New and scared.

[JessicaaJadex]

Hey girls.

My names Jess, and I don't know if any of you will remember me now. I'm 18 and have just recently found out that i'm pregnant, and around 6weeks along. This isn't actually my first pregnancy. I discovered i was pregnant in early November last year, which unfortunately ended in MC at 6 weeks.

I dont know how to feel about it this time around. I haven't told a single person about it yet, not even FOB (my boyfriend) because i'm so terrified somethings going to go wrong. I cant feel happy about it, because it just doesn't seem real to me yet. Don't get me wrong, i'm over the moon that i'm getting a second chance, but it still worries me every second of the day, and i'm so paranoid about the whole thing.

Anyway, i thought i'd introduce myself again, and i could really do with someone to talk too because its driving me mad not being able to tell anyone! I know its stupid, and i'm going to have to start telling people soon, but i'm afraid its going to jinx it or whatever (mad i know).

I just wondered if anyone could offer me some advice, or even hope as to how to deal with it! (and yes i have used the 'pregnancy after a loss' forum, but i feel like i can be more open here).

Wishing you all a happy and healthy pregnancy!

 

[MiSS.M0MMY2BE]

Congratulations again! Im erin, 19, and ill be 29 weeks tomorrow. I know exactly how you feel about 'jynxing it'. My first pregnancy ended in mc as well, and i literally was scared to tell anyone except oh, for the first trimester. I think told his brother to. But once i finally told my mom (i had other reasons for waiting also) i was scared for her to even tell my dad in case something was wrong. I gave in though. Basically my point is, i was pretty much like you and now everything seems to be going well and im only 11 weeks away. Good luck girl. Eveything will be a-okay.

 

[torsie93]

Hi Jess,

My name is Victoria and I'm 18 weeks pregnant with my first baby. I think to a certain extent I can identify with you being scared about your pregnancy because mine has recently come up with some scary complications that have caused me to be on bed rest.

I think the best advice that I can give you is to stay as positive as you possibly can. Look after yourself and stay healthy and your baby will do the rest. I hope everything will go well for you, and whatever happened in the past happened for a reason.

Stay positive and try to keep calm, it's what will be best for you and for your LO.

Feel free to PM anytime you like if you need support x

 

[teenmommy15]

Hi Jess, i'm Bethany I am 15 years old and due June 18th with my baby girl Sadie Mae. I had a miscarriage before this baby as well and im so thrilled that this pregnancy is going great for me even though she was unplanned but first thing i can tell you even if its hard to try and stop stressing because it effects the baby and isnt good for them. Dont be worried about telling people yet, I would tell FOB now and wait to tell anyone else after 12 weeks, that should lessen some of the stress of telling people and at this time your gonna need your boyfriend the most. I understand that all the stress is making it hard to get excited but just hope and think positive that this baby we'll still this time and get your prenatals and make a doc appointment so you can get some more reassurance! If you want to talk im here for you PM me. Hope your pregnancy goes happy and healthy keep us updated

 

[KateCardwell]

Welcome back, Jess! I'm Kate, I'm 18 and pregnant with my first. Good luck to you and your baby as well! And try not to worry too much, okay? That's not good. If you need someone to talk to, just PM me.

 

[jesssika]

Hey Jess, I'm also Jess welcome back! Firstly, try not to stress out hon, it doesn't have any benefit for you! Second, I'm in kind of the same position, I also miscarried a pregnancy at the end of November last year, at 5 weeks pregnant. I'm now 10 weeks pregnant with my second chance nugget and all has been fine so far, so just try not to stress hun and I'm here to talk to if you need, just PM me x

 

[magic93]

Hey Jess, welcome back
Congrats to you! I know exactly how your feelin hun, I suffered two miscarriages before having my lil boy. I know that its impossible not to be scared after goin thru that, but honestly the best advice I can give you is try not to go crazy stressin over it because stress is the worst thing in the world for you and for that little baby. I would tell your boyfriend asap jus so he can absorb it but its totally understandable if you arent comfortable telling anyone else before you pass your 12 week mark, but honestly its in gods hands telling people wont jinx it. After 2 miscarriages I had an amazing pregnancy and now I have a healthy son. Most importantly take care of yourself, good luck hun and if ever you want to talk to someone dont hesitate to pm me.
Btw my names Lisa, i'm 19 and my baby Quinsy is 6 weeks

 

[ClairAye]

Congratulations

Sorry about your loss I have no advice sorry but you should let at least your boyfriend know, try to relax and not to worry too much about things

Btw, I'm Clair, I'm 18 and I have a son who is 1 in ten days and I'm pregnant with our second

 

[JessicaaJadex]

Thanks ladies, and congratulations to everyone too!

I know its hard not to stress, but i've just got to accept that its out of my hands, and that I should just enjoy the excitement of being pregnant. I'm taking your advice and going to tell my boyfriend this weekend, which hopefully wont stress him out too much because he's got a lot of exams at the moment. I think i should tell my mum soon after as well, maybe leave that a few more weeks though. Just praying that this pregnancy will have no complications this time!

Its amazing how many people can actually relate to me, and i'm glad that i have this support here!