sandy299
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Hello All!
Well, around last August I got baby fever really bad. I had it really bad until a few weeks ago. All of a sudden I have done a 360. My dh said he wasn't ready to have kids yet. We needed to work on some things financially and he just felt not ready. I am 32 and he is 30. I was pressuring him a lot. He told me if I stopped talking he'd feel more ready. We set a date to talk about ttc in Jan '09. I was happy.
Now in the past few weeks after visitng his friends who have just had kids, I feel like i am just not ready to be a parent yet. I feel we still have things we need to do. Like my dh said one of the things he really wanted to do was take a vacation. He said we probably wouldn't get to do it bc I was in a rush to ttc and we are going to buy a house, get a new car save up baby $ and pay off some debt. He said there was no way we could do it and ttc by the beginning of next year.
So, now I am working full time and exhausted when I come home wondering how will I ever do this with a baby? I take a nap on weekends or have a party and realize I still want to do things before we ttc. So, I have told myself I want to take a vacation. I see so many of you doing it before you ttc and I know I will regret it if I don't even if it means we have to wait longer. I hope by then that I will be ready. I just don't feel ready anymore to be a mom.
I think sometimes it is eaiser to have an oops than plan b/c I think I will get scared no matter how long or not long I wait.
I guess I felt left out when a lot of people I knew were getting pg since most of them had been married less than my dh and I were. We'll be married 6 yrs this month. But, now after seeing them with a baby I realize that I'm just truly not ready yet.
I haven't told my dh and not sure if I should or wait until we talk in January to say something just in case I change my mind again. I think a big part of me too was that I felt I was getting old and I had heard so much about being over 35 and not being able to ttc. But I was on a board and realized there are so many women over 35 having kids that I don't need to worry. I am OK now that if I have my first baby at 35 and not in such of a hurry as before. Anyone been in a simular situation? I think dh and I might still set a date in Jan. I guess we'll see. I am OK if we wait until mid or late 2009 to decide to ttc now.
Sandy
Well, around last August I got baby fever really bad. I had it really bad until a few weeks ago. All of a sudden I have done a 360. My dh said he wasn't ready to have kids yet. We needed to work on some things financially and he just felt not ready. I am 32 and he is 30. I was pressuring him a lot. He told me if I stopped talking he'd feel more ready. We set a date to talk about ttc in Jan '09. I was happy.
Now in the past few weeks after visitng his friends who have just had kids, I feel like i am just not ready to be a parent yet. I feel we still have things we need to do. Like my dh said one of the things he really wanted to do was take a vacation. He said we probably wouldn't get to do it bc I was in a rush to ttc and we are going to buy a house, get a new car save up baby $ and pay off some debt. He said there was no way we could do it and ttc by the beginning of next year.
So, now I am working full time and exhausted when I come home wondering how will I ever do this with a baby? I take a nap on weekends or have a party and realize I still want to do things before we ttc. So, I have told myself I want to take a vacation. I see so many of you doing it before you ttc and I know I will regret it if I don't even if it means we have to wait longer. I hope by then that I will be ready. I just don't feel ready anymore to be a mom.
I think sometimes it is eaiser to have an oops than plan b/c I think I will get scared no matter how long or not long I wait.
I guess I felt left out when a lot of people I knew were getting pg since most of them had been married less than my dh and I were. We'll be married 6 yrs this month. But, now after seeing them with a baby I realize that I'm just truly not ready yet.
I haven't told my dh and not sure if I should or wait until we talk in January to say something just in case I change my mind again. I think a big part of me too was that I felt I was getting old and I had heard so much about being over 35 and not being able to ttc. But I was on a board and realized there are so many women over 35 having kids that I don't need to worry. I am OK now that if I have my first baby at 35 and not in such of a hurry as before. Anyone been in a simular situation? I think dh and I might still set a date in Jan. I guess we'll see. I am OK if we wait until mid or late 2009 to decide to ttc now.
Sandy
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