New here...3 boys but LTTTC....

[sophster]

I'm new to this bit of the board but not baby and bump overall. I'm a very happy and proud mum of three boys; the youngest is almost three. I never thought I'd have three kids to begin with as I've always had problems took nearly four years in total to conceive my eldest. Been trying for number four since my youngest was a few months old so in total well over two years now. I've always had very irregular periods/long cycles and it was presumed I had PCOS but tests/scan showed this is unlikely. I got pregnant last June during my longest ever cycle (70 days) but had a mmc, baby stopped developing at 9 weeks the only positive of that traumatic experience for me was that my cycles immedately returned to a semi normal and pretty regular length (about 35 days), at the moment we are not actively TTC as we went through all that before the miscarriage and can't face it again right now; but just taking each day as it comes and taking a NTNP approach. Unfortunately I have to deal a lot with people who assume that because my husband and I would like more kids; and we are upset about the miscarriage and TTC troubles that we are somehow ungrateful for what we have; when we are not at all. Some of the remarks we've had have been quite hurtful. So it would be nice to speak to people who understand.

 

[jojo-m]

not time to write you a proper reply hun so i'll just say a quick hello for now. Sorry for your mc, and hope your stay here is short. sorry not time to say more but better than reading and running

xx

 

[mrphyemma]

Hi Sophster,
I too have 3 children; (2 boys and 1 girl) and we have been ttc our 4th child for 13 months now. My desire to have another baby in no way means that my other 3 children are unloved, unwanted or not good enough. I once heard a lady saying that because the children she had were so wonderful that is why she wanted more and that is how I look at it
I'm sorry for your loss and hope you will soon be successful in your quest for number 4. I'm sending you some to help you on your way xx

 

[sophster]

Hi

thanks ladies. Emma; thats how I feel also (though when all three of them are fighting; aaagh lol) but some people think that they are making you feel better by being really negative, I'm hoping that I fall pregnant just when I least expect it. I'm under a lot of stress generally due to certain things so that probably doesn't help.

Soph x

 

[jojo-m]

HI Soph I have a little more time to reply to you properly now. I have to say the insenstivity of people sometimes is shocking! I cannot imagine having a mc ever being easy regardless of you having children or not.

You know I sometimes feel guilty about this burning desire to have another baby (I have a little boy who is 4 in April) we have been ttc for 17 cycles now with only a possible early mc in September - I didn't test but only the logical explanation for the period I had according to the Dr.
I feel guilty because its like I should be happy with what i've got, and is he in some way not enough for me? But the truth is like Emma says, your children are so perfect how could you not want another???

You take your time greiving over your lost baby, and if ntnp works for you then super! If you feel like actively trying and you need any support then your in the right place hope you get that bfp soon xxxx