Mynx
Mum of 2 Gorgeous Girls!!
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Well, I thought it was about time I started writing one of these since I think I'm driving my OH bonkers talking weddings all the time 
Firstly, I'll introduce myself properly and tell you a little about us
My name is Nix and my OH is Jay... we met initially about 12 years ago thru an online game called Quake (very old shoot em up stylie) We both used to play and we were part of a "clan" and most of them were from London, and I got on well with them so thought it would be a good idea to have a meet-up at my place...Soooo we would all meet up around once a month or so and would go out clubbing and generally getting very drunk and having loads of fun! I was with someone else at the time so we never really did anything about our feelings. The meet ups fizzled out after a couple of years and he met someone else and then we didnt hear from him for years ... till a mate of mine said he was in touch with Jay again and passed on my details. By this time I was single, so I was able to do something about my feelings, which I did... to say Jay was hesitant was an understatement! He's been hurt in the past (his ex dumped him about 6 months after finding out he has Mulitple Sclerosis) and it took him a long time to get over her so he wasnt really looking for a relationship... I persisted and 6 months after our first "date" he finally admitted that yes, this is what he wanted! Took some persuading I tell ya!
We'd been together for about a year and a half when I fell pregnant with Evie... that was a shock. But we were both adamant that we would go ahead with the pregnancy and take any pitfalls along the way. So he moved in with me in the August, and Evie was born in November
It's been bloody hard along the way tho, we hadnt been together all that long so living together AND looking after a newborn baby AND contending with his MS relapses (he gets relapses if he's stressed or run down) has been so demanding for all of us but we've battled thru them one by one.
For the last year or so, Jay has been saying that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me and for me to be his wife so at Christmas he got me an engagement ring... it wasnt quite the romantic "down on one knee" proposal that a girl hopes for but it was good enough for me
Soooo January we decided to start looking into a date to set for the wedding and finally settled on September 3rd 2011... we decided that we'd rather get married as soon as we can and it was a toss up between a holiday or a wedding We worked out how much it was going to cost and thought that we might just be able to do it if we kept everything on very small scale.
When we announced the date to our parents, my dad said he'd give us some cash towards it, as did Jay's parents, so we got 2 very nice lump sums, and that has meant that we could go a little bigger and better for the actual day
Dont get me wrong, it's still on a small scale, just not as small as it was going to be 
The venue is costing us just over £3,000 and that's a drinks reception when we first get there, champagne toasts, sit down meal for 30 people, evening reception, dj, finger food for the evening, complimentary bridal suite for the night, table decorations and reduced room rates for our guests should they need a room 
Everything else is going to cost around £800, so for just under £4k, we really have kept the cost down, without it being too cheap iykwim?
So here we are.. just under 5 months to go and I have to say that I CANNOT WAIT!
I've been so organised that it's scaring even me but we're getting there...
Firstly, I'll introduce myself properly and tell you a little about us
My name is Nix and my OH is Jay... we met initially about 12 years ago thru an online game called Quake (very old shoot em up stylie) We both used to play and we were part of a "clan" and most of them were from London, and I got on well with them so thought it would be a good idea to have a meet-up at my place...Soooo we would all meet up around once a month or so and would go out clubbing and generally getting very drunk and having loads of fun!
I was with someone else at the time so we never really did anything about our feelings. The meet ups fizzled out after a couple of years and he met someone else and then we didnt hear from him for years ... till a mate of mine said he was in touch with Jay again and passed on my details. By this time I was single, so I was able to do something about my feelings, which I did... to say Jay was hesitant was an understatement! He's been hurt in the past (his ex dumped him about 6 months after finding out he has Mulitple Sclerosis) and it took him a long time to get over her so he wasnt really looking for a relationship... I persisted and 6 months after our first "date" he finally admitted that yes, this is what he wanted! Took some persuading I tell ya! We'd been together for about a year and a half when I fell pregnant with Evie... that was a shock. But we were both adamant that we would go ahead with the pregnancy and take any pitfalls along the way. So he moved in with me in the August, and Evie was born in November
It's been bloody hard along the way tho, we hadnt been together all that long so living together AND looking after a newborn baby AND contending with his MS relapses (he gets relapses if he's stressed or run down) has been so demanding for all of us but we've battled thru them one by one.
For the last year or so, Jay has been saying that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me and for me to be his wife so at Christmas he got me an engagement ring... it wasnt quite the romantic "down on one knee" proposal that a girl hopes for but it was good enough for me
Soooo January we decided to start looking into a date to set for the wedding and finally settled on September 3rd 2011... we decided that we'd rather get married as soon as we can and it was a toss up between a holiday or a wedding
We worked out how much it was going to cost and thought that we might just be able to do it if we kept everything on very small scale. When we announced the date to our parents, my dad said he'd give us some cash towards it, as did Jay's parents, so we got 2 very nice lump sums, and that has meant that we could go a little bigger and better for the actual day
Dont get me wrong, it's still on a small scale, just not as small as it was going to be The venue is costing us just over £3,000 and that's a drinks reception when we first get there, champagne toasts, sit down meal for 30 people, evening reception, dj, finger food for the evening, complimentary bridal suite for the night, table decorations and reduced room rates for our guests should they need a room Everything else is going to cost around £800, so for just under £4k, we really have kept the cost down, without it being too cheap iykwim?
So here we are.. just under 5 months to go and I have to say that I CANNOT WAIT!
I've been so organised that it's scaring even me
but we're getting there...
It just didnt work for me so I took the risk on this new one from China ... I'm constantly worrying that it wont arrive tho so I'm making sure I have some money aside to either get another new one or to alter the first one I bought 
