November Sparklers 2014....22 boys, 22 girls born! Please update us!

[GeralynB]

Hi Ladies, May I join ? twin girls due 25.11 ;-). Can't wait to meet them but at the same time I hope they stay in as long as possible

Welcome!

 

[MissyLissy]

Hi Ladies, May I join ? twin girls due 25.11 ;-). Can't wait to meet them but at the same time I hope they stay in as long as possible

Congrats and welcome! I'm also pregnant with twins, boy and girl, due 11/24 but no way will I make it that long. I hear you... Hoping to last as long as possible, but wanting time to speed up also. I've already hit some complications (gestational diabetes and my blood pressure is high since about 24 weeks and I'm being closely monitored). My goal is 34 weeks minimum- really hoping I can last that long. Glad to have another twin mom part of our group!

Princesskel is in charge of the group but she is on holiday right now. I'm sure she'll add you to the front page as soon as she can! .

 

[GeralynB]

Now that I'm getting closer to baby being here I'm getting anxiety about my mom being overbearing. She keeps saying she wants to come and help with the baby and i really don't want anyone staying with us those first weeks when we bring baby home. I feel like I want DH, myself, baby, and our 2 dogs to get into a routine and having someone else there will just disrupt that. Am I wrong to think that we can do it ourselves without help?? And the other thing is my mom is not really that helpful…it's not like she would do things around the house laundry, dishes, cooking, etc that would be helpful. She would just want to always be with the baby and I feel like that is our DH and my bonding time with baby.

 

[MarieMo7]

Geralyn, I wanted the same thing when Chase was born. My parents came when Chase was a week old, and honestly - I'm so glad they came. My mom was helpful, though - she cleaned, cooked, went grocery shopping...she even helped me give Chase her first bath after her umbilical cord stump fell off. I would have FREAKED without her - wet, slippery fragile newborn? Eeek! But after a week...I was so glad she was gone.

If you're nursing, there's very little your mom can do to "help" with the baby - those first couple of weeks you nurse NON STOP. But it is nice to have someone there to hold baby while you get a shower.

When does your hubby have to go back to work? That would be the best time for family to come stay - when you're suddenly by yourself with a newborn - that's when it gets really scary! Before that, you can manage. Two sleep-deprived parents are better than one, so when you have one, grandma can be helpful

 

[GeralynB]

Geralyn, I wanted the same thing when Chase was born. My parents came when Chase was a week old, and honestly - I'm so glad they came. My mom was helpful, though - she cleaned, cooked, went grocery shopping...she even helped me give Chase her first bath after her umbilical cord stump fell off. I would have FREAKED without her - wet, slippery fragile newborn? Eeek! But after a week...I was so glad she was gone.

If you're nursing, there's very little your mom can do to "help" with the baby - those first couple of weeks you nurse NON STOP. But it is nice to have someone there to hold baby while you get a shower.

When does your hubby have to go back to work? That would be the best time for family to come stay - when you're suddenly by yourself with a newborn - that's when it gets really scary! Before that, you can manage. Two sleep-deprived parents are better than one, so when you have one, grandma can be helpful

I am planning on nursing. DH has a very flexible job. He can work from home whenever he wants. He is planning on staying home for 2 weeks and then we'll see after that. My mom only lives 30 min away so I wouldn't mind her stoping by to see the baby and "help" as she says but I don't see the need for her to stay with us.

 

[Twinklie12]

Hi Ladies, May I join ? twin girls due 25.11 ;-). Can't wait to meet them but at the same time I hope they stay in as long as possible

Congrats and welcome! I'm also pregnant with twins, boy and girl, due 11/24 but no way will I make it that long. I hear you... Hoping to last as long as possible, but wanting time to speed up also. I've already hit some complications (gestational diabetes and my blood pressure is high since about 24 weeks and I'm being closely monitored). My goal is 34 weeks minimum- really hoping I can last that long. Glad to have another twin mom part of our group!

Princesskel is in charge of the group but she is on holiday right now. I'm sure she'll add you to the front page as soon as she can! .

Geralyn, I think you just never know how it is going to be, especially with your first. You might want to be left alone or you might be desparate for help! This is the time to put your foot down and just be firm on what you want. And feel free to keep it open ended. You could tell your Mom you want time alone with your new family, and will let her know when you feel ready for company or think you might need help. And let her know exactly what help you need. Say "I could really use someone to do the dishes in the sink and fold the laundry in the dryer while I feed the baby". If your Mom just isn't generally that helpful there's not much you can do other than limit the visits if they are causing you more stress. Getting through the first few weeks can be really hard so take care of yourself and your mental health first!

 

[MissyLissy]

Geralyn, I somewhat know how you are feeling. My mom is planning to take 2ish weeks off work in the beginning. In that case, I'm welcoming her and her help! I think I'll need her in the beginning, and so will my DH.

It's my grandmother that has me worried. She is INCISTENT that she come "help" me 2 days a week indefinitely. And by "help" it means get in my way. My grandma is not your typical grandma. She is rude, judgemental, overbearing... Plus she has a very different, old fashioned idea of how to raise children. She is only offering to "help" because she is bored at home now that my grandpa passed away (the woman has never worked a day in her life, has no hobbies and very few friends.) Plus on top of it she is 84 years old! I honestly don't even trust her to hold a baby without supervision, let alone "help." I've tried to tell her nicely countless times that I probably won't need 2 days worth of help a week, but she is INCISTENT and gets defensive and almost angry every time I try to put the cabosh on her idea.

 

[MarieMo7]

She lives 30 minutes away? Oh definitely she doesn't need to stay with you. And exactly what Twinklie said - ask her for the specific help you want/need, and you designate the "when". Make your own visiting hours, like the hospital does

 

[salu_34]

OH and I live with his mom, as she is on disability, and his sister comes over almost every morning before work during the week. I'm afraid they're going to try and help too much. Not that I don't want the help, I'm just very independent and have my own ways of doing things. So I think there may be some butting of heads after she's born.

 

[bizzibii]

I would love if someone has offered me help after birth. It looks like I will be left alone. DH works freelance- day off means no money so we kind of decided if there is work he should take it. We recently moved to another country so no family ( also no space for them to come over ) and all our friends work full time so I feel kind of strange asking for help.

Geralyn - maybe she will surprise you and be the best help you could wish for but agree with the girls. Ask her to do specific things rather then just hang around the baby and you .

MissyLissy - our EDD are one day apart , are you all packed for the hospital and all? I haven't had any problems but my doctor reckons I won't go past 34 weeks so I have decided to start packing for the hospital . Got on the internet to get some ideas what I might need and got fed up with it pretty quickly. :-/

 

[DragonflyWing]

My mom wants to come stay with us when the baby is born, too, but I'm all for it! With twin toddlers and a new baby, we'll need all the help we can get.

I'm sitting at the doctor's office right now doing my 3 hour glucose test...

Send me low blood sugar vibes!

 

[Jalanis22]

Good luck dragonfly! Cant wait for tuesday to get here any sooner i will be seeing my little man on sonogram! Ahhh excited!

 

[apple_20]

Welcome bizzibii!

Congrats on the twins x

 

[cncem]

27 weeks 2 days bump pic

 

[cncem]

Good luck Dragonfly, low blood sugar vibes sent your way.

I have a specialist appt and a sono this afternoon, yay so happy I get to see Macie again. My bp is still fairly higher than I like, it was 131/75 this morning. I have been recording readings about 4 times a day for my doc so I'll see what they say. GTT and regular OB appt on Tuesday, hope I pass.

My mom wants to stay over when baby is born and I'll be glad for the help, as she actually helps around the house, dishes cleans laundry etc. I probably won't have her over until hubby goes back to work, he's taking a week off to be with the baby and I. Geralyn, if she is more stress than help just put your foot down and say no. You have every right to a little you baby and hubby time. She'll get over it. Hope it works out for you.

 

[Missyann]

It will be just the three of us and our cats for a few weeks at the beginning. Fortunately it is the end of the semester, so OH won't have any teaching obligations until mid January. She does have a conference in Mid December, but my parents are planning their visit to cover the time she is gone and then they're staying until Christmas. They'll be very helpful and it will be good to have family there for the holiday.

Sending out sugar-free vibes, but respectfully requesting their return on Monday morning for my Glusose test.

 

[DragonflyWing]

I failed.

The criteria was:

Fasting glucose: >/= 95 mg/dL
1-hour: >/= 180 mg/dL
2-hour: >/= 155 mg/dL
3-hour: >/= 140 mg/dL

and my results were:

Fasting glucose: 95 mg/dL
1-hour: 170 mg/dL
2-hour: 155 mg/dL
3-hour: 144 mg/dL

I was so close to passing!

 

[mandaa1220]

That seems beyond close for it to be failing... Didn't you technically pass the 3 hour? I thought that was the final determiner?

 

[DragonflyWing]

That seems beyond close for it to be failing... Didn't you technically pass the 3 hour? I thought that was the final determiner?

Nope, it needed to be below 140, and mine was 144 at 3 hours. The results included a note from the doctor that said my results were abnormal and I do have gestational diabetes. He said his nurse would call to set up an appointment with the diabetes clinic. I had such high hopes that I would pass.

It really pisses me off that it was so close.

 

[GeralynB]

But you passed the 1 hour? No? Don't they usually say if you passes the 1 hr your good to go?