No Life Nomore!

[Laura--x]

I really don't have a life at all anymore. Everyday all i do is sit at home doing housework or watching tele or on bnb and then seeing oh of a night 4 times a week, but i never go out or anything anymore.

All my mates have gone to college so theyre all making new friends, doing new things and none of them seem to bother about me anymore. I still talk to them on the net and stuff, but havnt seen none of them for ages. All they seem to do is go out partyin and drinkin so i get left behind.

Oh is at college then wit his friends and i get really down knowing hes out havin fun and im just stuck in the house agen. My friends have all changed and drifted so i can't even call them friends anymore, theyre all so immature, all they want to do is go and sit in a park and dance and jump and sing around and say things to people, which really isn't me! I just want a friend that can come down and i can have a decent conversation with, adult and grown up, but i can't even get that off them anymore.

It gets me so down. It's just as if i cant do anything anymore! All everyone seems to be doing is going out partying till mid morning and getting drunk, which i just wish i could go and do

Theyre all going out to halloween partys and whatver else, i dont get invited anywhere now, just because im pregnant! Even if i cant go, it would still be nice to be asked.

 

[xarlenex]

you can go out, you just dont drink. I went out with pals, it was funny to see just how silly people get when their drunk You can still go out xx

 

[Laura--x]

Yeah i know i can still go out, i just don't get invited out anymore, my oh goes out with his friends so i have no-one else.

 

[ribboninthesky]

Can't you go out with OH hun? xx

 

[Blah11]

Well atleast you'll have a life when baby comes. It won't be your old life, it'll be a new, and amazing one. Try and not feel down about it X

 

[Wobbles]

Awww hun

You could still go just not drink and laugh at them being silly but as you've sorta said you kinda find out who 'friends' really are Did you have a close friend? If so it may be worth while talking to her and trying to keep that friendship by letting her know how you feel but that aside hun it will all fit in to place one day - you know this happens to the most of us even without a bump & baby. After baby is brn your life does not go you can make some plans including going to college if you wanted, join Mummy/baby groups and find new friends who know how important Mummy is compared to a quick piss up in the park.

Men do get away with it lightly huh maybe your BF needs to learn you can still go out with him just not get drunk ...you don't need to hide ina corner you him and baby are a unit and others need to know that.

x

 

[elmaxie]

Try not to get down about it.

It sounds to e like you have grown out of your friends, like you have grown up and have other important things going on. Why not join a club or an evening class and get to know other people whodo things you enjoy and can have a good old chin wag with?

Also when your friends say they are off to a party say oh I dont seem to have been invited can I go along with you? They maybe think you dont want to go out anymore...

Worth a try.

Emma.xx

 

[Laura--x]

Can't you go out with OH hun? xx

We used to do so much togther, we'd always be out doing something, whether its going on a bike ride to the park or taking his baby brother to the shops or anything, but lately, with college he never wants to really do anything, he comes down about 7-8pm and by then it's too late to do anything, his with his friends on weekends so i dont see him then either.

Hes been on half term this week and its been great, we've gone out, carved pumpkins and everything lol its been a great week, but now its back to doing nothing cus hes at college

I know when my baby comes i'll love every minute of my life, but i just want that time to come now lol. These days are just so boring and depressing with nothing to do and no-one to talk to, it really gets to me.

 

[alice&bump]

aaw hun, i know the feeling! all my mates went to uni and i didnt, i ended up gettin a job, movin in with OH and now, they've all just started their last year at uni and i'm sat waiting for a baby. tbh i find all my old mates dead immature, they dont understand the "real world", having to work for a living, pay bill, cook tea, clean the bathroom.

it used to get me down loads, like, when they all said bout goin out gettin pissed etc, but now i'd not change a thing in my life for the world (well, there are things i'd change, but not the settling down having a baby bit).

as wobbles said, you'll meet other mummies once you've had LO, and you'll have the people that will just pop round for a brew and you can talk babies and stuff! i'm only 20, but most my mates from work and that are sort of mid to late 30s, they're the people i feel most comfortable with.

it really will get better hun, at the time it seems likethings will never get better, but they really do, ust wait til you have LO in your arms!

and trust me, when you get to about 25/30 weeks, you dont wana go out at night anyway!!

pm me anytime if you want a chat or anythin xx

 

[brewanneanan]

I know exactly how you feel, well kinda to the point that i'm not pregnant. i'm at college but its just an extention of my school....all my friends have left to go get jobs and well i cant really call them friends anymore. there so immature and were all completely diferent people now and things just change. i dont get on with anyone at my college and dont talk to anyone. i dont get invited out anymore because im in a relationship people think that all i wanna do is sit in with my boyfriend well i dont!!! i dont invite people round mine because i think that ive been boring for 2 years thats why my friends dont like me so when new people are like oh do you wanna hang out im like nah ill just bore you......it sucks.....i've grown up and all my friends just care about different things. i'm saving up money for holidays christmas birthdays and uni, and all they seem to care about is going to the cinema and spending there wages as soon as they get it....haha as you ca tell ive really needed a chance to whinge about this haha....i'm gonna change college next year hopefully and see if it gets any better and then obviously when i go to uni i have a chance to leave my old life behined....and like with you, once you have a baby, its a new start for you your oh and the baby....think you can go to mother and baby groups meet new people start fresh, when you get a job etc you will meet new people......but basicly i know how you feel, and i know it sucks.....hope it all gets better soon xxx

 

[LongRoadAhead]

Hun, Do what I done and go to Connexions!
Seriously they are Fantastic!! If your 16 or 17 and in a certain circumstance eg Pregnant then you can join a program called Activity Agreement, Its so good!
You are there for up to 20 weeks, and they pay you 30 pounds a week if you stick to the activitys you are given. At first you only need to do a few hours a week and build it up each time. The activitys include a Computer course at a centre near you, parenting courses, first aid courses, food hygene courses, gym, job hunting, personal skills. And they pay for it all! They even pay for you to have a gym membership! Iv been doing it for 8 weeks and I love it!! I was like you, stuck at home with nothing to do, I didnt go to college bcos I wud of had to leave half way threw and I hadnt managed to find a job.
I really really do recomend going there!!! There will be something they can do for you hun, I promise!!
Xxxxxx

 

[Laura--x]

Wow ive never heard of that before.

I go to my local connexions centre every 2 weeks to speak to my personal advisor there shes great. Shes booked me in for this parents for prospects course but i still havnt heard nothing and its been about 2 weeks.

Ill ask her about that next time i go

 

[LongRoadAhead]

Say to her its the Activity Agreement or New Leaf, There both pracitly the same and get paid each week but if your not entitled to EMA then you cant join New Leaf but you can with Activity Agreement
Good Luck hun!!
Hope they get things worked out for you!!

And like some of the others said, When your a bit further on you can go to antenatal classes and things and im sure there will be lots of other young mummys
Xxxx

 

[bootyb]

i understand how ur feeling to some extent.... all my 'friends' have there own lives now that im pregnant... im at college... well sort of...was in full time but now i go in half a day once a week.... all my m8s are applyin for uni others are at uni... nd others are jes being teens i guess... out partyin nd worryin bout clothes nd hot boys.... im stuck at home doin house work nd lookin after my 9 yr old sis... getting ready for motherhood... nd worryin bout where im goin to live once the baby is born as im room at home aint too big. They say they will be there but they have their 'immature' things to worry bout.
But hey, we have miracles growing inside us nd these little angels whu we can love nd will loves us unconditionally... until they realise we are not as perfect as they thought lol ....
try nd tlk to your oh bout how you are feelin.... things will work out hun.... good luck xoxoxo