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Johnnysmum
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Hi ladies.
I've been here before when in was expecting my first child. A lot has changed since and I need some guidance.
Here's my story.
Without getting in-depth about my past...I have a 2 year old son with my ex...who was also extremely abusive towards us both. I escaped in March 2014.
I met an amazing guy about a year after and as my son has a no contact order with my ex...as he was a victim to abuse...my new man has more than taken over the dad role for my son.
Because my son was a victim to abuse...I have always felt like it was all my fault. I feel like I didn't do enough and to this day I don't believe I did. I was trying to hard to make it work that I should have left and didn't. I feel I put him second...I feel like a terrible mother.
Well tonight I found out we are expecting. Not planned...At first I was excited. Now I don't know how to feel. I feel like I haven't had enough time to live my son...just my son. And I feel like what if I don't love the new baby as much as my son?
These are horrible thoughts. I know. Please don't judge. I do think I suffer from PTSD and depression. Sometimes I'm ok. Others...I know I'm not. I just can't help feeling like...shit. I wish I could get back the last two years. I feel like I've lost them. I'd do anything to go back.
I guests I just need some reassurance. Maybe from women in my position or who have felt this way at some point. I literally choke back tears when I think about not being able to give my son 100% of my attention anymore. And what if it doesn't work out with this guy?? I'm so lost...
I've been here before when in was expecting my first child. A lot has changed since and I need some guidance.
Here's my story.
Without getting in-depth about my past...I have a 2 year old son with my ex...who was also extremely abusive towards us both. I escaped in March 2014.
I met an amazing guy about a year after and as my son has a no contact order with my ex...as he was a victim to abuse...my new man has more than taken over the dad role for my son.
Because my son was a victim to abuse...I have always felt like it was all my fault. I feel like I didn't do enough and to this day I don't believe I did. I was trying to hard to make it work that I should have left and didn't. I feel I put him second...I feel like a terrible mother.
Well tonight I found out we are expecting. Not planned...At first I was excited. Now I don't know how to feel. I feel like I haven't had enough time to live my son...just my son. And I feel like what if I don't love the new baby as much as my son?
These are horrible thoughts. I know. Please don't judge. I do think I suffer from PTSD and depression. Sometimes I'm ok. Others...I know I'm not. I just can't help feeling like...shit. I wish I could get back the last two years. I feel like I've lost them. I'd do anything to go back.
I guests I just need some reassurance. Maybe from women in my position or who have felt this way at some point. I literally choke back tears when I think about not being able to give my son 100% of my attention anymore. And what if it doesn't work out with this guy?? I'm so lost...