Newly pregnant and bleeding...help!

[Hit Girl]

I'm here!!

God, I am so sorry! I have been so tired and when I'm not tired I'm feeling pukey. I can't believe how unproductive I am right now. I've been meaning to vacuum the stupid loungeroom all day and I can't bring myself to do it. I'm overridden with guilt about it all.

Well.... down to bidness. I apologise for the condensed version.

We got an awesome sonographer who REALLY knew her stuff. We saw the little heart beating again, but this time it was harder for her to measure because the little one kept moving around! We also got to hear the heartbeat this time. That was completely amazing. The little jeallybean was measuring correctly to the day - 9w2d! I still have a haematoma but I think it's a little smaller - still quite sizeable though. Found out that I have a cyst on my right ovary and she said that was really good as the cyst supports the pregnancy. I thought that was a really bad thing but apparently it's quite the opposite. She explained that when you ovulate the cyst forms and releases the egg. The cyst disappears but stays if you fall pregnant. Interesting!! She also told us that the haematoma is from implantation and this can sometimes form a little clot or a bigger clot (as in my case). More spotting for me. Woohoo! I have my very first ob appointment this Thursday. I threw up for the first time last night while I was brushing my teeth (believe me - it was spectacularly gross)... so far I've only had bad nausea.

akblaze, as a fellow migraine sufferer, I can completely empathise. Those things are just awful. I get the ones with the shimmering and the blind spots. No fun. I hope your migraines stay the hell away from now on.

Apologies once again for the delayed reply, my lovelies. x

 

[akblaze]

Happenstance:
In my pregnancy book, it ironically says that in the second trimester for some women, nausea and fatigue goes away but headaches come in full force. I don't think I'm going to win in any trimester!! But I'm still going to talk to my OB at my next visit to see if there is anything else for them.. I won't get my hopes up though because I still really don't want to take any other medication!

Ohh yes the spotting definitely made it go by way slower! Don't get me wrong.. it's still going so sloowwww now! I'm just impatient! haha!

We are planning on three kiddos. However we both want them spread apart in age.. not too far though. I think once one is out of diapers then I'll be happy to work on the next! But we need to get through this pregnancy first!! It's good you will get to take about a year off! And I understand about the economy deal.. my DH says that as much as he doesn't want to deploy again in two years it's still on the table depending on the economy and if he can get as good of a job in town. I really don't want him to but I'll support him either way! and your so right, it does really feel like we're talking 20 years from now! 2 of my friends have given birth int he last 2 weeks and I just want to ask them... "how in the world did you make it!?" feels like we'll neverrr get there!!!!

food aversion is a very common pregnancy symptom too!! I had it for a while.. now I'm just a bottomless pit and have finally started putting on weight. (wow, I never thought I'd be happy about that!!) It's only 2 lbs but I'm happy! It's good that you don't have bad nausea either and you're right that the nausea you have had could be connected to the food aversion. yay for miserable pregnancy symptoms!!! I've been doing okay with the nausea, it hasn't been real bad the past few days.. hoping it stays that way. My headaches are so annoying! It's like I always have one but I can just feel it lingering trying to come on full force but I try to drink lots of water and relax but it slowly will get worse and worse.. it also seems to come in cycles.. I'll have a GREAT day then each day after that will slowly get worse and then I'll have a HORRIBLE day where I'm just in bed all day.. It's really getting on my nerves! Hormones are insane! But as long as baby is happy and comfy then I'll be happy!

Well for tomorrow they called #31-150 so I have a feeling I'll have to go on Wednesday since I'm number 196. I think they are going down the list and bringing everyone in. And that will so probably be me!!! They are just going to get tired of my tummy and kick me out!

How is your spotting!? is it still gone!?


Hit Girl:
YAAYYY! I'm glad your scan went great and you got to see the little one moving a lot! It's very interesting about the cyst too! And it's great that your haematoma is going down in size, even if it's just a little! Do they expect it to fully go away?
I am sorry though for your morning sickness!
Oh and for the migraines, they are horrible! I know I get them a lot with stress but these ones feel somewhat different than my normal migraines so I don't think it's all stress. I'm still blaming the hormones! Have you gotten any since your BFP? Hopefully they stay away!!


Sending both of you ladies tons and tons of hugs!!! xx

 

[Happenstance]

Hit Girl are you still riding on a cloud following your AMAZING scan? I'm super happy for you. And don't you dare start fretting about carpets and cleaning - that's the precise reason we keep these men folk around. And don't you forget it!

I'm glad you have your first OB appointment on Thursday. I don't mean to sound like a total novice, but what happens at these appointments? Do they continue doing scans or do they just check on your general well-being etc? I should probably be looking these things up but I'm still in a weird place where I don't even want to really accept that I'm pregnant until I know there's a baby in there.

I'm sorry your MS has progressed to the throwing up stage. Can I ask when your MS started? I've been feeling pretty queasy the last few days. Not quite at the throw up stage but feeling a tad green, if you know what I mean? I'm also taking food aversions to almost everything. Yesterday, all I could eat was spaghetti hoops and I normally HATE spaghetti hoops. On the other hand, I've also gone off my decaf tea and I drink that stuff all the time. You ladies won't have this where you are, but one thing that's really been helping has been my diet Irn-Bru. I've been trying to stay away from fizzy drinks so I haven't had a lot of it, but it has made me feel a bit better. It used to also cure hangovers too. Actually, now that I come to think of it, this nausea feels a bit like a hangover - without the fun part beforehand!!! So, my question is, why on earth does the little bean want spaghetti hoops!!! It's perhaps bored and dreaming up some kind of 'hoopla' game. Mind you, it doesn't have arms yet so I don't know what it's planning to do with them!

Arrrggghh, I'm so sorry your stupid spotting won't just get the message and go away. Does it sometimes stop and then come back or is it always there? Sending you massive

Akblaze I reckon you're right and that you are having a girl. The fact that your peanut is taking full advantage of the MS in the first tri and the headaches in the second tri sounds to me like peanut doesn't want you to forget that they're there. And us girlies have a habbit of wanting to be the centre of attention! When's your next OB visit? Can you not call before that and tell them you're having major migraine issues?

That's great that two of your friends have given birth, that means they'll have all the answers for you when it comes to your time! And I know what you mean about the 'how did they make it' business, I struggle to get through each day never mind an entire 9 months!

I hope today is one of your good days and that you're not suffering from a headache today. And I hope your number gets called so you know whether you'll be selected or not. Fingers crossed for an interesting case!

 

[akblaze]

Haha! That's a great point for thinking peanut is a girl!! I can already tell he/she is going to be a handful! My next OB visit is on the 17th. I haven't had a bad headache for a few days so I'm just waiting it out.. If I have another bad one before my appointment then I'll give my OB a call. When is your next appointment? It's coming up soon isn't it?!
Oh and as for your first official OB appointment, at mine we just went over family medical history and my health history. Also had labs done and an ultrasound of course! Other places might be different though

I've been doing good! Been trying to make it to the gym a decent amount. Last time I did a 1.5 miles on the elliptical and today I was trying to do 2 miles but started getting some menstrual type cramps shortly after I passed the 1.5 mile point so I decided to stop. Peanut must not like working out!

How are you doing today? Is your spotting still gone!? I sure hope it is!!! Are you still having a lot of food aversions? Hopefully it passes soon! I can't wait to see how your next scan goes!!!

sending lots of hugs your way!

 

[Happenstance]

Thanks for filling me in on the OB appointment - I feel like such a dunce! How often do you have appointments? Is it every month? Hit Girl your first OB appointment is tomorrow isn't it? Wishing you lots of luck with it and hope it all goes well.

Yes, that one certainly does sound like a handful and I'm not surprised that peanut doesn't like working out. It wants you to save all your energy for running around after him/her! Just take it easy and make sure you don't overdo (is that how you spell that?!) things. I would imagine you get plenty of exercise as it is running around after four dogs and taking them for walks!

Well, last night I had yet another vivid dream. My family have always joked about me having really weird dreams anyway but my hormones are sending my dreams off the scale in terms of weirdness! Last night I dreamt I was in labour and the pains weren't too bad - I thought, why do people complain about this? Then they started getting worse and the doctor fed me copious amounts of codeine until I passed out. Then, when I woke up (in my dream of course!) she handed me a little baby. I remember thinking 'what an awesome labour' and 'they don't show you this on One Born Every Minute!'. I didn't even seem bothered that there was a new baby beside me!!!

Yes, my food aversions are continuing. I can't believe I've gone off tea - I love tea! What about you, have you had any food aversions?

I hope you're migraines are staying away. It's not long now till your parents come to visit and at least they can look after you. What dates do they arrive?

I take it you haven't been called for jury duty yet? I would imagine it'll be soon judging by the numbers called already. I bet you really can't be bothered with it!

Well, my spotting has still stopped And my scan is now less than a week away! It's on Tuesday (Valentine's Day). My doctor called me yesterday to say that she had received my results from the EPU and that they were currently inconclusive. I told her that I was hoping I had just been scanned too early and that there was still a baby in there, but that it's really hard to stay positive. She told me she was thinking of me and wished me luck, which I thought was really nice. I just hope it pays off. I'm going to be so nervous at my next scan - I mean REALLY nervous. I'm still singing the 'stuck like glue song' right enough!

Sending you and Hit Girl

 

[akblaze]

It's okay! I didn't know what to expect at my appointment either!! I have OB appointments every 2-3 weeks. I've seen it differ though.. the normal I always saw was every 4 weeks. Also depends on insurance I do believe.

Good luck at your OB appt Hit Girl!!! Let us know how it goes!!

Haha yeah I've gotta keep in shape so I can run after the little one! We live in the middle of nowhere so I just have to let my dogs out the front door. my butt does not like to go out there and walk around in the cold! just have to watch out for moose.. if the dogs start freaking out then I have to grab the shot gun. Not fun but moose are so mean!!

That's such a weird dream!!! I hope that doesn't happen in real life!!!! I've had some odd dreams too but none of them have to do with babies. oh except one.. but it was a dream that my hubby made a robot that was pregnant and all u had to do to get it pregnant was to put a drop of blood from the animal you want it to birth so it gave birth to a puppy. I swear.. hormones are just the craziest things in the world!!!

Aww I'm sorry your food aversions are causing you to go off tea My food aversions aren't as bad as they were.. my main thing is no matter how sick I am I can always eat pizza.. like oven baked pizza. It's a horrible, unhealthy craving but I just want pizza everyday!!!! Hopefully your food aversion goes away soon so you can start drinking tea again!! fingers crossed!!!!

Well my dad's plane doesn't have any flights coming up the weekend of the 17th because of holidays. So I think my mom is just going to get a plane ticket and come up by herself. But she'll hopefully be here the 17th to the 20th. and nope! no one has to go in tomorrow for jury duty so I got off the hook again!

Aww that's so cute you get to see your little bean on valentines day!!! And your doc calling and saying that is so nice!! She sounds like a good doc! It's definitely good to have one with good bedside manners. I do think your first scan was inconclusive because it was too early.. that's how my first scan went. It was terrifying and waiting for the next scan to see if there was a baby or not was torture. You will be about 8 weeks at this next visit, right? Hopefully you will see a heart beat! Oh, I'm just so excited for you!!!! Is your hubby going to go with you to that appointment too?

 

[Happenstance]

That's amazing! I'd love to live in the middle of nowhere. Not sure about the moose though! Also, there was me thinking I had to make sure I didn't annoy Hit Girl because she's got a gun - you didn't mention you had a shotgun! I promise I'll be on my best behaviour from now on...!

I LOVE your dream! I reckon we could all start a book of weird pregnant lady dreams - it could be a bestseller! I'd read it anyway...! Where on earth do our dreams come from?

As for the love of pizza, I personally don't think it matters. You've had so much to deal with lately that I think it's better to eat something than nothing. Besides, pizzas have vegetables on them...! I've been trying to eat healthily but I go off things so easily. I've been doing my best to snack on fruit in between if I can.

I'm sorry your dad's not going to be able to make it, but it's great that your mum's coming. Your dad would probably have got fed up with all the girl talk anyway!

You're an expert at getting off this jury duty so far! Any idea when you'll be called now? Also, have you started back at your classes?

And thanks for your kind words. I'm really hoping the scan was inconclusive because it was too early. I'm just really nervous that in a few days time I'll get a black and white answer. I've actually got used to seeing things as a shade of grey, because right now I still have hope. On Tuesday, it could all get taken away from me and that's what makes me so worried. But what will be will be, and I can't worry about it because I can't change it. I just have to hope for the best.

What's the weather like where you are? It's pretty icy here this morning and I can't remember the last time I felt warm! I've always been a pretty cold blooded person but I seem to be constantly cold at the moment.

Have you spoken to your DH lately? I hope he gets to come home soon. Gosh, even I'm starting to miss him!!! And I've been dying to know, have you used your doppler again to hear little peanut?

Sorry if my post is all over the place. My mind's like mush at the moment!

 

[akblaze]

Oh yes, this is Alaska.. our house is full of guns! For christmas my DH let me go out and get a beautiful 1911 I just need to get cleared with my doc as baby gets bigger that shooting is okay because the noise! But I'm thinking it should be ok to every now and then!!

Oh I know! There's a thread on here where women were posting their dreams! I didn't feel so crazy for my weird ones!!! They should really publish a book of pregnancy dreams, I would get a kick out of that!!!!

Well, my parents changed it once again since my dad does want to come up. So they moved their trip up to the 24th. My mom won't be able to come to my scan but it saves her pressuring me to find out the gender! It's already hard enough not finding out!!!

Oh I know, I've gotten lucky so far with jury duty!!! They didn't need anyone in today either They must have heard that I was in the next group! Also, my advisor messed up the dates of my classes. I got online on tuesday to post my intro and It says I don't start until feb 28!? So I'm going to get it fixed so I can start this Tuesday! I really need something else to focus on!!

The weather here has been AMAZING the past few days! It was in the -40's *f like it normally is in january/february but the past few days it's been in the 20's-30's ABOVE zero!!! feels like spring! Since we live way up north, away from the coast we have extremely cold winters and extremely hot summers.. where my parents live (closer to anchorage) they have moderate summers and moderate winters. I still love it up here though
DH and I get to talk every day It's crazy to think we are in our last few months of deployment but it still seems like may is FOREVER away!! I'm trying to think of what I can do to show off my belly! I've seen some ladies paint "welcome home daddy" on their belly.. and as long as i dont have stretch marks I'd do that! or get iron on letters and write that on the belly of a shirt.. I just can't waaaiiitttt! 16 months is WAAYYYY too long for him to be away from home!!!

I know it's hard.. and you try to stay positive and tell yourself if it ends in a loss then it just wasn't meant to be. Honestly, I tried telling myself that every time I would worry but it so didn't help.. I knew that was true but it didn't work because I just didn't want to go through that.. it's scary and so heartbreaking. An inconclusive scan in the beginning doesn't help either.. I have my hopes way up for you!!! I'm so excited for your next appointment so you can see that your little one is all comfy and snug in your belly!!! I'm crossing my fingers that you get to see the little heart beat fluttering away too!!! It's such a relief that your spotting has stopped as well! Is it still gone?? Next week can't get here soon enough!!
How are your symptoms today, still a lot of food aversions?
Is your DH still spoiling you to death!? He better be!! He does sound like he is so wonderful to you!!

Sorry for the rambling!!
I hope you and Hit Girl are doing wonderful!!! Sending lots of hugs your way!

 

[NoahsMommy312]

Something that might help tho...? I had my period the first 3 months of pregnancy so I didnt even know I was pregnant until I went to the E.R. for really bad cramps. Thats when I found out I was pregnant. It was a complete shock! But right after I found out it stopped. So I would say it all depeneds on how far along you are. Everyones pregnancy is different. When my mom was pregnant with me she said she had her period for the first 4 months. She didnt know she was pregnant until she was 5 months cuz she missed a period. I wish you all the luck! I hope everything works out for you. Just remember if you feel your doctor isnt helping then demand more help! Or just switch to a different doctor.

 

[Happenstance]

I still can't believe you know how to shoot! I've used a water pistol before but that's about it! I don't think your DH needs to worry too much about a dating list for your little peanut - just hang the gun above the fireplace!!!

I'm glad your dad has managed to find a way to come and visit you too but it's a shame your mum can't make the scan. I take it you're planning on not finding out the gender until peanut arrives? I wouldn't want to know either but DH says he does, so all going well I think that'll be an argument for a later date!

What a shame about your classes, but if you're still not feeling great then it's probably for the best just now. But I completely understand the need to have something else to focus on. When the classes start again you won't be able to remember what you did with all of your free time!

As for the weather, I don't think I could handle the super cold winters. Does that not put everything out of action? e.g. cars, roads etc? I'm always cold so I think I'd have to live in the fireplace! However, the really hot summers sound like a fair trade - I think I could definitely handle them!

I'm so glad you and DH get to talk so often. He must be counting down the days to get back to you. I love the 'welcome home daddy' idea for your bump! You HAVE to do that!!! And yes, 16 months is way, way, way too long. You'll have to handcuff him to the house when he gets back!

Thankfully the spotting has still stopped so hopefully it stays that way. Still counting down the days to my scan but it's getting closer so that's good. As for food aversions - I'm terrible at the moment. I seem to be off everything at the moment and struggle to find anything I want to eat. And feeling every day. Even that emoticon makes me feel sick! I've been drinking lots of water and eating what I can. I'd heard of cravings before, but I really didn't know much about aversions - or that they could be this bad. I now can't even go into the kitchen if DH is cooking something. Still, I'm hoping it's a positive sign!

My DH is spoiling me - he's very good. He keeps trying to get me things and all I want right now is water. He says I'm very easy to please at the moment which is so unlike me

How's your migraines? How's your MS? I really do hope you're starting to feel better. Have you spoken to your OB about them yet?

Sending you and your peanut lots of

NoahsMommy Thanks for posting and sharing your story. It's crazy how many women seem to experience bleeding in their first trimester but yet it's very rarely spoken about. I can't believe you didn't even know you were pregnant until after the first three months - you must have got a complete shock!!!

Thankfully my spotting seems to have stopped for now so I'm hoping that it stays that way! Thanks so much for your kind words and reassurance and I hope all goes well with your pregnancy too. Looking at your picture I think you're quite a bit further along than I am! When are you due?

 

[akblaze]

Yeahh, I'm glad I didn't start classes this week now... because I'm an emotional wreck right now! Ugh.. My DH just told me that in a brief meeting they were told that right now they might not get to come home until july/august because they will be kept in washington to work on the trucks down there... I have spent the last hour bawling my eyes out, even though it's all hearsay still I'm just so devastated.. He's already been away from home for just about 13 months and this means we still have another 5-6 months to go. And not only that but the fact that I have to do everything to get ready for the baby on my own... I just don't know how I'm going to manage right now.. but I know for peanut i'll figure it out! I just HATE how that company has never cared about their employees families one bit! even before deployment they weren't allowed to come home! This just bites..Sorry! I had to let it out..

As for the weather, it's not bad.. It does suck when it gets in the negatives but honestly once it gets below -10 it all feels the same.. just damn cold! The vehicles are all winterized (battery blankets, oil pan heaters, etc) they all attach to a plug that hangs out the front of the vehicle (mine is on the grill) and that just attaches to an extension cord and of course the wall. keeps the battery warm and the oil warm so it starts up fine the next morning just gotta hope those dont break or else you won't be going anywhere the next day!!

I think it would be exciting finding out the sex at the birth, what a surprise! But now with him maybe not being home until july/august then I think I might go ahead and find out.. I think it might make it easier for me.. if it makes sense at all..

I think your crazy bad food aversions and feeling sick is a super sign of pregnancy! I had the same exact thing!!! I couldn't eat annyyything.. it all sounded horrible and made me want to get sick! It didn't last too long with me, thank goodness! Hopefully yours goes away soon! and YAY FOR NO SPOTTING STILL!!!!! FINALLY something to get me to smile tonight! I'm so happy for you!!! It's also so wonderful that your hubby takes such great care of you you definitely deserve it!! Your scan is coming up so soon too!! I'm certain your little one is great since he/she is definitely making his/her presence known lately!!

I haven't talked to my OB about all my migraines yet, I actually haven't had one in about 4 days!!! So I'm hoping it was just a phase or something and that they are done occurring as much! I'm keeping my fingers crossed though! I'll mention them at my next OB visit but hopefully by the end of next week they'll still be gone!

I haven't seen Hit Girl on here in a little bit, I sure hope she is feeling okay!!!!

sending lots of hugs to both of you!!!

 

[Happenstance]

I'm so sorry you're going through such a tough time, that's horrible news. I really hope it is just hearsay and that he'll get to come home when he's supposed to. They can't keep him away from you all that time, it's just not fair. Surely now that you're pregnant he must get some sort of preferential treatment for coming home? I can't believe they can do that to them and their families, nobody should be able to go that amount of time without getting home. Get your dad to fly you to him and then you can just kidnap him and bring him home. Hopefully by that time you'll have done your jury duty, made some good friends with the lawyers and judges, and you'll get off with it!!! Please know that I'm thinking of you and I just hope he's wrong and that he gets to come home soon. And no more tears! doesn't want a stressed-out mom. I think you should put on a funny movie and treat yourself to a pizza!

And NEVER apologise for venting on this site - this is the place to do it and the only thing that keeps us sane

I love how you say it all feels the same when it gets below -10 What a nightmare! You must have a wardrobe full of jumpers and scarves! I've never heard of cars being winterized before, but I suppose it makes sense. Just make sure that extension cord doesn't break - the last thing you need is to have your car off the road!

I know what you mean about finding out the sex, I think it could really help with your DH being so far away. How about if you ask your OB (I guess that's who would be able to tell you?!) to write down the sex of the baby on a piece of paper and not to tell you. Then, you could open it when you're on the phone to DH and you can both find out at the same time? Oh, and obviously it will have to be a three-way conversation as I'll need to find out straight away too!!!

Thanks for the reassurance on the aversions/sickness. I'm glad you had the same thing (I mean that in the nicest of ways!) and that it didn't last too long. Just out of interest, how long is 'not too long...'?

And that is GREAT news about your migraines! Let's hope that continues because you've got enough on your plate right now. And try not to stress too much, it'll only make you feel worse and might even spark a migraine. Although, I know this is easier said than done. I'll help though!

As for Hit Girl, she has a habbit of going MIA (yes, Hit Girl, we're talking about you!). We're feeling very abandoned so please feel free to come and pay us a visit when you get a chance!

I've decided to send you an early birthday cake in an attempt to cheer you up!

 

[akblaze]

yeah, it's extremely stressful. The company he works for has NEVER cared for families. They know we're expecting but it won't change anything. When he gets to Washington he'll have to take vacation time to come home for a week or two and then go back down there until they send them home. Unfortunately he'll be one of the last ones leaving Afghanistan since he was one of the last to get there last year. It's really not fair but again, the company doesn't care. It's such a great paying job that if any of the employees are unhappy and want to quit then they don't care because they can replace anyone in a heart beat.. I keep thinking "how am I going to do this" but, honestly that's an easy answer. Nothing to do but keep doing what I've been doing the last year! I'm just soo ready for this to be over!! It just sucks not knowing when its going to be over.. I'll just have to go listen to peanuts HB before I go to bed

Haha! I actually NEVER dress for the weather.. it's -40 and I'm out in this super thin columbia jacket and jeans and my moccasin slippers that I wear EVERYWHERE! If I'm out plowing, shooting, or anything outside then I'll layer up and stuff but day to day I do not dress for AK weather.

I think that'd be a great idea with finding out the sex! That way we can still find out together. I think I'll suggest that to him when I talk to him tomorrow. And if we do that I'll for sure be on here RIGHT after we find out!!!

As for the food aversions, mine lasted just under a week I'd say. I went from just having nausea most of the day (late at night was mainly when it'd subside) to everything just making me so sick. the nausea lasted for weeks but the food aversion I think just under a week.. and now it's not too bad. I still have a little bit of nausea every now and then. mostly in the mornings but it isn't too bad! I really hope yours subsides sooooon! at least the food aversions so you can actually eat something! It's good that your drinking water though! I have seen here on B&B ladies having food aversions that last longer. I'm sure it's like every other pregnancy symptom where it's different with everyone. I think you got that pregnancy symptom you were hoping for!! your little one is like "mommyyyy I'm here!!!!"

Talk about good timing with all this stress.. I have my first prenatal massage tomorrow evening!
and I would so go for a funny movie and pizza right now, but I have to head to bed.. it's almost 1:30 am here!!!
Thank you for the early birthday cake!!!! I really appreciate it!!!

And yes, Hit Girl! Come back soooon!!! we miss you!!!

maybe we need to get that tracking team squared away

sending you both loads of hugs!!

 

[Happenstance]

That's just awful, they need to care about their employees' families more. Surely people work better if they're happier? I really hope that his rotten bosses start to see sense and he gets home asap.

Did you listen to peanut's heartbeat last night? That must be soooo cool.

I think it's funny that you don't dress for the weather, I couldn't do that - I would NEED to wrap up warm. I'm always cold. Loads of people do that here though, especially at weekends when everyone is out on the town, you'll be lucky to see anyone (particularly men!) wearing a jacket, even if it's snowing! Apparently, it spoils the outfit! Oh, and it also saves them having to wait in the cloakroom queue at the start and end of the night!

When can you find out the sex of the baby, how many weeks along do you have to be? And you had better be straight on here after telling your DH, in fact, I'm not sure that I shouldn't know first! It'll be so strange to actually know if it's a boy or a girl. I mean, I know it can only go one of two ways, but to actually know that it's a him or a her would be exciting.

I'm glad your food aversions didn't last long, I'm hoping I'll be the same. I wanted to be one of those ladies who craved things so that I could wake DH up at 2am and send him to the shops for pickles and ice cream or something. The way it stands, iced water is about all that I look forward too! I feel he's getting far too smooth a ride so far... But you are right, I'm glad that I have symptoms and I'm really hoping that it means there's a baby in there. I don't mind feeling sick at all if it means that there's a baby in there and that it's doing okay.

So you're having a prenatal massage evening - that sounds amazing!!! I've been dying for a massage but with the whole preggo thing I'm not sure what kind of massages are okay. What's a prenatal massage? Is it done by someone who specialises in pg ladies? Oh, I really wish I could be there for that! I might have to see if there's anything like that around here!

And sorry I suggested pizza and a movie just as you were going to bed. I didn't quite appreciate the massive time difference! It's 7.40am here just now, what does that make you? Are you about 9 hours behind me? My brain hurts trying to work it out!

I'm still feeling a bit green today so I'm going to go and get myself some water and watch the news before waking DH up. Take good care of yourself and I'll get working on that tracking team for Hit Girl!

 

[akblaze]

yeahh, it's hard not having a clue when he's going to be home.. and some days are easier than others. Today was kinda rough until tonight. I guess I had a little epiphany and just realized what all him and I have to be thankful for, especially this little one! Eventually he'll be home and this deployment will be behind us for good! Just have to focus on the out come. When I'm positive it makes my hubs job a little easier since I know it kills him being away for so long. I'm sure peanut likes me being positive too!

I did listen to peanut last night! are you planning on getting a doppler?
I can't wait until you can hear your little beans heart beat!!! you will just be over the moon!!!

Well, in all the books it says you can find out between 16 and 20 weeks. I'll be 15 weeks next week so I'm HOPING she'll be able to tell! I've seen a lot of ladies on here found out at 14 weeks! I told my DH that idea with the envelope and he loved it. He will just find a day where he can call and we'll find out together over the phone And your right! It's going to be so crazy thinking of little peanut officially as a "he" or "she"!! It makes me want to cry! I can't wait until you can find out too!!! (if you guys find out!)
Are you guys hoping for a certain gender? Do you already have names picked out?

I was expecting midnight cravings too! Of crazy things! but I haven't gotten that. I'll admit one night, at about 10pm I really wanted taco bell sooo I went and got it because I couldn't stop thinking about it after I saw the commercial! haha! But that's about it for me. Hopefully you are able to start eating soon! I know it's gotta feel yucky not getting to eat! But at least you are staying hydrated!! I really do think this means there's a little baby in there! he/she is probably using your tummy as a trampoline and that's why food turns you off! I swear peanut has done that to mine! and at night it's my bladder! I sooo cannot wait for your scan!! You'll have to post pictures ASAP after it! Is it at least in the morning so you don't have to wait all day??

I got the prenatal massage done at the gym I go to but they have them at pretty much any place that does massages. A prenatal massage is basically just like any massage except she didn't do my tummy and I laid on my side (my head on a pillow, I was hugging a pillow, and a pillow in between my legs) so it was really comfy! I don't think it would've mattered if I was on my back or tummy since I'm only 14 weeks but oh well It was very relaxing too and since I told her I get a lot of headaches she even worked around my upper neck a lot and my scalp. I'm a little sore now but that's normal after your first massage. You should check to see if there's any place around you that does them! She said when the baby gets bigger they actually massage around the tummy to release pressure and the baby can actually feel it! It's definitely on my list of things to do every other week

Oh, it's okay! My DH is good at talking about all the food he is dying for back home right before I go to bed since that's during his lunch time! I think I am 9 hours behind you!

I sure hope you feel better soon!!! Sounds like the little one is definitely making his/her presence known!
I will start (attempting) to train my dogs to be little trackers!!
sending lots of hugs!

 

[Happenstance]

I love your attitude! Your little peanut is very, very lucky to have such a strong mom!

I can't tell you how amazing I think it is that you can hear peanut's heartbeat whenever you like. I'm glad that while the rest of society was focussing on making iPods and xBoxes that there were some cool engineering folk out there who were working on the things that really matter! As for me getting one, I'm not sure, I think I might panic too much if I couldn't find it? Has that ever happened to you? I'm just hoping beyond hope that I see something more than a yolk sac on Tuesday!

I'm glad your DH liked the idea of finding out at the same time, I think it'll be really special for you both. I can't believe you'll be 15 weeks next week. Where on earth is the time going??? If you do find out and if you do decide to find out at the same time, I think the waiting will test your patience. I mean, it'll be the longest wait EVER between going for the u/s and then sitting at home with such an important bit of paper waiting for the phone to ring! That'll probably be the longest few hours of your life! But totally worth it!

We're not hoping for a gender so I'm completely 50/50. So is DH. We've also not spoken about names. I think because we're still living in limbo land, we haven't even really discussed much about being pregnant. It's like we're too scared to talk about it. Other than the fact that DH was looking through a supermarket catalogue yesterday and whining about the cost of prams!!! What about you both? I know you think it might be a girl but do you have a preference either way? Some people say you can tell by your cravings - if you crave savoury foods it's a boy and if you crave sweet foods then it's a girl. However, I have a feeling that confirming the gender of a baby is a little bit more complicated than that!!! Occasionally we through out a couple of names to each other (we've always done this, even years before we got pregnant as we knew we'd want children one day) but we've never, ever been able to agree. I've told him that unless we can agree on something then I'm choosing as I have to do all the work here! What about you two, have you got any ideas of names?



Well, in all the books it says you can find out between 16 and 20 weeks. I'll be 15 weeks next week so I'm HOPING she'll be able to tell! I've seen a lot of ladies on here found out at 14 weeks! I told my DH that idea with the envelope and he loved it. He will just find a day where he can call and we'll find out together over the phone And your right! It's going to be so crazy thinking of little peanut officially as a "he" or "she"!! It makes me want to cry! I can't wait until you can find out too!!! (if you guys find out!)
Are you guys hoping for a certain gender? Do you already have names picked out?

Your prenatal massage sounds FABULOUS. I am very, very jealous! I want a massage soooo much!

I love the fact your DH tempts you with lots of food just before bedtime - I wonder how many times you'll come off the phone and jump in the car because you just have to have something? He'll need to be careful about that Luckily enough we don't have Taco Bell here so I don't have any cravings for them! Mind you, I don't have cravings for anything. Oh, and it's becoming increasingly difficult to brush my teeth without wanting to be sick Surely whoever thought up this whole pregnancy lark should have thought about dental hygiene? It was obviously a bloke that thought up the whole pregnancy thing anyway (e.g. they do the minimal amount of work and we get all the stress, sickness, weight gain, labour etc. Gosh, we even have the responsibility of feeding them once they're born!!! )

Great work on training the dogs as trackers, I'll try and get a hold of her purple wig so they have something to get started on! Hit Girl remember us?!

Sending massive for you and peanut!

 

[colta]

Hi girls... I've been kind of stalking you for a while now, watching how things are progressing for you and I'm so glad to hear that you're all doing well.

I was wondering if I could pop my head in a maybe join you?

I've been spotting for about 13 days now... six day of light pink/brown spotting and now 7 days of bright red spotting with a few clots (sorry if TMI)... It's been a super stressful two weeks for me and DH and finding your group has been a godsend for both of us.
We're both terrified that we're going to lose our baby... this is our first and we've already suffered through the loss of a previous baby this summer due to an ectopic pregnancy.... so this whole thing has been a big stress for us.

My doctor hasn't been particularly helpful either... every appointment I've been to, he changes his mind on what's going on. One day he's convinced it's another ectopic, the next he says it's fine and normal, the next he says I'm miscarrying, then he changes his mind again. He just doesn't seem to know what he's doing. Through all of this I've had serum beta hcg's (which is rising appropriately) an ultrasound (that I was WAY to early to see anything on) and lots of theories. No one has checked my cervix, or anything like that to see if everything is okay. So it's been harrowing.

But yeah, I hope you don't mind my intrusion... or the novel I just wrote. I'd really love to join you all and maybe some of your luck will rub off on me.

 

[Happenstance]

Hi Colta and welcome!

Nice to know you've been stalking but I'm glad you've decided to join I'm sorry to hear that you too have been affected by the dreaded spotting. When did yours start? I took a look at your chart and it looks like it started a few days after you got your BFP, is that right? We can all relate to how frustrating, stressful and worrying the spotting is so I think you're in the right place

Just to let you know, my spotting was all colours of the rainbow - red, dark red, brown, pink and I too had clots (some of them quite big) from time to time. I went for my first u/s just under two weeks ago (when I was six weeks) but it was too early to see anything other than a yolk sac and a gestational sac. My u/s tech was really nice and told me that I wouldn't believe how many women she sees that have had spotting in early pregnancy and go on to have healthy babies. She said they often can't find any reason for it and it's often just 'one of those things'. Hit Girl has a haematoma and that's what's causing her bleeding. Akblaze never found out the reason. And my u/s tech said it's very possible I have a small haematoma but that it would be too small to see on the scan. Who knows what causes these things but let's hope we all have nothing to worry about. My spotting lasted for about 24 days and it's disappeared the last few days. I'm hoping it stays that way but it has got lighter and heavier before so who knows. Hit Girl is still spotting.

I'm so sorry to hear about your ectopic pregnancy, that must have been devastating. I take it the u/s you had this time has ruled that out? I know how terrified you and your DH are, we're the same. I've got my second scan on Tuesday and I'm super nervous about it - just praying they see something this time. Neither DH or I have fully accepted that we're pregnant until we know what's happening. It's like time is standing still.

Sounds like your doctor's not been the best of help, but I think it's great that your hcg is rising. I've not had any bloods done (they don't seem so keen to do that sort of thing in the UK, not sure why) and nobody checked my cervix either. Has your spotting stayed the same or has it got lighter/heavier? Mine seemed to change every day. What is happening next with you? Do you have a second scan booked?

I'm glad you've joined this group, the ladies on here are amazingly supportive and positive and I'm hopeful we'll all end up with healthy babies at the end of this rollercoaster ride. Sending you and DH lots of

 

[colta]

Hi Happenstance! Thank you for welcoming me! You are right, I have been spotting since a few days after my BFP. It actually all started during my school work term (I am/was a nursing student)... I actually had to leave my program for this semester and will have to delay my graduation until next year due to being put on bedrest and what not.
The ectopic pregnancy was absolutely heartbreaking... we kind of had an inkling that it might be going that way last time though... I had some spotting then (only one day) and ended up having my hcg checked and it never doubled within the appropriate time frame... so we knew all along that something was wrong.
The scan I had unfortunately didn't rule it out. At the time my hcg was only 163 and they said it was WAY too early to see anything, so we really have no way of knowing until my next scan... which should hopefully (if my numbers have continued to rise appropriately) be this Thursday/Friday.
Both myself and DH are having a hard time accepting that we're pregnant right now as well... We don't want to get our hopes up and at times it feels like it would be easier to pretend that we're not pregnant, but neither one of us can do that.
As for my spotting, it depends... honestly right now it's almost like a very light AF. If I didn't already know I was pregnant I'd be wondering what the heck was going on with my cycle. Right now though it seems to be starting to calm down a bit (knock on wood)... For the past few days, every time I stood up it would gush (sorry if tmi) and I'd have to run to the washroom. Today it seems less gushy (that's a horrible word!). When it originally started it would be brown/pink in the mornings and evenings and reddish/brown... bright red in the afternoon. I haven't had any real cramping with it... I do get cramps off and on, but they're so random that I don't think they have anything to do with the bleeding as the bleeding doesn't change when they hit... and they're not that bad.
Plus, all my pregnancy symptoms have been getting worse... fatigue, nausea, sore boobs... etc, so at this point I just don't know. But I'll hopefully know more by the end of the week.
I hope everything goes well for your scan! I'll be praying for a bouncing bean with a great heartbeat! And thank you once again for welcoming me.

 

[Happenstance]

Mine was more like a light AF at times too. I was almost 100% sure I wasn't pregnant but I'm a bit of a POAS-aholic which is the only reason I picked it up. Also, I sometimes felt like it was gushing a bit in the morning too (apparently, that's because the blood has time to 'pool' overnight).

I'm sorry this has affected your studies as well, what a nightmare. I'm sure there's a perfectly healthy little bean in there that'll make it all worth it in the end. I had a dream one night that my baby was a 'minimalist' baby and was just 'clearing out' all the rubbish before it settled in for 9 months. I'm hoping that's the case with us all. Also, my u/s tech said it's possible a lot of spotters experience implantation bleeding. I said that I thought that only lasted for a day or two but she said that's not the case, it can last for weeks. So who knows, maybe it's connected to that and baby is just making itself warm and snuggly?

It sounds really positive that the hcg is rising this time. I've heard that this is an excellent sign that everything is going in the right direction - especially as you've been having lots of other pregnancy symptoms. As akblaze said to me the other day, it's obviously baby wanted us to know that they're in there!

I know how hard it is to wait until your next scan, I honestly feel like I'm living in Groundhog Day, but it's good that they are planning on seeing you again so soon. How far along will you be on the day of your next scan? I was six weeks and it's upset me to read about others who saw baby and heartbeat at that stage, but I suppose it all depends on when you ovulated and implanted.

I hope that the fact your spotting is calming down a bit is a sign that it'll soon disappear. I got to the point where where I dreaded going to the toilet, so I genuinely know how you're feeling. As for the cramps, I've had them on and off too but I've been told they're perfectly normal and nothing to worry about.

Isn't it crazy how we reach this stage and actually want to feel sick! I think your symptoms sound really positive and I'm sure you'll get better news at your next scan. I'm honestly not sure how much help these super early scans are, I think mine made me worry even more! We've had great discussions on here though about how it's baby just trying to prepare us for all the stress and worry that comes with parenthood!

You and your LO are in my thoughts and we'll all get through this together