NOVEMBER 2015 RAINBOWS. Please Join Us!

[SweetV]

Em- yay for only one more day!

kwynia - congrats! lovely pictures!

Dairy - you've been through so much. Get some rest and I hope this bleeding is over for you soon.

afm - found bubs again for less than 5 seconds on the doppler tonight. I'm afraid I'm going to need it daily until movement starts. I'm smart enough to turn it off the minute I start to get frustrated or feel like something is wrong. I know it is still very early. I couldn't even feel the top of my uterus.

 

[dairymomma]

I miscarried last night. That's for sure. Pains lasted for a good 6 hours and I was still cramping when I fell asleep so not sure if they went on after that. Heavy HEAVY bleeding and lots of tissue/clots too. There's no doubting it this time. I miscarried.

However, I caught most of the *stuff* that came out and I didn't see the 8 week baby and I only saw one sac come out so there's a chance that bubs is still okay. Back in limbo I guess...I should just set up a comfy chair, grab a stack of good books, and get used to waiting there. Now, just waiting for the dr office to open so I can call. My dr is in surgery this morning and off this afternoon but he usually checks in before he leaves so I'm going to leave a message with his nurse. I'll prob need a scan to see if bubs is still hanging in there and see how my uterus looks after last night and I saved what I could for testing as it just looks really weird. I've never passed anything like what came out of me last night and it's making me nervous. So I need to know where to bring that stuff too.

Still not able to get a read on how I feel about all of this. I don't exactly feel hopeful for bubs but I don't feel like it's over, you know? I think I'm just insulating myself atm in case the m/c is a full one and I find out that bubs didn't make it after all.

 

[SweetV]

Dairy - I'm so so sorry you are going through this. I really hope your doctor gets you in for a scan today and that bubs is holding on strong.

 

[girlinyork]

Still not able to get a read on how I feel about all of this. I don't exactly feel hopeful for bubs but I don't feel like it's over, you know? I think I'm just insulating myself atm in case the m/c is a full one and I find out that bubs didn't make it after all.

My mum said exactly the same thing when she miscarried a twin. She knew she had miscarried but was adamant things weren't over and lo and behold, my brother was thriving on the scan. I'm going to try and stay hopeful for you

 

[Embo78]

Sounds horrendous dm. I hope you get a scan soon so you can see what's going on in there.

I've just got back from the docs. She's signed me off work for the week. I'm struggling so much with the nausea and tiredness. Even sitting upright makes me feel dizzy and exhausted so I definitely couldn't work like this. I feel bad that I'm not in work but I'm just not fit.

Scan in less than 19 hours. Soooo nervous :/

 

[girlinyork]

Try and get your feet up and rest for the week Em. My nausea has plateaud far easier than it did with DD. I think its because I'm taking vitamin B6 every day. Well, I hope that's what it is.

I made the decision to get DD into nursery for a morning each week to give me some time to myself to decompress. I'm so full of PARL stresses and it isn't helping anyone

 

[Ladybirdgb]

Dairy feet up and rest hun so sorry for what you are going through your a very strong lady xxxxxx

We are all going through the stresses of dealing with parl. my midwife has said that everyone was right increase of cervical mucus is normal tiredness is wiping me out I could sleep on demand if I was asked lol.

Eating healthy is not going so well I'm trying tho

I have booked a private scan did it this morning before talking to midwife so I'm going to still go as have paid a deposit xxx

 

[Ladybirdgb]

Ing I think in going to go into shock my husband is hoovering pmsl

I didn't know that he knew how to work the Hoover

 

[Embo78]

Try and get your feet up and rest for the week Em. My nausea has plateaud far easier than it did with DD. I think its because I'm taking vitamin B6 every day. Well, I hope that's what it is.

I made the decision to get DD into nursery for a morning each week to give me some time to myself to decompress. I'm so full of PARL stresses and it isn't helping anyone

Thanks hun I might look into vitamin B6
I think it's a great idea putting dd into nursery once a week. We're in the process of looking for one for Maximoo

 

[klsltsp]

hey ladies

Sorry that I've been MIA... just been soo sick.. but I've been reading along.

Dairy I'm so sorry that you are going through this, your doc/hospital seem to be treating you well and getting you in for scans when needed, so hopefully you get in again today and see little bubs.

Em I wanted to check in since I knew your scan is tomorrow and you've had some anxiety about that. Sorry that you're feeling so crappy... hopefully some rest this week will really help. Do the other kids go to school during the day? Hopefully so that you can rest

Girlinyork, hope that you're doing well, these PARL stresses are hard! hopefully you get some decompressing and rest in, I can't remember do you have a scan coming up?

SweetV how are you doing? I have to say I was floored about the treatment from you job.. I'm in the same province of you and can't even imagine!!! I have been thinking of getting a doppler... where did you get yours?

kwynia those pics are amazing!!!

ladybird, when's your private scan? I think the reassurance will be well worth it!

Sorry for the other ladies that I've missed.

Have many of you ladies told your bosses yet? I'm a little scared to, almost have a couple of times.. but the last time I told him that I was pregnant... it was a bad scene, ending in a sexual harrassment complaint... he came on to me big time.. it was terrible. We've gotten past it, and can now even joke about it, but I'm not going to lie that I am terrified to tell him. If my scan goes well tomorrow, I may tell him.

AFM well this ms has been terrible, I don't remember it being this bad with my 2 ds's.... I was feeling ok.. my OH asked if he could go away on a last minute vacation with a guy from work.. I said yes.. and of course the day after he left the ms hit a whole new level.. sigh ... what I'm struggling with is the 24/7 nausea.. but also every 3-4 days I have 2 -3 days of diarreah.. I get supper dehydrated, head aches (1 migraine last week)... and what ever goes in my mouth comes out the other end within 30 mins... sigh.. so I've been sipping gatorade to get my electrolytes back up, one by my bed, every time I wake up I take a sip, that's really helped. I have also stopped the gingerale, and ever since I've stopped that the diarreah has stopped so maybe that was bothering me... I've been joking that I'm not sure how something so small is so completely kicking my butt!! I'm on diclectin.. max dose of 2 tablets 3 times a day... that's definitely helping me get some food down... man I hope this goes away soon.. with my first ds, I was sick the whole 9 months, with my second it wasn't until about 16/17 weeks that it stopped.. maybe I'll be lucky this time.. and it will stop 12/13!! one can dream.

Okay well I've babbled enough hope you're all feeling well. Em I will look for an update on your scan tomorrow! I hope you get all of the reassurance that you need. My scan is a few hours after yours, 9 am here eastern time.

Kim

 

[girlinyork]

I think the PARL stress is getting to me. I keep alternating bursting into tears with panic attacks. I think I'm going to call my GP in the morning

 

[Embo78]

Thanks Kim I told my boss and she took it really well. Sorry things went so badly for you first time around. I'm hoping your boss learned from his mistake the first time you announced to him. I totally empathise with you on the feeling terrible. I have never felt so rough in my entire life. I just hope it isn't all for nothing

GIY have you looked into meditation and relaxation? I found it really helped during my pregnancy with Max.

 

[girlinyork]

I probably should take time for something like that. With DD a friend used to do me regular Reiki which relaxed me but she isn't nearby anymore :/ I am off for a one night spa break Friday night. Hopefully it'll break the back of this anxiety

 

[Ladybirdgb]

Thanks Kim I think it will help to put our nerves back to a normal level.

I have already told my boss and he's started again with the what's your plans once the baby's born tbh I can't see past one day to the next never mind what my plans are come November all I said was I gave not even got that far with my thought process yet don't really think he understands and right now I don't think he needs anyone else. He has been looking for extra contracts for our company and keeps saying oh you might have to go back full time to which I said no way on earth I like my 10 - 2 shift I'm happy with that.

I think we all need to relax a bit giy I hope you enjoy your spa day xxxxx

Oh my scan is Thursday 6 pm

 

[SweetV]

K - I'm so sorry to hear you haven't been well. My boss actually quit last week while I was off. I'm suppose to be off this week as well but as I am second in command and they haven't replaced my boss as of yet I am forced into being back at work. I see the doctor again on Monday but I won't find out until 12 weeks what the high risk doctor wants to do regarding work. I hope they take me off. I'm sorry your boss was not very supportive either but glad you can joke about it now.

Em - I'm glad they have taken you off work of you need it. Relax feet up and feel better! I'm excited to see how your scan goes.

Giy - pal is so difficult. I'm sorry the stress is getting to you. I think the spa day sounds lovely.

Lady - I don't understand how people expect you to know what work will look like in November or to take on more. I hope your boss is understanding.

Dairy - any update?

Afm - stuck at work and looking forward to going home feet up. I don't remember ever being this tired in my life. I miss caffeine!

 

[dairymomma]

Yeah, just got home from the drs. My lack of ticker says it all. I lost both babies unfortunately and the current working theory is that the smaller one took the bigger one with it when things started. My belly hurt SO bad last night. It wasn't cramps. It was like someone was ripping things out of my uterus so I think my body was trying it's darndest to hang on to the viable baby but it just couldn't. But some of the tissue that came out looked very weird so we sent it in for testing to see if there was something genetically wrong with both of the babies. So for now, i'm just taking it easy and snuggling my kids.

Just sucks because now I've got to 'untell' all the people I've told. Ugh. I HATE this part almost as much as the loss itself...

So happy and healthy rest of your pregnancies ladies...I really hope you all are able to enjoy the next months. I'll be rooting for you from the sidelines.

 

[kwynia]

So sorry dairymomma

 

[CelticNiamh]

I am so sorry Dairymomma

 

[Embo78]

Oh no dm. I'm so so sorry to read this my friend. Always here

 

[Ladybirdgb]

Oh dairy I'm so so sorry for your loss to you and your family xxxxxxxx