Newly pregnant and bleeding...help!

[Happenstance]

I can't stop laughing! A fire-proof racing suit!!! That's excellent. I love your hubby! Okay, I think he's totally mad, but I still think he's great! Definitely requires close, close monitoring...!

I love that you can now shop for girl clothes! I don't know how you choose though, everything for a little girl is just so damn cute. I suppose the best way to stop is when your purse is empty!

No wonder you get nervous before speaking to DH, you must just be a ball of emotions. Plus, when you don't get to speak for so long, you must be trying so hard to fit everything you can into that one phone call. Not easy when you are pregnant with an onion! (yay for being an onion! Can't believe you are 17 weeks. That's just crazy!)

I'm so excited for your scan today. Let me know how it goes and make sure to send me pics! By the way, what is your due date? Do they change the date with each scan, e.g. if she's grown more does the date move forward? I have no idea how these things work! I don't know if you get one due date and then they just stick with that?

For what it's worth, I agree with you on the middle name. If DH's sister has already used his mum's name as a middle name then she definitely won't be upset to not have her name used again. So I think you should go with your mum's name (Marie is a lovely name!) or with Joy - that way, it's neutral territory!!! At the end of the day, you are the one doing all the work here so you get to choose. And if you and hubby can't decide or agree then that duty will fall to her favourite auntie - moi!!! I'll start thinking up names just in case...!

As for the doppler, well, I'm seriously thinking about it. But I'm still not sure. What kind is yours? I have no idea where to start when looking for them. I've looked online but not sure which is best. You've had good luck with yours so I might look into that one. I take it you got yours online? Mind you, I'm not sure if I'd freak out more if I didn't hear anything!

Still no word from a midwife. I can't believe it takes so long. I'm not even bothered if my appointment isn't for a few more weeks, as long as I knew I had one. But it might not be until 15 weeks. I can't believe it can be that far away! And yes, I'm excited I have a prune too. Although, you would have thought it could've been something a bit cuter - like an apricot or something. Hold on, are apricots cute? I'm losing my mind

Hope everything goes wonderfully amazing at your scan today. Let me know how you get on and tell my little niece that I said she's beautiful

x x x

 

[akblaze]

Haha! I knoowww, he makes me laugh. He's so excited to play dress up with our kiddo but not the kind of dress up I'm excited for! Now he's asking if we can get a side car for my motorcycle!!! LOL!!!! I told him we'd probably get arrested for that.

It's hard to not shop now! I already have sooo many clothes for her! Hopefully she doesn't sprout a little wee! I'm keeping the receipts just in case!! I try to not shop so much to where my hubby cancels my card! He doesn't understand though, if he had it his way she would only need like 10 outfits!!!

My appointment went good! We didn't do a scan probably because I went on Monday. She did do a pelvic exam since I've been having the braxton hicks contractions but everything is good. She just wants me to keep track of them and if I have a few in an hour then to go back and see her. She wants to make sure my cervix isn't starting to thin out but it could just be the baby moving around causing my uterus to tighten. Nothing to worry about My next appt is march 19. I think it's crazy she still has me in every two weeks but my mom said she probably loves that I have commercial insurance so they get paid a lot for seeing me!

I'm glad you agree on the middle name because I wasn't sure if I was just being a jerk or not!!! I have no idea when we'll finally pick a name! I'm sure we'll have one picked out before the birth but I'm hoping that when I see her I'll just KNOW the right name!

You should get a doppler!!!!! I have the Sonoline B with the 3mhz probe! They have them on ebay and amazon! The LCD screen is nice but I've seen some women complain about how it doesn't read accurately but they still like it because the sound is great. I don't have a problem with the readings, it reads around the same rate that my OB says! I'm glad I got it because I got to hear the HB at 10 weeks rather than when my OB first tried at 12 weeks!

That's crazy your midwife hasn't called yet! Do you not get to pick your own midwife? You have much more patience than I do! I can't believe it could be until your 15 weeks until you get set up with them! I want to go there and force them to see you now so I can see my little niece/nephew again!!!! Haha, I agree about the prune, when peanut was the size of a prune I was wondering why they couldn't pick something cuter.. I'm kind of there again with an onion. My DH HATES onions so when I told him that the baby was that size he just goes "ewwww". I do think apricots are a little cuter than prunes though!!! We should change it!

How is your DH doing with knowing there is a baby on the way!? Has it sunk in yet? I hope he is still spoiling you to death! Hopefully you both are able to enjoy some of the first trimester! A few more weeks and your off to join me in second tri!!! I bet you'll both be over the moon when you do get to hear the heartbeat!!!

I hope you and my little niece/nephew are doing good and I hope he/she isn't bouncing on your tummy too much so you are able to keep stuff down!! Sending you both masssiiivveeee hugs!!!!!

 

[Happenstance]

Okay, I've changed my mind. Your hubs doesn't need monitoring, he needs thrown into a mental asylum for a week or two!!! A side car indeed! Actually, that would be pretty cute!

You'll need to take pics of some of the clothes you've been buying so I can see. I want to be in on the fun! And yes, let's hope she doesn't decide to grow a little thing in the meantime!!! My DH will be exactly the same when it comes to buying clothes. He'll soon realise why you need so many when he sees how messy babies are (and how cute they look in all their different outfits!)! My mum has started knitting little bootees! I was like 'mum, don't do that, you're tempting fate!', but she told me to leave her alone! She's also bought Johnston's baby powder. She says it's to use while she's knitting so she doesn't get the white wool dirty - but I secretly know that she just loves the 'new baby' smell! She's a nightmare!

I'm sorry you didn't get another scan but I'm glad you got checked out regarding your braxton hicks contractions. I still think you should keep a diary of them (even if you just post on here how many and how often) and that way you can report back to your OB. Sorry, I know I sound bossy - I'm a bit of a control freak (don't judge me! If I wasn't then my house would be in chaos, absolute chaos! I should have chosen a tidier DH!). I'm sure like your OB said, it's just due to baby moving around, but I'm glad you've told them about it.

By the way, because we've been talking so much about the name, Joy, I keep referring to her as the little bundle of joy (like, when I talk to my DH about you, that's what I call your LO now). So I think I might have to put my 'favourite auntie' hat on and go ahead and choose that as a definite middle name for your LO. By the way, have you thought about having two middle names? You could always have Marie Joy or Joy Marie as her middle names? Sorry, I'm just so excited that you get to think of names now! PS you are most definitely NOT being a jerk about the middle name! I hope DH understands that too

So your next scan will be the day after Mothering Sunday - how appropriate! I think it's funny that your mum thinks it's because you have commercial insurance, it probably is! Who cares why, I'm just glad they're looking after you so well! I suppose that's why we have such long waiting lists for everything here (unless it's an emergency of course) because everything is free. Well, not free, but it's paid for through our taxes rather than individually.

I had a look at dopplers online yesterday and it was the Sonoline B one that I was looking at! If I decide to get one, then I think I'll go with that one as it looks the best and if I get stuck, then I have an online Alaskan guru who can help me! Do you need gel for that doppler? It didn't say. In fact, do you need gel for all dopplers? Sorry, I sound like a dunce again! Also, do you need to have a full bladder when you check or do you have to check in any special kind of position?

Still no word on my midwife and no, I don't get to pick my own. Again, it's just an NHS thing, we don't get to pick and choose! And I really don't have more patience than you at all, I have even less, it's just that I have no real choice!

I agree we should change the fruit ticker. Each week when we go shopping I try to put in a piece of fruit that resembles the size of the baby so I can surprise DH (he started to get it after the blueberry stage!) but I couldn't even find a prune when I went this week! Hopefully next week is an easier fruit to find!

DH still hasn't really accepted that there's a baby on the way. I'm not really sure I have either. It all feels a little too good to be true that we just think that there's no way we can be lucky enough to end up with a baby at the end of all this.

However, I've decided to adopt a new attitude. Of course I'm still going to worry (and I'll worry even more if this spotting changes again!) but I've decided to try and enjoy being pregnant as much as possible. Because this is the only time I will ever be pregnant with this baby. Also, although I'm only 10 weeks, I've already started to really bloat. My jeans are already feeling tight! I haven't put on any weight (I checked that!) so it must be all bloat! It's a bit annoying because I don't even have the excuse of having a baby bump for a good few more weeks - so, I just look fat! Especially because we haven't told any of our friends yet! Gosh, it's been so hard to avoid people lately. Such a big part of our social lives over here take place in pubs and wine bars, so people would know straight away if I refused a glass of wine! DH said I should have a soda water and tell people it had vodka in it. But over here, people just go back to the bar and get you another drink without you knowing, and what would I say then!!! So, it's been easier just to talk to people on the phone for now!

Anyway, enough boring ramblings from me! I'm thinking of you and your little bundle of joy (see, how cute does it sound! I'm going to keep throwing that into our conversations until I brainwash you to choose that name!!! ) Sending you big, massive, super-duper

 

[Happenstance]

PS I can't get over how cute your profile pic is. She's going to be one cute baby!

 

[akblaze]

haha! my hubby is definitely a riot. When the baby is born I will have two kiddos to look after!!!

Oh I will definitely take some pictures and get them uploaded! I don't think guys will understand how many pairs of clothes baby's need until they actually see how messy they are, your right! Plus they do look sooo adorable in all the different outfits I'm so excited to see all these outfits on our little girl!!! That's so cute that your mom is making little baby booties!!! I would definitely let her do it I crocheted some before we even got pregnant lol! I made them DH's favorite color: orange. I don't think it's a jinx that your mom is making them. it's so cute that she is so excited!

It's okay, your not being a control freak I promise! I definitely will start keeping a journal of when they happen. That way I'm not just guessing if I can remember exactly when they happened!

Aww!! That's so cute that you refer to her as our little bundle of joy! We have thought of two middle names mainly because DH has two middle names as well (David Eric) We have thought about Gracelynn Irene Marie (both of our moms middle names).. but I just LOVE Joy. I love the idea of using Marie and Joy but I can't decide which is better... Gracelynn Marie Joy or Gracelynn Joy Marie!?

Well I got my invoice from my OB's office, the list of appointments and what they sent to insurance.. well I guess the reason I still get seen every two weeks is because I'm still listed as High Risk I know the baby will be okay because I won't let it be any other way but it's just not comforting seeing that!

I LOVE my sonoline B doppler!!! it's the one I will always recommend!!! You do need gel with it, I ordered some off amazon and then found out that you can just use regular aloe vera gel too and it works just as good! Some women say they find the HB the best with a full bladder but I've never noticed that. I think with that, everyone might be different Position wise I just lay on my back, well now that I can't lay flat on my back I just lay propped up on some pillows in bed on my back. Early on you'll probably find the HB really close to your pubic bone kind of angled down into ur pelvic bone area since the baby is still nestled behind the bone You'll probably notice as the weeks go on that the baby is getting higher and higher up!

That's so interesting how the healthcare system works there! Since healthcare is generally free, well except that it comes out of taxes.. do you guys have a higher natural birth rate there? I know here in the US doctors and nurses can be so pushy with Pitocin and Epidurals.. I'm scared of that because I'm dying for a 100% natural birth!! I think I'm going to hire a doula too to have another advocate for myself to avoid getting unnecessary interventions and to assist in natural pain management techniques.

Oh I just love what you do with the fruits!!!! That's so cute!!!!

Aww, I think that's a normal feeling for couples that have been trying and who have had a rough first trimester. It definitely didn't start to settle with me until I was into my second tri, it still feels too good to be true sometimes! DH was always the positive thinker through this, I think mainly to get me away from being all negative and worrying all the time (especially with him being gone) I know it will settle in with you and your hubby when it's right for both of you! The first trimester is such a nerve wrecking time but I just KNOW your little prune is going NO WHERE!

Awww! I love the baby bloat! I was so proud of mine too!! haha! I think because it was really one of the very few signs I had that yes, something is in my body making it all funky!! It's great that you are going to do your best to enjoy the pregnancy. I think a lot of us women get so stressed that we forget to do that! As nerve wrecking as this time is it's also a very beautiful, once in a lifetime thing because your right, we'll never be pregnant with this baby again! That would be hard to see your friends!!!! I agree with your hubby on just ordering a club soda but your also right, what would you do if someone brought you another drink..? That might definitely raise some concerns! Do you think you will tell friends when you're in the second tri? since, I KNOW you'll get here SOON!

Oh! and as for them estimating the due date.. My OB measured the baby at each ultrasound appointment in the beginning. at first the baby was measuring a week behind which got me really nervous but she has seemed to catch up. I'm not sure if she is exactly on track yet and I wont be surprised if she comes a little later than my estimated due date (august 10). My OB never gave me an actual date though, she just said "oh it looks around august 10 or 12." I honestly can't say I believe she'll be here on August 10th since that so rarely happens that baby's come on their actual EDD. So when people ask I just say I'm due in August!

I hope you and your little prune are doing wonderful today!!!! Yay, your almost to 11 weeks!!!! And I hope your spotting is at least lessening a bit for you!!!!
sending you both millioonnnsssss of hugs!!!!!

 

[akblaze]

PS I can't get over how cute your profile pic is. She's going to be one cute baby!

awwww Thank youuuu!!!
I'm so excited to do a 3d/4d ultrasound later in the pregnancy so we can get a glimpse of some of her actual features!!! They say the baby's start getting their own distinct features around 26 weeks!
Are you and your hubby going to do a 3d/4d you think?

 

[Hit Girl]

akblaze, you're already 17 weeks??? And Happenstance! You're almost 11 weeks. This is amazing!!! Just caught up on everything here, lovely ladies. I apologise. My all-day sickness has been a bit awful so I haven't been on BnB a lot lately.

I had my nuchal scan and the results were excellent. Baby is looking really good. I also got some piccies that I'll attach to this post. I'm still worried about everything but my obstetrician has said I should really stop worrying now. The haematoma couldn't even be seen on the last scan and all I'm getting now is some very faint light brown discharge. I'm so jealous of those people who go through their pregnancies without a care in the world.

akblaze, you're having a girl! That is so awesome!! Did you have a feeling it was a little girlie?

Happenstance, I totally understand what you mean about it all seeming too good to be true and therefore it almost doesn't seem real. With all the crap we've all been through, it's hard to believe this is really happening. But it is!!! (I really need to take my own advice here.)

I've really missed you both and have been thinking about you a lot. All the love in the world to you and your gorgeous bundles.

 

[Happenstance]

Akblaze I'm sorry they wrote to you and said you were high risk, but try your best to ignore it. I'm sure it's just because you had spotting early on and I suppose they would always class you as high risk after that. The good news is that your spotting is stopped and your little bundle of Joy (yes, I'm going to keep dropping that in there!) is doing just fine. I would hide that letter and not look at it again. I much prefer your mum's theory that they are just trying to get as much money out of your insurance company as possible!

Still contemplating whether to get a doppler or not. I spoke to DH and he said it's fine if I want one, but that I need to remember that I will totally freak out if I can't find it. And I suppose he's right. Hmmm, I'm still thinking...! What to do, what to do....!

As for the whole healthcare thing, the short answer is no. I don't think there is a higher rate of natural birth here, our docs love epidurals too. I'm not 100% sure I'm not going to get one. I've seen One Born Every Minute and those ladies look like they are in PAIN! It almost looks like the internals are sorer than the labour part? My main concern is that I'm SO scared of drugs. I hate anything that makes me feel funny. So I'm not really sure about the whole thing at all. I think it's great that you're considering a doula, I think that would be a great idea for you when you are planning a natural birth.

My baby bloat is not so cute, it just looks like fat. It seems to be gathering all around my waist! Particularly after I've eaten, it takes ages to go down!

Now, Hit Girl, where the devil have you been? Poor Akblaze has been spending all of her days training her dogs so they could come and sniff you out (note to Akblaze: you can call the search off now!). Sorry you've been feeling so sick but your pics look absolutely amazing - it makes it so worth it!

I'm so glad you got good news from your scan. There's two things that we don't get done on the NHS over here (or at least, some people do, but not where I live!) and that is an NT scan and an anomaly scan. So, I've just booked my private scan today. It cost £200 (had to tell hubby it was a lot less so he would agree!) and it's taking place this Friday. When was your scan done Hit Girl? I'll be 11wks 3 days when I get mine done. Apparently they have to happen between 11 weeks and 13 weeks and 6 days. I just hope baby isn't measuring early, but the only other date they could give me was 13 weeks and 4 days and I was worried baby might be too big. At least this way, if I'm too early, I can always go back (don't know how I'll convinve hubby to fork out another £200 right enough!).

Do you have a doppler Hit Girl? I just can't quite decide whether to get one or not.

Anyway, hope you ladies and your bubs are doing super-duper well and I'm sending you all lots and lots of

 

[Happenstance]

PS Is your sickness a bit better Hit Girl? I hope it is. Mine seems to have disappeared. Oh, how I want it back!

 

[Charliejo83]

Hi girls - I've been reading your thread for the past couple of weeks (sorry have felt a little bit like a stalker) but it has really kept me going!!

I got my bfp on 13th Feb - and started to spot the very next day! The first time it happend it was bright red when I wiped but since it has been a light brown colour - and not everytime I wipe. I went for an early scan where they saw the sac but nothing else as I was too early (about 5 and a half weeks and it was an abdominal scan)

The day after the scan the spotting seemed to stop and I had a week of nothing but a funny coloured dark yellow / light brown discharge (tmi sorry). I was booked for my follow-up scan this morning and as you can imagine could hardly sleep all night! Got up at 4am to go to the toilet and saw some red blood on the tissue - devestated!

Anyway been for the scan and they saw the heartbeat - said everything looked fine and I was measuring 7wk 2d (which is exactly what I thought). I asked about the spotting / bleeding and she said she had a good luck round and couldn't see any reason for it - it just happens sometimes.

So I left on a high only to arrive at work to find some considerable pink blood - prob the most I have ever had (not massively heavy but similar to start of AF)

I'm not totally stressing out and don't know what to do - epu have discharged me and told me to contact a midwife to register now!

Happenstance - are you still spotting now? If so what is it like and how often?

Why is Tri 1 so stressful!!

Sorry for ranting....

 

[Happenstance]

Hi Charliejo! Welcome to the thread and congratulations on your BFP!

I'm sorry to hear you've been spotting too but it's great that you got to see the heartbeat

I'm surprised they tried an abdominal scan on you at 5 and a half weeks as I thought all early scans were transvaginal (they're more detailed and you get to see more). Still, 5 and a half weeks is super early, I only saw a yolk sac at my 6 week scan. I'm glad you got to see much more at your 7wk 2 day scan, it can be very reassuring.

My spotting has been all colours of the rainbow - red, brown, dark red, pink, light brown, black. You name it, I've probably had it. I also started spotting before I even got my BFP and since the day I first held those two pink lines in my hand (Jan 17) I've only had about 10 days without spotting. For me, it's been pretty much non-stop.

It's good that your ultrasound tech took a good look around and couldn't find anything. Mine couldn't see anything that might be causing the bleeding either. Like you, I was told it was just one of these things. Others, like Hit Girl, were diagnosed with a haematoma. My u/s tech said it's possible I had a small one but they are sometimes too small and it makes them hard to detect in ultrasound scans.

I was told to call the EPU directly if I have any problems or concerns (I think most EPU let you self-refer). I had a scan at 8 weeks (saw baby and heartbeat) and just a few days later I had bright red blood. I called the EPU again and they said they can't scan within the same week (although I begged and they scanned me at 8wk 6days and everything seemed fine). I doubt they would scan you again so soon after your scan today, so my advice would be to take it as easy as possible and give them a call back in a few days and ask them for another scan. The staff at my EPU were really helpful and had no problem re-scanning me. Also, the tips my GP gave me was to rest as much as possible (I don't know what you work as, but if it's something strenuous then you may want to think of taking a few days off?) and not to exercise (although, she said this was her view and is also a controversial one. I, however, followed her advise and didn't do anything other than walking).

And I totally agree, first tri can be a frustrating and worrying time. I really hope your spotting stops, but I've been surprised by how many women I've found who spot right through first tri. I never thought it was so common. Like you, I worry more when I see red or pink blood, but I hope it reassures you somewhat that all the ladies on this thread have had a similar thing (with similar colours!) and we are all doing fine.

Also, can I ask, was your scan today a transvaginal? Sometimes that can cause increased spotting afterwards?

I'm thinking of you and I'm sure you and your little bean are doing just wonderfully. Sending you

 

[Charliejo83]

Thanks Happenstance - that is really helpful!

It was an abdominal scan again today, but my sister has suggested the bleed might be from them pressing hard on my abdomen as it is definitely different than any of the spotting / bleeding I've had before!

Luckily I work in PR so am office based (I've literally done no work since I got back from my scan today though - I've spent the whole day searching the internet for re-assuring stories!)

I suppose all I can do is rest up and keep my fingers crossed! I like you have always been a spotter in between cycles so I don't know if this has anything to do with it? I also have endometriosis so am not sure if that can potentially cause any bleeding!

I'm waiting for the midwife to give me a call back so I can book in my 1st appt - I suppose I will be able to ask her questions then. In the meantime I get the feeling of dread everytime I go to the toilet!

Roll on 12 weeks I say - hopefully I will be able to relax a bit then...

 

[Happenstance]

Yes, your sister may be right. I've also heard that sometimes people with endometriosis can spot early in pregnancy as the condition causes tissue to grow in places outside of the uterus. Sometimes the spotting is just the left over tissue coming away. I'm sure that whatever it is, you'll be just fine. I know it's really hard to relax and take it easy, I'm a little ball of worry most of the time! However, I've changed my thought process a little and have decided to enjoy my pregnancy as much as possible. After all, it's the only time I'll ever be pregnant with this baby.

I can totally understand not doing any work this afternoon. I would be EXACTLY the same! Just don't consult Dr Google too much - for every positive story out there, you'll read 100 negative ones. And it'll just drive you crazy.

Hopefully you get a midwife appointment really soon. I just received my letter and my first midwife appointment isn't until 16 weeks and 2 days!!! I don't know how they can expect me to wait that long!!! In the interim, I've booked a private NT scan for this Friday so I can get to see my LO again. My morning sickness has vanished so I just need some reassurance. Like Akblaze said, this is just our LOs way of getting us ready for a lifetime of worry!

And I know what you mean about dreading going to the toilet. I'm the same, although, I'm slightly more relaxed about it now as it's been going on for sooooo long! Also, I normally bleed more after a number two, so don't worry too much if that happens to you too.

I recommend going home from work early and letting your DH cook you a lovely dinner while you put your feet up and watch a DVD of your choice - something that will make you smile. I love The Big Bang Theory, it always makes me giggle!

Hope the spotting stops, but remember us ladies are here for you and we COMPLETELY understand what you're going through. Sending you and your bubs lots of

 

[CuteandPreggo]

Wishing you the best

 

[Charliejo83]

16 weeks for first midwife appointment that is ridiculous - what about your 12 week scan??? I've been warned that I will prob have to chase my midwife for an appointment but we will see!

I took your advice and went home early and had my feet up ever since - didn't get much sleep last night so exhausted!

Yes you're right stressing isn't going to help so think it's time I enjoy being pregnant! It was actually a big shock especially as I was diagnosed with endometriosis 6 months ago and been under a gynae ever since who warned me I may never be able to conceive! So to get pregnant without even trying feels like a minor miracle!!

My DH is soooo excited - which is making me even more nervous as he is thinking super positive and I feel like if I go on to lose it I will be letting him down in some weird way!

Thanks for all your help today - you've made

 

[akblaze]

Happenstance Yeahh I'm trying to just forget about that letter. Gotta relax for my LO! It doesn't help since I resorted to consulting dr. google I wanted to see if my elevated testosterone level could affect the baby.. (that's why we had to use clomid since I don't ovulate because of the testosterone level)... I didn't read ANYTHING good at all! I'm trying to forget about it because I think my OB would have told me if I had anything to worry about!!
I told my DH that you call our LO our little bundle of joy so that just means we HAVE to use that middle name He thought it was funny but I think we'll end up with that middle name

That's how I was at first, I told my DH that I REALLY wanted a doppler but was scared that I would freak out if I couldn't find it.. Luckily I didn't have that happen, I only had one night that it was hard to find and I started to worry but then I found it but kept losing it so I just put it away for the night and tried in the morning and found it I know some ladies have uploaded videos on here, you can find them on youtube easier probably.. I watched a few of them because you can hear your HB, the placenta, and the babies HB so it helped me actually know the sound I was looking for. At first it took me a while to find it.. but it does get easier. I'm totally pro doppler but I understand that you have to do what's best for you and your sanity!!

I've seen One Born Every Minute here too.. it's intense!! I actually wanna watch the UK version but can't find it anywhere online. You have a lot more episodes than we do! I really really want an all natural birth and I'm thinking about hiring a Doula to assist me in getting it my way! It would be nice to have someone there to help DH and I through it..she can help show him how to help me and show us ways to deal with the pain. Also, she will be there to battle with the nurses/doctors if they try to give me drugs without the right reasons and DH can continue to focus on me!

How is your spotting today? I'm seriously waiting to get on here and for you to say its GONE! I will literally jump off this couch doing my happy dance!!!!
I saw you are getting a scan this friday!? YAY! You better post pictures!!! I can't wait to see my little niece/nephew!!! I can't believe you won't get in with your midwife until 16 weeks!? That is absolutely insane!!!!! I would be throwing a fit! Do they know you've been having all the spotting? Maybe you can call and get in sooner because of that? I just want to go there and give them a piece of my mind and make them see you way sooner!!!!

Hit Girl! Yay! You're back!! I'm sooo sorry that you're so sick!!!! I really hope it gets better for you soon! I can't believe your heading into the second trimester!!!! I don't have much nausea now but I still get headaches a lot, and they cause me to feel nauseous and get sick sometimes.. Hopefully your sickies ease up soooon!

I absolutely love love love your scan pictures!!!!! and your haematoma couldn't be seen!? That's wonderful news!!!! Now that spotting just needs to completely stop but it sounds like it's getting there!

Yeah, we found out we are having a little girlieee! I pretty much knew from the beginning that she would be a girl! I just had that feeling and seriously, every old wives tale test I did pointed to a girl but I'm sure that's just a coincidence!

I'm so glad you and your LO are doing wonderful, besides your sickies!

Charliejo83 Welcome to the thread! The ladies here are extremely wonderful! Congrats on your BFP!!
I'm so sorry you have had such a rough first tri so far. Happenstance is right that the best thing you can do is go home, relax, kick your feet up and put on a movie that will make you smile! I think that is the best thing you can do for your LO, and yourself, right now. Also, my DH was the same way. He was so positive and I was just so worried of losing the baby, I knew I would blame myself for not protecting the baby or something! I think what we fail to realize is how rare a loss is, especially after seeing the heart beat. I know being on this website for me has made me think that it's so common, but it's a really low percentage. Still, that didn't keep me from worrying. I don't think anything will but you and your LO will get through it! I'll keep my fingers crossed for you that your spotting stops soon!!! You and your LO are in my thoughts!


Sending all three of you wonderful ladies and your little beans toonnnssss of massive hugs!!!!!

 

[CrysLos]

I am 5wks pregnant according to the ultrasound taken in the er....I went in on thursday for the same reason..... brownish/red discharge.....and was given an ultrasound and had blood work done as well w/HCG level of 3434....went to urgent care on saturday and had HCG of 3970....but still have the same thing of brownish red discharge but not to the point where I soak a pad but i do wear a pantyliner and see the discharge more when I go to the restroom any advice?? and how long doe this usually last for???

 

[akblaze]

I am 5wks pregnant according to the ultrasound taken in the er....I went in on thursday for the same reason..... brownish/red discharge.....and was given an ultrasound and had blood work done as well w/HCG level of 3434....went to urgent care on saturday and had HCG of 3970....but still have the same thing of brownish red discharge but not to the point where I soak a pad but i do wear a pantyliner and see the discharge more when I go to the restroom any advice?? and how long doe this usually last for???

Hi! Welcome to this thread and congrats on your BFP!!!
I'm so sorry to hear about your spotting. It's never easy.. and unfortunately won't get easy until it finally stops. Your HCG levels do look very good, of course everyone is different. At 5weeks mine was only 91 and we didn't see anything on the ultrasound. As for the spotting, everyone is different with that as well. Unfortunately it is pretty common to spot in the first trimester. I got my spotting 2 days after getting my BFP on December second and it lasted for a week, went away for about a week and then was back for a couple more weeks. I finally stopped spotting around 10 weeks. You will see other ladies on this forum, who are a wonderful source of support I will add, with different stories. Sometimes your doctor is able to see the reason for the spotting and sometimes they aren't. For me, my OB couldn't see a reason for my spotting.

For us ladies, it's just a waiting game.. and praying that our little one's stay put. Try your best to stay positive, as hard as it is! Feel free to stick around this thread as well!!! Know that we are here for you!
Sending you and your little bean loads of hugs!!!!

 

[Happenstance]

Glad you decided to go home and put your feet up Charliejo, it sounds like just what you needed. I can share your experience on the lack of sleep front too, I always wake super early these days - it's as if my body wakes me up so I can go the the bathroom and check! Also, I used to continue checking my BBT for the first couple of weeks after my BFP. It gave me some slight hope when I saw a higher temp but it started to drive me crazy and I stopped after my second scan where I saw the heartbeat.

I'm glad you managed to get pregnant so easily, especially after being told you would struggle. My DH is super excited and positive too and, like Akblaze said, sometimes I just found that annoying. Like, what on earth did he know about the whole thing anyway (which I know isn't fair, but please bear in mind that I had to pretty much explain the whole TTC process to him. No, not the basics (!) but the fact that I only o once a month and therefore there's a 'time' to conceive and not just the whole month! )

We have all had the feeling that we would be letting our other halves down if we lost the baby, but it really is an irrational thought and we need to push it as far from our minds as possible. And I agree with Akblaze, the percentage of losses after seeing a heartbeat is really very low. Although, I need to learn to take my own advice sometimes!

How is your spotting today? Is it just the same?

Akblaze step away from the computer...NOW! Dr Google is not a friend, he's a pregnant lady's enemy. Gosh, you were the one telling me to stay away from the computer a few weeks ago! *puts bossy boots on* Now, no more, do you here me? *takes bossy boots off* You know that your little bundle of Joy kiss is doing just fine and is going to continue to do just fine. And, yes, your OB would definitely have said if there was anything to worry about. Now, go and lie on the couch and sing Brahms lullaby to bubs, listen to her little heartbeat and then go to bed and dream about how perfect your life is going to be in a few months time.

I hadn't realised you'd used clomid. How long had you and DH been trying for?

I almost bought a doppler yesterday, the Sonoline B. But then, I didn't go through with it. I just can't make up my mind!!! I'm going to have to think about it more. I just know that I would freak out if I couldn't find it!

You should be able to watch the UK version online as there's a current series showing on tv just now. Check out this link: https://www.channel4.com/programmes/one-born-every-minute/4od. I've tried it and can watch it fine, so hopefully you can too.

When do you have to look into hiring a Doula? Do you get one about now or do you get one nearer the time? Also, how are you going to find one? Online or through a recommendation? I think it sounds like a great idea for you when you are hoping for a natural birth. You're right that doctors can be quite pushy sometimes and when you're in labour you'll be at your most vulnerable. And I don't know about your DH, but I reckon my DH is more likely to faint and require medical attention than to be able to stand and fight my corner!

Well, your wish is my command - the spotting seems to have stopped today. It's early doors, so we'll see how things go. And, if you remember, it did stop once before for about ten days and then it started again. I really, really hope this is it. But I'm not counting on it!!!

I will most definitely post pics from my Friday scan. Where are my pics of little Joy's...ahem...I mean, baby's clothes?! I wanna seeeeeeee!!!!!!!

And yes, I am not over the moon about the whole 16 week appointment thing. I mean, why don't they just meet me at the delivery ward in a few months time!!! But, there's not much I can do. And at least I have this private scan to look forward to in the meantime!

Hit Girl It's crazy that you are in second tri now. Time seems to have gone by so quickly! Isn't it weird how our own pregnancy seems to drag out and a day feels like a year, and yet when we look at other people they seem to be so much further along than we remember? It's so strange! Are you planning on finding out the sex of your little one? When's your next scan? I hope entry to the second tri is enough to qualify you for no further morning sickness. I'll keep my fingers (and toes) crossed.

CrysLos it's always great to see new people on this thread, but it's awful that we all meet for the same frustrating reason. I'm sorry that you too are a victim of the dreaded spotting. I don't know much about the HCG levels as I never had any taken, but I have spoken to a few ladies on this site and I agree with Akblaze that those numbers seem really good for so early on.

Unfortunately, we're all so different that there's no real way to say when the spotting will stop. Hit Girl is 13 weeks and is still spotting. I'm 11 weeks and today is the first day my spotting has stopped since I got my BFP (apart from a short intermission of about 10 days). My doctor says some women just spot throughout their pregnancies. It's frustrating but also very common, more so than you would think. I mean, just look at all of us!

Like I said to CharlieJo, the only real piece of advice I was given was to take it easy and not to exercise. Oh, and not to lift heavy things, but that goes for all us pregnant ladies (are you listening Akblaze!!!). I really hope that the spotting doesn't last too long for you. Have they booked you in for another scan? Or did they manage to see anything at your first scan?

Sending all of you ladies massive

 

[Happenstance]

PS I'm a lime!!!!!!!!!!!