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Sorry ladies Hope you don't mind me ranting It's my baby's 1st birthday tomorrow and I've had to do two separate events as my mum is so fuming at my MIL she said she can't be in the same room as her - fair enough that's my fault for bitching so much.
Anyways, MIL just came round unannounced and was like "Oh it's a mess in here" ... it's full of toys because they like playing and bringing toys in from their bedroom etc. I refuse to tidy up until just before their bedtime because no point. They mess it up again within 5 minutes. Then she said something like "Well no point in buying him a present then - he has everything he needs already" ... he is ONE years old FFS! Plus that's her grandson - he doesn't need toys but you could get him books, puzzles, colouring/painting stuff, he loves mickey mouse and pepper pig - use your imagination. She did this at Christmas saying "I've not got Henry anything because he's too young and he has all of Stephen's old stuff" But she had got Stephen something and Steve's other daughter (that we don't see) something.
Then she said something like "Well when SIL moves out we'll have another bedroom for them, but Grandad has said we can't have all 3 stay over at a time. It is one at a time only" ... my kids stay together - me and my brothers always went to our nan's together so I'm not about to split my kids up, just to make it easy for her. Plus I'm planning on breastfeeding for as long as I can just so she can't get her grubby hands on my daughter - who she keeps calling "my baby".
On Wednesday we had to pop over, as OH was off. She had gotten Henry's birthday present we bought him out of her shed - we'd kept it in there as we had no space to hide it. Then when we went to Asda for Her, got back and she was letting them play on it. I was gutted, we have saved as much as we can to make sure he has decent presents to open on his birthday (I know it's not about all about the presents) and she's letting him play with the big we one got him. Nearly about to cry at that point.
Her next comment was about how she could only ever afford one toy for her kids and we were spoiling them. We clearly have more money than we say we do ... we really don't! I get £60 a week in tax credits and I've been doing £40 shopping per week and saving the £20 for his birthday! What on earth are we going to do for Stephen's birthday and she bets he will get loads because he's "the favourite" .... I wanted to say a naughty F word at her - me and my OH don't have favourites!!! SHE does. She makes it very clear she prefers Stephen and now we're havign a girl - my boys do not have a chance.
She is making my life hell - when she left I was so close to tears. Thing is how do you get the confidence to tell your MIL to just F off without upsetting your partner?
Anyways, MIL just came round unannounced and was like "Oh it's a mess in here" ... it's full of toys because they like playing and bringing toys in from their bedroom etc. I refuse to tidy up until just before their bedtime because no point. They mess it up again within 5 minutes. Then she said something like "Well no point in buying him a present then - he has everything he needs already" ... he is ONE years old FFS! Plus that's her grandson - he doesn't need toys but you could get him books, puzzles, colouring/painting stuff, he loves mickey mouse and pepper pig - use your imagination. She did this at Christmas saying "I've not got Henry anything because he's too young and he has all of Stephen's old stuff" But she had got Stephen something and Steve's other daughter (that we don't see) something.
Then she said something like "Well when SIL moves out we'll have another bedroom for them, but Grandad has said we can't have all 3 stay over at a time. It is one at a time only" ... my kids stay together - me and my brothers always went to our nan's together so I'm not about to split my kids up, just to make it easy for her. Plus I'm planning on breastfeeding for as long as I can just so she can't get her grubby hands on my daughter - who she keeps calling "my baby".
On Wednesday we had to pop over, as OH was off. She had gotten Henry's birthday present we bought him out of her shed - we'd kept it in there as we had no space to hide it. Then when we went to Asda for Her, got back and she was letting them play on it. I was gutted, we have saved as much as we can to make sure he has decent presents to open on his birthday (I know it's not about all about the presents) and she's letting him play with the big we one got him. Nearly about to cry at that point.
Her next comment was about how she could only ever afford one toy for her kids and we were spoiling them. We clearly have more money than we say we do ... we really don't! I get £60 a week in tax credits and I've been doing £40 shopping per week and saving the £20 for his birthday! What on earth are we going to do for Stephen's birthday and she bets he will get loads because he's "the favourite" .... I wanted to say a naughty F word at her - me and my OH don't have favourites!!! SHE does. She makes it very clear she prefers Stephen and now we're havign a girl - my boys do not have a chance.
She is making my life hell - when she left I was so close to tears. Thing is how do you get the confidence to tell your MIL to just F off without upsetting your partner?