Newly pregnant and bleeding...help!

[akblaze]

Oh no, I'm so sorry that you're not feeling well. Is it morning sickness? Have you had it for a while or is this it just kicking in? I've read somewhere that B vitamins and travel bands that you buy in the chemist can help. And stem ginger biscuits! I know that you mentioned your husband was getting ready to leave when you fell pregnant, is he in the military? Wherever he is, I hope either he or your family/friends are around to take good care of you

It's good to have someone who understands how frightening the spotting is. It's still happening for me (worse in the morning, though the doctor said this is because the blood has had a chance to 'pool' - what a lovely thought! ). I just wish it would stop!

I hope you don't mind yet another rambling on from me but I feel like such a fool. Yesterday morning I woke up at 5.30am with a really sharp pain in my lower left abdomen. I assumed it was a wind pain and continued with my day. Throughout the day it was coming and going, always in the same place and felt like someone had poked me with a knitting needle (not that anyone has ever poked me with a knitting needle before! ).

Anyway, it continued all day every four or five minutes and I just couldn't think what it could be. I was nervous it might be associated with a m/c, but it was just one small stabbing pain, not a cramp. So, I didn't go to the toilet for four hours so I could take another HPT (knowing full well it wouldn't necessarily tell me anything useful but it felt like the only thing I could do.) So, I came home, pee'd like a camel (!) and the line on the FRER was darker than the last test taken two days previously and the Clearblue Digital said 'Pregnant 2-3'. I was actually really happy about this seeing as the last one had said 1-2. So, getting to the point, my hubby advised me to call NHS24 because of the pain. I told him it wasn't that bad but he was worried there could be a problem with one of my tubes and I knew it made sense to speak to someone who might know more about it than me. I called and told them my symptoms but also that I wasn't sure what it was and if this was a normal part of early pregnancy. She told me to go to Accident and Emergency, so I did.

When I got there, the doctor was really horrible. He told me to pee in a cup (which I would say I'm now a black belt in!). I told him I had just gone for a mammoth pee before I left and explained the whole HPT thing. They fed me water until I was able to pee again and by the time I did, it was practically just water that came out (sorry, TMI!). He then came back, gave me a horrible look and told me his HPTs had come back NEGATIVE - as if I was lying!!! He asked if my doctor had taken a pregnancy test and I said no, that she thought I was perfectly capable of peeing on a stick and reading the word 'pregnant'. He then said that their pregnancy test strips aren't as sensitive as HPTs and that HPTs are aimed to 'prey on the fears of vulnerable women' as they find out they are pregnant much sooner than they should and that I shouldn't worry as "it's only a 'clump of cells' right now anyway". I wanted to punch him. He said the pain was probably from my bowels and to go home and come back if the pain got worse. HOW INSENSITIVE AND HORRIBLE!

So, I'm either a 'vulnerable woman who is having my fears preyed upon' or else First Response, Clearblue, supermarkets and internet dip test manufacturers have come up with an elaborate plan to fool me into thinking I'm pregnant.

When I came away I was in floods of tears and poor hubby thought something awful had happened.

I got up this morning, more blood, so decided to have my fears preyed upon once again. Still positive

Anyway, sorry for the War and Peace post! Hope you're taking it easy today and do try those ginger biscuits - I really do think they work! And only five more days till your scan, how exciting! Have you been allowed to take any pictures away with you at any of your scans?

Ohh I'm doing much better today, I think I was getting sick so much because of my migraine. Normally it takes a lot more from a migraine to make me get sick but maybe my body is more sensitive to them? I finally stopped getting sick last night! luckily I haven't had any bad morning sickness through pregnancy! Yeahh, my DH and I got pregnant over his mid tour (also our honeymoon) we had three weeks that we were just praying it happened! and i luckily got a + OPK on the very last day we were together! good timing He'll hopefully be home in May though. He's actually a civilian contractor. A weapons systems expert.. he works on the mobile gun systems (a version of the stryker) aka the big tanks, he works on those guns. lol. The bad thing about the civi job is they are way from home more than the soldiers.. he's been away since January of 2011 and when he gets back to the states he has to go to washington I wish he could come straight home like the soldiers!! I'm pretty much on my own here, but his dad comes to town on the weekends and whenever I need heavy lifting or something he helps me

and definitely, I'm more than happy to be here for you! I was just freaking out about all of my spotting and that was before I really got involved on this forum so I really felt alone and just terrified.. of course then I'd ask mr. google too much stuff and get even more scared!!!

that is absolutely insane what that doctor said to you!!!! I would have been soooo angry!!! and probably would have left there bawling as well!!! How insensitive! I can't believe how doctors just treat pregnant women like that.. honestly I don't think there is a difference with how a woman feels whether she is 4 weeks or 40 weeks! Most women see that positive HPT and they turn into a mom right then! When I had my spotting I told my hubby that if I lost it I'd feel like I had failed as a mom because it's my job to take care of this baby! I know that isn't true but emotionally, that's how I felt! Doctors think just because the baby or "embryo" is four weeks and yeah, a bunch of cells, that we shouldn't care as much but that is absolutely insane!!! Oh I could just punch him!!!! I would definitely request someone else if you have to go back there... definitely don't put up with that! I think I got really lucky that I found a doc that doesn't just shrug off my fears and is seeing me so much! Ahh, I'm just fuming for you!!! what did your hubby say about it when you told him?

Aww, yeah! I'm excited! I always love going and seeing the growth! I gave in and bought a fetal doppler so I FINALLY got to hear the heart beat! I try not to use it too much since they say it's just uncomfortable for the baby, but to use in for a couple minutes to hear the hb is incredible! I got to record it and send my hubby a video of the hb too he was soooo happy to hear it! Also, yeah my doc gives me a couple pictures to take home from my ultrasounds. It's so cool because I have to go so much I have, from my second u/s (since there was nothing in my first), just the teennyyyy little fetal pole, which is just a little speck! haha. and to see the growth from that is just amazing! I'm going to put them all in a "baby's first album" along with belly shots when I eventually start showing!

How is your pain doing now? Definitely DO NOT listen to the doc if he's saying that you might not be pregnant because it's obvious you are because of the HPT's being positive and going from 1-2 to 2-3. ah he's such an idiot!!! Some people should not be doctors!!! I have heard that tests at the doctors office aren't as sensitive as HPT's but that's no reason to be an a$$!!! I'm SOOOOO sorry that you had to go through that!!!! I really do want to go there and punch him for you!!!
I hope you start to feel better and I REALLY hope the spotting stops soon!!!!

 

[Happenstance]

I know what you mean about the 'wet' feeling. It feels awful. From what you've described, yours and mine sound exactly the same! I wish we could go to all our appointments together. I haven't had any cramping either - nothing more than the mild ones I've been getting since just before I found out.

It's really crappy but it is just one of those 'wait-and-see' things. The waiting is excruciating. I don't even want to look at the screen on Monday. My doctor told me to not Google anything either. As soon as someone tells you that you wonder, "Why??" and you assume the worst. Well, that's what I've done. Stupidly, I have Googled a lot and have scared the absolute bejeebus out of myself. I am a barely-functioning emotional wreck to say the very least.

You are in my thoughts and prayers so much. It means the world to know there is someone out there like me. You have all my love and support!

You're completely right, the waiting is the hardest part. And yes, they should let ladies like us take our appointments together so that when one of us forgets to ask a question, the other one remembers! It's also so nice to know that we're not alone with this whole spotting thing - not sure my nerves could cope otherwise.

I'll be praying for a positive scan for you tomorrow and hope it is everything you've hoped for and more. I'm not sure if they let you take a pic or not, but remember to ask for one! I'll be thinking of you and please let me know how it goes. Is it in the morning or afternoon?

Will they give you any answers tomorrow on what they are planning to do for your haematoma?

I know you probably won't get much sleep tonight but try and take it easy and relax as much as possible.

I was 9 weeks along by the time the m/c happened but the sac etc had not grown past 5 and a half weeks.

Had my scan yesterday and saw everything is fine, baby even had a heartbeat already!!! So it seems that the bleeding is just one of those things this time around - keep positive!! Good luck for your scan... the waiting is so hard isn't it!

Congratulations on your scan Rachelkt! A heartbeat already, that's AMAZING news! You must be beyond excited now! Have you told friends and family yet? Or are you waiting to tell people?

And, yes, the waiting is almost unbearable - I can't seem to think of anything else. When do you get your next scan?

Ohh I'm doing much better today, I think I was getting sick so much because of my migraine. Normally it takes a lot more from a migraine to make me get sick but maybe my body is more sensitive to them? I finally stopped getting sick last night! luckily I haven't had any bad morning sickness through pregnancy! Yeahh, my DH and I got pregnant over his mid tour (also our honeymoon) we had three weeks that we were just praying it happened! and i luckily got a + OPK on the very last day we were together! good timing He'll hopefully be home in May though. He's actually a civilian contractor. A weapons systems expert.. he works on the mobile gun systems (a version of the stryker) aka the big tanks, he works on those guns. lol. The bad thing about the civi job is they are way from home more than the soldiers.. he's been away since January of 2011 and when he gets back to the states he has to go to washington I wish he could come straight home like the soldiers!! I'm pretty much on my own here, but his dad comes to town on the weekends and whenever I need heavy lifting or something he helps me

and definitely, I'm more than happy to be here for you! I was just freaking out about all of my spotting and that was before I really got involved on this forum so I really felt alone and just terrified.. of course then I'd ask mr. google too much stuff and get even more scared!!!

that is absolutely insane what that doctor said to you!!!! I would have been soooo angry!!! and probably would have left there bawling as well!!! How insensitive! I can't believe how doctors just treat pregnant women like that.. honestly I don't think there is a difference with how a woman feels whether she is 4 weeks or 40 weeks! Most women see that positive HPT and they turn into a mom right then! When I had my spotting I told my hubby that if I lost it I'd feel like I had failed as a mom because it's my job to take care of this baby! I know that isn't true but emotionally, that's how I felt! Doctors think just because the baby or "embryo" is four weeks and yeah, a bunch of cells, that we shouldn't care as much but that is absolutely insane!!! Oh I could just punch him!!!! I would definitely request someone else if you have to go back there... definitely don't put up with that! I think I got really lucky that I found a doc that doesn't just shrug off my fears and is seeing me so much! Ahh, I'm just fuming for you!!! what did your hubby say about it when you told him?

Aww, yeah! I'm excited! I always love going and seeing the growth! I gave in and bought a fetal doppler so I FINALLY got to hear the heart beat! I try not to use it too much since they say it's just uncomfortable for the baby, but to use in for a couple minutes to hear the hb is incredible! I got to record it and send my hubby a video of the hb too he was soooo happy to hear it! Also, yeah my doc gives me a couple pictures to take home from my ultrasounds. It's so cool because I have to go so much I have, from my second u/s (since there was nothing in my first), just the teennyyyy little fetal pole, which is just a little speck! haha. and to see the growth from that is just amazing! I'm going to put them all in a "baby's first album" along with belly shots when I eventually start showing!

How is your pain doing now? Definitely DO NOT listen to the doc if he's saying that you might not be pregnant because it's obvious you are because of the HPT's being positive and going from 1-2 to 2-3. ah he's such an idiot!!! Some people should not be doctors!!! I have heard that tests at the doctors office aren't as sensitive as HPT's but that's no reason to be an a$$!!! I'm SOOOOO sorry that you had to go through that!!!! I really do want to go there and punch him for you!!!
I hope you start to feel better and I REALLY hope the spotting stops soon!!!!

I am so happy you're feeling much better today - a headache and sickness at the same time, not good. When did you start getting morning sickness? Did you try the ginger biscuits?!

How lovely to have a honeymoon baby - that's really special. And you're so lucky all your dates worked in while he was still here. Working on big tanks sounds like a bloke's dream job but it must be really hard not having him around a lot. My BIL is a major in the army and gets sent away from time to time, but I didn't realise the civilians had to work away so much - that's awful. The military life can be really difficult at times (my SIL finds it really hard to be moving around so much and being so far away from family) so I have the utmost respect for everyone who makes these sacrifices to make things safer and better for the rest of us. A big thumbs up to you and your hubby Do you live on a base or normal housing? How long have you been based where you are?

It's good that his dad is around from time to time but please make sure you take it easy. Us women tend to put on a brave smile and adopt an 'I can do it on my own' type of attitude when we should really be asking for help. Just relax, put your feet up (as much as you can) and make sure you're asking people for help when you need it. And I'm ALWAYS here at the other end of a computer screen That doesn't help when it comes to heavy lifting (not that I could anyway!) but I'll be your emotional support!

As for Dr Google, I think there should be a warning screen before the search screen. It should have a multiple choice questionnaire and if you answer 'pregnant' and 'spotting' then it should just kick you out automatically! I might suggest that to the creators...

Now onto the doppler...WOW!!! That's incredible!!! How far along were you when you were able to find a heartbeat? That would have been an incredible present to send your DH - I bet he was dancing on the ceiling! And that's an excellent idea about keeping it all together in a little baby album, it will be a complete life story and so lovely to keep. My SIL made a quilt for her DH and put pictures of the baby, scan pics etc on it (she used some sort of photo printing paper that you can put onto cloth - not sure how it works!) and then gave it to him before he headed to Afghanistan. He LOVED it! And the kids now have it on their bedspreads.

AFM: still spotting and it's still red today. I'm not sure if that's a bad sign. I'm trying to stay positive and looking out for either heavier bleeding or cramping. I just wish it would go away. Or at least go back to brown. The good news is the pain in my lower left side is all but gone - so I obviously just over-reacted! I have, however, spent even more money on yet more HPTs. DH thinks I'm crazy but it's almost like a bad habit that I can't break. I need to know the line is as dark or darker than before and if it starts going lighter then I'll know something's happened. I know it's crazy and probably driving me nuts rather than helping but I just have to. I took another one this morning and the line is darker than two days ago. My DH says I should stop and just wait for my scan but I told him if he wants that to happen then he'll have to wake up at 6am every morning too and escort me on every bathroom break.

I hope you continue to feel better!

 

[akblaze]

I am so happy you're feeling much better today - a headache and sickness at the same time, not good. When did you start getting morning sickness? Did you try the ginger biscuits?!

How lovely to have a honeymoon baby - that's really special. And you're so lucky all your dates worked in while he was still here. Working on big tanks sounds like a bloke's dream job but it must be really hard not having him around a lot. My BIL is a major in the army and gets sent away from time to time, but I didn't realise the civilians had to work away so much - that's awful. The military life can be really difficult at times (my SIL finds it really hard to be moving around so much and being so far away from family) so I have the utmost respect for everyone who makes these sacrifices to make things safer and better for the rest of us. A big thumbs up to you and your hubby Do you live on a base or normal housing? How long have you been based where you are?

It's good that his dad is around from time to time but please make sure you take it easy. Us women tend to put on a brave smile and adopt an 'I can do it on my own' type of attitude when we should really be asking for help. Just relax, put your feet up (as much as you can) and make sure you're asking people for help when you need it. And I'm ALWAYS here at the other end of a computer screen That doesn't help when it comes to heavy lifting (not that I could anyway!) but I'll be your emotional support!

As for Dr Google, I think there should be a warning screen before the search screen. It should have a multiple choice questionnaire and if you answer 'pregnant' and 'spotting' then it should just kick you out automatically! I might suggest that to the creators...

Now onto the doppler...WOW!!! That's incredible!!! How far along were you when you were able to find a heartbeat? That would have been an incredible present to send your DH - I bet he was dancing on the ceiling! And that's an excellent idea about keeping it all together in a little baby album, it will be a complete life story and so lovely to keep. My SIL made a quilt for her DH and put pictures of the baby, scan pics etc on it (she used some sort of photo printing paper that you can put onto cloth - not sure how it works!) and then gave it to him before he headed to Afghanistan. He LOVED it! And the kids now have it on their bedspreads.

AFM: still spotting and it's still red today. I'm not sure if that's a bad sign. I'm trying to stay positive and looking out for either heavier bleeding or cramping. I just wish it would go away. Or at least go back to brown. The good news is the pain in my lower left side is all but gone - so I obviously just over-reacted! I have, however, spent even more money on yet more HPTs. DH thinks I'm crazy but it's almost like a bad habit that I can't break. I need to know the line is as dark or darker than before and if it starts going lighter then I'll know something's happened. I know it's crazy and probably driving me nuts rather than helping but I just have to. I took another one this morning and the line is darker than two days ago. My DH says I should stop and just wait for my scan but I told him if he wants that to happen then he'll have to wake up at 6am every morning too and escort me on every bathroom break.

I hope you continue to feel better!

My morning sickness hasn't been too bad, I don't think. I know a lot of women have it way worse.. the worst with me was probably between weeks 6-10 but I still have some nausea every now and then.. I'm mainly so tired and I get a lot of headaches!

Yeah, my DH loves his job. Just doesn't like to be away from home for so long, especially since I'm pregnant. I know he feels so bad when I'm not feeling well but he's still so much support! Because he's a civilian he doesn't have to move around. He's been in AK for 14 years now and I've been here for 6. Both of us came up here because our fathers we're both military (mine still is in the army). I didn't like moving around so much growing up, it's definitely hard being a military family so I'm thankful that with his job we don't have to move. But we also don't get any military benefits so we own a house off base This is his second deployment, the first was to Iraq. We're not sure if he'll do another one since the little one is on the way but (as much as I don't want him to) I'll support him if he does! It takes a lot for a civilian to choose to deploy, I think.
That is so cool what your SIL did with the blanket! I will have to look into that!

yes, I'm so STUBBORN! A few weeks ago I bought a new microwave and decided to carry it inside my house by myself and not wait a few days for my FIL to come over... Caused me to spot and just terrified me! I felt soooo guilty and my DH was so mad at me!!!! So I haven't done any heavy lifting since!!!
And you better not do any either, kick ur feet up and relax! Have your DH give you lots of massages! And I'll be on here to be your emotional support too!

On the doppler, I found the heart beat at about 10.4 weeks. (That's the day I got it) But I've seen a lot of people on here finding the heart beat as soon as 8 or 9 weeks! I love to listen just for a couple minutes because it really gives me some reassurance!

I think it's a really good sign that there is no pain or cramping with your spotting still! I know it still doesn't make it any easier! I really don't blame you for buying more HPT's because I would probably do the same thing! I don't think men realize how hard the waiting game is for us.. whether it's just waiting to find out if your pregnant or waiting to see if the pregnancy will stick! It's much more than an emotional roller coaster! My week by week pregnancy book says this week, that if I were to lose the baby I would be able to see whether it's a boy or girl! I'm thinking, whaaat why do you say that in a pregnancy book!? But to see that the line is getting darker than a couple days ago hopefully gave you a little smile!!! Is there any way you can get your scan any earlier!? Have you tried calling and just expressing how worried you are? Of course if you go too early for a scan you might not see anything, that's what happened with me and that just made me worry way more! I can't wait for your scan!!!!!

Lots and lots of sticky bean dust your way!!!!

 

[Happenstance]

My morning sickness hasn't been too bad, I don't think. I know a lot of women have it way worse.. the worst with me was probably between weeks 6-10 but I still have some nausea every now and then.. I'm mainly so tired and I get a lot of headaches!

Yeah, my DH loves his job. Just doesn't like to be away from home for so long, especially since I'm pregnant. I know he feels so bad when I'm not feeling well but he's still so much support! Because he's a civilian he doesn't have to move around. He's been in AK for 14 years now and I've been here for 6. Both of us came up here because our fathers we're both military (mine still is in the army). I didn't like moving around so much growing up, it's definitely hard being a military family so I'm thankful that with his job we don't have to move. But we also don't get any military benefits so we own a house off base This is his second deployment, the first was to Iraq. We're not sure if he'll do another one since the little one is on the way but (as much as I don't want him to) I'll support him if he does! It takes a lot for a civilian to choose to deploy, I think.
That is so cool what your SIL did with the blanket! I will have to look into that!

yes, I'm so STUBBORN! A few weeks ago I bought a new microwave and decided to carry it inside my house by myself and not wait a few days for my FIL to come over... Caused me to spot and just terrified me! I felt soooo guilty and my DH was so mad at me!!!! So I haven't done any heavy lifting since!!!
And you better not do any either, kick ur feet up and relax! Have your DH give you lots of massages! And I'll be on here to be your emotional support too!

On the doppler, I found the heart beat at about 10.4 weeks. (That's the day I got it) But I've seen a lot of people on here finding the heart beat as soon as 8 or 9 weeks! I love to listen just for a couple minutes because it really gives me some reassurance!

I think it's a really good sign that there is no pain or cramping with your spotting still! I know it still doesn't make it any easier! I really don't blame you for buying more HPT's because I would probably do the same thing! I don't think men realize how hard the waiting game is for us.. whether it's just waiting to find out if your pregnant or waiting to see if the pregnancy will stick! It's much more than an emotional roller coaster! My week by week pregnancy book says this week, that if I were to lose the baby I would be able to see whether it's a boy or girl! I'm thinking, whaaat why do you say that in a pregnancy book!? But to see that the line is getting darker than a couple days ago hopefully gave you a little smile!!! Is there any way you can get your scan any earlier!? Have you tried calling and just expressing how worried you are? Of course if you go too early for a scan you might not see anything, that's what happened with me and that just made me worry way more! I can't wait for your scan!!!!!

Lots and lots of sticky bean dust your way!!!!

I'm glad you don't have to move around as much but it's really unfair that your DH has to work away so much and then not get to come straight home like the soldiers do. Your DH must be missing you like crazy - and even more so now! So, the fact that this is a honeymoon baby means you got married recently (I know, I know, I should get a job in CSI!!!). Where did you get hitched? Where did you go for honeymoon? I LOVE wedding chat!

I can't believe you tried to carry a MICROWAVE!!! If I hear of anything like that again there'll be trouble! You must have been petrified when you saw more spotting - just remember to take it easy. I know it's hard, believe me! I'm sure your FIL is only too happy to help and you should take all the help you can get. Is your own dad still based there or is he based elsewhere now?

I think the doppler is an amazing thing - 10 weeks is really early to hear it as well. I've read of some women who've been well into their second trimester before they hear anything.

As for the comment in your pregnancy book, that's awful. What on earth were they thinking when they wrote that? As if you want to read those sort of things! I would put the book down and go and get a different one that at least knows that when you pay your money you want to read nice things!!!

Where I live they don't scan before six weeks so that's the very earliest I'll find out anything. Each morning I see the spotting and wonder if it's already over. Bought another two digital tests today though. I'm planning on taking one in the next couple of days and hoping to see the count rise. I've got my fingers and toes crossed!

Do you have any pics that you've had taken from the scans? I'd love to see them!

In the meantime, take it easy and I hope your headaches and morning sickness are staying away. Sending love and

 

[freddie]

Congratulations on your scan Rachelkt! A heartbeat already, that's AMAZING news! You must be beyond excited now! Have you told friends and family yet? Or are you waiting to tell people?

And, yes, the waiting is almost unbearable - I can't seem to think of anything else. When do you get your next scan?

Thank you We told our parents straight away and I have also told a few of my closest friends, which I didn't do last time but I told them about the m/c afterwards so it seems silly not to tell them about the pregnancy this time round We will tell everyone else after the 12 week scan (fingers crossed!)

I have a follow up scan booked for 3rd February - they want to check growth and make sure the heartbeat gets stronger... Hopefully all will be well again!

God, these first weeks of pregnancy are the scariest things ever aren't they?! Do you think once we get past the 12 week mark we will stop worrying?!

 

[akblaze]

I'm glad you don't have to move around as much but it's really unfair that your DH has to work away so much and then not get to come straight home like the soldiers do. Your DH must be missing you like crazy - and even more so now! So, the fact that this is a honeymoon baby means you got married recently (I know, I know, I should get a job in CSI!!!). Where did you get hitched? Where did you go for honeymoon? I LOVE wedding chat!

I can't believe you tried to carry a MICROWAVE!!! If I hear of anything like that again there'll be trouble! You must have been petrified when you saw more spotting - just remember to take it easy. I know it's hard, believe me! I'm sure your FIL is only too happy to help and you should take all the help you can get. Is your own dad still based there or is he based elsewhere now?

I think the doppler is an amazing thing - 10 weeks is really early to hear it as well. I've read of some women who've been well into their second trimester before they hear anything.

As for the comment in your pregnancy book, that's awful. What on earth were they thinking when they wrote that? As if you want to read those sort of things! I would put the book down and go and get a different one that at least knows that when you pay your money you want to read nice things!!!

Where I live they don't scan before six weeks so that's the very earliest I'll find out anything. Each morning I see the spotting and wonder if it's already over. Bought another two digital tests today though. I'm planning on taking one in the next couple of days and hoping to see the count rise. I've got my fingers and toes crossed!

Do you have any pics that you've had taken from the scans? I'd love to see them!

In the meantime, take it easy and I hope your headaches and morning sickness are staying away. Sending love and

Yeah, I was told after our R&R vaca that the second half would go much faster, but no way! It's going sooo much slower!!! Feels like it's going to be another lifetime until he's home! We actually got married last May. We were going to wait until after the deployment but decided, what the heck. So, when I flew down to washington after my classes got out we got hitched Just a justice of the peace but it was perfect.. then after that we went straight to mcdonalds for breakfast! We didn't tell our families that we were doing it earlier, we just called them after and said "we got married!" Luckily they we're all very happy since we all get along. We were going to have a ceremony when he got back but with baby on the way we're going to wait. For his R&R/our honeymoon we went to Florida and then did a cruise to the Bahamas, St. Maarten, and St. Thomas.. but because of a storm a ways away causing 30ft swells we had to skip the bahamas. It was a blast! If he is down in washington for more than a couple weeks then I will get to fly down again.. I'm kind of hoping I do because once baby comes our vacations will be few and far between I'm sure!

I know! My father in law won't even let me plow the driveway because he said I don't need to go out there bouncing around on it I just have pride issues and like to do things on my own, however after the bleeding after the microwave.. I've learned that I need to suck it up and ask for help! This baby comes first!

I will definitely keep my fingers and toes crossed for you!!! Let me know if the count rises! I'm sure it will! I never knew about those digi tests that estimate how far along you are!! I haven't seen them at any stores here.. I would probably be addicted to them! Is your spotting still the same? I'm going to jump for joy when you get your scan and see that the little one is okay!!! It's not too far away!!

I do have pictures I can post a couple! the little one is still measuring a week small, I know I can't actually be a week behind my dates since the last day we were together was nov. 15. My doc doesn't seem too worried though. So I've quit worrying.. I think baby just took it's time getting settled.. of course that's what I tell myself. also my hubby and I are both very small people so I try to think of excuses for the baby to measure small anyways! the first one is just the teeny fetal pole and the third is my favorite because (baby is head down) and you can see the little arm buds and where the feet will be

sending lots of sticky bean dust!!!

 

[Happenstance]

Thank you We told our parents straight away and I have also told a few of my closest friends, which I didn't do last time but I told them about the m/c afterwards so it seems silly not to tell them about the pregnancy this time round We will tell everyone else after the 12 week scan (fingers crossed!)

I have a follow up scan booked for 3rd February - they want to check growth and make sure the heartbeat gets stronger... Hopefully all will be well again!

God, these first weeks of pregnancy are the scariest things ever aren't they?! Do you think once we get past the 12 week mark we will stop worrying?!

Your parents and friends must be so excited for you. I know what you mean about the fact that the last time you shared the news with them anyway so it seems silly not too this time. So far, I've only told my mum. My dad and DH's dad can not keep a secret and so we're just keeping it quiet just now. It's killing my mum not being able to tell my dad, and I want to tell him too, but I just want to wait for another week until I see what happens at the scan. DH is itching to tell everybody. I wouldn't be surprised if he takes out a billboard somewhere

It's great that you have another scan so soon as it'll really put your mind at ease. I'm positive that little baby is getting bigger and stronger as we speak (or type!).

And no, I don't think the worrying will stop after 12 weeks, although I really hope it does. My mum told me that the positive pregnancy test is the start of a lifetime of worrying that never really stops - and I'm 30 now! However, she said all the great parts make the worrying very worthwhile

I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Let me know how your next scan goes!

Yeah, I was told after our R&R vaca that the second half would go much faster, but no way! It's going sooo much slower!!! Feels like it's going to be another lifetime until he's home! We actually got married last May. We were going to wait until after the deployment but decided, what the heck. So, when I flew down to washington after my classes got out we got hitched Just a justice of the peace but it was perfect.. then after that we went straight to mcdonalds for breakfast! We didn't tell our families that we were doing it earlier, we just called them after and said "we got married!" Luckily they we're all very happy since we all get along. We were going to have a ceremony when he got back but with baby on the way we're going to wait. For his R&R/our honeymoon we went to Florida and then did a cruise to the Bahamas, St. Maarten, and St. Thomas.. but because of a storm a ways away causing 30ft swells we had to skip the bahamas. It was a blast! If he is down in washington for more than a couple weeks then I will get to fly down again.. I'm kind of hoping I do because once baby comes our vacations will be few and far between I'm sure!

I know! My father in law won't even let me plow the driveway because he said I don't need to go out there bouncing around on it I just have pride issues and like to do things on my own, however after the bleeding after the microwave.. I've learned that I need to suck it up and ask for help! This baby comes first!

I will definitely keep my fingers and toes crossed for you!!! Let me know if the count rises! I'm sure it will! I never knew about those digi tests that estimate how far along you are!! I haven't seen them at any stores here.. I would probably be addicted to them! Is your spotting still the same? I'm going to jump for joy when you get your scan and see that the little one is okay!!! It's not too far away!!

I do have pictures I can post a couple! the little one is still measuring a week small, I know I can't actually be a week behind my dates since the last day we were together was nov. 15. My doc doesn't seem too worried though. So I've quit worrying.. I think baby just took it's time getting settled.. of course that's what I tell myself. also my hubby and I are both very small people so I try to think of excuses for the baby to measure small anyways! the first one is just the teeny fetal pole and the third is my favorite because (baby is head down) and you can see the little arm buds and where the feet will be

sending lots of sticky bean dust!!!

First of all, WOW!!! Those scan pics are AMAZING! You're right, you can totally see a head and leg/arm buds in the third one. That's just incredible. I can't believe how much babies grow in such a small amount of time. How far along were you when each of the scan pics were taken?

I think that's an amazing way to get married. And a McDonald's breakfast afterwards - your DH is a real romantic I think that would have been just perfect and I'm glad your families weren't upset to miss it. That shows that they truly love you both as they just want you both to be happy. We had a small wedding too and then went on a fabulous honeymoon to San Francisco, Hawaii and Vegas - it was great! I would love to do the cruise you guys did, it must have been absolutely wonderful. And I know what you mean about making the most of holidays before the baby arrives - DH is already trying to talk me into a trip. I'm like, come on, give me five minutes to actually be pregnant first!

I have pride issues too, I'm so stubborn and independent and I hate people doing things for me. However, I'm putting that aside for now as you're right, our little beans come first. I'm glad your FIL is looking after you really well, that's exactly what you need.

As for my spotting, I thought it was a bit lighter yesterday and it went from red to brown. However, it's a bit heavier again today and back to red again. I had really built my hopes up yesterday that it might be coming to an end, but sadly not. I'm just trying to take one day at a time just now. But it's hard.

When was the last time you used your doppler? I think I would be using it all the time!!! And please don't be worried that your baby is measuring slightly small, my friend was the same and there was absolutely nothing wrong. She's now got a very healthy little boy. So just relax and think of how strong your baby's heartbeat is.

Thanks for posting those pics - they're absolutely fantastic. I just can't get over how advanced the third scan pic is. Were they all taken two weeks apart? e.g. scan 1: 6 wks; scan 2: 8 wks; scan 3: 10 wks? Or have I got that wrong?

Hope you're taking it easy. Sending you

 

[akblaze]

First of all, WOW!!! Those scan pics are AMAZING! You're right, you can totally see a head and leg/arm buds in the third one. That's just incredible. I can't believe how much babies grow in such a small amount of time. How far along were you when each of the scan pics were taken?

I think that's an amazing way to get married. And a McDonald's breakfast afterwards - your DH is a real romantic I think that would have been just perfect and I'm glad your families weren't upset to miss it. That shows that they truly love you both as they just want you both to be happy. We had a small wedding too and then went on a fabulous honeymoon to San Francisco, Hawaii and Vegas - it was great! I would love to do the cruise you guys did, it must have been absolutely wonderful. And I know what you mean about making the most of holidays before the baby arrives - DH is already trying to talk me into a trip. I'm like, come on, give me five minutes to actually be pregnant first!

I have pride issues too, I'm so stubborn and independent and I hate people doing things for me. However, I'm putting that aside for now as you're right, our little beans come first. I'm glad your FIL is looking after you really well, that's exactly what you need.

As for my spotting, I thought it was a bit lighter yesterday and it went from red to brown. However, it's a bit heavier again today and back to red again. I had really built my hopes up yesterday that it might be coming to an end, but sadly not. I'm just trying to take one day at a time just now. But it's hard.

When was the last time you used your doppler? I think I would be using it all the time!!! And please don't be worried that your baby is measuring slightly small, my friend was the same and there was absolutely nothing wrong. She's now got a very healthy little boy. So just relax and think of how strong your baby's heartbeat is.

Thanks for posting those pics - they're absolutely fantastic. I just can't get over how advanced the third scan pic is. Were they all taken two weeks apart? e.g. scan 1: 6 wks; scan 2: 8 wks; scan 3: 10 wks? Or have I got that wrong?

Hope you're taking it easy. Sending you

Thank you! I love seeing the progress in each of the ultrasounds! the ultrasounds were two weeks apart but baby measured a little off, baby measures in them: 5.6, 7.2, and 9.3. I think I got them done at 6 weeks, 8 weeks, and 10 weeks (by my dates)

Haha, yeah he's not really the naturally romantic kind. the first time he proposed was on our couch (without a ring) with a budlight in one hand and scratching his junk in the other of course those are the simple reasons why I love him! He did better after getting the ring and got down on his knee. It would be so cool to go to Cali and Vegas, that sounds like a wonderful honeymoon. And Hawaii is just beautiful! How long have you and your hubby been together? Where did you guys meet!?

I found letting go of my pride issues hard until the spotting from carrying the microwave. Does your hubby help you a lot? I can't wait until my hubby is home so I can get foot rubs and belly rubs!!!! I'll just tell him that little peanut loves them!

The last time I used the doppler was last night I try not to use it everyday because I heard it's uncomfortable for the little one. It's so hard not to though! so, I only listen for a couple minutes then I put it away. But it makes me so happy to hear it! Like all the worries of the pregnancy disappear while listening to the hb because I know he/she is okay! I really recommend getting one! I got the sonoline B off of fetaldoppler.net but they have them on a lot of other sites too like ebay, amazon, etc.

I'm so sorry your still spotting!!! I really hope it stops soon! It never gets easy.. but your right, the only thing you can do is take it one day at a time. I remember when I was spotting, my mom kept telling me that if I lost the baby it's juts natures way of getting rid of a non viable pregnancy. Ugh, so didn't help! But for some reason that's still what I kept telling myself, I think to try and make myself accept it. It really is heartbreaking. Everyday is one day closer to being in the clear though! And I'm being positive that your little one will be okay! It's great that you don't have cramping with the spotting! Welcome to motherhood our little ones are already causing us to have heart attacks!
your ultrasound is early next week isn't it!? I'm so excited!!! Is your hubby going to go with you?

I hope your getting lots of rest!! Sending sticky bean dust and lots of

 

[Happenstance]

Thank you! I love seeing the progress in each of the ultrasounds! the ultrasounds were two weeks apart but baby measured a little off, baby measures in them: 5.6, 7.2, and 9.3. I think I got them done at 6 weeks, 8 weeks, and 10 weeks (by my dates)

Haha, yeah he's not really the naturally romantic kind. the first time he proposed was on our couch (without a ring) with a budlight in one hand and scratching his junk in the other of course those are the simple reasons why I love him! He did better after getting the ring and got down on his knee. It would be so cool to go to Cali and Vegas, that sounds like a wonderful honeymoon. And Hawaii is just beautiful! How long have you and your hubby been together? Where did you guys meet!?

I found letting go of my pride issues hard until the spotting from carrying the microwave. Does your hubby help you a lot? I can't wait until my hubby is home so I can get foot rubs and belly rubs!!!! I'll just tell him that little peanut loves them!

The last time I used the doppler was last night I try not to use it everyday because I heard it's uncomfortable for the little one. It's so hard not to though! so, I only listen for a couple minutes then I put it away. But it makes me so happy to hear it! Like all the worries of the pregnancy disappear while listening to the hb because I know he/she is okay! I really recommend getting one! I got the sonoline B off of fetaldoppler.net but they have them on a lot of other sites too like ebay, amazon, etc.

I'm so sorry your still spotting!!! I really hope it stops soon! It never gets easy.. but your right, the only thing you can do is take it one day at a time. I remember when I was spotting, my mom kept telling me that if I lost the baby it's juts natures way of getting rid of a non viable pregnancy. Ugh, so didn't help! But for some reason that's still what I kept telling myself, I think to try and make myself accept it. It really is heartbreaking. Everyday is one day closer to being in the clear though! And I'm being positive that your little one will be okay! It's great that you don't have cramping with the spotting! Welcome to motherhood our little ones are already causing us to have heart attacks!
your ultrasound is early next week isn't it!? I'm so excited!!! Is your hubby going to go with you?

I hope your getting lots of rest!! Sending sticky bean dust and lots of

OMG, your DH sounds just like mine! The first time he proposed we were sitting outside a bar and he said 'I'm thinking of getting engaged when we go on holiday next month'. I was like 'who to?'. Then, we went on holiday to New York and, as we were walking through Central Park he turned to me and said 'if we get married, can I still go to the football?'. In my head, I was thinking 'is this it, is this really the romantic proposal!'. We then went and picked my ring and we headed back to the hotel where he immediately threw up! It was soooooooo romantic! Obviously, I now tell people that DH proposed to me during a romantic walk in Central Park - it sounds so much better! DH and I have been together for 10 years and married for four and a half. What about you guys?

I'm so jealous of your doppler. I wish I had some way of checking my LO was alright. Are they quite easy to use?

I know what you mean about the things people say to try and make us feel better. My mum said not to worry and that if it's meant to be, it'll be. Although that's the way I feel, it doesn't make me feel any better when people say it out loud! But like you say, each day is a day closer. I just pray that I get positive news on Tuesday. Oh, now that I come to think of it, I have a question for you. I've read that at my six week scan it might be too early to see anything - apart from maybe a fetal pole. I know you can see the fetal pole in your first scan but I was wondering what that was? Is it part of the sac or is it part of the baby? I suppose I should have queried that before now!!!

Yes, my scan is on Tuesday. DH will take me but I'll go in by myself. Can I ask how long your scan lasted? Also, I've never had an internal scan before, but I imagine it's pretty uncomfortable? DH has been really good at looking after me, it's like it's my birthday every day right now! Oh, I don't know if I mentioned this, but if my little bean sticks in there then it will be due on my birthday! I just pray that it holds on and grows healthy and that I can get a doppler like you to bug the bejeesus out of my baby!

And, yes, welcome to motherhood indeed. I bet both these babies are boys - they're causing us so much hassle already!!!

I've been meaning to ask about the bike in your profile pic - it looks great. Are you and DH both into biking?

How's your headaches and sickness? Hope you and your peanut are doing really, really well

 

[Hit Girl]

Lovely Happenstance,

So exciting about your scan on Tuesday. I understand that you're feeling freaked out about it. At my 5w5d scan I was terrified. (Nothing much has changed there. ) She initially did a tummy scan on me and then the transvaginal one which is pretty much like a probe thing that goes up your hoo-ha. The probe isn't exactly hung like a horse, but it's not like a pencil either. It's bearable. No worse than a pap smear - in fact, a pap smear is much more uncomfortable. With me, it was too early to see the fetal pole (which I am assuming is a fancy schmancy term for the heartbeat). She did see a little sac - she said she 'assumed' that was the sac. (Oh my god - freak out!) Then she also saw this big-ass haematoma in there which she also said 'may' be the start of a miscarriage. Captain fantastic. She was so lovely about it and was apologising so much, saying that it was just a wait-and-see situation. I wouldn't have been there for longer than 30 minutes, but it may have been a lot shorter than that because I was utterly beside myself.

I was completely astounded to the the difference between the first scan and my second on Monday. You will be absolutely fine, beautiful. Damnit, I wish I could be there with you!!!! You could not be any worse than me. I am a complete freaked-out, panic-stricken, worry-wort. I wouldn't be surprised if I develop a massive ulcer from all this. Gah! Tuesday is only a few short days away. xxx

 

[akblaze]

OMG, your DH sounds just like mine! The first time he proposed we were sitting outside a bar and he said 'I'm thinking of getting engaged when we go on holiday next month'. I was like 'who to?'. Then, we went on holiday to New York and, as we were walking through Central Park he turned to me and said 'if we get married, can I still go to the football?'. In my head, I was thinking 'is this it, is this really the romantic proposal!'. We then went and picked my ring and we headed back to the hotel where he immediately threw up! It was soooooooo romantic! Obviously, I now tell people that DH proposed to me during a romantic walk in Central Park - it sounds so much better! DH and I have been together for 10 years and married for four and a half. What about you guys?

I'm so jealous of your doppler. I wish I had some way of checking my LO was alright. Are they quite easy to use?

I know what you mean about the things people say to try and make us feel better. My mum said not to worry and that if it's meant to be, it'll be. Although that's the way I feel, it doesn't make me feel any better when people say it out loud! But like you say, each day is a day closer. I just pray that I get positive news on Tuesday. Oh, now that I come to think of it, I have a question for you. I've read that at my six week scan it might be too early to see anything - apart from maybe a fetal pole. I know you can see the fetal pole in your first scan but I was wondering what that was? Is it part of the sac or is it part of the baby? I suppose I should have queried that before now!!!

Yes, my scan is on Tuesday. DH will take me but I'll go in by myself. Can I ask how long your scan lasted? Also, I've never had an internal scan before, but I imagine it's pretty uncomfortable? DH has been really good at looking after me, it's like it's my birthday every day right now! Oh, I don't know if I mentioned this, but if my little bean sticks in there then it will be due on my birthday! I just pray that it holds on and grows healthy and that I can get a doppler like you to bug the bejeesus out of my baby!

And, yes, welcome to motherhood indeed. I bet both these babies are boys - they're causing us so much hassle already!!!

I've been meaning to ask about the bike in your profile pic - it looks great. Are you and DH both into biking?

How's your headaches and sickness? Hope you and your peanut are doing really, really well

Ahh! haha! That's amazing! They sound sooo much alike! He could've made it sooo romantic in central park too! LOL! sounds exactly like my DH. I do the same thing, I tell them he proposed to me in our yard right by the raspberry bushes that I worked SOOO hard at planting! I don't always mention the first time he asked me and that I was on so much pain killers the second time because I had back surgery the day before! But still, gotta love them! My DH and I have been married since last May and together since March of 2010. If he gets to come home in May that'll be the BEST anniversary present EVER!!! Ten years is a long time!! That's so cute!

The doppler is sooo easy to use! All I do is cover the top of the probe where it's flat with the gel it comes with and turn it on and lately I've been hitting the heart beat spot on! Haven't had a day yet where I can't find it, thank goodness! I was afraid getting one would worry me more than it would benefit me, but I'm so glad I got it!

Ohh now I can't wait for Tuesday! It is really hard to stomach thinking something bad could happen, even now! I still get nervous before ultrasounds! My first ultrasound where it's just the fetal pole, the baby dated 5 weeks 6 days. From what I gather the fetal pole is the embryo at it's smallest visible point to the naked eye. I've heard that some people can see the heart beat in the fetal pole, however in mine we didn't see the heart beat until the next ultrasound when I was 7 weeks. Don't get disheartened if you can't see the heart beat though! I was so excited just seeing the little speck of baby (well, embryo but to me BABY!)

That's good that your DH is going to take you!! The scans are always pretty quick, no more than ten minutes! Mainly just measurements and pictures. She looks around to make sure everything looks okay and of course I just sit and stare in awe!The internal exams aren't too bad. The first couple times were the most uncomfortable but I think they are easier now because I know what to expect. That's so cool that your little bean will be due on your birthday!!!! What a wonderful birthday present! That's gotta be a good sign, right!? I have complete faith that your little bean will stick! then you can get a doppler and bug the heck out of him/her!!

We both picked up riding motorcycles the summer of 2010 when we started dating. It was a blast! The riding season is short here in Alaska but still just amazing! It's sad that I won't ride this summer but VERY much worth it! Of course, I will probably still be butt hurt and jealous when my DH goes out riding! I already warned him!

I'm doing much better lately! Still tired a lot, but it doesn't seem to be quite as bad! I'm hoping to get more energy back as I get closer to the second trimester (keeping my fingers crossed!)
How about you? How are you and your little bean feeling symptom wise? and the spotting? I really really hope it stops sooooon!!! Every time I get on I cross my fingers that your post will say that it stopped!!!

alright, enough rambling for one night! haha!
Take care, get some rest, and I'll be sending lots of love and hugs!

 

[Happenstance]

Lovely Happenstance,

So exciting about your scan on Tuesday. I understand that you're feeling freaked out about it. At my 5w5d scan I was terrified. (Nothing much has changed there. ) She initially did a tummy scan on me and then the transvaginal one which is pretty much like a probe thing that goes up your hoo-ha. The probe isn't exactly hung like a horse, but it's not like a pencil either. It's bearable. No worse than a pap smear - in fact, a pap smear is much more uncomfortable. With me, it was too early to see the fetal pole (which I am assuming is a fancy schmancy term for the heartbeat). She did see a little sac - she said she 'assumed' that was the sac. (Oh my god - freak out!) Then she also saw this big-ass haematoma in there which she also said 'may' be the start of a miscarriage. Captain fantastic. She was so lovely about it and was apologising so much, saying that it was just a wait-and-see situation. I wouldn't have been there for longer than 30 minutes, but it may have been a lot shorter than that because I was utterly beside myself.

I was completely astounded to the the difference between the first scan and my second on Monday. You will be absolutely fine, beautiful. Damnit, I wish I could be there with you!!!! You could not be any worse than me. I am a complete freaked-out, panic-stricken, worry-wort. I wouldn't be surprised if I develop a massive ulcer from all this. Gah! Tuesday is only a few short days away. xxx

Please tell Mr Hit Girl thank you for letting you borrow his computer so I can see the pics. They're AMAZING! I have absolutely no idea what I'm looking at though - I pretty much need someone with a pointer pen and arrows!!! I think it has your eyes right enough! Did they get those pics from an internal scan or from a tummy ultrasound (I'm sure there's a much more scientific name for it!). Are they going to continue scanning you regularly until they know the haematoma has gone?

God, to be told that they could see a potential m/c afoot at your first scan must have been awful. I've kind of started to build myself up for the worst but in reality, I'll be completely devastated if they give me bad news. On the other hand, my addiction to digi HPTs is starting to pay off - today I got my 3+!!! That's gotta be a good sign surely!!!

How are you doing? Do you feel more relaxed now you've heard a heartbeat or are you still freaking out? Oh, and how's the spotting? (PS I'm inspired by your profile pic to create a new superhero called Mrs Spotty whose aim is to rid the world of spotting. What do you think? )

 

[Happenstance]

Ahh! haha! That's amazing! They sound sooo much alike! He could've made it sooo romantic in central park too! LOL! sounds exactly like my DH. I do the same thing, I tell them he proposed to me in our yard right by the raspberry bushes that I worked SOOO hard at planting! I don't always mention the first time he asked me and that I was on so much pain killers the second time because I had back surgery the day before! But still, gotta love them! My DH and I have been married since last May and together since March of 2010. If he gets to come home in May that'll be the BEST anniversary present EVER!!! Ten years is a long time!! That's so cute!

The doppler is sooo easy to use! All I do is cover the top of the probe where it's flat with the gel it comes with and turn it on and lately I've been hitting the heart beat spot on! Haven't had a day yet where I can't find it, thank goodness! I was afraid getting one would worry me more than it would benefit me, but I'm so glad I got it!

Ohh now I can't wait for Tuesday! It is really hard to stomach thinking something bad could happen, even now! I still get nervous before ultrasounds! My first ultrasound where it's just the fetal pole, the baby dated 5 weeks 6 days. From what I gather the fetal pole is the embryo at it's smallest visible point to the naked eye. I've heard that some people can see the heart beat in the fetal pole, however in mine we didn't see the heart beat until the next ultrasound when I was 7 weeks. Don't get disheartened if you can't see the heart beat though! I was so excited just seeing the little speck of baby (well, embryo but to me BABY!)

That's good that your DH is going to take you!! The scans are always pretty quick, no more than ten minutes! Mainly just measurements and pictures. She looks around to make sure everything looks okay and of course I just sit and stare in awe!The internal exams aren't too bad. The first couple times were the most uncomfortable but I think they are easier now because I know what to expect. That's so cool that your little bean will be due on your birthday!!!! What a wonderful birthday present! That's gotta be a good sign, right!? I have complete faith that your little bean will stick! then you can get a doppler and bug the heck out of him/her!!

We both picked up riding motorcycles the summer of 2010 when we started dating. It was a blast! The riding season is short here in Alaska but still just amazing! It's sad that I won't ride this summer but VERY much worth it! Of course, I will probably still be butt hurt and jealous when my DH goes out riding! I already warned him!

I'm doing much better lately! Still tired a lot, but it doesn't seem to be quite as bad! I'm hoping to get more energy back as I get closer to the second trimester (keeping my fingers crossed!)
How about you? How are you and your little bean feeling symptom wise? and the spotting? I really really hope it stops sooooon!!! Every time I get on I cross my fingers that your post will say that it stopped!!!

alright, enough rambling for one night! haha!
Take care, get some rest, and I'll be sending lots of love and hugs!

When do you find out if your DH gets to come home in May? Will you find out soon or nearer the time? It seems so far away and I can only imagine how hard it must be for you. Do you get to speak to him regularly? Or email?

I've been warned by loads of people not to expect too much at the first scan but to be honest, I'll be happy if they can confirm there's something there. My big worry is if they see an empty uterus. Please, please, please, please, please be okay. I bought a book that shows how babies grow week by week in the womb - it's absolutely fascinating! I've read it twice already!!! You and Hit Girl must be over the moon having your very own scan pics - I'm very jealous!

I've never been on a motorbike before but I've always wanted a shot. Tell your DH he's banned from biking until baby biker comes along. Alternatively, he'll have to make up for any riding he does with plenty of foot rubs!

I'm glad you raised the symptom question because I'm not too sure what symptoms I should have right now! My left boob hurts saywhat:, just the one?!) and I'm pretty gassy. Also, I feel like I could definitely squeeze in a midday nap these days! Other than that, I'm pretty symptom-less! I've had the odd twinge of a headache but it's never come to anything. What about you, have you had any new symptoms or any old symptoms that have worn off? What about you Hit Girl, any symptoms? I must say, when TTC I tried desperately not to symptom spot and I suppose I do the same now! The only major symptom I have is a complete aversion to chocolate - and I LOVE chocolate!

Take it easy, don't go lifting any microwaves , and sending you a big to you and your peanut!

 

[akblaze]

When do you find out if your DH gets to come home in May? Will you find out soon or nearer the time? It seems so far away and I can only imagine how hard it must be for you. Do you get to speak to him regularly? Or email?

I've been warned by loads of people not to expect too much at the first scan but to be honest, I'll be happy if they can confirm there's something there. My big worry is if they see an empty uterus. Please, please, please, please, please be okay. I bought a book that shows how babies grow week by week in the womb - it's absolutely fascinating! I've read it twice already!!! You and Hit Girl must be over the moon having your very own scan pics - I'm very jealous!

I've never been on a motorbike before but I've always wanted a shot. Tell your DH he's banned from biking until baby biker comes along. Alternatively, he'll have to make up for any riding he does with plenty of foot rubs!

I'm glad you raised the symptom question because I'm not too sure what symptoms I should have right now! My left boob hurts saywhat:, just the one?!) and I'm pretty gassy. Also, I feel like I could definitely squeeze in a midday nap these days! Other than that, I'm pretty symptom-less! I've had the odd twinge of a headache but it's never come to anything. What about you, have you had any new symptoms or any old symptoms that have worn off? What about you Hit Girl, any symptoms? I must say, when TTC I tried desperately not to symptom spot and I suppose I do the same now! The only major symptom I have is a complete aversion to chocolate - and I LOVE chocolate!

Take it easy, don't go lifting any microwaves , and sending you a big to you and your peanut!

We won't find out until they tell them to start packing up, probably April. Then we'll at least know when he'll be in the states. Once he gets to washington he just has to wait to find out when he actually gets to come home. The company really doesn't seem to consider families and how we feel. I've grown pretty used to that the past year though.. we do get to talk everyday, on MSN messenger phone calls are rare, he's been able to call once since november so that does stink. Still thankful we get to talk everyday online

Aww, when you go in for your ultrasound on tuesday.. if you are able to see anything definitely ask for pictures!!! I made sure to even when peanut was a teeny fetal pole Then you can start your little beans collection of pictures! I really hope it's not too soon for you to see your little one! I'm keeping my fingers and toes crossed!!

Haha! Well, I look at him riding this summer without me as payback for me riding last summer while he was deployed But he must definitely give me footsie rubs to make me feel better!! And you should definitely give riding a shot, I absolutely love it! It's such a free feeling! If that makes sense!

I haven't had a bunch of symptoms like a lot of women, mainly just exhausted 100% of the time and headaches seem to come and go, but not as often as earlier in the pregnancy. At first I was kind of worried, but now I'm just happy that this pregnancy is fairly symptom-less!!!

How are you feeling today? I hope things are going well and staying well! same goes for you Hit Girl!!

My appointment went well! The doc found the heartbeat and it's strong at 150bpm. She showed me where my uterus is coming up out of my pubic bone and finally didn't have to do an internal ultrasound!! Peanut has really grown! he/she was asleep at first but she woke the baby up by shaking my belly with the ultrasound probe! I have this adorable video of the little peanut kicking and trying to do flips. It was fascinating! here's the link, hopefully it'll work!
https://s1135.photobucket.com/albums/m638/taylorneininger/?action=view&current=1-26-1212wvideo.mp4
however, I did find out that I am a carrier of one of the cystic fibrosis genes which means the little one will for sure be a carrier. When my DH gets home I will have him get tested.. if he's also a carrier then the little one will have a 25% chance of having cystic fibrosis. I'm trying not to worry though until we know if he's also a carrier or not!

take care! you and your little bean rest plenty!! sending lots of hugs!

 

[Happenstance]

We won't find out until they tell them to start packing up, probably April. Then we'll at least know when he'll be in the states. Once he gets to washington he just has to wait to find out when he actually gets to come home. The company really doesn't seem to consider families and how we feel. I've grown pretty used to that the past year though.. we do get to talk everyday, on MSN messenger phone calls are rare, he's been able to call once since november so that does stink. Still thankful we get to talk everyday online

Aww, when you go in for your ultrasound on tuesday.. if you are able to see anything definitely ask for pictures!!! I made sure to even when peanut was a teeny fetal pole Then you can start your little beans collection of pictures! I really hope it's not too soon for you to see your little one! I'm keeping my fingers and toes crossed!!

Haha! Well, I look at him riding this summer without me as payback for me riding last summer while he was deployed But he must definitely give me footsie rubs to make me feel better!! And you should definitely give riding a shot, I absolutely love it! It's such a free feeling! If that makes sense!

I haven't had a bunch of symptoms like a lot of women, mainly just exhausted 100% of the time and headaches seem to come and go, but not as often as earlier in the pregnancy. At first I was kind of worried, but now I'm just happy that this pregnancy is fairly symptom-less!!!

How are you feeling today? I hope things are going well and staying well! same goes for you Hit Girl!!

My appointment went well! The doc found the heartbeat and it's strong at 150bpm. She showed me where my uterus is coming up out of my pubic bone and finally didn't have to do an internal ultrasound!! Peanut has really grown! he/she was asleep at first but she woke the baby up by shaking my belly with the ultrasound probe! I have this adorable video of the little peanut kicking and trying to do flips. It was fascinating! here's the link, hopefully it'll work!
https://s1135.photobucket.com/albums/m638/taylorneininger/?action=view&current=1-26-1212wvideo.mp4
however, I did find out that I am a carrier of one of the cystic fibrosis genes which means the little one will for sure be a carrier. When my DH gets home I will have him get tested.. if he's also a carrier then the little one will have a 25% chance of having cystic fibrosis. I'm trying not to worry though until we know if he's also a carrier or not!

take care! you and your little bean rest plenty!! sending lots of hugs!

I have watched that 30 times this morning already (and I'm sure I'll watch it at least 30 times more before I log off!) - it's out of this world! I just want it to keep going! I can't believe that, you're what, 11 weeks now? And that looks like a complete baby! I can totally see it's little legs (or buds of legs!) propelling him/her around your womb! WOW! How on earth did you get that? Did you video it on your phone? You must feel so much better seeing that. What did DH say? If I was your DH I'd jump in one of those tanks and barge my way home! PS I don't know if you heard it (it was very quiet) but your baby asked if I'd be an auntie and I said yes. I thought, as his/her mum, you should probably know! I've never seen a video like that - I'm just gobsmacked. I bet you can't stop watching it? I'd have it as my screensaver!!! And it's great that you didn't need an internal scan. Is that the end of the internal scans for you? I'm hoping so - the jelly on the belly is so much more dignified!!!

Now, the cystic fibrosis thing, I actually know where you're coming from. My SIL was tested with her first child and was told she was a carrier. She had months of worry that her DH was a carrier too as, like yours, he was deployed at the time. Turns out, he was a carrier too and they're worry multiplied. But both that baby and the next were ABSOLUTELY FINE. She was deployed in the states at the time which is the only reason she had the test, they don't test for it here as the odds are so low. Even if you are both carriers it's so unlikely that anything will happen. My late MIL had advised me and DH to go for counselling before we decided to try for a baby, just in case we were carriers too (as with his sis a carrier it is likely he is too). However, we didn't bother as it wouldn't have stopped us trying. So, the likelihood is that DH is a carrier but they don't even test for it in the UK. Please don't worry about it as my SIL was told the chances of her DH being a carrier too was super low. And then, even with both of them as carriers, all was fine. Your little peanut is A-okay and will continue to do absolutely fine both in the womb and beyond - I know these things, I'm an auntie! I know it's hard but you need to put it to the back of your mind or you'll worry yourself crazy, and you need to keep calm and happy for your LO.

AFM: Still spotting. I'm never really sure what's happening but I think it might be slightly heavier today I just can't understand where all the blood is coming from. My HPT conception indicator shows '3 weeks plus' which is right as I was three weeks yesterday, although technically 5 weeks plus three. I'm still clinging on to the progress of my HPTs and hoping my LO can hang on in there till Tuesday when I find out more. At least the appointment is first thing in the morning!

Hope you're taking it easy and that you're continuing to bug your baby with the doppler (I'm still so jealous about that by the way!).

 

[akblaze]

I have watched that 30 times this morning already (and I'm sure I'll watch it at least 30 times more before I log off!) - it's out of this world! I just want it to keep going! I can't believe that, you're what, 11 weeks now? And that looks like a complete baby! I can totally see it's little legs (or buds of legs!) propelling him/her around your womb! WOW! How on earth did you get that? Did you video it on your phone? You must feel so much better seeing that. What did DH say? If I was your DH I'd jump in one of those tanks and barge my way home! PS I don't know if you heard it (it was very quiet) but your baby asked if I'd be an auntie and I said yes. I thought, as his/her mum, you should probably know! I've never seen a video like that - I'm just gobsmacked. I bet you can't stop watching it? I'd have it as my screensaver!!! And it's great that you didn't need an internal scan. Is that the end of the internal scans for you? I'm hoping so - the jelly on the belly is so much more dignified!!!

Now, the cystic fibrosis thing, I actually know where you're coming from. My SIL was tested with her first child and was told she was a carrier. She had months of worry that her DH was a carrier too as, like yours, he was deployed at the time. Turns out, he was a carrier too and they're worry multiplied. But both that baby and the next were ABSOLUTELY FINE. She was deployed in the states at the time which is the only reason she had the test, they don't test for it here as the odds are so low. Even if you are both carriers it's so unlikely that anything will happen. My late MIL had advised me and DH to go for counselling before we decided to try for a baby, just in case we were carriers too (as with his sis a carrier it is likely he is too). However, we didn't bother as it wouldn't have stopped us trying. So, the likelihood is that DH is a carrier but they don't even test for it in the UK. Please don't worry about it as my SIL was told the chances of her DH being a carrier too was super low. And then, even with both of them as carriers, all was fine. Your little peanut is A-okay and will continue to do absolutely fine both in the womb and beyond - I know these things, I'm an auntie! I know it's hard but you need to put it to the back of your mind or you'll worry yourself crazy, and you need to keep calm and happy for your LO.

AFM: Still spotting. I'm never really sure what's happening but I think it might be slightly heavier today I just can't understand where all the blood is coming from. My HPT conception indicator shows '3 weeks plus' which is right as I was three weeks yesterday, although technically 5 weeks plus three. I'm still clinging on to the progress of my HPTs and hoping my LO can hang on in there till Tuesday when I find out more. At least the appointment is first thing in the morning!

Hope you're taking it easy and that you're continuing to bug your baby with the doppler (I'm still so jealous about that by the way!).

I can't quit watching the video!!! I emailed it to my DH and he was just as excited as I was! I told him this baby must have my "super grumpy morning" genes because of how active he/she was right when the doc woke him/her up! Told my DH he better prepare for two grumpy butts in the morning! I really didn't expect to see so much movement! And I did use my phone! I've kept it at my side at each appointment in case there was movement! I just HAD to get a video to send to my DH! The doc said I should feel fluttering soon, I'm 12 weeks today.. but I still think I have atleast a few more weeks! My next appt is on feb 17 (yay for being longer than two weeks!!) The day after my birthday! Oh and you can so be an auntie! And your little bean said I could be his/her auntie too! I have this feeling that our little one is going to be a girl, mainly because EVERY gender chart says girl and I haven't met anyone where the charts have been wrong! silly I know! My friend who just moved to Germany had her son last August and she started calling him Peanuts boyfriend and peanut is his girlfriend!!! Now it'll be funny if peanut ends up being a boy!!!

Yeah, I think I'm done stressing about being a CF carrier.. I told my DH and he was like his normal self, saying how they test for these things way too early to cause unneeded concern. I just told him how I would rather know and be somewhat prepared before the baby is born rather than it being a complete surprise. I told him whether he agrees or not he's getting tested! The doc said if we are both carriers there is only a 25% chance of our baby having it. So that is really slim! Either way I love our little one more than anything!!! I'm glad that your SIL's kiddos were both fine even though they are both carriers! That does make me feel better too

Ahh! I want to seriously talk to your insides and tell them to stop! I did that to myself a lot! of course I probably looked like a nut case! Luckily it's just my four dogs and me in the house! I think it's still good though that the HPT's are reading 1-2, then 2-3, then 3+!!! that should mean that your HCG levels are increasing if I'm not mistaken!? Ahh I wish I had a time machine (or as my DH would say, a delorean from back to the future)!! Then I would fast forward through this weekend and make tuesday get here quicker!!! It's still great that you aren't cramping either! How long have you been spotting now? Are you making sure to take it easy? If it was me I'd be putting your butt on bed rest until it stops!

I'm making sure to still take it easy, however doc said I could (and of course should) get back into going to the gym.. before pregnancy i was a workout ADDICT! and since I got pregnant and had all the spotting I've been TERRIFIED to workout. But she said to start with the water classes im interested in and the yoga/pilates one and then move onto the elliptical. but NO running on a treadmill or track or anything else that is high impact. and I plan on taking advantage of the gyms massage therapist for prenatal massages!

well girl, I really hope your taking it easy! Tell DH to take you on a nice relaxing vacation! and I think Hit Girl and I are going to find some way to teleport ourselves to be there on Tuesday!!! And I'll have a talk with your little bean in the mean time about how he/she needs to stiiicckkk because auntie says so!!! lots and lots of hugs!

 

[Hit Girl]

I just wrote this super-long post here and then I lost it! %^$@!@$!$%&^%!!!

I shall try my best to rewrite the magic...

Symptoms? I didn't have any MS to begin with and that really worried me. Then one day I was flipping through a supermarket catalogue and I saw a block of Cadbury chocolate in there and the nausea was instant. (I can't believe you have a chocolate thing too!!) Since then it's been pretty nonexistent (I was starting to suspect that one time was all in my head) up until a few days ago. I was putting my dinner plate in the dishwasher and I got a whiff of the other dishes in there. I almost barfed all over the kitchen. Last night I was thinking I hadn't worn my retainer in a while and I probably should tonight and then BAM! I couldn't even say the word 'retainer'. Just imagining putting that thing in my mouth sent me over the edge. How ridiculous is that? I've been queasy many other times too, but for no good reason. I can be fine with something one minute and then the next it's all on. Even thinking about being sick can do it for me.

Okay. The sore boobies but only on one side thing? Yes. Definitely yes. That freaked me out so much. For a while it was like my left one didn't even know there was anything going on. Now they both hurt or they'll take turns to taunt me. Silly boobies.

So that's where I got up to before I had to go to my doctor's appointment today and subsequently lost everything I had written. The doc seemed really happy with how everything was going and wants me to have another ultrasound in a week to see how the haematoma is going. She also instructed my husband (who was at the appt) to take the computer away from me if I start to look up horrible things that will make me panic.

akblaze, I am so jealous of where you are in your pregnancy. 12 weeks seems so far away for me right now (I'm at 8w). Hope everything is progressing splendidly with both you and the beautiful Happenstance. I'll get working on the teleportation device. xxx

 

[Hit Girl]

Regarding the spotting: Gah! This spotting completely blows. Mine went a little bit heavier too for a short time. Is it every time you wipe? How much is in your pad? For a while mine was every time I wiped and there was often barely anything on my pad. It varied between brown and red. I even had a bit of red before my last scan. I sincerely wish akblaze and I could be with you at your scan. Will your gorgeous DH be there? x

 

[Happenstance]

I can't quit watching the video!!! I emailed it to my DH and he was just as excited as I was! I told him this baby must have my "super grumpy morning" genes because of how active he/she was right when the doc woke him/her up! Told my DH he better prepare for two grumpy butts in the morning! I really didn't expect to see so much movement! And I did use my phone! I've kept it at my side at each appointment in case there was movement! I just HAD to get a video to send to my DH! The doc said I should feel fluttering soon, I'm 12 weeks today.. but I still think I have atleast a few more weeks! My next appt is on feb 17 (yay for being longer than two weeks!!) The day after my birthday! Oh and you can so be an auntie! And your little bean said I could be his/her auntie too! I have this feeling that our little one is going to be a girl, mainly because EVERY gender chart says girl and I haven't met anyone where the charts have been wrong! silly I know! My friend who just moved to Germany had her son last August and she started calling him Peanuts boyfriend and peanut is his girlfriend!!! Now it'll be funny if peanut ends up being a boy!!!

Yeah, I think I'm done stressing about being a CF carrier.. I told my DH and he was like his normal self, saying how they test for these things way too early to cause unneeded concern. I just told him how I would rather know and be somewhat prepared before the baby is born rather than it being a complete surprise. I told him whether he agrees or not he's getting tested! The doc said if we are both carriers there is only a 25% chance of our baby having it. So that is really slim! Either way I love our little one more than anything!!! I'm glad that your SIL's kiddos were both fine even though they are both carriers! That does make me feel better too

Ahh! I want to seriously talk to your insides and tell them to stop! I did that to myself a lot! of course I probably looked like a nut case! Luckily it's just my four dogs and me in the house! I think it's still good though that the HPT's are reading 1-2, then 2-3, then 3+!!! that should mean that your HCG levels are increasing if I'm not mistaken!? Ahh I wish I had a time machine (or as my DH would say, a delorean from back to the future)!! Then I would fast forward through this weekend and make tuesday get here quicker!!! It's still great that you aren't cramping either! How long have you been spotting now? Are you making sure to take it easy? If it was me I'd be putting your butt on bed rest until it stops!

I'm making sure to still take it easy, however doc said I could (and of course should) get back into going to the gym.. before pregnancy i was a workout ADDICT! and since I got pregnant and had all the spotting I've been TERRIFIED to workout. But she said to start with the water classes im interested in and the yoga/pilates one and then move onto the elliptical. but NO running on a treadmill or track or anything else that is high impact. and I plan on taking advantage of the gyms massage therapist for prenatal massages!

well girl, I really hope your taking it easy! Tell DH to take you on a nice relaxing vacation! and I think Hit Girl and I are going to find some way to teleport ourselves to be there on Tuesday!!! And I'll have a talk with your little bean in the mean time about how he/she needs to stiiicckkk because auntie says so!!! lots and lots of hugs!

I'm so happy you're at 12 weeks now and you have to let me know as soon as you feel fluttering. That would be so exciting! Grumpy or not, I'd be poking that baby till it moved! That's great that they've moved you off two week scans, that just goes to show how much progress you've made and how happy they are with little peanut. I think it's great that 'she' has already got a boyfriend - looks like you'll have your hands full with that one! At least you can keep a close eye on her as I've boys have a terrible habit of leading us girls astray!

I agree that your DH should get tested and I think you are taking exactly the right approach, you have to remain as relaxed as possible and just take things in your stride. My motto in life is 'you can't worry about things you can't change'. It's amazing how many times I've had to use that! (NB It doesn't always work, but it can pull you back from the brink sometimes!)

As for that time machine idea, I LOVE it! I'm going to close my eyes and when I wake up it'll be Tuesday It seems the closer I get, the further away it is. I think the spotting has been worse today and yesterday - more like a light period. I'm just getting really frustrated about the whole thing, it's like my body is completely letting me down when I need it most. DH has been great though and has been spoiling me rotten! If I so much as look the wrong way he's running around getting me water and tea and making sure I'm okay!

Now, FOUR dogs! That doesn't sound like you can take it easy at all! What kind are they? How long have you had them for? I think it's great that you're doing well enough to go back to the gym, but please just take it slowly. Baby steps...!

Oh, my little bean says it would love to have you as an auntie (surely it has to be a good sign that it's talking already! )

PS Love that you've changed your profile pic - love it!

I just wrote this super-long post here and then I lost it! %^$@!@$!$%&^%!!!

I shall try my best to rewrite the magic...

Symptoms? I didn't have any MS to begin with and that really worried me. Then one day I was flipping through a supermarket catalogue and I saw a block of Cadbury chocolate in there and the nausea was instant. (I can't believe you have a chocolate thing too!!) Since then it's been pretty nonexistent (I was starting to suspect that one time was all in my head) up until a few days ago. I was putting my dinner plate in the dishwasher and I got a whiff of the other dishes in there. I almost barfed all over the kitchen. Last night I was thinking I hadn't worn my retainer in a while and I probably should tonight and then BAM! I couldn't even say the word 'retainer'. Just imagining putting that thing in my mouth sent me over the edge. How ridiculous is that? I've been queasy many other times too, but for no good reason. I can be fine with something one minute and then the next it's all on. Even thinking about being sick can do it for me.

Okay. The sore boobies but only on one side thing? Yes. Definitely yes. That freaked me out so much. For a while it was like my left one didn't even know there was anything going on. Now they both hurt or they'll take turns to taunt me. Silly boobies.

So that's where I got up to before I had to go to my doctor's appointment today and subsequently lost everything I had written. The doc seemed really happy with how everything was going and wants me to have another ultrasound in a week to see how the haematoma is going. She also instructed my husband (who was at the appt) to take the computer away from me if I start to look up horrible things that will make me panic.

akblaze, I am so jealous of where you are in your pregnancy. 12 weeks seems so far away for me right now (I'm at 8w). Hope everything is progressing splendidly with both you and the beautiful Happenstance. I'll get working on the teleportation device. xxx

Regarding the spotting: Gah! This spotting completely blows. Mine went a little bit heavier too for a short time. Is it every time you wipe? How much is in your pad? For a while mine was every time I wiped and there was often barely anything on my pad. It varied between brown and red. I even had a bit of red before my last scan. I sincerely wish akblaze and I could be with you at your scan. Will your gorgeous DH be there? x

I've done that before, it's soooooooo frustrating!

This might sound strange, but I'm glad you're feeling sick! I wish I was as I would at least know I was pregnant! It's good to know I'm not the only one who's gone off chocolate - I thought that was the weirdest thing ever! I don't know what it is, it just makes me think of eating a pile of lard

I'm glad your doc appointment went well and it's great you're going for another ultrasound. I think any chance to see your LO must be so exciting! Have they given you any idea how long it will take for the haematoma to go away? Is it days/weeks/months or does it just depend on how your body deals with it? Also, I've been meaning to ask this for ages, but what causes it - did you have it before you were pregnant or just since you've been pregnant? I'm praying that it goes away really soon and that your spotting stops. Oh, and while it's good that you don't look up the dreaded Dr Google, please don't let them take away your computer - I'd miss you Tell your DH just to put a passcode lock on everything other than BnB! How's your spotting been, has it dried up yet? I really hope so!

Now, the boobies thing. I was really starting to wonder why only one half of my body seemed pregnant, so glad to know you felt the same! The only thing is, I keep pinching them to check they're still sore (which, of course, makes them sore!) and then I panic if it didn't hurt so much so then I pinch again (which makes them sorer) and then I wonder if they really are sore or if it's just cause I'm pinching them?!

As for my spotting, it's been heavier today and yesterday which is freaking me out. Since the day my spotting started (which was 4dpo and before I was even pregnant!) it's been there every time I wipe. I don't soak through pads or anything but there's definitely a light amount of blood each time I change them - more like when your period is tapering off. There's no 'flow' as such, but I definitely need to wear a liner or a pad. Also, it varies from brown to red but lately it's been more of a dark red colour. Today is the 18th consecutive day of spotting and it's driving me crazy Where is it coming from?! Why on earth did it start before I was even preggo? The only positive that I'm taking from it at the moment is that I still don't have any pain. I don't even know if I'd feel pain if I m/c? Oh, this waiting is so hard. How are you and akblaze getting on with that time machine/teleportation device? I need my girls with me!

 

[Happenstance]

PS Can't believe your baby is the size of a plum now akblaze, that's amazing! Hit Girl get your tickers sorted - I need to know how big baby Hit Girl's getting!