Mummy of Ange
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Girls, i really dont know where to start but need help before i breakdown. I will try not to waffle.
Been with my OH for 2 years, and as most of you know on Christmas Day i lost my twin boys at 23 weeks, and then a miscarriage last month. My OH has struggled to cope with loosing the twins and its affected him quite badly. Whenever something baby related is on the TV, he breaks down in tears. He regulary visits the cemetary and sits at their grave talking to them for hours. I have told him to seek help but he wont.
Obviously our loss has put a lot of strain on our relationship, our sex life went to nothing and he was really distant from me. A couple of weeks ago we went to Antigua for a week for a break, but he was still distant from me, i asked him why and his response is "i dont know what is wrong with me"
I decided to investigate further and check his emails because i knew something was wrong and i came across about 40 emails he has sent to different guys with pictures of him in my underwear!!! I know, shock horror, i felt sick.
I confronted him about it and he is devstated, said he is sick in the head and wants to do himself in. He swears he has never met any of them because he never had the bottle but doesnt know why he did this. He actually joined a gay website and got chatting to guys on there.
I have asked him is he gay or bi, he says he isnt and loves me so much, but says he is confused with the whole matter, and the thought of going near another man makes him sick.
I really dont know what to do about it. He stayed away last night because i was angry, but he is coming back tonight to chat.
Im a woman of the world, and willing to listen to what he has got to say, and if he says he is gay then he cant help his feelings, but he says he isnt.
Im just wondering what you ladies would do ?? xx
Been with my OH for 2 years, and as most of you know on Christmas Day i lost my twin boys at 23 weeks, and then a miscarriage last month. My OH has struggled to cope with loosing the twins and its affected him quite badly. Whenever something baby related is on the TV, he breaks down in tears. He regulary visits the cemetary and sits at their grave talking to them for hours. I have told him to seek help but he wont.
Obviously our loss has put a lot of strain on our relationship, our sex life went to nothing and he was really distant from me. A couple of weeks ago we went to Antigua for a week for a break, but he was still distant from me, i asked him why and his response is "i dont know what is wrong with me"
I decided to investigate further and check his emails because i knew something was wrong and i came across about 40 emails he has sent to different guys with pictures of him in my underwear!!! I know, shock horror, i felt sick.
I confronted him about it and he is devstated, said he is sick in the head and wants to do himself in. He swears he has never met any of them because he never had the bottle but doesnt know why he did this. He actually joined a gay website and got chatting to guys on there.
I have asked him is he gay or bi, he says he isnt and loves me so much, but says he is confused with the whole matter, and the thought of going near another man makes him sick.
I really dont know what to do about it. He stayed away last night because i was angry, but he is coming back tonight to chat.
Im a woman of the world, and willing to listen to what he has got to say, and if he says he is gay then he cant help his feelings, but he says he isnt.
Im just wondering what you ladies would do ?? xx