tkeith8109
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Ok so my husband and I are wtt until December and I wanted a little advice for people that are currently going through this. I love my in laws. They are great people and really do so much for us. We already have 2 kids and they adore them plus our nephew. Now my MIL is under the assumption we are done because I have pcos and had my thyroid removed so she thinks I can't really have anymore kids. Well the pcos ended up being mild and my thyroid levels are okay so we have decided that we want another. I am nervous about telling them when it finally does come time because we are just now starting to get our stuff together financially. We are very focused and realized we can actually afford a child we just have to be better with our money. We have goals and a plan and so far we are sticking to them. However, I feel like when we do get pregnant they will be like wtf are you guys thinking?! I want our last baby to feel wanted from the beginning and I want them to be happy about it. We were going to wait a year so we can get everything finished first (paying stuff off and getting a van) but honestly my baby fever is too strong and we decided to go for it. Any advice for us when to tell them? Should we start mentioning that we are really trying to get our financial state in order so they know we are doing okay and really trying, which is what they have wanted? Or should we not worry because they will be happy no matter what? I should also mention we live in a 3 bedroom in a really nice area. We have decent paying jobs and our income will go up substantially in the next year just from the debt that will automatically fall off and credit cards we are paying off, we have 2 cars, they are just too small so we are getting a van next year, and our 2 kids are very well taken care of. We have just decided to stop spending money on things we don't need like eating out. I just don't want people thinking that we can't afford the kids we have so why add. I would really appreciate any advice or similar stories.