my world fell apart 2day..

[xnewxmummyx]

I'm 25+3days pregnant and today we were told my mum has cancer

We dont know how bad or how it can be treated but I need my mum, I'm pregnant with my 1st baby and her first grand daughter...

How am I gonna stay calm and positive through this and keep my baby girl safe?? Since finding out I have had horrible stomach pains ....

I don't know how 2 cope..


xxx

 

[reedsgirl1138]

 

[mislaww]

Take a deep breath. Don't assume the worst for your mother's prognosis - my fingers are crossed for a quick and successful recovery from treatment.

And don't stress about how your stress will affect baby. These sorts of things, sadly, happen, and babies turn out fine. Just focus on your mom and yourself and your family.
I really hope the best for your mom.

 

[Etoille]

*Hug* Be positive. Not only for yourself, but for your mum and the rest of your family. People beat cancer a lot these days, and health care is much better than it was when I was 16 and lost my dad and grandmother. You just have to focus on keeping your mum's spirits high, happy patients seem to fight it off much better than those who have fallen into a rut and are giving up.

Don't stress too much. Many things can be done at all sorts of stages with all walks of cancer. It is not a death sentence.

*Hug*

 

[bluetattoo]

I was so very sorry to read your post but would also like to agree with the other posters. You don't know the prognosis yet so please don't fear the worst. Even when cancers are very aggressive there is hope, treatment has come on so far. Also what better reason for her to fight this thing than seeing her grandchild born and growing up. I know its hard but please try to stay as positive as possible, get lots of rest and eat well and make sure you are there and as strong as possible for your mum and your new baby

 

[xnewxmummyx]

thanx evry1 .... tomorrow will determine our fate...

xxx

 

[MrsBandEgglet]

I'm so sorry It's hard, I know, my mum is in remission now but the fear is always there. Your mum needs your strength which I know you may feel you don't have much of now after been given this shocking news but it will help more than you realise. Take care of yourself and LO xx

 

[tainja]

So sorry - I will be praying for you and your mom. Stay strong.

 

[JeepGirl]

I know its hard, but try not to think the worst. My younger brother just beat this battle with cancer. His last treatment was just a few weeks ago. I remember in the beginning, being so scared and mad about it. Medical treatments are so far advanced these days. He had several months of chemo and then a month of radiation. Of course when you think of chemo the first thing that comes to mind is how sick it will make someone. But its not as bad as it use to be. My bro never even ended up throwing up once through the months of treatment.

Please feel free to send me a message if you need to chat

 

[bellablue]

You and
your family are in my thoughts and prayers stay positive hun

 

[InvisibleRain]

I can somewhat relate sweety - Last week was the worst few days i'd had in a long time.. got a phone call from my mum at 11pm, explaining my dad was in hospital due to heart problems, and that he had a heart attack (he's only 47) and i was a mess, but i thought possitive and kept rising above it. At this time in your life you need to stay positive and stay ahead of it... be there for your family and of course; your mum. Don't think negative... as hard as it is... i kept thinking my baby girl wouldn't meet her amazing Grandad..... but i kept above it... and he's fine, home and being the crazy dad i love dearly stay postive babe!!! it's the best thing you can do for you and your baby! a positive attitude really does help and take you a long way! *hugs*!

 

[natural_mamma]

Big hugs babe, I completely understand what you are going through! When I was 35wks pregnant with my first child, my world came crashing down in the exact way yours has. Mum had cancer!
It's a really hard road to travel, and I hope you guys come out the same way we did! Today 3.5yrs on, mum is doing really well, and has finishes most of her treatment! She has yearly scans now, and sufferes severe bone degeneration from all those chemicals! But she's still here, and now healthy, and is about to see me bring my third baby into the world!
All you can do, is be there for her, but be VERY sure to look after yourself, as it seriously will take it's toll on those around her. Look after yourself for her, she needs to know that while she's working on getting herself better by the treatment, that you don't need her to be looking after you too!
Be strong honey, this is a LONG and very hard road to travel, and I wish you all a good outcome!

Xxxxx

 

[Flipsy]

I' m so sorry hunny. you need to look after yourself and keep baby safe no matter what happens your mum will want that above all else I promise you If your mum had to choose your babys safety or her life I know she would choose your baby each and every time.

Stay strong and we are all here for you too (((hugs))))

 

[x Alanna x]

I'm really sorry to hear about your mum.. keep strong and i wish you and your mum the best of luck.. xxxxx

 

[lilprince]

Im so sorry! Hang in there hun and be strong Cancer is beaten everyday! My Aunt just won her battle over stage 3 ovarian and is strong, healthy and active now!!!!! My thoughts and prayers are with you!!!!

 

[Chocciebutton]

Like has been mentioned, try not to worry at this stage...Ive just found out I am pregnant and my husband who is only 38 had major cancer surgery in June this year....he was given the all clear but has now got to go back into hospital for further investigation as he has problems , we are not sure what the outcome will be
I will cross that bridge if and when it happens. I would think that the birth of your baby will be something she can focus on and keep going, im sure she will be fine, it was a shock for us at first but once you know she is is the right hands it becomes a little easier xx

 

[Chocciebutton]

Like has been mentioned, try not to worry at this stage...Ive just found out I am pregnant and my husband who is only 38 had major cancer surgery in June this year....he was given the all clear but has now got to go back into hospital for further investigation as he has problems , we are not sure what the outcome will be
I will cross that bridge if and when it happens. I would think that the birth of your baby will be something she can focus on and keep going, im sure she will be fine, it was a shock for us at first but once you know she is is the right hands it becomes a little easier xx

 

[hopefulmama2b]

 

[kiwimama]

I'm so sorry - I hope that it is in the early stages and easily beaten.

 

[charlotte1990]

you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers hun. I have my fingers crossed for you. People beat cancer every day. xx