jessicaR4bbit
Some woman, and manchild
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Just a quick recap of what has happened:
- FOB and I split a month or so ago
- LO is still breastfed and is being weaned onto solids, roughly 3 meals a day now
- He still feeds once or twice a night
So today my ex came round to pick up LO, and seemed pissed so I asked him what was the matter. He said that he was stressed over the stuff with Citizens Advice and I asked what he meant by that. Apparently his family are urging him to talk to a solicitor about getting LO overnight and that he has equal rights to me for visitation. He thinks we should give LO formula for night feedings. I told him that it wasn't just the breastmilk, but that LO is not ready to be away from me for an entire night and it would distress him, and that I was working on cutting out the night feeds with the goal of being a year old and night weaned completely in mind so he can have him overnight. But FOB wasn't interested and said that I am not thinking about him and the only reason he hasn't spoken to a solicitor yet is because he doesn't want to be a dick.
I am scared that they'll threaten me with court and I can't afford any court fees and I am not ready for baby to stay overnight somewhere else. I know Dexter more than anyone and I know he would be traumatized if I wasn't there during the night. I wanted to breastfeed him for a year. Will none of this matter? I don't know what to do, I feel so much pressure and animosity from FOB and his family
Please help and advise/reassure me
- FOB and I split a month or so ago
- LO is still breastfed and is being weaned onto solids, roughly 3 meals a day now
- He still feeds once or twice a night
So today my ex came round to pick up LO, and seemed pissed so I asked him what was the matter. He said that he was stressed over the stuff with Citizens Advice and I asked what he meant by that. Apparently his family are urging him to talk to a solicitor about getting LO overnight and that he has equal rights to me for visitation. He thinks we should give LO formula for night feedings. I told him that it wasn't just the breastmilk, but that LO is not ready to be away from me for an entire night and it would distress him, and that I was working on cutting out the night feeds with the goal of being a year old and night weaned completely in mind so he can have him overnight. But FOB wasn't interested and said that I am not thinking about him and the only reason he hasn't spoken to a solicitor yet is because he doesn't want to be a dick.
I am scared that they'll threaten me with court and I can't afford any court fees and I am not ready for baby to stay overnight somewhere else. I know Dexter more than anyone and I know he would be traumatized if I wasn't there during the night. I wanted to breastfeed him for a year. Will none of this matter? I don't know what to do, I feel so much pressure and animosity from FOB and his family
Please help and advise/reassure me