lilwelsh1
3 happy kids+2 angels
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i just wanna send u loads and loads of u have had a difficult time, your baby has had a difficult time and 6 weeks isnt long, not only do u have to recover emotionally from a pretty stressful birth u have to physically recover from the episiotomy and birth in general, summer will need to recover from her op which would be draining on u too as ur LO had to go thru that so soon after getting her into your arms. Its a lot to digest in such a short time. Feeling like everythings getting away from u is perfectly normal.
I echo what all others have said, u r NOT a crap mum.
Is there anyway u could let your partner know how u r feeling? Ask him to support u with night feeds? Do u have family or close friends who could help u in the day? Not necessarily to come n take care of baby but to keep u company, so u can have someone to talk to even if its about eastenders.
I know asking for help can be hard but maybe u could speak to a g.p or your health visitor. Theres nothing wrong with explaining how u feel to them, they would have heard it all before and wont be shocked or judge u. I was terrified of asking for help when i had PND after my DD was born in fact it took me a year and i told my midwife when i discovered i was pregnant for a 2nd time. I'm not suggesting u have PND i believe u have just been through a lot of stress and upset and this can have a huge impact on your emotions and thoughts. As much as u probably dont feel like it or feel u have no time try n do something for u each day even if its straightening your hair, putting on make up or even just standing in the garden for 5 mins listening to the sounds around u. That way u can distract yourself from thinking about the birth and operation. I dont know if u do but if u find yourself staying in or turning down invites by your friends then push yourself to go out even if its to the shops with summer, get some fresh air and show her off. The scar will fade away over time and u will come to terms with the rollercoaster journey that was the beginning of her life. Allow yourself some time and try and be positive. U r doing a great job, u clearly care enough to say on here how u feel and that doesnt say crap mum to me. take one day at a time and speak to OH he needs to be there for u and help with night feeds because tiredness only adds to feelings of poor motivation and low mood. Xxx
I echo what all others have said, u r NOT a crap mum.
Is there anyway u could let your partner know how u r feeling? Ask him to support u with night feeds? Do u have family or close friends who could help u in the day? Not necessarily to come n take care of baby but to keep u company, so u can have someone to talk to even if its about eastenders.
I know asking for help can be hard but maybe u could speak to a g.p or your health visitor. Theres nothing wrong with explaining how u feel to them, they would have heard it all before and wont be shocked or judge u. I was terrified of asking for help when i had PND after my DD was born in fact it took me a year and i told my midwife when i discovered i was pregnant for a 2nd time. I'm not suggesting u have PND i believe u have just been through a lot of stress and upset and this can have a huge impact on your emotions and thoughts. As much as u probably dont feel like it or feel u have no time try n do something for u each day even if its straightening your hair, putting on make up or even just standing in the garden for 5 mins listening to the sounds around u. That way u can distract yourself from thinking about the birth and operation. I dont know if u do but if u find yourself staying in or turning down invites by your friends then push yourself to go out even if its to the shops with summer, get some fresh air and show her off. The scar will fade away over time and u will come to terms with the rollercoaster journey that was the beginning of her life. Allow yourself some time and try and be positive. U r doing a great job, u clearly care enough to say on here how u feel and that doesnt say crap mum to me. take one day at a time and speak to OH he needs to be there for u and help with night feeds because tiredness only adds to feelings of poor motivation and low mood. Xxx