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[Gagrlinpitt]

Hello ladies. My name is Ren (nickname) and I am 30 years young. My husband is 31 and we know we want kids in the near future as we have been married for a bit over 3 years. On my side, there is 5 grandsons that range from 14 to my middle sisters twins that are 6.5 and one granddaughter that is 1.5. On my husband's side there are no grandkids yet. Most of our friends have kids now and we are the last of our group of married friends who don't have kids yet. We decided to TTC starting March 2016 as I want to be a SAHM and we want to try and finish getting out of debt this year. I will be honest.. I'm so torn. I know I want kids and we decided on March, but being a mom scares me so much because it's such a huge responsibility and I just don't want to mess up my kids. I also have found that I a lot of times I get very uncomfortable around my friends kids and get annoyed rather easily with them... I really hope that doesn't mean I'm not meant to have children lol. In all honesty my husband left the decision up to me when I felt ready, and since I'll be 31 in August we decided together we will start trying next year as we only want two anyways.

Im excited to have some support here!

 

[Linzalora]

Hi Ren! Welcome to BnB! I'm 30, too, and TTC our first. All of this baby business goes in stages, so you only have to handle small steps at a time thankfully. For example, you don't have to have to have college funds set aside for your little one in order to conceive. For me, TTC has been a big enough journey alone. My suggestion is take it one step at a time and enjoy the journey!

I have experience charting fertility, taking morning temperatures, and I follow a Primal/Paleo diet.

Please feel free to post any concerns you may have- there's no such thing as a stupid question around here!

Good luck to you and your hubby on this wonderful adventure, and lots of baby dust!

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

Thank you so much!!! I'm so glad to know I'm not the only one out there lol.

 

[Linzalora]

No worries! You are definitely not alone. This forum has been a real lifeline for me, full of sympathetic women with real experiences to share. I've learned more in three months here than six years on my own!

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

That's so reassuring.. I've had plenty of hurdles to overcome... Hyperthyroidism, a car accident that resulted in four pelvic fractures, gaining a bunch of weight, now trying to lose it..
And we aren't even TTC yet..

 

[Linzalora]

Yikes! None of that sounds like much fun at all. Are your fractures healed, or was the accident recent?

My biggest personal hurdle is the endocrine disorder PCOS. When I started Primal eating, though, I was able to drop weight and balance my hormones.

Just a thought- if you're on the birth control pill, you might consider stopping now and use an alternate contraceptive to give your body time to manage it's own cycles.

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

Aww thanks for your concern. Luckily my four fractures are healed but I was told by my orthopedic doctor that depending on both weight I may have to have a C-section.. I'm speaking that I won't have to and everything will be great.

Currently I'm on Mirena.. I've had it going on 6.5 years. I was actually considering taking it out this month or next and getting on the pill.

My obgyn told me in September to start prenatals and January to get off all types of birth control of we are planning to TTC in March...

Have you found primal eating to be a decently smooth transition?

 

[Linzalora]

So glad to hear they are healed!

It took me a long time for my body to get over the pill after taking it for 4 years, but then again I do have a disorder. Still, it might be worth it to make the transition a bit earlier than three months so you can get to know your body's natural rhythm.

Primal was actually pretty easy to transition to, especially since I dropped weight so quickly and instantly had more energy, better sleep, and steady menstrual cycle.

The weirdest part for me was eating way more good fats- like coconut oil, organic butter, and fatty organic meats. I don't crave breads or pastas anymore- they honestly look and taste "fake" to me now.

I maintain my diet by just choosing the most Primal option available to me at each meal. It ends up being 80%-90% Primal approved and I still get to indulge in treats (like sushi) every so often.

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

Thanks for the tip!!

I'll have to look into that. I've heard alot about it... But bread and Ice cream are my downfall

 

[EllieMoon]

Hi! Call me Ellie. I have been married for 10 years. I have 2 children, a 16 and a 13 year old. I thought I was pregnant again, but I do not know any more
Though, this situation, made my husband and I, want to try to have a baby together. This will be his first child, but my 4th pregnancy. My second pregnancy didn't make it at 25 weeks. But I do have 2 healthy children.

My situation is quite crazy, I have lupus, and RA. Yet I have conceived before. Now I could have sworn I was pregnant. I knew this in my heart, and I have every symptom in the book, yet... At 14 dpo, I am still getting a negative! I do not understand? Because I have never in my life being wrong! Each time I have gotten pregnant, I always knew before my positive! Yet this time is different, and I am broken hearted.

So I thought that maybe, I need this support, and some advice. I am very confused! Thank you.