Hey, ladies! Well, here's the full story on my situation, as I'm off work, Thanksgiving is done, and I have time to type!
This is cycle #4 using my CBFM...I have always gotten peaks, even my first month using it, usually between CD 12-15. This month, I had to crack into my box of new test sticks, as I ran out at last cycle.
Well, this month I'm on cycle day 19, and have never peaked...I've had only high readings from cycle day 8, so it looks like the monitor will ask me for 20 sticks this month rather than 10, and that's never happened. Also, I added OPK's into the mix this month, to use in the afternoons or evenings. I started getting darker OPK's between CD 11-14, but to me, they never looked completely positive. DH and I BD'ed on days 12, 14, and 17...more on the BD thing in a moment. Anyway, despite not getting a peak on the CBFM, FF shows I ovulated on day 12. This very well could be the case, as I started having ovulation pains around this time, although I remember them being pretty bad the night of CD 14. So, who the hell knows, right?
Okay, onto the BDing part. So, I've mentioned before that DH is taking Prozac, and is currently tapering off it to see if that helps his low libido. Well, since I wasn't getting a peak, I thought we'd better try the SMEP, and BD every other day for a while. Days 12 & 14 were successful, but then came the night of CD 16. I hopped into bed with DH, and tried getting frisky, but he could not get hard, nor did he seem like he wanted to even try. I told him that I didn't care HOW I got pregnant, so I gave him a softcup, and sent him to the computer room to watch porn, and ejaculate into the softcup...yes, I was going to attempt an at-home insemination. Well, he agreed to try it, and over 45 minutes later, he still couldn't get aroused enough to finish the job. So, this resulted in a DH that felt like less of a man, and me staying up all night crying my eyes out. He told me that when he wants me, he wants me, but he can't "do it all the time", and sometimes he can't get into the mood. I was upset, and you probably know what I was thinking...how the hell are when going to conceive when he can't perform when he needs to?
To let you all know, DH is NOT a playful lover. He pretty much enjoys the same things all of the time, kissing, me performing some oral on him, then some pretty standard bding. I on the other hand, am very adventurous in bed, enjoy a variety of positions, locations, etc. I love toys, and sorts of other fun stuff, all of which I've expressed to DH, and I've tried to gently persuade him to try mixing it up. But you see, he's got issues with sex in general. He seems only able to perform when it is rather straight-laced lovemaking, and doesn't seem real turned-on by anything else. In fact, prior to me, he was unable to ejaculate with a sexual partner AT ALL. He has received professional help for these issues, and I feel satisfied with our sex life UNLESS it is within the week of ovulation...the pressure and frequency just kills it for him, and he can't perform. He loves sex with me, but it really only happens under circumstances that meet his needs.
The blessing this month, is that if I did ovulate on day 12 or 14, we BDed on both of these days. Could my monitor not peaking be because I had to use a new box of test sticks or something? Ugh.
Thankyou so much Gdane, its lovely to hear that! i do tend to lock myself away when im like this as i dont want to burden anyone with my mood
pma
i love your profile picture hun and i love christmas too and cant wait to put up our tree and decorations, your husband is lovely!
this month i have hardly had any
few twinges here and there but so glad im not suffering....
Haven't seen you around!
