No hope,it's all over:(

[Desperado167]

So sorry no advice to give I just can't imagine how hard it must be to know you beanie is now an but yet you still feel pregnant

Just can't bear to have any medical intervention ATM so I think it's gonna be a long road,am still taking my aspirin,folic acid and b6 ,not sure if I shud stop those as I have been taking them for a long time ,back to hospital next Thursday to see if everything is ok ,seem to be taking one step forward and ten steps back ,

 

[Jodes2011]

Thanks everyone for all your love and support,today's another bad day,am totally knackered and boobs are aching and am just emotionally exhausted,I still haven't passed anything yet which makes it more difficult but the doc said my body was already starting to reabsorb the pregnancy,and I cud either bleed a lot or not bleed for a few weeks wen it will be like a heavy period,I have never had this before ,any advice please?xxxxxxxxxx

It will take a while before you feel normal again and my only advice would be to take things easy (i know easier said than done with 4 children) and let nature take it's course if you feel you can't cope with any intervention. I never had any intervention with my MC's and i bled almost straight away. See how you feel on Thursday? I assume they will do another scan and you can re-ascess the situation then? Please be careful as i had an infection after my MC's. i wish there was something to take your pain away. I know when i feel down i ask my kids to give me a cuddle

 

[Desperado167]

Thanks jodes,really helps talking to u and all the other lovely ladies,am def taking it easy and if I have any high temps pains or blood I will head straight to the hospital ,so sweet of u to be so supportive,

 

[Jodes2011]

Thanks jodes,really helps talking to u and all the other lovely ladies,am def taking it easy and if I have any high temps pains or blood I will head straight to the hospital ,so sweet of u to be so supportive,

some of us have been in your situation and can relate to how your feeling. Don't make any rash descisions just take some time to thinks things through. I know a few women who have had babies in their 40's so please don't think it's the end of the road for you and it's not impossible. Be strong and i know you will get through this with the support of your husband and gorgeous children.

 

[kosh]

omg, i'm so so sorry despie!
i haven't checked the forum for a couple of days and i found this now.
i can't imagine how you must be feeling right now, please take time to grief as much s you need, enjoy your children and your husband.
lots of huge to you

 

[Mellybelle]

Hi Despie,

Hope your feeling a little better today. I dont mean less sad, that wont happen for a long, long time.
I hope you are a little clearer in your mind and able to cope a little better.

Sending you healing wishes and thoughts.

 

[animalcracker]

I am so sorry Desperado This must be incredibly hard for you. Have you tried visiting a fertility specialist to see if there is an underlying problem? You aren't really that old - women in their 40's have babies all the time. It just seems you have had awful luck. I am so sorry

 

[threebirds]

So sorry xxxxxxxxx
You've been so thoughtful & supportive on here & as a newbie first timer i've appreciated that so much. So sorry there is nothing I can say to ease your pain now. Thinking of u xxxxxx

 

[Glowstar]

I'm so truly, truly sorry

 

[Jodes2011]

How are you feeling today? xxxx

 

[Saz100]

I have only just read this post and wanted to say how very sorry I am. I know it's a cliche but time will heal, just makesure you give yourself the time and go with the up and down days. Its an emotional rollercoaster but what doesn't kill us makes us stronger! Lots of love xxx

 

[Desperado167]

Hi everyone,thanks for all your lovely kind words,I read them wen I feel down,Am keeping busy as my daughter is 13 tomorrow,lots of food and presents to organise,hospital on Thursday as I still haven't passed anything , am not sure wots going on ,will let u know,

 

[Jax41]

Big hugs Desp , have a lovely party tomorrow, try not to think about Thursday just yet

 

[Donna210369]

Desperado, just read your post hunni and am so so sorry. It made me cry. I hope it helps knowing how much you are loved by all the wonderfully supportive ladies on here. Don't give up on your dream sweetie and remember one day you'll see your babies again, take care of yourself babe xx

 

[purplelou]

Dear Desparado - Im late to see your post , but wanted to say how so very sorry I am. be kind to yourself and take comfort in your wonderful family big cyber coming your way xxx

 

[herbie]

have a lovely day today Despie
try not to worry too much about thursday and enjoy your day with your DD

 

[Desperado167]

Thanks Hun,she had a great day,been up since six with her so bed early tonite,xxxxxxx

 

[luvmydoggies]

Desperado- my heart is breaking for you my sweet friend. I can't believe that your mid-wife was so cruel. I'm sending you massive hugs hunni.

 

[herbie]

good luck today xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
thinking of you

 

[Reb S]

Desperado, I'll be thinking of you tomorrow. I hope it's not too awful and that once it's over you can move on and heal. Loads of hugs and thoughts x
PS hope your DD's party was a wonderful occasion