribly that the whole thing happened at school while he was at the movies. I don't want him to feel bad because there was no way we could have known that would happen- we had just been at the dr hours before!