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I feel horribly guilty and can't talk to anyone irl as everyone I know is "anti" gender preference which just makes me feel worse.
I'm 16wks with baby #3, I have a 4yr old son and a 1yr old daughter already. This whole pregnancy I have been positive it's a boy right from day one. I already had a name I really liked picked out and was just mentally "having a boy". Well we had our gender scan a couple of days ago and the sonographer was certain that it is actually another little girl I am carrying. My son was desperately hoping for a brother and I feel like I've let him down I wanted another boy too. Partly I think because I feel like I am better bonded with my son than my daughter. We had a bit of a rocky start and I think it has had a long term effect so that is now my experience of what having a daughter is like . We had a horrible time naming our daughter, there was literally nothing we fell in love with and it took weeks and weeks after her birth to choose and even now I'm not 100% happy with her name but there are leans of boys names I really want to get to use but I already feel pushed into having to choose something I don't love. This may be our last baby but I find myself wondering if my OH could possibly be persuaded into having another so we can hopefully have another boy. But I'm put off by the idea we might get a 3rd girl I just feel sad and confused and let down. I know these are all tiny, really silly reasons to be disappointed but I can't help it
I'm 16wks with baby #3, I have a 4yr old son and a 1yr old daughter already. This whole pregnancy I have been positive it's a boy right from day one. I already had a name I really liked picked out and was just mentally "having a boy". Well we had our gender scan a couple of days ago and the sonographer was certain that it is actually another little girl I am carrying. My son was desperately hoping for a brother and I feel like I've let him down I wanted another boy too. Partly I think because I feel like I am better bonded with my son than my daughter. We had a bit of a rocky start and I think it has had a long term effect so that is now my experience of what having a daughter is like . We had a horrible time naming our daughter, there was literally nothing we fell in love with and it took weeks and weeks after her birth to choose and even now I'm not 100% happy with her name but there are leans of boys names I really want to get to use but I already feel pushed into having to choose something I don't love. This may be our last baby but I find myself wondering if my OH could possibly be persuaded into having another so we can hopefully have another boy. But I'm put off by the idea we might get a 3rd girl I just feel sad and confused and let down. I know these are all tiny, really silly reasons to be disappointed but I can't help it