not posting here again

[tink28]

i have always enjoyed being part of this forum but im beginning to be afraid to voice an opinion here in baby club as things get so heated and personal....
ive just had to delete a thread i started as people were taking offence even though id stated at the beginning of the thread that that wasnt my intention and that i didnt want to start a debate.
i understand where there are all mums together and especially alot of women things can get bitchy and there will be differences of opinion but i just dont like the general feeling here.
everything seems to get way out of hand, for example the thread about toe varnish and people seem to get attacked.
when i first joined the forum i belonged to a clomid club where the people were lovely and have also met some great ladies throughout my time in the pregnancy forums, so when i ttc my next baby i think thats where im going to stay. its a shame as i felt this club would of been very supportive but whats the good of it if you dont even feel you can voice a view or opinion without the fear of a backlash.
not sure if anyone else feels like this, but i do wish all those that have given me help good luck for the future if our paths dont cross on here again

 

[KatieB]

Oh don't go, I replied to your post in a nice way (I hope). You're entitled to your opinion as much as anyone else on here x

 

[ke29]

Dont take it personally, I think people just misunderstood what you were saying.

 

[kalou1972]

Oh No !! ....dont go !!

I must admit....i've hardly been involved in any heated debates ....nor have i really seen any!

Sorry you feel this way chic x

 

[Sarah&Ady]

 

[tina_h75]

Don't leave There are some people in babyclub that could have an argument in an empty room but don't let anyone push you away. Stay, most people are lovely.

 

[tay]

Tink, I think We all get our backs up aboiut something or other on here, be it, Breast feeding, Formula feeding, baby wearing, CIO, CC Early weaning, Others parenting... There is alway somthing for someone to moan at or take offence to, I think as a Rukle we should all remember we've all had babies....Our Hormones are SCREWED!!!! We are all sensitive, and were all here to support others and to recieve support.

I think not posting in here would be silly, have a quick think at home many times a post has gone wrong to how many questions have been answered, Worries laid to rest and hugs given when needed.

Stay around and when somthing does go wrong, Vent it out, Better on here to a bunch of Strangers (sorry ladies) than at someone at home.

 

[bathbabe]

Iv only just logged on and havnt seen your other thread.
Things do get heated in here and im pretty sure its just hormones and everybody not wanting to feel someone else is doing a better job raising their baby.
By the time your baby turns into a toddler things calm down and you think 'wtf was i so uptight for?'
So im sorry you feel this way. Im sure most of us have at somepoint! Lol. But dont be afraid to come back, or even just mooch in the toddler section we all had babies once x

 

[bumpy_j]

i think you were just misunderstood, please don't feel like you were personally attacked!

 

[Lellow]

Sorry if you felt attacked Tink - But i dont think anyone got personal on that thread, its fine!

I dont think you should leave!

 

[k4th]

No don't go. I replied in a nice way too!

Without wanting to upset ANYBODY I think the written word can be misinterpreted so easily. You can't hear whether someone is being genuine or sarcastic & it can make posts difficult. There are always a minority who mean to lash out, because they are upset or have misinterpreted... but that's no reason to leave. Really it's their problem if they choose to be offensive or won't listen to reason after a misunderstanding.

I HAVE NOBODY IN MIND HERE - THIS IS A COMPLETELY GENERAL OBSERVATION HAVING VISITED LOTS OF FORUMS!

Stay

 

[nemo1]

I've not been involved in any hot topics but judging from a couple of threads I've read, think I've missed some serious stuff!!

But tink28, at the end of the day this is a forum where we share out thoughts and feelings so if someone felt strongly towards something, you can't stop them from expressing their views. And unfortunately none of us here, can stop that! Please don't take anything to heart.

And STAYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[KatelynsMummy]

Your thread hasnt even turned into a debate, people we're just stating sometimes thats what you have to do, dont take it to heart, after all, we're all a bunch of hormonal strangers!

 

[lindseymw]

Don't leave!

I think theres bound to be disagreements in the baby club, we all have our own way in raising children. But I also think upsets also start as it can be hard to type what you mean without it coming across rude etc, but it would be taken in a different way if you were actually in the room together, if that make sense?

 

[Pramaholic86]

I thought the thread was friendly and had some good points, hardly a debate?

 

[emzky90]

Noone has personally attacked you on here love, everyones just giving their opinions- of course we're not all going to agree with every post. There are some lovely ladies on here and you're going to get diff opinions wherever you go. If you don't like disagreements or are looking for people that only agree then I wouldn't post a controversial topic.

 

[vickyd]

I read all threads on baby club but usually dont reply unless theres a direct question having to do with health ect. While ttc i posted mainly on the disco derail ttcal thread and ive stayed there ever since lol! Baby club is very opinionated for my taste.

 

[CeriB]

I didn't see anything like that on the original thread - everyone is intitled to their opinions and that involves answering or responding to threads other people start. You felt attacked, but I saw it as a debate - not a go.

These types of posts really do my head in. If you want to go, go. Whats the point in posting about it?

I don't think anyone should feel pushed out of an open forum, but you have to prepare for what people are gonna say to you if you post something that could be contraversal.

 

[booflebump]

On here, as in life, everyone has different opinions, ideas, hopes and fears - which is a good thing. It would be a pretty boring forum if we didn't.

Posting a thread means exposing yourself to these different thoughts and opinions, and even if they are wildly different to your own - that doesn't mean you need to delete your thread or not post again. Yes, sometimes things do get heated, but if you feel a thread is getting out of hand, you are encouraged to use the report button so the team can look in to it.

 

[tink28]

I didn't see anything like that on the original thread - everyone is intitled to their opinions and that involves answering or responding to threads other people start. You felt attacked, but I saw it as a debate - not a go.

These types of posts really do my head in. If you want to go, go. Whats the point in posting about it?

I don't think anyone should feel pushed out of an open forum, but you have to prepare for what people are gonna say to you if you post something that could be contraversal.

i posted about why i was leaving as i dont like the way this particular forum can be at times, and wanted people to be aware of my reasons. i feel that there are some very aggressive and opinionated replies here at times. if other people dont agree with me about this then thats fine.

yes everyone is entitled to their own opinions and you do have to be prepared to be open to those when you start a thread, particularly a controversial one, but with this in mind i had stated at the beginning of my thread that i didnt want to offend or judge anyone's parenting, and yet i was still accused of being judgemental.

i think your very comment " These types of posts really do my head in. If you want to go, go. Whats the point in posting about it?" shows how unfriendly this forum can be at times.

im not adding anything else to this as like i said, i wont be posting here again. but i wanted to make people aware that the atmosphere in here can be unpleasant at times. im not the only one who feels like this as i know others who have stopped posting here for the same reasons.