Do you ever feel like you are doing it all wrong? Lately I feel like I am constantly doubting myself and my decisions which is confusing for ds and makes dh doubt me too as im not putting across my ideas confidently.
DS is still up frequently (often hourly) at night for feeds and takes his naps on me still. We are mostly co sleeping at night - i actually started doing this after reading up on the benefits of it when he was 4 months old. I have talked to friends and family for advice after feeling like I don't know what I should be doing and they all suggested stopping co sleeping and not to let him nap on me.
A friend suggested shush pat which worked for her baby. The first night it worked fine - no tears and we both got more sleep than usual, but when i tried it for naps he really cried and i couldn't keep it up. I keep trying different things people suggest and i know my chopping and changing is making things hard for lo but I'm finding it hard to follow my instincts when no one in my real life gets it.
We were both really traumatised by the attempted nap yesterday and he refused to sleep more than 30 mins the rest of the day (usually has 3 hours) so was overtired by bedtime and ended up in bed with me. I kept waking up thinking i should put him in his cot - see, still doubting my instincts!!
I could really do with some advice from the other side and would love to have someone I could swap e-mail addresses with so when I am having a parenting issue I could discuss it with someone who gets what i'm trying to do.
Thanks for reading if you made it to the end! x
DS is still up frequently (often hourly) at night for feeds and takes his naps on me still. We are mostly co sleeping at night - i actually started doing this after reading up on the benefits of it when he was 4 months old. I have talked to friends and family for advice after feeling like I don't know what I should be doing and they all suggested stopping co sleeping and not to let him nap on me.
A friend suggested shush pat which worked for her baby. The first night it worked fine - no tears and we both got more sleep than usual, but when i tried it for naps he really cried and i couldn't keep it up. I keep trying different things people suggest and i know my chopping and changing is making things hard for lo but I'm finding it hard to follow my instincts when no one in my real life gets it.
We were both really traumatised by the attempted nap yesterday and he refused to sleep more than 30 mins the rest of the day (usually has 3 hours) so was overtired by bedtime and ended up in bed with me. I kept waking up thinking i should put him in his cot - see, still doubting my instincts!!
I could really do with some advice from the other side and would love to have someone I could swap e-mail addresses with so when I am having a parenting issue I could discuss it with someone who gets what i'm trying to do.
Thanks for reading if you made it to the end! x