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[Aitch170]

Hi ladies,

I've been around the B&B forums for a little while but now I'm officially over a year TTC. It's been a tough road so far. Every month AF shows I get more frustrated and anxious.

A little about my sitch - I'm nearly 33 and hub is 35. He is overweight and I'm about average. We both work "desk jobs" so quite sedentary. Had one last April but sadly miscarried at 7w. And nothing since. We have had some bad luck with our timing as well, as hubby sometimes needs to travel and a few months it's been exactly around O time.

Yesterday we had our first appt with our GP to figure out what's going on. Our GP ordered a SA for hubby, and blood work for me. I'm also due for my physical anyway so she will examine me. If the SA or bloods don't give any clues she will refer to a specialist.

I know we're all going through the same feelings of frustration alongside hope, so to all of us!

 

[Boston07]

Welcome. I am in the 2WW of the first medicated cycle. I don't know about you, but it was really hard for me to get the ball rolling in terms of seeking medical support, but once I did, it felt great to have a plan in place. Best of luck!

 

[Aitch170]

Thanks Boston Yes, it was definitely hard to get over the idea of "maybe we should see the Dr", as it felt like admitting there was a problem. But surprisingly I feel more positive that we have a plan in place to figure out what's going on, rather than just being upset every month that shows. Hopefully within the month we will have a clearer picture and a plan.

 

[cooch]

I'm sorry your having difficulty. It's really unfair anyone has to go through this. Good luck with your journey xx

 

[cutiecat]

Hi Aitch,

I am in a very similar position - in fact we have just been to our first doctors appointment today after 18months of ttc. I was so nervous going but now I feel really good for going - the doctor was great and has booked me in for the blood tests and dh is booked to give his sample. She is also going to refer us to the fertility specialist now rather than wait for the results first as I said I would be happier to get the ball rolling sooner rather than later.

It's good to know that if there is a problem with one of us at least we are on the right track now. All the best x

 

[aintlifegrand]

Welcome! It can be a frustrating process, but this board is very helpful!

 

[ogthoom]

We are in a similar boat, I waited and waited "patiently" before going to my doctor in January (we are at about 14 months TTC now). For so long it was this looming thing that I tried not to talk about too much with my husband cuz it would just stress him out and make it harder to stay positive and "in the mood" without feeling like it was for alterior motives... He got checked out around November 2011 and is fine. So when we got those results we were like, ok, let's keep on trying.

But since I finally had my consultation with my OB, had blood work done, had an HSG last week that all seems fine... I'm grateful those things are fine. Even though we have no answers it STILL feels better than that whole first year of having this elephant in the room and wondering. I would talk about it with a couple of work friends, and my mom & sister are very respectful, they don't hound me about it. I had some harder times in that first year, but since seeing the doctor, it just feels easier to breathe now like it's out in the open. Maybe part of it is simply what ever happens, happens, and we know we did what we could because we finally got things checked out.