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Today, I was snuggling with my three older kids (4, 3, 2) and chatting with them. Now, my kids have been paying attention to my tummy lately, and they've been asking questions about babies, and I have been dodging the questions and changing the subject.
My 4-year-old started rubbing my bloated belly, and my mom said, "You know, there's a baby in there!"
What was she thinking???? When I told her I'm expecting, I VERY SPECIFICALLY told her that we wouldn't be telling the kids until after I'm about 16 weeks along. That does NOT mean she gets to tell MY kids....
So, of course, my kids start jumping around and asking when the baby will be born, they want a sister, etc.... I was just in shock at that point. I referred back to a book we bought when we were expecting our third-born, to explain what was happening to my oldest, called "What Makes a Baby"... In the book, it explains that sometimes, an embryo will turn into a baby, and sometimes, it won't. I reminded my children of that and told them that if the embryo turns into a fetus, I will tell them all about it, and we will start preparing for a baby but NOT right now, while it's still "just" an embryo. You know, I was really trying to downplay the pregnancy.
I was able to diffuse the situation a bit, but I'm still flabbergasted that my mom thought that was her duty. If something went wrong, my kids would be devastated, as they bond with their future siblings straight away and get soooo excited.
Does anyone have any tips on what they'd do/say if the kids start asking more questions? (because I know they will!) I don't wanna scare them or hurt their feelings if things don't go as planned, but I don't want to lose their trust, either. They really trust me to always tell them the truth, and now, they know I've been dodging their questions.
My 4-year-old started rubbing my bloated belly, and my mom said, "You know, there's a baby in there!"
What was she thinking???? When I told her I'm expecting, I VERY SPECIFICALLY told her that we wouldn't be telling the kids until after I'm about 16 weeks along. That does NOT mean she gets to tell MY kids....
So, of course, my kids start jumping around and asking when the baby will be born, they want a sister, etc.... I was just in shock at that point. I referred back to a book we bought when we were expecting our third-born, to explain what was happening to my oldest, called "What Makes a Baby"... In the book, it explains that sometimes, an embryo will turn into a baby, and sometimes, it won't. I reminded my children of that and told them that if the embryo turns into a fetus, I will tell them all about it, and we will start preparing for a baby but NOT right now, while it's still "just" an embryo. You know, I was really trying to downplay the pregnancy.
I was able to diffuse the situation a bit, but I'm still flabbergasted that my mom thought that was her duty. If something went wrong, my kids would be devastated, as they bond with their future siblings straight away and get soooo excited.
Does anyone have any tips on what they'd do/say if the kids start asking more questions? (because I know they will!) I don't wanna scare them or hurt their feelings if things don't go as planned, but I don't want to lose their trust, either. They really trust me to always tell them the truth, and now, they know I've been dodging their questions.