Need some Advice

[BrandiCanucks]

My husband and I are going through a nasty separation. I'm on day 3 of my second swing at single parenthood. He's seen the kids all of 5 minutes in the last 72 hours.

When I say nasty, I mean it's at the point where Children's Aid Society is now involved. For now, I have custody, obviously and he spoke to them today. I'm scared of what he might have said.

Anyway, I had a counselling appointment today at the local women's shelter and we had a phone conversation. I put him on speaker so the counsellor could hear what I have endured over the last few days. She was appalled at his language and behaviour, his attempt at mind games, etc. He went as far as to tell me that people ("who hate you"...meaning me) have told him I'm going to drown my kids in the bathtub!! WHAT. THE. HELL.!!! I'd NEVER dream of such a thing!

Anyway, all he has done is verbally abuse me via text message. I don't have any room on my phone to keep them, so I'm typing them all out on my computer and going to print them off for my lawyer and CAS. Should I wait until I meet with CAS in the morning to show them the messages on my cell phone before I delete them, just so they know this is not made up, or will it be enough to just have them typed up?

 

[kirst1805]

I'd keep as many as possible on your phone. Just to cover yourself. .
So sorry you are going through this. That's disgusting behaviour.

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[Laura2919]

If he continues to be rude and say nasty things I just wouldn't answer his phone calls as for the texts yes keep them and keep as many as you can. Its only making him out to be the nasty dirtbag!
As for seeing the children my girls dad sees them every other weekend and one day during the week so for example he had them Tuesday, this is my weekend with them and he doesn't have them again until Tuesday and then the following Friday would be his weekend so its sort of here and there although he always has them on his days, he tells me 4 weeks in advance

 

[dustbunny]

I would photograph the messages on your phone as at the end of the day you retyping them onto the computer could be construed as you typing anything up to incriminate him further. It seems petty taking photos but better safe to cover yourself than not. Also the only thing with writing them up is the date that the document was created and last edited, not the details in-between so its not 100%. Also, it might be good to get a diary and write down things in there as it will also be dated, again not 100% effective but it looks more real.