KittyPaws
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So I just got engaged only a week ago. My mom is paying for the wedding because I'm her only daughter, and she wants it to be a huge, show-off wedding. She picked the hall, the band, everything. I just agreed because I happen to like them too. We have to have the ceremony at the reception hall, which was not our first choice, but we can't get married in a Catholic church without a TON of running around.
As far as the guest list, she invited 55 people. I have 30, INCLUDING my bridal party of 6 girls and their guests. My fiance has 40, not including his party (he does have to cut it down), and she's only allowing my fiance's parents to invite 35. 35!! We all went to dinner last night to celebrate, and I got upset that she was telling me and my fiance that we have to significantly cut down our lists.
Also, she's choosing the menu. We don't have a say, because "you can order whatever you want for yourselves". Every wedding I've been to, I was able to look at something there and see the couple in it. I feel like we're going to get lost in this wedding, and we'll just be the couple 'on show'...it won't actually be about us.
This is the message she sent me this morning:
Nikki,
I really had a nice time last night,but, as for the amount of people for the wedding guests,the number must come down, [my fiance] has more than I thought he would(himself) and I was going to give [his mother] a block of 30-35 tops,If you and [my fiance] need the 170 or over ,you will have to pick up the tab on that,dad and I set a limit of up to 165,you have to remember, we still have to pay for the wedding cereomony to be there,personel flowers, and flowers for the ceremony and staircase ,boutineers, etc plus clothing for the wedding.Also when It comes down to the final menu selections that will be offered, we will consider all opinions, but dad and I will have the final say on that, we are after all paying for this reception and the menu needs to be well balanced,you and [my fiance] may order whatever you like for yourselves
Also, I did like the attitude you gave me at the table last night about this topic. You have gotten so far everything you wanted, place, band, wedding where you wanted it etc.
We don't want to argue with you, but the attitude does need to come down a notch!Dad agrees.
Now I am looking forward to tommorow, the wedding gown will of course be your choice,however I will give my opinon on what looks goood and what does not.Be grateful that we are able to do what we can.we want you to have a fabulous wedding but we aree not rich and must set limits.
As far as the guest list, she invited 55 people. I have 30, INCLUDING my bridal party of 6 girls and their guests. My fiance has 40, not including his party (he does have to cut it down), and she's only allowing my fiance's parents to invite 35. 35!! We all went to dinner last night to celebrate, and I got upset that she was telling me and my fiance that we have to significantly cut down our lists.
Also, she's choosing the menu. We don't have a say, because "you can order whatever you want for yourselves". Every wedding I've been to, I was able to look at something there and see the couple in it. I feel like we're going to get lost in this wedding, and we'll just be the couple 'on show'...it won't actually be about us.
This is the message she sent me this morning:
Nikki,
I really had a nice time last night,but, as for the amount of people for the wedding guests,the number must come down, [my fiance] has more than I thought he would(himself) and I was going to give [his mother] a block of 30-35 tops,If you and [my fiance] need the 170 or over ,you will have to pick up the tab on that,dad and I set a limit of up to 165,you have to remember, we still have to pay for the wedding cereomony to be there,personel flowers, and flowers for the ceremony and staircase ,boutineers, etc plus clothing for the wedding.Also when It comes down to the final menu selections that will be offered, we will consider all opinions, but dad and I will have the final say on that, we are after all paying for this reception and the menu needs to be well balanced,you and [my fiance] may order whatever you like for yourselves
Also, I did like the attitude you gave me at the table last night about this topic. You have gotten so far everything you wanted, place, band, wedding where you wanted it etc.
We don't want to argue with you, but the attitude does need to come down a notch!Dad agrees.
Now I am looking forward to tommorow, the wedding gown will of course be your choice,however I will give my opinon on what looks goood and what does not.Be grateful that we are able to do what we can.we want you to have a fabulous wedding but we aree not rich and must set limits.